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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston

I am starting to think about being a member here and thinking that maybe I'm not cut out for being a member. I've chatted to a few good and friendly people that have come and gone but as of now I interact less and less with people on here. Used to be semi active on the forums but noticed that people didnt react to my posts so I post and less and less.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Visiting Blackpool


"I am starting to think about being a member here and thinking that maybe I'm not cut out for being a member. I've chatted to a few good and friendly people that have come and gone but as of now I interact less and less with people on here. Used to be semi active on the forums but noticed that people didnt react to my posts so I post and less and less.

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Someone told us there are cliques on the forums, don’t know if it’s true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on and off here over the years and I rarely post now and it can be clickey

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The forums can seem very exclusive. I'm very frequently passed over on threads (I am aware of why lol) but I choose to keep contributing. The choice is yours too. You can chip in if you feel you have something to contribute and you can remain a member if you feel there might be some benefit to you.

I suggest you take a break for a bit and come back refreshed in a couple of weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's up to you whether you leave or stay. However, do bear in mind that you have only been here 4 months, most of it when the country has been in lockdown, yet you managed to get 3 verifications shortly after joining. You must have been doing something right then.

With the lockdown, probably not many people want to chat much. Maybe just take a break, like another poster suggested? As if you leave, you lose your veris, and it's very difficult, for a single guy, to get verified. The choice is yours.

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"It's up to you whether you leave or stay. However, do bear in mind that you have only been here 4 months, most of it when the country has been in lockdown, yet you managed to get 3 verifications shortly after joining. You must have been doing something right then.

With the lockdown, probably not many people want to chat much. Maybe just take a break, like another poster suggested? As if you leave, you lose your veris, and it's very difficult, for a single guy, to get verified. The choice is yours. "

I got the 3 veris through my couples account where I have been here alot longer. Definitely wouldn't close the account as I dont want to lose my verified status, but dont know if I truly belong here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The forums can seem very exclusive. I'm very frequently passed over on threads (I am aware of why lol) but I choose to keep contributing. The choice is yours too. You can chip in if you feel you have something to contribute and you can remain a member if you feel there might be some benefit to you.

I suggest you take a break for a bit and come back refreshed in a couple of weeks "

I lurk read and post in nearly every forum as the feeling takes me but I must say that your avatar and indeed pictures are some of the bestest best on this crazy site.

Trouble with fab is that if you are a needy person it’s not the best place to be.

Best of luck op with what ever you do.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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With the lockdown, probably not many people want to chat much. Maybe just take a break, like another poster suggested? As if you leave, you lose your veris, and it's very difficult, for a single guy, to get verified. The choice is yours. "

This is a good point. Honestly, I was never much of an online chatter, I always preferred to exchange a few messages and then meet face to face. Obviously that's not an option now, and it won't be for some time (I will not be rushing to meet as soon as lockdown is lifted)... but it does mean that I don't feel very inclined to talk to people I don't already know.

It might be that others feel the same. It's an odd and difficult time for a lot of people.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"I am starting to think about being a member here and thinking that maybe I'm not cut out for being a member. I've chatted to a few good and friendly people that have come and gone but as of now I interact less and less with people on here. Used to be semi active on the forums but noticed that people didnt react to my posts so I post and less and less.

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I'm not sure what sort of response you are looking for as you don't actually pose a question.

However, you have clearly enjoyed the site for over three years but if you think it is no longer for you then just walk away. No one is forcing you to log on, it is your choice.

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By *aughty_builder87 OP   Man
over a year ago

Keston


"I am starting to think about being a member here and thinking that maybe I'm not cut out for being a member. I've chatted to a few good and friendly people that have come and gone but as of now I interact less and less with people on here. Used to be semi active on the forums but noticed that people didnt react to my posts so I post and less and less.

I'm not sure what sort of response you are looking for as you don't actually pose a question.

However, you have clearly enjoyed the site for over three years but if you think it is no longer for you then just walk away. No one is forcing you to log on, it is your choice."

I didnt pose a question it was more of a rambling post allowing me to Express my self. Without getting too deep I log on to connect with like minded people as i generally feel like that I cant be fully open around friends and family.

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

I use it to chat on forums. Have dreamed of meeting a woman off here. Never have. Most of our verification has been from clubs when a couple. Sadly some friends have left fab so to do the veris. I may stay after July but not renew my site support. As I say my fun as been reached through clubs or parties. Also put up posts with no comments. Never can tell.

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

I’ve read everyone’s posts in this thread if that helps....

It’s a forum. You can post whatever you like. You may or may not find people who want to respond.

However, if you’re posting as a guy solely to say “look at me, look at my profile, send me a message” then you’re kind of setting yourself up for disappointment.

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent


"I am starting to think about being a member here and thinking that maybe I'm not cut out for being a member. I've chatted to a few good and friendly people that have come and gone but as of now I interact less and less with people on here. Used to be semi active on the forums but noticed that people didnt react to my posts so I post and less and less.

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I believe people react if posts are interesting.

I tend not to react to those asking about help with profiles etc. But if they seem interesting or funny I might reply.

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