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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a single female who has been on her own for 5 years now. I want to meet someone I could be in a relationship with whilst still enjoy swinging with agreed terms.

My question is how best to put this across on my profile and not be duped by idiots using it to deceive?

I'm more than happy to meet under usual arrangements I do. (of course b4 and after lockdown and safe to to meet again)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the best thing to say is something like

“Looking for someone regular and see what comes of it”

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I'm a single female who has been on her own for 5 years now. I want to meet someone I could be in a relationship with whilst still enjoy swinging with agreed terms.

This is perfect.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I'm a single female who has been on her own for 5 years now. I want to meet someone I could be in a relationship with whilst still enjoy swinging with agreed terms.

My question is how best to put this across on my profile and not be duped by idiots using it to deceive?

I'm more than happy to meet under usual arrangements I do. (of course b4 and after lockdown and safe to to meet again) "

Put on your profile what you are looking for. Use your instincts to get rid of liars and bullshitters. Spend time getting to know somebody before meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sound amazing to me x

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Good luck op , all I've ever come across is sneaky married blokes pretending their single and ppl on here looking for a relationship are told you are on the wrong site however there has been some love stories albeit rare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met last partner off here.. Worked really well.. Till he ghosted me..

2 years later.. Just waiting for lockdown to lift then.. Fingers crossed.

Many work out..

Your words seem perfect.. There will be a lot of triers. Keep the same standards in fab as you do in non fab world... Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single for 5 years? FIVE?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest, pretty much what you have posted here. Just like any site you are going to get frogs... have a good long chat before you meet and those that can’t accommodate don’t waste your time with. It must be hard to start a relationship here but soo many have, just enjoy yourself and see what happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just be honest, pretty much what you have posted here. Just like any site you are going to get frogs... have a good long chat before you meet and those that can’t accommodate don’t waste your time with. It must be hard to start a relationship here but soo many have, just enjoy yourself and see what happens "

Thank you I'm not expecting miracles but just know finding someone of like minded might be easier to find here than regular dating avenues

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Single for 5 years? FIVE? "

Yes 5 years. For 2 if those years wasn't having sex. Then once sterilised was happy to be active.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I met last partner off here.. Worked really well.. Till he ghosted me..

2 years later.. Just waiting for lockdown to lift then.. Fingers crossed.

Many work out..

Your words seem perfect.. There will be a lot of triers. Keep the same standards in fab as you do in non fab world... Good luck "

Thank you. That's awful what he did but certainly experience that myself. Wishing you good luck to xxx

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"I'm a single female who has been on her own for 5 years now. I want to meet someone I could be in a relationship with whilst still enjoy swinging with agreed terms.

My question is how best to put this across on my profile and not be duped by idiots using it to deceive?

I'm more than happy to meet under usual arrangements I do. (of course b4 and after lockdown and safe to to meet again) "

State on your profile what you are looking for. If you don’t state what you are looking for you not likely to get what you want. If you state you want a long term relationship but also want to carry on swinging guys cannot say they didn’t know what you wanted. If you state this nobody can say you deceived them. To be honest a lot of guys will think they have died on and gone to heaven. You are sexy woman looking for a guy to be in a relationship with but also want to carry on swinging.

I would also state on your profile you will use the covid lockdown to spend time getting to know potential men. If a guy is not prepared to spend time getting to know you it is their loss not yours. Of course, you will still get chancers but then it is up to you spot the chancers.

After the lockdown I would make guys spend time getting to know you and thus also giving you time to get to know them. If you make guys spend time getting to know and sue your gut instincts you will get rid of a lot of

Guys not looking for relationship like you are.

Guys who aren’t really single.

Guys sending one message with things like “Hi fancy a fuck?”

Guys who don’t respect you and just want to fuck you.

Guys looking for another notch on the bedpost.

Etc

There are genuine single guys on here who would love to be in a relationship. You can get what you want. I know a few couples on here who joined as singles and met on here.

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By *sianMancMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I joined here 6 years ago hoping to find the ONE so it's not all sneaky guys on here.

I chose not to put it openly in my profile to avoid someone not being genuinely wanting it.

Good luck with your search OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have put it well already, but may be in my opinion, this may not be the best place to look for a long-term relationship, my reason for saying that is there are a lot of fakes profile (mostly men) and cheaters on here, I'm lucky, I've been with the missus for 14yrs and we did not meet on here x

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By *ressed4fun03TV/TS
over a year ago

Midlands

I would like to find a lady, but its just too hard to find one suitable in vanilla life.

I would ideally want a hotwife kind of lady, dont think I could settle for a non kink lady, and I dont think vanilla ladies would like my kinks either xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a single female who has been on her own for 5 years now. I want to meet someone I could be in a relationship with whilst still enjoy swinging with agreed terms.

My question is how best to put this across on my profile and not be duped by idiots using it to deceive?

I'm more than happy to meet under usual arrangements I do. (of course b4 and after lockdown and safe to to meet again)

State on your profile what you are looking for. If you don’t state what you are looking for you not likely to get what you want. If you state you want a long term relationship but also want to carry on swinging guys cannot say they didn’t know what you wanted. If you state this nobody can say you deceived them. To be honest a lot of guys will think they have died on and gone to heaven. You are sexy woman looking for a guy to be in a relationship with but also want to carry on swinging.

I would also state on your profile you will use the covid lockdown to spend time getting to know potential men. If a guy is not prepared to spend time getting to know you it is their loss not yours. Of course, you will still get chancers but then it is up to you spot the chancers.

After the lockdown I would make guys spend time getting to know you and thus also giving you time to get to know them. If you make guys spend time getting to know and sue your gut instincts you will get rid of a lot of

Guys not looking for relationship like you are.

Guys who aren’t really single.

Guys sending one message with things like “Hi fancy a fuck?”

Guys who don’t respect you and just want to fuck you.

Guys looking for another notch on the bedpost.

Etc

There are genuine single guys on here who would love to be in a relationship. You can get what you want. I know a few couples on here who joined as singles and met on here.

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Thank you for the advice. I will be updating my profile in due course. Just wanted advice on how best to put it as more than aware this not a dating site passe. You have some great pointers I'll be considering.

So thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you have put it well already, but may be in my opinion, this may not be the best place to look for a long-term relationship, my reason for saying that is there are a lot of fakes profile (mostly men) and cheaters on here, I'm lucky, I've been with the missus for 14yrs and we did not meet on here x"

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would like to find a lady, but its just too hard to find one suitable in vanilla life.

I would ideally want a hotwife kind of lady, dont think I could settle for a non kink lady, and I dont think vanilla ladies would like my kinks either xx"

I'm sure you find what your looking for. Eventually. As we all do fingers crossed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Open minded for all things sexy! Ask me anything! Try me!

I am hoping to find that someone to have a long term relationship with. Someone with similar interests and desires would be great. Want to use my time getting to know someone with the lockdown but will apply after lockdown to.

Time wasters and taken need not bother for this interest as only in serious men that actually know what they want!

Very aware its not a dating site.

But more than happy to just meet to x

!! NO BULLSHIT!!

My updated profile now reads this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a lovely looking lady with a strong sense of what you want, you'll find the right man one day x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your a lovely looking lady with a strong sense of what you want, you'll find the right man one day x"

I hope so I'm patiently waiting. 5 years and counting so no rush x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Try on here by all means but don't rule out the more traditional methods of meeting people also. You can always mention that you have experienced non-monogamous sex within a previous relationship and enjoyed it, then gauge their reaction. Good luck

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By *adyinthestreet...Woman
over a year ago

Essex (not midlands!)

I met my amazing partner on here purely by luck. I didn’t go out looking for anything serious, and had been single around 7-8 years prior to this. I found that by not looking for more I couldn’t get messed around, because I wasnt expecting (or wanting) more than a meet. When things processed naturally with him, it just seemed it was meant to be. I always think that love comes when you’re not out looking for it. Treat every meet as just that, I dont think you necessarily need to advertise that you are looking for more.... and if it happens, it happens.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try on here by all means but don't rule out the more traditional methods of meeting people also. You can always mention that you have experienced non-monogamous sex within a previous relationship and enjoyed it, then gauge their reaction. Good luck "

Thank you I'm not ruling anything out. I'm happy to find someone however it happens and when it happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I met my amazing partner on here purely by luck. I didn’t go out looking for anything serious, and had been single around 7-8 years prior to this. I found that by not looking for more I couldn’t get messed around, because I wasnt expecting (or wanting) more than a meet. When things processed naturally with him, it just seemed it was meant to be. I always think that love comes when you’re not out looking for it. Treat every meet as just that, I dont think you necessarily need to advertise that you are looking for more.... and if it happens, it happens.

Xxx "

Thank you I'm not looking to force it and will be careful as I can see both sides of saying and not saying. I think I'll see how it goes and take it down if it's not helping x

Happy you found your special someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd probably pare it down a bit and leave it for discussion when you get to know someone through chat

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

I would be honest on profile that you looking for something regular focus more on men who can accommodate obviously much more likely to be single

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd probably pare it down a bit and leave it for discussion when you get to know someone through chat "

Yeah I get that. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would be honest on profile that you looking for something regular focus more on men who can accommodate obviously much more likely to be single "

Yeah I am. Taken men aren't my interest anyway.

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