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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Leave the swinging scene to make a go of it with a vanilla partner?

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Leave the swinging scene to make a go of it with a vanilla partner?"

Yup. Why would I give up a good relationship for random shagging?

If a partner I love and respect did not want to swing then we wouldn't and I'd expect the same in return.

T.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yeah, I could. I'd want a certain amount of social freedom though and no jealousy

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

No i do not think i could but i wish to remain single so it does not matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Leave the swinging scene to make a go of it with a vanilla partner?"
we are not all in the swinging scene so yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep we are happily married and if either of us decided this wasnt for us, it would stop it's a bit of fun but doesnt define our relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but I don't want any kind of full on relationship so not really a thing, for me

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By *ert n BerylCouple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Yes we could and have. During the run up to and after our wedding we left the scene for 6 months and loved it.

We returned back to see how we felt and it had some teething problems with my jealousy but it was a quite a few club visits before we started playing again. If hubby wanted us to leave I’d have no problem in saying ok and staying vanilla. The relationship and depth of love we have is far better than a 10 minute bunk up with some other person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just as a thought, and this is not reflected on you Ruby but swinging whilst non conventional is still vanilla.

In the world of fetish then that goes way beyond sexual inclusiveness. It's a leap far beyond and for most its a non return thing. Kink is a life long thing.

We found each other #beingoutthere

#marmitecouple

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By *rouble1998Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

At the moment, I wouldn’t want to leave the swinging scene for a vanilla partner but I wouldn’t rule it out in the future. You never know what will happen or who you’ll meet

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By *nnnikCouple
over a year ago

Walsall


"Leave the swinging scene to make a go of it with a vanilla partner?"
You have the sausage connoisseurs trembling, the thought of commitment .. Nik

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Leave the swinging scene to make a go of it with a vanilla partner?"

Well my partner and I swing and have an open relationship (my second one) there would be no point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Leave the swinging scene to make a go of it with a vanilla partner?"

I could. I'm only here because I didn't want to date and have relationships. But frankly, the current pandemic has changed my mind.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Visiting Blackpool

Yes. We were vanilla for many many years. Also we’re all vanilla at the moment and for quite a while yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. We were vanilla for many many years. Also we’re all vanilla at the moment and for quite a while yet. "
really I'd go with staciatelli myself

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Visiting Blackpool


"Yes. We were vanilla for many many years. Also we’re all vanilla at the moment and for quite a while yet. really I'd go with staciatelli myself "
If you’re stuck to the telly, keep watching it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. We were vanilla for many many years. Also we’re all vanilla at the moment and for quite a while yet. really I'd go with staciatelli myself If you’re stuck to the telly, keep watching it "
straciatelli its an Italian flavour of ice cream....... gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Does monogomy have to be vanilla?

But to answer the question, yes definitely.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

If we had to, we could.

We’ve both discussed it.

But, we met as swingers and it’s been so liberating to have such openness in a relationship.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Leave the swinging scene to make a go of it with a vanilla partner?"
I couldnt .. I am not monogamous but i am faithful. I'd never have a relationship with someone who wanted me to give my lifestyle up..but then as I dont want a partner it's not something I now worry about

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By *issyEMWoman
over a year ago

Nearly

Got that dilema now. I think my partner is far away in swinging. I wanted keep oral and kisses for ourselves but he isn't happy. Not make sense for me. I give us safe sex with others but still is not enough for him. So thinking to stop at all.

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By *issyEMWoman
over a year ago

Nearly

Got that dilema now. I think my partner is far away in swinging. I wanted keep oral and kisses for ourselves but he isn't happy. Not make sense for me. I give us safe sex with others but still is not enough for him. So thinking to stop at all.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Leave the swinging scene to make a go of it with a vanilla partner?"

yes

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

We dont swing that often anyway. We go through phases of not being too fussed and not being able to get a sitter, then a few days later we find ourselves on here.

So to answer the original question, we could quite easily pack it up if one of us asked.

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By *iglittleoneMan
over a year ago

B76 is home


"Leave the swinging scene to make a go of it with a vanilla partner?"

With you...yes??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know. I like watching and being watched by my partner when I have one. I think I would want to stay on the scene but would most certainly be happy to negotiate boundaries

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I’ve tried, it’s ok at first but I am not fulfilled and that shines through in the end ..

I need a bit more than vanilla..

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

I pretty much have.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm open minded, happily single but the futures not fixed.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Monogamy I thought that was a tropical hardwood?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Lots of people do.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I could easily leave the swinging scene but very unlikely to be for someone vanilla

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By *he_virgin_maryWoman
over a year ago

Here, there and everywhere!

The sex would have to be explosive for me to leave the scene

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I think it’s different for couples - the question is would you stop swinging if the other party wanted to.

For singles, it’s whether you want a relationship or you want to remain single. For those who want to remain single, there’s nothing appealing about a LTR. I met my partner in a club, so we are both swinging singles - and I couldn’t have a monogamous relationship now, so it’s the best of all worlds.

I’ve never had a monogamous relationship that lasted longer than 18 months. I get itchy feet. 2 years in & still going strong, so it’s definitely a better fit for me!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"Leave the swinging scene to make a go of it with a vanilla partner?"

I could leave the swinging scene, but I don't think I'd ever be monogamous. I just don't think of relationships like that.

Alice is the same. We have zero interest in 'forsaking all others.'

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Yes, I'd be perfectly happy with monogamy. It doesn't have to be boring!

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