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By *oyalstingray OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Just wondered what I could do to improve my chances? I haven't had much luck on this site with women and I figure I must be doing something wrong.

Any tips or criticisms on my profile is welcome, please be blunt. Happy to answer questions too, just message me or something.

Thanks all in advance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you do it in the real world?

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By *oyalstingray OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Could do with help there too to be honest...

But really speaking I just say hello, see if we get talking and go from there. problem is on here I say hello and get ghosted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s standard. No reply is a no thanks. Age is not on your side. Young lads seem to really struggle compared to older men. It’s easy really. Just be nice, not creepy, so respect and if there’s an attraction, the rest will follow.

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By *oyalstingray OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Thanks for the encouragement, can't help but feel like I've got a huge red flag pinned to me though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re going through what 95% of all men go through. The numbers game is against men. Just press the local online button and just see how many are men. And all those are competing with you. You need to get to club and socials once they start again. And get talking. Once some Verifications appear it should help. But the biggest hurdle for guys is getting the mindset right. Swinging isn’t about having sex with strangers. It’s more, it’s the social side just as much if not more. The sex will come once you’ve nailed the social side of it.

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By *oyalstingray OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

You're right, thanks for the comments I really appreciate that.

I did go to a club meet once but everyone there was so clued up I felt out of my depth. I'm all for the community and social side of things, in-fact in an ideal world I'd be making friends with whom i can explore my sexuality, not just having a hookup.

Guess I'll have to settle for forums until this Lock-down is over though :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my opinion.

Bio n profile seem mixed.

Bi curious but wants to meet women yet bio says tv/ts you say of you own age then in bo say up to 40.

You talk about your hobbies.. Great that your active etc.. But this site is more swinging than listing hobbies.

Read the advice on making profiles

No one is perfect. And it's yours at end of day. Look at other profiles.. (not mine been on Here too long)

But good luck.

Age n lack of experience puts a fair few off.. But there's someone for you...

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By *oyalstingray OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Yeah you're right. Te bi-curious thing is me being honest with myself, just not willing to explore that physically yet. As for age it's because ideally the person would be my age but beggars can't be choosers. I would still be comfortable with an older woman and I don't wanna limit my options anymore than they are already.

I think the hobbies thing was just so I seem more human, not just a cock on legs. Thanks though I'll have a good think about it all, might be time for a revamp!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is a big thing for most. Try to be more confident in your approach. Without being arrogant. And I message people about their status updates. Not every message has to be about a meet.

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By *oyalstingray OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Thanks for the tips, I'll bear that in mind for the future.

My messages are rarely about meets, just a friendly "Hi, liked your pics, would you be up for a chat?" kinda thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that but imagine how many messages the woman gets saying that exact thing?

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By *oyalstingray OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I know what you mean, and if there's a status or something in the profile to address then I do. I try to engage people as much as I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd get rid of all the pictures of your penis tbh mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell you what, and I said this to another young guy tonight, change you filter to say that you're looking for a man and I guaranty you'll be inundated with boring pointless messages from boring faceless creeps. It'll give you an idea of what the women on fab have to trawl through everytime they look in their in box. There you go lad, there's a fab education for you, you don't have to thank me ...

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By *oyalstingray OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

haha sure that's a fair few points. I'm not sure about the pics I get conflicting advice. Some say to remove them, others say they like to see things upfront.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main tip for swinging. If this site is the only tool you’re using to meet. Your game needs upping.

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By *oober698Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

Its hard game to get into as a single bloke. I'm widowed and wanted to explore this world but struggle to be a part of it as I've no partner to share, and I ask if I cant find one on fab to share this interest where am I gonna find a like minded person. Most ghost me too so dont get down hearted you have looks and a body that will appeal to most. People are very judgemental on here and specific in their requirements, which is only natural i suppose. I have had some very rude people post derogatory comments of my looks, yet in a mirror they are no different. Some have been very nice too. Your comments are mature for your age and that may be a plus for you, the younger you are the harder it is. Good luck mate, hope you find what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could try smiling... Oh, and tidy your bedroom floor for fucks sake...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab should only be used as a backup to the clubs, this place is dire for guys in general.

Most guys we know as friends have many verifications and meets from the clubs, I'd guess they've get zero from Fab meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab should only be used as a backup to the clubs, this place is dire for guys in general.

Most guys we know as friends have many verifications and meets from the clubs, I'd guess they've get zero from Fab meets."

Agreed. All the males on our friends list are from talking at a club. We never bother with first contact from guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab should only be used as a backup to the clubs, this place is dire for guys in general.

Most guys we know as friends have many verifications and meets from the clubs, I'd guess they've get zero from Fab meets.

Agreed. All the males on our friends list are from talking at a club. We never bother with first contact from guys on here. "

Exactly

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge


"haha sure that's a fair few points. I'm not sure about the pics I get conflicting advice. Some say to remove them, others say they like to see things upfront."

Yeah but 10 of your 13 public pics are of your cock or bulge in boxers pictures in the same angle. One or two tasteful pics is good otherwise its just boring and personally makes me think you can't be arsed to actually put decent pics up and are just hoping for a quick shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"haha sure that's a fair few points. I'm not sure about the pics I get conflicting advice. Some say to remove them, others say they like to see things upfront.

Yeah but 10 of your 13 public pics are of your cock or bulge in boxers pictures in the same angle. One or two tasteful pics is good otherwise its just boring and personally makes me think you can't be arsed to actually put decent pics up and are just hoping for a quick shag"

And your bedroom floor is a right state, would you bring someone back to that?

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge


"haha sure that's a fair few points. I'm not sure about the pics I get conflicting advice. Some say to remove them, others say they like to see things upfront.

Yeah but 10 of your 13 public pics are of your cock or bulge in boxers pictures in the same angle. One or two tasteful pics is good otherwise its just boring and personally makes me think you can't be arsed to actually put decent pics up and are just hoping for a quick shag

And your bedroom floor is a right state, would you bring someone back to that? "

Who me?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

How many 18-30 year old women do you think know about this site, never mind being on here and live nearby ? 10 or 100 ?

Quite possibly non at all. Also even if there are a few, would they be attracted to you ?

I’m a gambler, play the odds. Jennifer Anniston is over 50 would you turn her down?

I won’t give any advice on the photos or text, plenty on here for that, but there are a lot of very hot women over your age range so definitely look at changing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"haha sure that's a fair few points. I'm not sure about the pics I get conflicting advice. Some say to remove them, others say they like to see things upfront.

Yeah but 10 of your 13 public pics are of your cock or bulge in boxers pictures in the same angle. One or two tasteful pics is good otherwise its just boring and personally makes me think you can't be arsed to actually put decent pics up and are just hoping for a quick shag

And your bedroom floor is a right state, would you bring someone back to that?

Who me? "

No, you've got a slave to polish every speck of muck off of your floor with his tongue lol... I meant the op

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By *lossyLegsGlassesCouple
over a year ago

stafford

Hii Jack I've (Glossy) read your profile and can I make a few comments from our point of view x

Firstly cock pix....meh, secondly when we look at guys profiles we look for fun, someone who looks fun, not a cock and torso, we like to socialise, converse and play in terms of age range we're all for setting limits as it shows some clear desires ... there are so many guys wanting to meet 99 year old ladies on here....must be difficult to find hehehe. So some decent pix showing some fun, some more interesting things about u and what u are looking for, if we meet we like to have some ice breakers....

Hope this helps a little babe x

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By *oyalstingray OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Ok lots of advice to respond to so I'll try my best here.

@Vs14, Fab isn't the only thing I do to meet, I have gone to a few clubs and mingled with the people there. I have a few friends with whom I use FetLife to keep in touch with given the current lock-down.

@_oober698, sorry to hear that. Thanks for the kind words. I've had my fair share of gate-keeping directed my way but I don't listen to it. If the site wasn't for singles as well as couples they wouldn't let you sign up as one.

@DanDogx You're right, my room in one or two of those pics wasn't in the cleanest of states. For the most part it's as tidy as you'd like it to be though. As for smiling, I never did look good with a smile. Don't ask me why, maybe my mouth is too small for my head or something. Either way I've taken a few pics smiling and a few not and the smiling ones never looked the better of the two...

@Mr n Mrs Fuckable, and Vs14. C'est la vie I suppose. Can't hurt to put myself out there on here in addition to the clubs and such though.

@Barbells, That's a valid point. Problem for me is people say show off your best asset and that is my best physical asset. Can you even take a tasteful dick pic?

@StephTV67, again the trouble of this - conflicting advice. Earlier in the thread I got told to narrow my age band because it was confusing with my desire to have a partner be a similar age. I'm sure there are plenty of folks out there outside my age bracket who don't look it or feel it or whatever, but they're above my age range for a reason. Would the few ladies on here be attracted to me? well one can only hope right. If they aren't I don't see why older women would be anyway.

And yes I probably would turn Jennifer Anniston down, the only reason that's a 'probably' is because if I didn't I could tell that story the rest of my life.

And last but not least, @GlossyLegsGlasses. Guess this is the last nail in the coffin on dick pics, I'll put most of them on friends only. When you say pics "showing some fun" I'm not sure what you mean but I guess I'll figure that out.

When it comes to interesting things about me any hints or prompts? I removed a whole paragraph talking about my hobbies/interests and ideal night because I was told people on here don't care about that kind of thing.

Ok I think that's everyone covered. Thanks all for the help, I really appreciate it. I'm gonna have a go at re-doing my profile from scratch I think, hopefully that will improve things. Again thank you all for being genuine and helpful - and especially for not just laying into me.

Stay safe during this pandemic!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

OP, if you hit reply and quote it will be much easier to see who you are replying to hun. Hope you find what you are looking for. X

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Advice is given and hopefully makes sense and helps. But I’m a firm believer you should always go and do what you think is best for yourself.

I still think you’ll struggle on here and maybe a dating site would be better suited. But I truly genuinely hope I’m wrong.

Good luck Op

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By *thleticgirthMan
over a year ago

wirral

Its very hard work. I do well in tinder but awful on this. Far too much competition

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By *oyalstingray OP   Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Yeah I think you're both right, I just hope that this site being far more open and forwards sexually will help me find that person i suppose.

And with regards to the quotes, good point. I'm not sure if I could quote that many times in one response though

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