FabSwingers.com forum: House share dilemma

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I live in a shared house and have never had any desire to sleep with my female lodger, she has never shown any desire the same way either and has a steady fella who comes stays over.

But obviously with lockdown the fella is no longer currently visiting, we are both key-workers for the same company but it has always been a living arrangement.

But last couple of weeks we have been eating at meal times together more and having a drink on our days off. And now last night my housemate has just come out and asked me if I’d fancy fucking her if the lockdown carries on as she is gagging for some cock now.

No it sounds like a great dilemma but unsure what to do.....

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By *ormladMan
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Why is it a dilemma ?

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By *aked DesireCouple
over a year ago

The Midlands

Think this should be in the stories and fantasies section

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

In what terms does she want to have sex with you and are they agreeable to you?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

*on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think this should be in the stories and fantasies section "

Why it's not a story or fantasy, merely a genuine question.

If they had a question section I'd of posted in that....

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London

The fact you work together complicates things. She seems a very open lady. Would she and you be ok with keeping it just sex? What happens after lockdown?

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By *teve0673Man
over a year ago

hornchurch

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In what terms does she want to have sex with you and are they agreeable to you? "

Terms are we are in lockdown but key workers so both exposed to everyday life still. Don't think she is holding a torch for me or anything it's just situation..

And I'm not honestly sure if they are agreeable to me why I put question out there..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The fact you work together complicates things. She seems a very open lady. Would she and you be ok with keeping it just sex? What happens after lockdown? "

First fact is true...

Second fact is she never seemed to be until she ame out with remark at table.

In answer to your questions:- not sure if she'd want it more than once and I haven't even considered doing it yet nevermind after lockdown...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"In what terms does she want to have sex with you and are they agreeable to you?

Terms are we are in lockdown but key workers so both exposed to everyday life still. Don't think she is holding a torch for me or anything it's just situation..

And I'm not honestly sure if they are agreeable to me why I put question out there..

So it's a sex only thing? Would you be OK with going back to platonic house mates after, have you got access to contraception and condoms? I think it would be too risky for me but I find my assessment of risk decreases in proportion to how much I want sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In what terms does she want to have sex with you and are they agreeable to you?

Terms are we are in lockdown but key workers so both exposed to everyday life still. Don't think she is holding a torch for me or anything it's just situation..

And I'm not honestly sure if they are agreeable to me why I put question out there..

Yes just a sex thing, as I said she just came out with it and it's never even been a topic of conversation before. We share a house but before virus never really sat together and ate but it's been more a we work, see no one mostly and its been company during periods of loneliness.

Do have access to all mentioned but that's not the dilemma really..

From what angle do you consider it risky, we already work and live together so chance of passing on virus is always there..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I live in a shared house and have never had any desire to sleep with my female lodger, she has never shown any desire the same way either and has a steady fella who comes stays over.

But obviously with lockdown the fella is no longer currently visiting, we are both key-workers for the same company but it has always been a living arrangement.

No it sounds like a great dilemma but unsure what to do....."

And your problem is?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I live in a shared house and have never had any desire to sleep with my female lodger, she has never shown any desire the same way either and has a steady fella who comes stays over.

But obviously with lockdown the fella is no longer currently visiting, we are both key-workers for the same company but it has always been a living arrangement.

No it sounds like a great dilemma but unsure what to do.....

And your problem is?"

Typical reaction from most blokes.. Just go fuck her regardless

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester

"I live in a shared house and have never had any desire to sleep with my female lodger, she has never shown any desire the same way either and has a steady fella who comes stays over.

But obviously with lockdown the fella is no longer currently visiting, we are both key-workers for the same company but it has always been a living arrangement.

No it sounds like a great dilemma but unsure what to do....."

Personally I'd steer clear unless it was clearly understood that it was a temporary arrangement by both sides. It sounds like a good arrangement that's worked for a while so don't risk it going horribly wrong?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I live in a shared house and have never had any desire to sleep with my female lodger, she has never shown any desire the same way either and has a steady fella who comes stays over.

But obviously with lockdown the fella is no longer currently visiting, we are both key-workers for the same company but it has always been a living arrangement.

No it sounds like a great dilemma but unsure what to do.....

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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

Your most probably not the only one in a similar situation. Living so closely together can effect us all in so many different ways. If she has stated that it is just to relieve her sexual frustration, what are you hesitating for? Are you more emotionally involved than you are letting on, or afraid you in may get emotionally involved?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your most probably not the only one in a similar situation. Living so closely together can effect us all in so many different ways. If she has stated that it is just to relieve her sexual frustration, what are you hesitating for? Are you more emotionally involved than you are letting on, or afraid you in may get emotionally involved?

I'm not afraid of anything, it just caught me off guard to be fair. I was bored so thought I'd ask fellow fabbers opinions on situation.

Just because I haven't jumped on her doesn't mean I'm hesitant just cautious of how it may end.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Would she plan on telling her boyfriend about it? Because if not then safe to say he's probably not going to be thrilled if he finds out. There's also a big risk that if you go ahead & one (or both) regret it afterwards, then continuing to live together could be pretty difficult.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would she plan on telling her boyfriend about it? Because if not then safe to say he's probably not going to be thrilled if he finds out. There's also a big risk that if you go ahead & one (or both) regret it afterwards, then continuing to live together could be pretty difficult. "

Hence the dilemma, it's not just an oh let's fuck and nowt will go wrong situation which some seem to assume.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Don't do it as she has a boyfriend already. Not very fair on him is it? Turn the tables would you like to have a girlfriend doing this to you? Way too many complications OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't do it as she has a boyfriend already. Not very fair on him is it? Turn the tables would you like to have a girlfriend doing this to you? Way too many complications OP. "

Thanks for words of advice

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By *ifunlover69Man
over a year ago

Exeter

She has made the opening move. Now you can talk about it and decide together. Has she thought it through properly? There are both risks and benefits! But now it's out on the table you can have fun making your minds up.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"I live in a shared house and have never had any desire to sleep with my female lodger, she has never shown any desire the same way either and has a steady fella who comes stays over.

But obviously with lockdown the fella is no longer currently visiting, we are both key-workers for the same company but it has always been a living arrangement.

No it sounds like a great dilemma but unsure what to do....."
. Have your met her steady fella is he someone you like and get on with If so you may find it awkward.If both work together and live together what happens after lockdown can you go back to just been house mates and work colleagues after been what I would describe as short term friends with benefits.I think these are questions you both have to ask each before moving forward.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I live in a shared house and have never had any desire to sleep with my female lodger, she has never shown any desire the same way either and has a steady fella who comes stays over.

But obviously with lockdown the fella is no longer currently visiting, we are both key-workers for the same company but it has always been a living arrangement.

No it sounds like a great dilemma but unsure what to do...... Have your met her steady fella is he someone you like and get on with If so you may find it awkward.If both work together and live together what happens after lockdown can you go back to just been house mates and work colleagues after been what I would describe as short term friends with benefits.I think these are questions you both have to ask each before moving forward."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She has made the opening move. Now you can talk about it and decide together. Has she thought it through properly? There are both risks and benefits! But now it's out on the table you can have fun making your minds up. "

Plus and minuses I reckon.

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

Meet in the middle..

Watch each other have a wank. Its live and infront of you. She hasn't cheated on her fella and it's likely to be more gratifying than wanking on your own..

Suggest that and see what she says

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Meet in the middle..

Watch each other have a wank. Its live and infront of you. She hasn't cheated on her fella and it's likely to be more gratifying than wanking on your own..

Suggest that and see what she says

Haha that is a great suggestion lol. What ya think we should do order a takeaway one evening and sit in living room and crack one off why we wait for delivery lol..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Don't do it as she has a boyfriend already. Not very fair on him is it? Turn the tables would you like to have a girlfriend doing this to you? Way too many complications OP.

Thanks for words of advice

Welcome.

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

"Meet in the middle..

Watch each other have a wank. Its live and infront of you. She hasn't cheated on her fella and it's likely to be more gratifying than wanking on your own..

Suggest that and see what she says

Haha that is a great suggestion lol. What ya think we should do order a takeaway one evening and sit in living room and crack one off why we wait for delivery lol..

When and where would be down to you two..

Suggest it she might be up for it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Meet in the middle..

Watch each other have a wank. Its live and infront of you. She hasn't cheated on her fella and it's likely to be more gratifying than wanking on your own..

Suggest that and see what she says

Haha that is a great suggestion lol. What ya think we should do order a takeaway one evening and sit in living room and crack one off why we wait for delivery lol..

When and where would be down to you two..

Suggest it she might be up for it

Thanks I did realise it would be up to us if we ever even did, was being facetious...

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By *j48Man
over a year ago

Wigan

"Meet in the middle..

Watch each other have a wank. Its live and infront of you. She hasn't cheated on her fella and it's likely to be more gratifying than wanking on your own..

Suggest that and see what she says

Haha that is a great suggestion lol. What ya think we should do order a takeaway one evening and sit in living room and crack one off why we wait for delivery lol..

When and where would be down to you two..

Suggest it she might be up for it

Thanks I did realise it would be up to us if we ever even did, was being facetious... "

Fair enough.. Be interesting to hear what she says

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"In what terms does she want to have sex with you and are they agreeable to you?

Terms are we are in lockdown but key workers so both exposed to everyday life still. Don't think she is holding a torch for me or anything it's just situation..

And I'm not honestly sure if they are agreeable to me why I put question out there..

Do have access to all mentioned but that's not the dilemma really..

From what angle do you consider it risky, we already work and live together so chance of passing on virus is always there..

Emotionally risky is what I mean. Also the risk of extreme awkwardness and possibly one of you needing to move out.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Rather like sleeping with work colleagues...this could get very awkward...never mind the fact she has a boyfriend...

Tho after a few drinks I could imagine such concerns disperse ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In what terms does she want to have sex with you and are they agreeable to you?

Terms are we are in lockdown but key workers so both exposed to everyday life still. Don't think she is holding a torch for me or anything it's just situation..

And I'm not honestly sure if they are agreeable to me why I put question out there..

Do have access to all mentioned but that's not the dilemma really..

From what angle do you consider it risky, we already work and live together so chance of passing on virus is always there..

Emotionally risky is what I mean. Also the risk of extreme awkwardness and possibly one of you needing to move out. "

All things I'm considering to be honest.. Just wondering what our next move will be lol....

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"In what terms does she want to have sex with you and are they agreeable to you?

Terms are we are in lockdown but key workers so both exposed to everyday life still. Don't think she is holding a torch for me or anything it's just situation..

And I'm not honestly sure if they are agreeable to me why I put question out there..

Do have access to all mentioned but that's not the dilemma really..

From what angle do you consider it risky, we already work and live together so chance of passing on virus is always there..

Emotionally risky is what I mean. Also the risk of extreme awkwardness and possibly one of you needing to move out.

All things I'm considering to be honest.. Just wondering what our next move will be lol.... "

None of our business..but I'm sure we would like to know as well

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By *ipplebarnyMan
over a year ago

milton keynes

Big insult to her if you don’t

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By *argudMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

has she told her fella/what would he think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since you asked for advice, I'd say don't do it but then I'm very much a 'don't shit where you eat' person. Don't fuck the people you live with, and don't fuck your workmates. I've seen it go horribly wrong a lot.

What happens if one of you ends up wanting more and the other doesn't?

Is she going to tell her boyfriend?

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

"Think this should be in the stories and fantasies section "

Was just thinking that as why put it on a forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck her right in the pussy

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Having lived in many house shares in my younger days, I've always found that once some interest develops it becomes like a rock rolling down a hillside - gathers momentum and becomes unstoppable!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you dont fuck her, I will fuck her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well do you fancy her at least?..

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By *eleusMan
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

You are playing with fire my friend!

First, you are living together.

Second, she has a boyfriend.

Third, you work together.

Any one of these on their own would be high risk!

The one with the most impact is the working together one. Is she just a colleague or are either one of you senior to the other? If the latter is the case then back away now, as too much risk to losing your job.

But, if you can manage the work together aspect, then go for it! Some of the best things in life are high risk... And I cannot think of a better way to get through the lockdown!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get in there you lucky fella

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

As someone who is ethically non monogomous.. I'd say it really depends on if it will create a 'mess'.

You know the answer already because you will have had a natural response which will override both temptation and reason.

Personally, if there was going to be lies and hurt for some party, I wouldn't complicate things. AND what a lovely dillema. Good communication is needed.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"If you dont fuck her, I will fuck her "

Lol lol ..perhaps the OP could organise a gang bang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I live in a shared house and have never had any desire to sleep with my female lodger, she has never shown any desire the same way either and has a steady fella who comes stays over.

But obviously with lockdown the fella is no longer currently visiting, we are both key-workers for the same company but it has always been a living arrangement.

No it sounds like a great dilemma but unsure what to do....."

I guess it depends in what context she has said it, things could get awkward in the long term if both parties don't accept it as mutually beneficial after lockdown when her bf comes back on the scene...

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By *layfulserfMan
over a year ago

Northolt

Ok... So you can satisfy each others needs now... Or both go without.

In the future three things can happen

A) you can remain friends

B) you both fall in love and start a relationship

Or C) only one of you falls for the other and maybe you need to find a new place or a new housemate.

I suppose you need to see how you feel about option C... Is that worth the risk.

Personally i would go for it... Only because if she misses her bf too much she might move out at the end of lockdown or sooner... Leaving you with situation C and without a fuck

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Plus and minuses I reckon.

You know the girl, you know yourself we don't. Talk to each other, let her know how you feel and that you are interested but do not want to spoil your current relationship with her.

If you can't talk to each other about it then forget about it.

As long as you both understand the risks of loosing what you have now and want to have sex then enjoy yourselves.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

What are you waiting for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think this should be in the stories and fantasies section

Was just thinking that as why put it on a forum"

Can you not read it’s neither a story or fantasy..

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

In rhe interests of balance. You have been told, just fuck her, about mixing work with pleasure, pressures of lockdown etc

Another real legal angle.

Lodger means you are Landlord... Any issue and you could be in deep do-do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask yourself is it the sex she is missing or the close human contact the hugs, cuddles etc. Could it be she just misses feeling someone close who cares. There is often so much more to just sex than a physical act from a female point of view especially when they arent swingers many women connect the physical and emotional sides together and find it hard to have fulfilling sex without an emotional connection,

. Is the connection what has been built up by spending more time together ? Does she see you differently now to before ? We would say discuss the issue and all the ramifications that could arise from it before leaping into bed with each other. Discuss your concerns and ask about hers.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Well do you fancy her at least?.."

Why are you avoiding this question OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well do you fancy her at least?..

Why are you avoiding this question OP?

Because I’m a key worker as explained and been rather busy at work. And I also don’t see the relevance as I’ve not expressed a desire to go through with it yet, so fancying her or not is currently irrelevant.

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By *DreamOfGenieWoman
over a year ago

London

I have a male housemate. We've been essentially in each others pockets 24/7 since lockdown began. We both work from home, eat together drink together, watch telly, play games...doesn't mean I want to fuck him, no matter how horny I am.

Not worth the ensuing drama, in my opinion. If you value a quick fuck or two over your living arrangement, go for it. This is a ballache time to be flat hunting though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have a male housemate. We've been essentially in each others pockets 24/7 since lockdown began. We both work from home, eat together drink together, watch telly, play games...doesn't mean I want to fuck him, no matter how horny I am.

Not worth the ensuing drama, in my opinion. If you value a quick fuck or two over your living arrangement, go for it. This is a ballache time to be flat hunting though. "

Thanks

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Me? I would have ripped her knickers off right there and then, and fucked her brains out!

It took real courage for her to suggest what she did......

So fuck her, enjoy every minute!

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By *venturerMan
over a year ago

Bodmin

I would suggest keeping the relationship as it is. As another has said your relationship has professional connotations and a sexual relationship could get you into real trouble!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me? I would have ripped her knickers off right there and then, and fucked her brains out!

It took real courage for her to suggest what she did......

So fuck her, enjoy every minute!

Said like a true gentleman

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Me? I would have ripped her knickers off right there and then, and fucked her brains out!

It took real courage for her to suggest what she did......

So fuck her, enjoy every minute!

Said like a true gentleman

Lol.charmer eh...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our opinion would be to go for it. The lockdown will continue for a while. Keep the boundaries to just sex and have lots of fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Our opinion would be to go for it. The lockdown will continue for a while. Keep the boundaries to just sex and have lots of fun!"

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By *ornybarMan
over a year ago

clonmel

I’d have her fucked by now lol

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

How big is the boyfriend?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How big is the boyfriend? "

9 inches, not wot you meant?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d have her fucked by now lol"

You wouldn't get the chance pal..

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By *ral_isthenewblackMan
over a year ago

london

Introduce her to fab and swinging.. there is a potential there lol

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

As long as there wouldn't any awkwardness afterwards at home, at work and when the boyfriend comes back on the scene and you are desperate to get your cock wet I don't see a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a case of dont shit on your own doorstep.

If you do then it gets trodden in the house.

Years ago my friends girl came to me upset. After a time she came onto me practically begging for it. Was i tempted? Hell yes. But I didn't because of the potential fall out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As long as there wouldn't any awkwardness afterwards at home, at work and when the boyfriend comes back on the scene and you are desperate to get your cock wet I don't see a problem. "

She asked me so not desperate! Rather get her wet if owt...

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By *reenlanerCouple
over a year ago

bournemouth

I landed up having sex with my lodger a while ago

Killed my income

So be careful lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I landed up having sex with my lodger a while ago

Killed my income

So be careful lol"

Looking at ya pics though bet it was alot of fun lol

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

Go for it mate

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Don't do it

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

It's just a booty call! There is no reason you can't stay mates after lockdown. But you're obviously uncomfortable about it, otherwise, it wouldn't be a question to raise here. So you're answering your own question.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No.

Having sex that could jeopardise or complicate 2 of the key things in your life - home and income - is too high a risk level imo. If the gain is worth it, following your risk/benefits assessment, then it's your call, of course. If she'd seemed like the perfect life partner, potentially it's got more going for it - perhaps. Though it would still carry the same risk levels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the above poster said.

I live in a shared house just me and the lady that Owens it.I think if she was to propersition me I think I would turn her down..As it would just all end in tears.Plus I like living here so I would not want the hassle of trying to find somewhere else to live and the hassle that comes with it... especially at the moment...

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By *ittleREDridingWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I don’t think it’s a great idea practically. Sexy tho.

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Get her pumped

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

If you haven’t sealed the deal by now suspect you’ve missed your chance

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I like the mutual wanking idea but that is just as open for regret as the fuck in my eyes....

Would her boyfriend be ok with either of those scenarios?

Sit down and talk openly with her - that is the best bet. For all anyone knows she is on here and boyfriend may get off on it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I like the mutual wanking idea but that is just as open for regret as the fuck in my eyes....

Would her boyfriend be ok with either of those scenarios?

Sit down and talk openly with her - that is the best bet. For all anyone knows she is on here and boyfriend may get off on it!

I also liked the mutual wanking idea lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you haven’t sealed the deal by now suspect you’ve missed your chance

We both working everyday so doubt that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont go there at all.

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over a year ago

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Shall I fuck her"

"Do you want to"

"That's not relevant, I'm a key worker"

I call troll on this thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

""Shall I fuck her"

"Do you want to"

"That's not relevant, I'm a key worker"

I call troll on this thread."

Pardon????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If in doubt do nowt

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By *ewarkMarkMan
over a year ago

Waterford

"Me? I would have ripped her knickers off right there and then, and fucked her brains out!

It took real courage for her to suggest what she did......

So fuck her, enjoy every minute!

Yeah that sounds like the gentlemanly thing to do!!!

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By *ewarkMarkMan
over a year ago

Waterford

It is isn’t it?

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By *ewarkMarkMan
over a year ago

Waterford

Each to there own. But personally I think too much st risk. Don’t shit on your own doorstep!

But maybe as suggested have an open and frank discussion about it first. Might get the ball rolling or stop it dead In it tracks. The fact you didn’t jump on the idea straight away gives a good indicator of your gut instinct. But that can all change after a few drinks at home on a Saturday night.

Kinda sexy predicament to be in though!!!

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By *ewarkMarkMan
over a year ago

Waterford

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By *ewarkMarkMan
over a year ago

Waterford

"I like the mutual wanking idea but that is just as open for regret as the fuck in my eyes....

Would her boyfriend be ok with either of those scenarios?

Sit down and talk openly with her - that is the best bet. For all anyone knows she is on here and boyfriend may get off on it!

Lol. Now that’s a different angle! I like the way you think!!!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Don’t do it OP there is so much drama that could happen. Keep it to house share and no more.

Plus she has a b/f and it’s unfair on him.

Not sure why we need to know you are a key worker.

Take care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont do it.

She has a boyfriend, you have to still live together when the lockdown is over and you may have to face the boyfriend when he comes round. Just tell her that it doesn't work you because your not one if those guys and she will hopefully respect your decision. If she doesn't, then you definitely made the right decision.

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

I’ve come a little late to this thread but the previous posts have been interesting and revealing.

Those saying to go for it have, in the most part, not cited their own experience in a similar situation.

A lot of people saying don’t, or to be wary, have given examples of when it’s gone wrong for them.

I think that the fact you didn’t instantly “jump her bones” was that your gut instinct was not to agree. I know you say you are busy but, at that moment she suggested it, I’m sure that if it felt right for both of you, you would have found the time.

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By *etLikeMan
over a year ago

most fundamental aspects

My own experience similar to this was a neighbour. We had connected semi detached former farmer’s cottages and no other houses for miles.

We developed a friendship and I would regularly help each other out with jobs in the garden followed by very open conversations over coffee. We would discuss our relationships, touch on (though not too detailed) our sex lives and generally became really close.

The other thing that’s probably relevant, is that I had once been her dad’s employee when I was 17 and saw her when I picked up my wages. I thought she was stunning then but thought she was A. out of my league and B. Her dad would have kicked the shit out of me then fired me!

I still felt a little bit that she was out of my league and that she might be a bit too vanilla for me, so I was happy with friendship.

One night I got a text from her saying that she was horny and what about it? An offer of a one off fuck, no strings.

I panicked, didn’t reply to the text but did a lot of thinking of the possible ramifications (and a little about how great it might be).

Next day, she texted again to apologise and blamed too much wine. It was awkward the first time we saw each other face to face again but we tried to just get on with our lives (and friendship) and it was never talked about again.

Personally I often wonder what may have happened, which I think is natural. I also think that she had developed an attraction to me which was more than a one off horny d*unk texting. I still tell myself I did the right thing though.

I moved away, she got into a very happy monogamous relationship and although we don’t see each other that much now, we’re still friends and I value that more than if things had become clouded by sex.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

My own experience similar to this was a neighbour. We had connected semi detached former farmer’s cottages and no other houses for miles.

I still felt a little bit that she was out of my league and that she might be a bit too vanilla for me, so I was happy with friendship.

One night I got a text from her saying that she was horny and what about it? An offer of a one off fuck, no strings.

I panicked, didn’t reply to the text but did a lot of thinking of the possible ramifications (and a little about how great it might be).

That’s an amazing story

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My own experience similar to this was a neighbour. We had connected semi detached former farmer’s cottages and no other houses for miles.

I still felt a little bit that she was out of my league and that she might be a bit too vanilla for me, so I was happy with friendship.

One night I got a text from her saying that she was horny and what about it? An offer of a one off fuck, no strings.

I panicked, didn’t reply to the text but did a lot of thinking of the possible ramifications (and a little about how great it might be).

That’s an amazing story

I'm still mulling situation over, but it hasn't been mentioned again so maybe regretful moment.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don’t do it OP there is so much drama that could happen. Keep it to house share and no more.

Plus she has a b/f and it’s unfair on him.

Not sure why we need to know you are a key worker.

Take care"

I just wanted to stress we both in same boat and not taking risks with Covid 19. Alot of folk quick to criticise that's all..

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By *lipsCouple
over a year ago

LEICESTER

"Think this should be in the stories and fantasies section "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think this should be in the stories and fantasies section

As stressed before it's neither a story or fantasy. Shame ya got nowt better to do than criticise me..

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By *ingdong11Man
over a year ago

emsworth

Bang her until your dick falls off ..........assuming the boyfriend isn’t a huge marine or cage fighter or something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bang her until your dick falls off ..........assuming the boyfriend isn’t a huge marine or cage fighter or something

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bang her until your dick falls off ..........assuming the boyfriend isn’t a huge marine or cage fighter or something

You live in a cave?

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By *rednwilma1Couple
over a year ago

york

Come on mate, he's only having a laugh !!1 you got to in these dark times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't do it as she has a boyfriend already. Not very fair on him is it? Turn the tables would you like to have a girlfriend doing this to you? Way too many complications OP. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did she ask you on your day off? Ie was drink involved?

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville

I think we need an update on this.

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By *ornybarMan
over a year ago

clonmel

Did he fuck her yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we have an update please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meet in the middle..

Watch each other have a wank. Its live and infront of you. She hasn't cheated on her fella and it's likely to be more gratifying than wanking on your own..

Suggest that and see what she says

Haha that is a great suggestion lol. What ya think we should do order a takeaway one evening and sit in living room and crack one off why we wait for delivery lol..

Yeah you'll have enough time.

Both horny - less than 5 mins to cum versus 45 mins to wait for the takeaway....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There will be no updates thanks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would make sure the regular fella is informed of the arrangement (no cheating!) and that its strictly a lockdown thing only.

Other than that have fun you crazy kids!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i the m, had similar when i shared a house years ago, one night we had a take away and a few too many bottles of wine, she had a boyfriend, but he had no interest in sex, i knew him aswell, next thing i know we were both naked on the sofa kissing, i suddenly woke up to the situation and got up and said sorry i cant and went to bed, we chatted about it the next day and she thanked me for stopping what was going to happen, we had alot mre trust of each other after that, and lived together for a few years after that, it never happened again, if we had i think one of us would have had to move out, im pleased we didnt, a d*unken shag isnt worth a good friendship, we never told the boyfriend how close we came.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i the m, had similar when i shared a house years ago, one night we had a take away and a few too many bottles of wine, she had a boyfriend, but he had no interest in sex, i knew him aswell, next thing i know we were both naked on the sofa kissing, i suddenly woke up to the situation and got up and said sorry i cant and went to bed, we chatted about it the next day and she thanked me for stopping what was going to happen, we had alot mre trust of each other after that, and lived together for a few years after that, it never happened again, if we had i think one of us would have had to move out, im pleased we didnt, a d*unken shag isnt worth a good friendship, we never told the boyfriend how close we came."

I've never been in a situation where I've lived with someone and came close to having sex with them so I can't comment in that. But with regards to losing a good friendship due to a d*unken shag...I had and still have a good female friend who was in a relationship with some guy. I always thought my friend was hot but that was it. I got married and my friend and her fella at the time came. Me and my friend remained in contact. After about 3 years my marriage ended (blessing in disguse) and my friends relationship ended a year earlier. My friend obvs was upset to hear my marriage ended as I was upset to hear about her relationship ending the previous year. We stayed in touch etc, went for lunches, coffee, have nights in at mine or hers and I'd stay over and she'd do the same. But we never had sex. Ever (up until this point, having been friends for over 15 years). About a year after my marriage ended she came over for a takeaway. We had a few drinks and the conversation went on to sex which we did often without it being arkward. I mentioned how we'd never kissed, not even when d*unk and she said we should try it...she didn't have to ask me twice

then before we knew it we were all over another and ended up in bed and had great sex. We did this for about 8 months. I soon realised I wanted to travel a bit etc and she wanted to do the same but the where we wanted to go where different. I went travelling in the January of 2016 and she went off in her travels in August 2016 and we still kept in touch. She met someone from the UK whilst travelling and they got into a serious relationship etc and are now married with a baby. We are still friends now and I was invited to the wedding. Some friendship are solid to the core. Those are the ones where you will never be able to break the bond.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There will be no further updates on this situation apologies.....

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"There will be no further updates on this situation apologies..... "

Why no updates ?

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By *lwaysup4it69Couple
over a year ago

Kirkby in Ashfield

"There will be no further updates on this situation apologies..... "

The criticism you have had to put up with here is out of order, what ever happens between the 2 of you, hope all works out mate

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"I live in a shared house and have never had any desire to sleep with my female lodger, she has never shown any desire the same way either and has a steady fella who comes stays over.

But obviously with lockdown the fella is no longer currently visiting, we are both key-workers for the same company but it has always been a living arrangement.

"
. I gave you my thoughts on what you should do above this reply OP and you gave a thumbs up ?? so I guess you looked at the replies you had did some thinking and made a decision you are happy with or perhaps you are still thinking it over.No further updates required is the correct way to go.Best of luck with everything and stay safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There will be no further updates on this situation apologies..... "

Ocht don't be huffy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating....

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating.... "

You surely know that what you have already done is cheating

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating....

You surely know that what you have already done is cheating"

Is it really! No penetration though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd avoid it. You work and live with her

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating.... "

I thought you weren't giving further updates

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I'd avoid it. You work and live with her"

Oh dear some people just can’t cope with lockdown.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating.... "

Still cheating. Enough said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating....

You surely know that what you have already done is cheating

Is it really! No penetration though... "

Any sexual contact is cheating. So yes hope you're happy now you ha e cheated with your housemate and her boyfriend may find out one day so be ready for the fallout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating.... "

So she's going to tell her boyfriend what happened? You know, since it's not cheating...

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating....

So she's going to tell her boyfriend what happened? You know, since it's not cheating...

Yep OP says it’s not cheating so hope her boyfriend sees it that way too.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have got no words!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should have left well enough alone

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating.... "

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating....

I’m thinking ‘curry breath’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating.... "

Crikey I was expecting more detail... All the build up and it fell flat! Shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating.... "

Wow.. Really.. Seriously though it's still cheating.. Even kissing is cheating..

Hope it was worth it lol...

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville

Well at least we got an update.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating.... "

What curry did you both have ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating.... "

I am not sure her boyfriend would agree

But saying that if you both agreed I geuss it’s ok...just be careful dude

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

She must have had a soggy naan

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating.... "

There's going to be tears on your pilau when bf finds out she sucked your cock after a curry,

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

There's going to be tears on your pilau when bf finds out she sucked your cock after a curry,"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I live in a shared house and have never had any desire to sleep with my female lodger, she has never shown any desire the same way either and has a steady fella who comes stays over.

But obviously with lockdown the fella is no longer currently visiting, we are both key-workers for the same company but it has always been a living arrangement.

No it sounds like a great dilemma but unsure what to do....."

I think that if you wanted to you wouldnt be asking strangers on the internet for advice mate

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Ready for an update:- I've fingered my flatmate last night after a curry and 6 beers. She returned favour by sucking my cock and balls. Agreed not to fuck as that's cheating....

There's going to be tears on your pilau when bf finds out she sucked your cock after a curry,"

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By *uninlondon69Man
over a year ago

Tower Bridge South

What curry did you both have ?"

If she had a hot one I hope she rinsed her mouth before the blowjob!

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I wonder if his fingering after the curry brought on any flatulence? One can’t be too careful with the after math of a curry....

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville

I'd like an update if there is one please.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

If your missing sex to just be honest with her, there are loads of people who have friends with benifits, have a full chat with her if it helps you both why not, same thing happened during the war, with people missing partners and company,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a slightly similar situation, although a lot more complicated.

Quite honestly grab the reigns with both hands, to dawdle on this will fuck your mental health up. I know it has mine.

It will do you both a world of good as well

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By *rank speakerMan
over a year ago

Worcester

Having read most of the replies on this thread has anyone else noticed most of t.the guys are thinking with their cocks and most of the ladies are urging caution?

Being here does give you a skewed view of life but as girls are usually far more sensible I'd go with their suggestions. Far to complicated? Good luck for the future!

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