FabSwingers.com forum: Club vs private meet

By *edditchCouple8077 OP Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

Hi community

We wondering about private meets after all this ends

So far we only used clubs for meets and fun but slowly want go to private meets path as well.

We just wondering how this work.

In club we feel like on safe ground,no pressure,if we like someone and they like us we can go further .

How this work on private meets?

What people do if arrange meets and not click between?

This is biggest concern for Mrs,if someone will not like how she looks,if she will not like?

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By *iss Penny TrationWoman
over a year ago

Meet for a drink first and tell them if you feel you haven’t clicked and don’t want to play.

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

We have more private meets nowadays, we always meet at a bar with intent to play and all four have to agree for that to proceed , we know this might not always happen but that’s life

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Meet as social and see what happens. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have tried both but because we never play on a first meet, the club scenario doesn't work.

When we have tried the club meet, the chap feels committed to spend time with us and vice versa.

A private meet at a public hotel bar works much better for us. We have introductions in the car park, have a couple of drinks and nice evening in the Hotel Bar and then leave with no pressure on anyone.

If we have clicked, we talk about that in later days

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By *ounty durham bbw coupleCouple
over a year ago

darlington

We always meet in neutral venue pub or somewhere have a drink if we all get on back to the hotel we have booked worst case scenario you have a night out and a nice night away in hotel if we meet the same people again then it usually at our home

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"We have tried both but because we never play on a first meet, the club scenario doesn't work.

When we have tried the club meet, the chap feels committed to spend time with us and vice versa.

If we have clicked, we talk about that in later days

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see the funny thing is I find the opposite.. ie a private meet you feel more pressure than in a club . X

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By *edditchCouple8077 OP Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

"We have tried both but because we never play on a first meet, the club scenario doesn't work.

When we have tried the club meet, the chap feels committed to spend time with us and vice versa.

If we have clicked, we talk about that in later days

see the funny thing is I find the opposite.. ie a private meet you feel more pressure than in a club . X"

Yea,this what we think too but want try private

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

This will sound crude, but to be honest if you have a pulse, a guy will still play. Up to your wife if that's for her

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

I met a couple for a social with no guarantee of having some fun. Albeit the social was at their house. After a few drinks and a good chat, I left it with the couple to instigate or start things off. It was the Mrs that got things going... and we had lots of fun.

So maybe try a social, but with the option of taking things further?

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"We have tried both but because we never play on a first meet, the club scenario doesn't work.

When we have tried the club meet, the chap feels committed to spend time with us and vice versa.

If we have clicked, we talk about that in later days

see the funny thing is I find the opposite.. ie a private meet you feel more pressure than in a club . X"
we prefer club meets ... there is no expectation or pressure with the addition benefit that a couple or single guy can seek out others on the spot

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

"This will sound crude, but to be honest if you have a pulse, a guy will still play. Up to your wife if that's for her"
Totally not true for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really interested in this thread. We have had a social meet and a meet and fun in a club.

We have talked about and are chatting to a few guys/couples, but meets away from clubs. Social makes sense first to see if there is mutual attraction.

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By *ornytoad1362Couple
over a year ago

St. Austell

hey there private meets is good just arrange a social 1st coffee/drink and a chat and see how it goes if you don't click with the other people no worries you leave it there and go home socials are ideal to see if you all get along if you do then you can make further plans to meet xx

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Definitely a social first maybe in a pub. Just like being in the bar area of a club, where if there's a connection you can move to a playroom if not you can move on.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

The biggest concern you will have is your Mrs not liking the other guy, the guys on fab rarely say no, especially as you’re not in a club.

Book a hotel and meet in a bar or restaurant close by, then if you don’t click you can just go back to the hotel and have fun alone. Saying yes is easy , but discuss with partner first how one or both of you will communicate no to each other and them or how you agree to “take one for the team” as it’s not always easy all sat around a table

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I echo what other people have said about stating it’s primarily a social and if things progress so be it. Tbh if anyone had a problem with that and was expecting me to go round and just play I wouldn’t be too keen on meeting them anyway. That’s for the ‘it’s a sex site’ brigade.

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

We love private meets get a hotel room few naughty drinks then if everyone comfortable naughty fun

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"The biggest concern you will have is your Mrs not liking the other guy, the guys on fab rarely say no, especially as you’re not in a club.

Surely it's better in a Club where you would have more people to meet, chat to and potentially get on with?

You still have the option of just having a good night out without playing and going back to your hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social meet in the first instance

Nothing worse than arriving at or inviting someone into your home and there being little or no chemistry and almost feeling obliged in the situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are pretty new to this but have tried both private and club.

Both meets were good and luckily everyone clicked.

We will probably be venturing to clubs more now we have tried one and our confidence to go in is there lol.

After being on the site for a few months it seems it’s very much each to their own, we just won’t meet with anyone at there home or ours although this might change if we know the couple.

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By *edditchCouple8077 OP Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

Thanks for al advice

We will try with social meets first(when this all over)

For us club is fine cause we always had really good nights there.

We need to plan a lot before nights out(childminder,job,etc), so club was always guaranteed good fun for us

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I always meet for a social if I’m meeting privately .... so a coffee in a public place etc ... then you can decide if you want to take it further I’d not no harm done

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We never meet prearranged unless we have met before.

We will advise when we are going to a club, no commitment though.

It’s also good, if you are a couple, to have a discreet signal system for yes and no.

If I (the male) are looking to B/d, D/s play, may do an agreed social first, to test the waters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has been really good for us to guys... Thanks for the posts and advice.

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