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"I'm getting really disappointed when a person messages me, we get on really well then I find out he's got a girlfriend/wife who either knows or doesn't know that they are using this site. Do you think there should be a option on people profile to let others know they are in a relationship or married? Rather chat for ages and then find out? I wasted so many hours doing this. " You mean a honest button or he a lying toe rag who wants a quick bunk up because he a pathetic wanker. | |||
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"I'm getting really disappointed when a person messages me, we get on really well then I find out he's got a girlfriend/wife who either knows or doesn't know that they are using this site. Do you think there should be a option on people profile to let others know they are in a relationship or married? Rather chat for ages and then find out? I wasted so many hours doing this. " I agree. There should be an option say you are married and cheating. I have been cheated on once in the past. It wasn’t nice and was quiet painful. I don’t want to meet somebody who is cheating on their partner. I know a guy who used to be on here. He met a woman from here who has single woman’s profile and said she tom him she was single. She didn't tell him she was married and to be fair to her he didn't do much asking. However, they met up about 4 times and then her hubby found out she was playing around. He wanted to lynch the guy sleeping with his wife but couldn't find out who he was luckily. He deleted his profile and changed his mobile number to be on the safe side. You best bet it to ask guys pretty much straight away are you married or in a committed relationship. Of course, you will get chancers who will try and blag you they are not in a relatinship. It's up to you to do your detective work sadly. Apologies if you think I am teaching my grandmother to suck eggs here. If you are getting on well I would ask for a phone number to have telephone chats. If he only wants you to ring at certain times or won't give you his number alarm bells should go off. If you arrange to meet and he can only do certain days or certain times and doesn't have what sounds like a valid excise again alarm bells time. If he can’t accommodate and doesn’t have a valid excuse, if he only wants to meet at your place or in a hotel, etc. | |||
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"I'd estimate that around 70% of the alleged single men on here have an unknowing partner of some sort, whether they live with them or not. As has been said, they're lying to their partners so most will have no compunction about lying to people on here about their relationship status. So if you don't want to meet attached men, all you can do is look for the red flags. The main one is not being able to accommodate. As is frequently pointed out, this is not 100% accurate. Younger guys may live with their parents, some guys may be single parents and so on. However, most of the time if a guy can't accomodate it's because there's a partner at home. Another one is not being available weekends or evenings. I can't think of any good reason for that other than a partner being around. Watch out also for reluctance to meet in public and, if you do meet, an intendation on the ring finger where he's taken off his wedding ring. It's not hard to spot attached men, but frankly your chances of meeting a genuinely single man on here who is not an idiot and wants something long term are minimal. " I am not being funny but where did you get your 70% figure from? Sure there are guys on here looking for extra marital/relationship sex but I doubt it is as high as 70% | |||
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"I'd estimate that around 70% of the alleged single men on here have an unknowing partner of some sort, whether they live with them or not. As has been said, they're lying to their partners so most will have no compunction about lying to people on here about their relationship status. So if you don't want to meet attached men, all you can do is look for the red flags. The main one is not being able to accommodate. As is frequently pointed out, this is not 100% accurate. Younger guys may live with their parents, some guys may be single parents and so on. However, most of the time if a guy can't accomodate it's because there's a partner at home. Another one is not being available weekends or evenings. I can't think of any good reason for that other than a partner being around. Watch out also for reluctance to meet in public and, if you do meet, an intendation on the ring finger where he's taken off his wedding ring. It's not hard to spot attached men, but frankly your chances of meeting a genuinely single man on here who is not an idiot and wants something long term are minimal. I am not being funny but where did you get your 70% figure from? Sure there are guys on here looking for extra marital/relationship sex but I doubt it is as high as 70%" Guys we've met. We operate I don't ask don't tell policy and tend to meet single guys in hotels unless they can accommodate (we don't because there's a child at home). Most can't accomodate and are not in contact at evenings and weekends. There's also the long shower after a hotel meet, which is another tell tale sign. There's also the statistic that about 85% of men between the ages of 30 and 40 (the ages we tend to go for) is living with a wife or partner. It follows that any halfway decent bloke in that age group is likely to be attached. The 85% figure is from national statistics by the way. Obviously, the 70% isn't an exact figure, but I think it's a reasonable assumption. That still leaves about one in three guys on here as genuinely single. Some might think that figure too high! | |||
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"I'd estimate that around 70% of the alleged single men on here have an unknowing partner of some sort, whether they live with them or not. As has been said, they're lying to their partners so most will have no compunction about lying to people on here about their relationship status. So if you don't want to meet attached men, all you can do is look for the red flags. The main one is not being able to accommodate. As is frequently pointed out, this is not 100% accurate. Younger guys may live with their parents, some guys may be single parents and so on. However, most of the time if a guy can't accomodate it's because there's a partner at home. Another one is not being available weekends or evenings. I can't think of any good reason for that other than a partner being around. Watch out also for reluctance to meet in public and, if you do meet, an intendation on the ring finger where he's taken off his wedding ring. It's not hard to spot attached men, but frankly your chances of meeting a genuinely single man on here who is not an idiot and wants something long term are minimal. I am not being funny but where did you get your 70% figure from? Sure there are guys on here looking for extra marital/relationship sex but I doubt it is as high as 70% Guys we've met. We operate I don't ask don't tell policy and tend to meet single guys in hotels unless they can accommodate (we don't because there's a child at home). Most can't accomodate and are not in contact at evenings and weekends. There's also the long shower after a hotel meet, which is another tell tale sign. There's also the statistic that about 85% of men between the ages of 30 and 40 (the ages we tend to go for) is living with a wife or partner. It follows that any halfway decent bloke in that age group is likely to be attached. The 85% figure is from national statistics by the way. Obviously, the 70% isn't an exact figure, but I think it's a reasonable assumption. That still leaves about one in three guys on here as genuinely single. Some might think that figure too high! " Fair enough. | |||
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