FabSwingers.com forum: Attending as a Single Female to a Club

By *etite_delight OP Woman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Hello all fems out there who have experience in club scenes with couples on her own.....

I’ve been to few local or localish clubs several times however I’ve been attended either as a couple or with pre-arranged meets so I know I never be alone there.

I would like to start attending on my own with no pre-arrangements when this epidemic all over and when clubs are open for business.

What will be your advice in regards to use the time there or the way to interact with couples? I feel like if I go on my own, I’ll sit at the bar and just drink or watch people all night long.

Bit shy on first attempts here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've pm'd you x

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By *etite_delight OP Woman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

or couples; how would like to be approached by a female whether you are interested or not ? x

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By *etite_delight OP Woman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

"I've pm'd you x "

Thank you

checking now x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Talk to people. It's hard, my god I know this, but work out who looks receptive to having a chat and go from there. I'm not very good at this but it's the way forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would gladly escort you, if it helped. I wouldn’t stop you doing whatever you want, or expect any involvement - but happy to chaperone you and be there in case you needed a chat.

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By *etite_delight OP Woman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

"Talk to people. It's hard, my god I know this, but work out who looks receptive to having a chat and go from there. I'm not very good at this but it's the way forward."

Yeah, I’m rubbish at chat-up lines hence I haven’t tried before on my own. But has to be done at some point

I just don’t want to do or say something wrong x

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By *etite_delight OP Woman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

"I would gladly escort you, if it helped. I wouldn’t stop you doing whatever you want, or expect any involvement - but happy to chaperone you and be there in case you needed a chat."

Thanks for the offer but that’s always been the case most of the time with me. I need to do this on my own from going forward. However, if you have any advice what couples prefer in terms of approaching, feel free to comment

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

Glitterbabe (Posts on here) is fantastic at getting introductions going at VA for example.

Other than that, complimenting someone on their outfit always works, except when it doesn’t.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

The longest we've seen a single female on her own in a club is about 1 minute! They have no problem getting company

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By *ucy DuoCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Usually club liaisons are led by the lady. From experience, ladies talk easier together. If there is mutual attraction, then Julie would introduce me(Leon). Chat, drink and laugh, make yourself approachable using open body language. Things that work with some couples might not work with others.

Have you perhaps thought about going with a couple?

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By *etite_delight OP Woman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

"Usually club liaisons are led by the lady. From experience, ladies talk easier together. If there is mutual attraction, then Julie would introduce me(Leon). Chat, drink and laugh, make yourself approachable using open body language. Things that work with some couples might not work with others.

Have you perhaps thought about going with a couple?"

That’s good to know! Thank you

I did go to club with couples several times however I never been approached by a different couple personally. Maybe because my attention was elsewhere and some occasions they did the talking for group fun.

Hence the curiosity attending on my own x

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By *etite_delight OP Woman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

"The longest we've seen a single female on her own in a club is about 1 minute! They have no problem getting company

Haha I don’t think I am “pulled out in a minute type“

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By *etite_delight OP Woman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

"Glitterbabe (Posts on here) is fantastic at getting introductions going at VA for example.

Other than that, complimenting someone on their outfit always works, except when it doesn’t. "

Thank you

x x x x

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By *ungscotsman26Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The longest we've seen a single female on her own in a club is about 1 minute! They have no problem getting company

Haha I don’t think I am “pulled out in a minute type“

Just go for it. If you spot someone you like the look of go say hi. Worst they can do is not be interested or you have a pleasant convo and nothing happens.

You have a great body so I'm sure you will do perfectly well!

Having said that I don't have the guts to go as a single guy myself so I'm a hypocrite haha

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I really admire you and your confidence. Single ladies don’t tend to be alone for long. Maybe look at the meets section and message couples that are going. With a view to nothing else but chatting. You will never look back and your confidence will be sky high afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"or couples; how would like to be approached by a female whether you are interested or not ? x "

I, Mouse, enjoy when we are at a club chatting to single girls sometimes it clicks other times we just chat ??

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I'm sure most couples would probably approach you if they are looking for a single lady and you really don't need to worry about chat up lines or anything else just go have fun enjoyed yourself and it will help take the pressure off.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Tip for anyone that wants to meet others in a club.

I saw a couple in a Quest once. They were huddled in the most awkward corner for anyone to get to. Looking like they wanted to be left alone. Their body language said stay away.

Next day they left a review saying they wouldn’t go again as the club was too cliquy and no one mixed. Lol.

Sit at some tall stools. It’s a less intimidating for people to approach than on a low down settee in a corner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we have never been approached by single females and we're OK with that. I remember the last time we went to a club I complimented a girl on her outfit (100% wasn't interested in her, just spotted what she was wearing) and she looked at me like I'd spat in her drink

I think if you approach people and say hello you'll be fine. Maybe you'll have to manage their expectations early on, but most people we've spoken to in clubs have been polite enough.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Usually if you let the club know beforehand the good ones at least will show you round and make few introductions. After that it's just biting the bullet and saying hi to people you like the look of. We've been a approached a couple of times and always been flattered whether we wanted to play or not.

Very much doubt you are going to have any problems atall as long as you dont hide in the corner lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just engage with the clique in the club (every club has them) and you’ll be introduced to others. As a single lady you are an asset to a club, they will do there best to look after you, they want you back, they want you posting you are going to the club, it’s ££££’s for them

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

You will have no trouble finding couples happy to chat to you...that's for sure...good luck .

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By *etite_delight OP Woman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

I want to thank you all one by one but I don’t want to fill it with full of thank you responses. So here is the group “Thank You” for all of you and your very helpful comments. x x x x

After consideration and few DM exchanges with some, I decided to go to a club which I am not the member of (yet) and unlikely to visit regularly as my first on-my-own experience.

I will sit or stand around the middle of the bar, smiling away & complementing ladies in a couple. Seems like the best option for me at the moment.

Now the plan is ready, waiting of who knows how many months starts.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

One of my female friends went to a club recently by herself. It was her first time on her own, so she was nervous, but once inside all was well. She had sex with two guys, and then was spunked on by six others (something she loves). A cracking way to spend a Thursday daytime and only £7.50 entry fee (for a single female). As others have said before; you’ll be well looked after as a single female, you are the demographic most sought after in the club scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't tend to approach anyone as we like to people watch, but will happily speak to anyone who approaches us. Everyone is friendly in clubs as you've probably already saw, it's amazing how well all singles are accepted if they're respectful, something you don't always get in vanilla clubs. As some have said, you're an asset to any club and will be snapped up pretty quickly if that's what you're looking for.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

It's like going on holiday on your own, you'll always have people trying to talk to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always feel a bit nervous approaching single women at clubs as we don’t want to scare or intimidate them. We tend to let them approach us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve found nights where just couples and single ladies attend can be a bit of a let down unless you know people mainly couples on these nights as you know and i find the less social

Nights that allow single guys are more social but then you have to put up with the one or two males that think paying an entry fee makes you fair game

I usually only go when I know friends will be there

Good luck x

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

It's abit different for me because I'm not looking to play with couples but I literally just go and talk to everyone.

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster

"or couples; how would like to be approached by a female whether you are interested or not ? x "

Just start chatting and ask if we'd like to go some where more private most would accept.

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

I've been going as a single for many years, first time at a club many years ago now, felt a bit nervous Ofcourse but soon found my feet, as its just like being in a pub full of like minded adults some you click with some you don't, always seem to manage a nice conversation and smile, compliment the ladies that catch your eye, I'm a bit of a people's person and love a giggle and not one of the silent followers, never go with expectations just a hope of metro h new friends, always had a good evening either way, most clubs have great rules to protect the single ladies so safer than a night club in town x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take our lady friend with us now to clubs. It’s easier for her and she can relax a lot more.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

You would be well welcome at jaydees just wish we were in your age range, would still be nice to chat either way to help you along let's hope it gets up and running soon

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"It's abit different for me because I'm not looking to play with couples but I literally just go and talk to everyone."

Literally...everyone...even me

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"It's abit different for me because I'm not looking to play with couples but I literally just go and talk to everyone.

Literally...everyone...even me

This is true, I do scrape the barrel sometimes

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"It's abit different for me because I'm not looking to play with couples but I literally just go and talk to everyone.

Literally...everyone...even me

This is true, I do scrape the barrel sometimes

Everyone else is hiding

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"It's abit different for me because I'm not looking to play with couples but I literally just go and talk to everyone.

Literally...everyone...even me

This is true, I do scrape the barrel sometimes

Everyone else is hiding

True lol

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"It's abit different for me because I'm not looking to play with couples but I literally just go and talk to everyone.

Literally...everyone...even me

This is true, I do scrape the barrel sometimes

Everyone else is hiding

True lol "

I wouldn’t hide from you

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By *sa JaneWoman
over a year ago

Cumbria

Sounds similar to myself. Been couple of times with a guy friend and also a group but last time I went on my own and had the best time ever. I could choose who I played with as you will know women are always in demand. I sat at the bar and had a drink whilst weighing things up. You will be fine ..it was a blast and I'll definately go alone again.. you will love it.. was very exciting xx

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"or couples; how would like to be approached by a female whether you are interested or not ? x "

Honestly, just say hi to us. We love a chat with people even those we wouldn't play with. We still feel the nerves every time we go in, so always appreciate someone to calm the nerves. If anything else comes of it, great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Glitterbabe (Posts on here) is fantastic at getting introductions going at VA for example.

Other than that, complimenting someone on their outfit always works, except when it doesn’t. "

Wow I love your dress.Works every time

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm watching this with interest, as I'm thinking of doing the same thing.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"I'm watching this with interest, as I'm thinking of doing the same thing. "

Certainly based on my limited experience of chameleons it's a freindly relaxed atmosphere and as a single lady I'm sure you will have fun and meet lots of nice folk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well my partner and I are coming to Chams when we are out of this nightmare and she is extremely keen on playing with the ladies — but is unsure about making that first approach to a lady - wether she is alone or part of a couple — any advice for her would be appreciated people x

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Well my partner and I are coming to Chams when we are out of this nightmare and she is extremely keen on playing with the ladies — but is unsure about making that first approach to a lady - wether she is alone or part of a couple — any advice for her would be appreciated people x"

Just chat to people...that's all you can do ...and if you get on discuss your interests ..

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By *icks and SucksCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"or couples; how would like to be approached by a female whether you are interested or not ? x "

Just strike up general conversation if in a bar area or mingling around, in open play areas compliment or ask if someone minds if you “watch” we’re sure you’d be asked to come closer or even join if you felt comfortable.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I'm watching this with interest, as I'm thinking of doing the same thing.

Certainly based on my limited experience of chameleons it's a freindly relaxed atmosphere and as a single lady I'm sure you will have fun and meet lots of nice folk."

Thanks but either a 4 hour drive or 6 on the train, that's just one way. A bit too far for me, I think. X

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Hello all fems out there who have experience in club scenes with couples on her own.....

I’ve been to few local or localish clubs several times however I’ve been attended either as a couple or with pre-arranged meets so I know I never be alone there.

I would like to start attending on my own with no pre-arrangements when this epidemic all over and when clubs are open for business.

What will be your advice in regards to use the time there or the way to interact with couples? I feel like if I go on my own, I’ll sit at the bar and just drink or watch people all night long.

Bit shy on first attempts here

OP I’ve been to clubs a lot as a single woman and can give you advice if you would like to pm me. I can’t message you.

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