FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling on verifications

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, I’m curious as to people’s feelings and thoughts on verifications. Espically what women and couples think.

I used to display all mine but apparently it put some people off

or is that just a excuse

Personally for me when I find someone and meet them for the first time I enjoy reading the verifications, the more there is the better for me.

I’ve now decided to just show my latest verification but my profile still shows how many I’ve had.

I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this and see if Single females and couples have a different opnion to single males on it.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

You can't win with verifications.

If you have what is deemed too many verifications it will put some people off but not others. If you don't display your verifications it will put some people off but not others. Some people think if you don't display your verifications you are hiding something. Some people go through all your verifications and check who you have met previously. Some people will then not meet you because of some of the previous meets you had had.

I don't display my verifications. If I asked a woman out on a date I wouldn't expect her to say "Before we go out on a date can you tell me who all the women you have been on dates with before me".

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Most don't actually bother to read the content, just summary. Hence why they jump to the wrong conclusion and assume that I've fucked all my meet veris when most have been through organised socials lol.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If I read verifications that are territorial in nature or overly explicit I'm immediately put off. All I really need to know is that you turn up and bear a strong resemblance to your photos

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If I read verifications that are territorial in nature or overly explicit I'm immediately put off. All I really need to know is that you turn up and bear a strong resemblance to your photos "

That’s my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can’t please everyone.......

Just do whatever you feel comfortable doing , this website should be nothing but fun....

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

It's your profile so display it just how you want ,if ppl don't like it then that's Thier problem

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By *arksxMan
over a year ago

Leicester / London

Most of them on here read like TripAdvisor reviews

Nice to seem but I'll make my own mind what I want to do when we meet in public.

It's 2020 meeting someone in person from the Internet is a basic life skill.

Nobody should require someone elses verification

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

We would only meet a single man if he had verifications especially if we know some of them , the more you have we feel the better it is as least you won’t be a time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like them but only use them as an indication of whether there’s likely to be some compatibility between us.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

The number doesn't bother me, however the content can occasionally be off putting.

I don't display mine as I've found no positives in doing so, but several negatives.

My advice is do what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we tend not to go for people with a lot of verifications (where they have played) missus check to see how many play meets they have had, in the 5 or so years we have been swinging, we have had, about 8 meets but only 3 of them turned into play, we understand that everybody is different and want different things from swinging, we want quality over quantity, this is our option x

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We wouldn't reply to your profile with just that one veri on display. If you had more on show we may, 27 veris wouldn't be off putting. We follow the verification trail and yours stops very quick. That's our personal stance, of course everyone does things different.

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By *oundmywaybackWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"The number doesn't bother me, however the content can occasionally be off putting.

I don't display mine as I've found no positives in doing so, but several negatives.

My advice is do what you want

I would be interested to know what negatives people can place on someone’s verifications? I enjoy reading them and often I am able to get a kind of ‘feel as to who I am meeting’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know you can hide your summary if you want.. If you don't want people to know how many veris you have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be reluctant to meet with a man who didn't have any verifications displayed (or very old ones). Mostly because of bad experiences, people not turning up, not being like their photo etc.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Some verifications have made me feel more comfortable about the individual where some have totally turned me off. Overall i rather see verification than none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite knowing some see them as a requirement we choose to not display ours as we don’t kiss and tell.

We always write them for others and leave it up to them to decide if they want to show them though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I read verifications that are territorial in nature or overly explicit I'm immediately put off. All I really need to know is that you turn up and bear a strong resemblance to your photos "

Exactly this!

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

False verifications are still a problem on here as I discovered last week.

Do you remember the friends list people could display ?

What a lot of bitching that caused

So does published verifications.

And I think your right published verifications does put some off

Atleast most are hiding them now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm of the opinion that if you don't show them, you have something to hide, particularly if there are a few not shown and the rest visible.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I don't mind how many verifications someone has, I like reading them.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I’m on the fence.

I’m very happy with the one I’ve got though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had 5 on my last profile but didnt display them..got this new acc and a previous meet verified me straight away but I didnt ask to be or want to be haha..

Personally I like to keep my business to myself.. and I dont like to see lots either..

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Its think its slightly different for guys and girls/couples..reflecting the imbalance of numbers.

A guy with no verris shown is going to struggle a lot more than a lady I think.

I would have thought, given the number of no shows etc they can only be a positive thing ...tho I do believe there are some well verified fake profiles on here ...and I don't know how they do it..

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

For me as a single guy over the age of 50 I feel it’s important I show my verifications so that others can see what I am like and hopefully consider meeting.Mine are all on display showing club meets , private meets and social events.

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By *lscmnmytngMan
over a year ago

J13 of the M5

I got talking to a lady who was verified by webcam.

She immediately told me she didnt have a cam....

I suspect she didnt trust me but if she was telling the truth then verifications arent worth diddly squat if there is only one in total

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verified to tick the fab box only..

But won't display when or who I met.. No one else's business. I'm not trip advisor n don't need a review of my fufu.

Plus if it says I met Mr A the Mr BCD and E complain.

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

"You can't win with verifications.

I don't display my verifications. If I asked a woman out on a date I wouldn't expect her to say "Before we go out on a date can you tell me who all the women you have been on dates with before me". "

Exactly this.

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By *wingingTHOCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

We would rather see them all and if we noticed somebody publicly displayed and others not, we’d move on.

Honesty is the best policy!

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By *wingingTHOCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

Yes, I totally agree with this too, but this is a virtual platform and with this, you need reassurance. You’re not going to take up on a guy who had 7 verifications and 3 showing which are vague compared to a man who has 29 and they’re all positive are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look for verifications to out the fakes,

It’s also nice to know more about how people are from the social side of things from our point of view,

Suppose it’s each to their own on this one though,

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"We would rather see them all and if we noticed somebody publicly displayed and others not, we’d move on.

Honesty is the best policy! "

But sometimes verification are hidden if the member left the site so impossible to show if they even want to

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Yes, I totally agree with this too, but this is a virtual platform and with this, you need reassurance. You’re not going to take up on a guy who had 7 verifications and 3 showing which are vague compared to a man who has 29 and they’re all positive are you? "

I go to, and organise socials , and hence have quite a lot of verris (I have never asked for one..) , I don't show them all simply because it's a lot of repetitive stuff to wade through..so I thought. If any body wanted to see them all they are welcome...

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

I also think a verification is just to confirm the profile is real. Therefore, multiple veris from the same person are unnecessary and annoying. I don't think a verification was intended to be a scoresheet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also think a verification is just to confirm the profile is real. Therefore, multiple veris from the same person are unnecessary and annoying. I don't think a verification was intended to be a scoresheet."

Agree too many people use them as an ego booster/scoresheet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

veris in my opinion are only needed from a females point of view to say the guy or couple were ok to meet, nothing else needs to be said, they cause negativity in this life keep them private, people will discount you for many reasons eg action pics, no accom, distance but also veris, limit the negatives

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I'm of the opinion that if you don't show them, you have something to hide, particularly if there are a few not shown and the rest visible."

I tend to hide my older ones in favour of more recent ones.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"You know you can hide your summary if you want.. If you don't want people to know how many veris you have."

Tried this approach and had loads of accusations of being fake, waste of time etc. Despite my profile stating I organise socials lol.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Veris only purpose is to help us figure out which ones to “not mess about & treat with respect” lol, we need to know...

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By *wingingTHOCouple
over a year ago

Warwick

We just display them to make our profile transparent and we’d rather work our way through verifications and fine a genuine person without having to ask someone first. Personal preference is suppose. We do also look for recent veris too to make sure we are seeking people who are active regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was playing, I displayed all of mine and there were alot of them. If it was a put off for some, they just weren't the type of people I would want to play with anyway so no big deal... I now hide them as they only seem to encourage people to message, even tho I am not meeting (even without lockdown)

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By *own and countryCouple
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

We both enjoy reading our verifications..

And hope for more ??....

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

We let out verifications do the talking for us as we don't have a write up about ourselves on our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at verifications to see if they are real (example couples) also some are an interesting read.

I display mine and not fussed what people think of them. Most of mine on my old account were from socials.

I'm not too fussed on the amount as many people attend social parties so naturally can gain a lot of verifications from them.

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