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"My advice to you would be, as a great man twice said; "Fuck her right in the pussy."" If that becomes an option that we're all comfortable with - it will happen! | |||
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"Yes. Talk to the women concerned and explain your concerns. Be very wary of getting involved with a woman who has come out of an abusive relationship as anything other than a friend." The abusive relationship was many many years ago, fortunately. She's just told me recently because we've not seen each other in years. Talking to both of them is certainly a good idea, but I'm worried that if I've read the situation incorrectly, that I'll alienate the friend (who has sent me very intimate photos!) and pissing of my fiancée (who has seen the photos and not even flinched!) I have a habit of overthinking things though. BUT - my fiancée has recently said no to swapping with a friend and his wife that I've known for 20 odd years, but not seen for the last 18 of those. But she seems to enjoy me talking with my female friend. I'll keep the conversations between myself and my friend helpful I think. Post the plague we've all agreed to meet up for a drink to catch up in person. The photoshoot will be at a later date, so we'll see where the conversation goes over a drink. | |||
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"I think be straight up about everything with everyone. Its a disaster waiting to happen otherwise! " But - what if I'm totally reading them both wrong? And I fuck a friendship up and piss off my fiancée? | |||
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"If there wasn't a lockdown at the moment I'd be organising you a parade" Well, there's nothing to celebrate for.... yet ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Yes. Talk to the women concerned and explain your concerns. Be very wary of getting involved with a woman who has come out of an abusive relationship as anything other than a friend. The abusive relationship was many many years ago, fortunately. She's just told me recently because we've not seen each other in years. Talking to both of them is certainly a good idea, but I'm worried that if I've read the situation incorrectly, that I'll alienate the friend (who has sent me very intimate photos!) and pissing of my fiancée (who has seen the photos and not even flinched!) I have a habit of overthinking things though. BUT - my fiancée has recently said no to swapping with a friend and his wife that I've known for 20 odd years, but not seen for the last 18 of those. But she seems to enjoy me talking with my female friend. I'll keep the conversations between myself and my friend helpful I think. Post the plague we've all agreed to meet up for a drink to catch up in person. The photoshoot will be at a later date, so we'll see where the conversation goes over a drink." If you don't talk to them you will never know if you've misread the situation until it all goes horribly wrong. If your fiancée has seen the messages and photos why haven't you talked? Her silence on the matter speaks volumes to m If I remain silent on a matter it means I am just giving someone enough rope to hang themselves | |||
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"If you don't talk to them you will never know if you've misread the situation until it all goes horribly wrong. If your fiancée has seen the messages and photos why haven't you talked? Her silence on the matter speaks volumes to m If I remain silent on a matter it means I am just giving someone enough rope to hang themselves" She's not like that fortunately. Not a malicious bone in her body. If she had a problem with it, shed be the first to let me know! ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"If you don't talk to them you will never know if you've misread the situation until it all goes horribly wrong. If your fiancée has seen the messages and photos why haven't you talked? Her silence on the matter speaks volumes to m If I remain silent on a matter it means I am just giving someone enough rope to hang themselves She's not like that fortunately. Not a malicious bone in her body. If she had a problem with it, shed be the first to let me know! ![]() ![]() ![]() I should add, we have talked to make sure she's ok with my friend and I talking about stuff. She is absolutely fine with it, but hasn't said much else. She's so busy and working so hard ![]() | |||
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"If you don't talk to them you will never know if you've misread the situation until it all goes horribly wrong. If your fiancée has seen the messages and photos why haven't you talked? Her silence on the matter speaks volumes to m If I remain silent on a matter it means I am just giving someone enough rope to hang themselves She's not like that fortunately. Not a malicious bone in her body. If she had a problem with it, shed be the first to let me know! ![]() ![]() ![]() I'm not malicious either. Well if you feel ok going on signs rather than talking you'll have to see how things go. Good luck | |||
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"I'm not malicious either. Well if you feel ok going on signs rather than talking you'll have to see how things go. Good luck" Well, lockdown will be on for a while yet, so plenty of time to see how things develop ![]() | |||
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" I'm wary of talking about it with her because of how she's just rejected the idea of my other friend and his wife. She was upfront about that. And we've not swung for about two years now, so she's a little insecure about it. " Maybe she just didn't fancy the other friend? | |||
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"Mr HLC here... Incoming wall of text ![]() ![]() maybe you're over thinking your over thinking the woman sounds a tad gullible to me but well done you....... photoshoot ![]() | |||
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"Will your fiancee see this thread and be annoyed that you didn't talk to her before posting the question here? " Mr LHC here. She checks this thread regularly - we both have access to and use our account ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Mr HLC here... Incoming wall of text ![]() ![]() Jesus. That escalated quickly! Lol. ![]() | |||
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"Jesus. That escalated quickly! Lol. ![]() Yeah. Seems to have moved very quickly from reconnecting with an old friend, to my fiancée being stressed and saying stuff that she didn’t really feel (jealous and insecure.) She fantasied about it - out loud - in bed the other day ![]() | |||
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"Jesus. That escalated quickly! Lol. ![]() ![]() Why were the photos she sent you poor quality? Was it their composition, lighting, poses? You know that ‘Mr HLC’ would be more appropriate than Mr LHC considering your user name? | |||
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" Here’s the thing: I’m feeling a little weird about this. My natural instinct is “Why isn’t Mrs HLC bothered about this at all?” After all, I’m having intimate discussions with someone I’ve slept with, while Mrs HLC isn’t involved. " Either she fully trusts you, or she isn’t bothered if you sleep with other women. Maybe she wants you too, maybe she wants to sleep with other guys privately and so she’s allowing you to get close to and sleep with other women. Why not just ask her and sort it out before talking anymore to the FB ex | |||
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"Why were the photos she sent you poor quality? Was it their composition, lighting, poses? You know that ‘Mr HLC’ would be more appropriate than Mr LHC considering your user name? " The photos were taken using the front facing (selfie) camera on her iPhone 6. Mostly in a dark bedroom. It’s a mixture of composition, lighting and poses. They don’t really do her justice ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Either she fully trusts you, or she isn’t bothered if you sleep with other women. Maybe she wants you too, maybe she wants to sleep with other guys privately and so she’s allowing you to get close to and sleep with other women. Why not just ask her and sort it out before talking anymore to the FB ex " When I say “not involved” I mean that Mrs is not part of the conversation at the time of it happening. She’s aware of the conversations though, and I hand her my phone in the morning while I’m having a shower so she can catch up with it ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Actually I have to say that from what you have said you are doing your very best to act as a supportive husband in an open and honest relationship. Yes I get that you are hopeful that an mff does come from it, but as this is most str8 and bi males top fantasy I don’t blame you for the wishful thinking. You seem to be doing your utmost not to pressure either of the ladies, which will probably make it way more likely to happen plus be something no one regrets. Well done!" Well, I’m trying my best ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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