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By *penmyeyes11 OP   Man
over a year ago

south east

Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

If she doesn't want to do it you should respect her wishes.

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Erm do you mean you have swung woth other partners and want to with her? Ir are you cheating on her? Or does she allow you to have solo fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please *please* no one say "show her your profile on here".

A guy can register on a swinger site, a guy can ask questions ...it doesn't have to be deemed dodgy....or have sofa Judges chiming in.

I can't help, except to suggest watching a lot of swinger's porn with her! (which sort of normalises it over times!.

I once read somewhere that if you can get someone to persist and eat something they don't like ten times, then after the tenth time they accept it (jism?)...perhaps the same applies to swinger's porn

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

Well, if she’s not that interested in sex in general (read from your profile) then I highly doubt that she’s going to be interested in sex with other people, is she...

Sassy

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Involved in what ? does she know you are bi ,would it involve that ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in."

I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If she has said no ,that should be the end of you trying to persuade her

Nobody should be doing things they don't want to .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Show her your profile on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in."

I’ve seen numerous threads on this subject. The general consensus is respect her wishes. if it’s no it’s no. I think it’s pretty shitty to try and force her otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If she has said no ,that should be the end of you trying to persuade her

Nobody should be doing things they don't want to ."

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.

I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly."

Wise words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.

I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly."

I bet this is male of the couple commenting here? am I right ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP do you know what her fantasy,'s are? Are then any of her's you can play out to begin with?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.

I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly.

I bet this is male of the couple commenting here? am I right ?"

I hope you're not taking bets on your assumption.

But if you are I've got a fiver says you're wrong.

What odds'll you give me?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.

I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly.

I bet this is male of the couple commenting here? am I right ?"

Nope, I am the woman of this couple. Why did you think it was a man?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.

I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly.

I bet this is male of the couple commenting here? am I right ?

I hope you're not taking bets on your assumption.

But if you are I've got a fiver says you're wrong.

What odds'll you give me? "

It was the pashmina gave me away, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in."

I'm wondering why now.. Seeing as you have already been on said swinging site for 4 years..

I personally don't think she's going to miraculously say yes let's swing.. Unless she is on here too.. Unbeknown to you..

Who knows...

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.

I suggest that you broach the subject b sitting down with her, telling her how much you love her and asking if she will agree to discuss fantasies with you. This might take a little time but if you communicate with a woman in an emotionally mature way you might be surprised at how she opens up. This does mean of course that you will have to give consideration to her fantasies and accept that she might not be interested in yours. Truly though, the only way that you can broach any subject is by actually talking frankly.

I bet this is male of the couple commenting here? am I right ?

I hope you're not taking bets on your assumption.

But if you are I've got a fiver says you're wrong.

What odds'll you give me?

It was the pashmina gave me away, right? "

Every time.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in."

Your wife is obviously not interested in swinging. I would forget it if I was you. Try and push it and she may leave you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The short answer OP is you don't.

You've mentioned it and she has said no.

I wouldn't push it if I were you as it could result in the end of your marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems her only choices are either to swing when she clearly doesn't want to or accept her husband is just going to do it without her anyway. Lucky lady.

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By *rince Charming 69Man
over a year ago

Loughborough

Sorry to have to tell you in this way.....

But your wife and I have been having a torrid affair for the last 12 months!

She says its because you are crap in the sack...

and she loves the way I make her cum time after time|

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in.

I’ve seen numerous threads on this subject. The general consensus is respect her wishes. if it’s no it’s no. I think it’s pretty shitty to try and force her otherwise.

"

OP hasn’t said he will ‘force’ her to do anything. I’m wondering how exactly a woman who doesn’t like sex could be forced into swinging.

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

The impression I get is its a no from her end of. Me and her just randomly bought it up in a discussion one night. She had a curiosity about a thing or two. We went to clubs on and off over the last 17 years. Have done various things. Now we hardly go anymore, she is happy with me and would not push her now as its not a need for her, which I respect.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Love the swinging scene and playing with others and I also love the idea of seeing my wife with others. Thing is We have spoke about it when things have been on TV about it and she is like what’s the point no thank you. So any advice on how to try and broach subject with her as I would Khmer to join in."

Show her porn videos of Asa Akira. She turn anyone bi and want to have a threesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If she doesn't want to do it you should respect her wishes."

exactly this..if she’s said no don’t force her into it...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Do you believe that she has very low interest levels in sex as well as sex with others?

If the marriage isn't satisfactory, then it's probably better to focus on aspects of this, including what you both need.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Well, if she’s not that interested in sex in general (read from your profile) then I highly doubt that she’s going to be interested in sex with other people, is she...

Sassy"

She might be, just not with the OP. Who's to say she isn't doing the same thing without him?

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By *ill Hill FunseekersCouple
over a year ago

london

Has the OP replied since his original message? C.

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"Please *please* no one say "show her your profile on here".

A guy can register on a swinger site, a guy can ask questions ...it doesn't have to be deemed dodgy....or have sofa Judges chiming in.

I can't help, except to suggest watching a lot of swinger's porn with her! (which sort of normalises it over times!.

I once read somewhere that if you can get someone to persist and eat something they don't like ten times, then after the tenth time they accept it (jism?)...perhaps the same applies to swinger's porn"

nope gonna say it, show her your profile and run with that see how it pans out for you, if she hits the roof you got a pretty good idea she dont like the idea

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By *uninlondon69Man
over a year ago

Tower Bridge South

Have you tried wiping your dick on the curtains after fucking someone else? She'll get involved then - probably not in the way you want though

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