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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Any mistresses on fab share their experience and advice on this please?

Is it right for your sub to find a second mistress without consulting you first?

Can a sub choose himself how many mistresses he serves?

Thank you in advance for your input.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Is it right for your sub to find a second mistress without consulting you first?"

Ok not so I'm not a mistress but there aren't many on fab and I believe this is an easy one to answer.

IMO it's not alright. The relationship between Dom/Sub takes time to build because of the trust and the effort it takes for both parties to understand each other? That is a proper commitment of time and passion.

In my view if a sub is looking elsewhere without notifying you first to discuss it with you, then they haven't made that commitment and they simply see the you as a vending machine to serve their immediate needs. It's actually very disrespectful.

I'd personally say get rid if that's the case

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Don't worry I got rid straight away. Without respect and honesty, there's no point. But i have seem quite afew profiles mentioning dom and sub relationship so hoping someone see this post and comment.

But you're right and thanks for your comments

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

In the simplest explanation, the sub is really the one in charge And in control . X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell, imagine being able to find 2 mistresses...... 99.99% of guys can't find 1 lol

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Bloody hell, imagine being able to find 2 mistresses...... 99.99% of guys can't find 1 lol"

Find and keep is two different stories.

Well if the sub is in charge then this mistress isn't interested in them games

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By *oft_SensualTV/TS
over a year ago

Yorkshire

A lot of people enjoy 'playing' at the BDSM lifestyle and twist and alter the unwritten 'rules' and 'expectations' of the scene to meet their own agendas.

Getting into that sort of 'relationship' requires far more than cursory discussion and a lot of effort on both sides to maintain it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bloody hell, imagine being able to find 2 mistresses...... 99.99% of guys can't find 1 lol

Find and keep is two different stories.

Well if the sub is in charge then this mistress isn't interested in them games "

It's his lose, no doubt about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Is it right for your sub to find a second mistress without consulting you first?

Ok not so I'm not a mistress but there aren't many on fab and I believe this is an easy one to answer.

IMO it's not alright. The relationship between Dom/Sub takes time to build because of the trust and the effort it takes for both parties to understand each other? That is a proper commitment of time and passion.

In my view if a sub is looking elsewhere without notifying you first to discuss it with you, then they haven't made that commitment and they simply see the you as a vending machine to serve their immediate needs. It's actually very disrespectful.

I'd personally say get rid if that's the case

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100% agree here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a dom/sub type relationship & I (fem, being the sub) would never ever go & look for another sir. If it got to the point where I was looking for someone else, I'd be questioning myself as to whether I actually wanted the relationship as obviously he wouldn't be doing it for me anymore.

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By *yx_InannaWoman
over a year ago

Burslem

Unless explicitly discussed and agreed with a sub can do as they like and see who they like just as the mistress can.

Lying about it is wrong but if they didn't tell you but they didn't lie they did nothing wrong.

There's no reason a sub can't have 2 mistresses. It doesn't change a bond and connection a person has. If you can't offer everything they want there's no reason why they can't get that else where

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Unless explicitly discussed and agreed with a sub can do as they like and see who they like just as the mistress can.

Lying about it is wrong but if they didn't tell you but they didn't lie they did nothing wrong.

There's no reason a sub can't have 2 mistresses. It doesn't change a bond and connection a person has. If you can't offer everything they want there's no reason why they can't get that else where"

Exactly. if the agreed deal was that he would only have one mistress and then secretly got another, get rid.

If, on the other hand, exclusivity was not agreed, you can't really complain if he sees someone else.

As ever, communication is key.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Thanks guys for your input. Basically, what i learnt so is communicate your boundaries at the beginning. There's no strict one rule that applies to all. But personally myself, it was the way it was done without consulting me beforehand. I only found out because they acted differently.

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