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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who is it that decides to contact a single?

Is it the male or female or both....?

Does it depend?

I can only wonder how mortifying it would be to be sent on a cuck-cake mission, cos the wife says their partner would love you, but you get there and he thinks you’re as attractive as Donald Trumps Grandpa.

Or

Setting up a two-lady-one-male threesome, cos the husband says its on the to-do list, and then the wife decides she’d rather eat spoonfuls of sick than play with you.

Answers on below please

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Our decisions are generally joint ones, although Mr H does generally leave me to chat with single guys on here... But with single women we would definitely both have to have an interest

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

It should be a joint decision for things to work properly.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We both have to agree on a person or it won't work.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nudge

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Even when P used to play solo, we both picked who she met.

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham

I (Mrs) decide which single guys I'm going to talk to and who interests me, but it's both of us that decide together if we want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jessica decides on who she wishes to talk to and potentially meet. She does all the messaging bar the occasional general message which I respond to.

I do more forum posts than her though.

GB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a joint decision though I do know the Mr’s type so I know who he would like etc we are both similar. If we get a message from a couple or a female we will sit together and message them whilst checking their profile and their vibes, vibes are most important for us xx

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By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago

N Peterborough.

Definitely run every by Mrs so there's no backpedaling later on. Tends to be the Mr that finds guys.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

if we're contacting a single man I make the decision with Mr N's input.

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By *rSpriteandMsClitBangCouple
over a year ago

hadleigh

We both discuss, but with single guys I message those I'm interested in. We would both agree before a meet though.

With couples, he'll pick more often than I would, and I'm normally not sure on them until after a social. I almost always need a chat before I fancy someone.

With ladies...we usually pick the same people anyway!

C (her)

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

As a couple we both search for what we want and favourite(hotlist) people we like and show the other before massaging. As a single I pick my own meets and em comes along for a social first to make sure we are both happy

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester


"It should be a joint decision for things to work properly. "

This. Always surely?

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We only meet single ladies now, the decision on who we may have messaged here would be a joint one & it used to be H that would make first contact.

But we gave up on here sometime ago.

S

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By *arentsgonebadCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

Male usually iniciates conversation finds out about does and donts if they are what were after female had a chat see if she gets a good vibe , then male usually organises the meet if so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven’t invited any singles to join us yet, but it would most definitely be a joint decision if we did.

We both agreed when we went to meet a couple, albeit not quite what we expected, an we decided it wasn’t for us, so we’re just gonna stick with going the clubs (no pressure or expectations) an when we’re in the club we both approve something, if one of us isn’t happy then we respect the others wishes and don’t play.

Simple trust, respect and honesty is how we work it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It should be a joint decision for things to work properly. "

When we meet single men I choose. If Mr N has an objection we don't meet them but the final decision rests with me.

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