FabSwingers.com forum: Being a dominatrix and spanking

By *il liza OP Woman
over a year ago

Greece

Hi there

I am starting to get into being a dominatrix and would love to chat with other Doms for advice and pointers. My fella runs a successful spanking artwork website, he loves to be a sub and i am enjoying spanking and caning him. I would love to talk to other Doms about their experiences and to learn what I can t.i.a. Lil Liza

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By *harlie_m123Man
over a year ago

burton

I would never claim to be an expert, but my sub would be the first to admit that I can extract some unusual noises from her.

Always happy to talk. There are no stupid questions, and there are plenty of people who can give good advice and recommendations on here

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

There is no skill in spanking hard x any fool can do that x

The skill is getting inside the head of your submissive x and the longing they have for you to use them in any way you see fit x

Anticipation is as pleasurable as the act x

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By *urflrCouple
over a year ago

wirral

If you google anatomy of spanking, there’s a handy poster style guide to the areas to concentrate on and those to avoid etc.

Go at your own speed, develop your own style, and take the porn type bdsm images with a pinch of salt. You have to feel comfortable and confident in what you’re doing. X

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By *inkpinkpinkWoman
over a year ago

Subalot Castle

"There is no skill in spanking hard x any fool can do that x

The skill is getting inside the head of your submissive x and the longing they have for you to use them in any way you see fit x

Anticipation is as pleasurable as the act x"

There absolutely is a skill to spanking. You need to know what you're doing to make it safe!

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By *inkpinkpinkWoman
over a year ago

Subalot Castle

"If you google anatomy of spanking, there’s a handy poster style guide to the areas to concentrate on and those to avoid etc.

Go at your own speed, develop your own style, and take the porn type bdsm images with a pinch of salt. You have to feel comfortable and confident in what you’re doing. X"

This! Plus I would suggest after lockdown going to some BDSM parties as they should have a house Dom that can show you the ropes.

Communication and consent are key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I do like to give a good spank

agree there is a skill to it along with the all important feedback loop , mental stimulation and awareness of the situation !

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By *aughty_nymphWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Spanking done wrong fucking hurts.

Spanking done right doesn’t hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spanking done wrong fucking hurts.

Spanking done right doesn’t hurt.

But it still stings right ?

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I divide spanking into 3 kinds. People will have their own categories .

1. sensual spanking that may have a mix of strokes there is more thud than sting but is more rhythmic and meant to arouse. When done over the knee on a bare bottom is a unique experience;

2. Comfort spanking, depending on what the sub/bottom likes, this is stingy or thuddy and depending on the sub's tolerance and can be painful. It also depends if the spanking is for connection or to clear the sub's mind.

3. Punishment spanking, file under not fun and is meant to hurt (but within tolerances negotiated at the beginning of the relationship.

As said above knowing where to spank is essential.

As for the mental element, my limited experience is that it is a horses for courses. Some people just want to be spanked. The caning and spanking events around the country prove this. However, some subs/bottoms need the right frame of mind created.

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By *ub cuckoldMan
over a year ago

Worcester

I'm a sub guy in Worcester so if you want to practice your spanking skills on me please mail me

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

"There is no skill in spanking hard x any fool can do that x

The skill is getting inside the head of your submissive x and the longing they have for you to use them in any way you see fit x

Anticipation is as pleasurable as the act x

There absolutely is a skill to spanking. You need to know what you're doing to make it safe! "

Think you missed my point sweety x

Any fool can hit a submissive and call it a “spanking”

The absolute skill is to know the intensity x placement x and when to vary the stroke for maximum pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is an interesting thread actually because recently a friend of mine has requested to become my sub. Im relatively inexperienced as a dom. Anyone care to drop me a line it would be welcome x

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By *il liza OP Woman
over a year ago

Greece

Amazing response thank you

Some really great advice and tips. I am quite accurate with my spanking and caning just a few miss the mark as it were.

I would like to get more toys ie paddle and flogger.

As I practice in real life I feel I can write better stories for my character strict miss. I am not comfortable with mental torture only going as far as naughty boy etc. I wouldn't want to scar anyone permanently mentally or physically. My fella loves my dom role and hope to chat with you and share experiences very soon

Love _il liza

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