FabSwingers.com forum: Not getting any meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

(Prior to lockdown) - was hoping some of you more experienced cavers could shine some light on this? I get a lot of profile attention and not a great amount of messages. Due to my career I’m very reluctant on posting any public face pics but once I get chatting I’m more than happy to send some over as long as I’m getting the same energy back. My profile states I’ve been in here fore over a year with 1 meet which may be misleading, but I have been in and out of relationships and never deactivated my account. Any thoughts? I’m looking to attract younger and older females as well as couples for mmf/cuckold fun

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Do you send messages, or just wait for them to come to you first? Proactivity is best

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do send out my fair amount of messages to those that I’m intrigued to know more about.... I’ve just changed my bio and jazzed my profile up a bit as it was quite plain, so we’ll see if that changes anything?

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Try and get to a organised social...you'll meet loads of people there...good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good shout, cheers mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do send out my fair amount of messages to those that I’m intrigued to know more about.... I’ve just changed my bio and jazzed my profile up a bit as it was quite plain, so we’ll see if that changes anything?"

I'm afraid it still looks rather bland and generic.

Nothing in your bio leaps out. It's just a lot of words that don't really say much.

It says nothing about what you have to offer nor what you're actually looking for.

Try thinking of it this way. If you got a message from someone with a bio like yours, would you be intrested enough to message back?

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises"

It’s a good job that my bio isn’t aimed at you then isn’t it!

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"(Prior to lockdown) - was hoping some of you more experienced cavers could shine some light on this? I get a lot of profile attention and not a great amount of messages. Due to my career I’m very reluctant on posting any public face pics but once I get chatting I’m more than happy to send some over as long as I’m getting the same energy back. My profile states I’ve been in here fore over a year with 1 meet which may be misleading, but I have been in and out of relationships and never deactivated my account. Any thoughts? I’m looking to attract younger and older females as well as couples for mmf/cuckold fun"
. I personally feel the best way forward for single guys are social and clubs.When we get back to normal look for a organised socials in your area or as far as you feel is reasonable to travel and do the same for clubs.Best of luck with everything and stay safe.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

I personally found your profile quite appealing at this current view but I’m not sure how was it before , more pics always a bonus for wandering eyes

Guess a visit to a swinger club post-lockdown would fire away your veris if you are into that

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

"Try and get to a organised social...you'll meet loads of people there...good luck"

I’d agree with this. You’ll have some more veris then which makes people see you as real.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Try and get to a organised social...you'll meet loads of people there...good luck

I’d agree with this. You’ll have some more veris then which makes people see you as real. "

And hopefully a nice charming individual...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"(Prior to lockdown) - was hoping some of you more experienced cavers could shine some light on this? I get a lot of profile attention and not a great amount of messages. Due to my career I’m very reluctant on posting any public face pics but once I get chatting I’m more than happy to send some over as long as I’m getting the same energy back. My profile states I’ve been in here fore over a year with 1 meet which may be misleading, but I have been in and out of relationships and never deactivated my account. Any thoughts? I’m looking to attract younger and older females as well as couples for mmf/cuckold fun. I personally feel the best way forward for single guys are social and clubs.When we get back to normal look for a organised socials in your area or as far as you feel is reasonable to travel and do the same for clubs.Best of luck with everything and stay safe."

Thanks buddy, good feedback and very similar to other replies! Club scene may have to be a shout when this has all cleared up! Stay safe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I personally found your profile quite appealing at this current view but I’m not sure how was it before , more pics always a bonus for wandering eyes

Guess a visit to a swinger club post-lockdown would fire away your veris if you are into that

Well thank you very much

I did jazz it up abit after some of the earlier responses this morning. It’s certainly helped! Yea I added a few extra pics and As I said, plenty of friends only pics too for those wondering eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises

It’s a good job that my bio isn’t aimed at you then isn’t it!"

Ooh proper charmer aren't you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises

It’s a good job that my bio isn’t aimed at you then isn’t it!"

And that comment right there reveals far more about you than you realise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises

It’s a good job that my bio isn’t aimed at you then isn’t it!

Ooh proper charmer aren't you?"

I’m just giving the same energy back as I receive. If I don’t share the same interest as someone which they’ve put in their bio, I wouldn’t message them? And I definitely wouldn’t try picking it apart on a forum. I think that’s pretty fair.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try and get to a organised social...you'll meet loads of people there...good luck

I’d agree with this. You’ll have some more veris then which makes people see you as real. "

Thanks for the feedback ?? hopefully this virus clears up soon and we can all continue with our lives!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises

It’s a good job that my bio isn’t aimed at you then isn’t it!

Ooh proper charmer aren't you?

It isnt about same energy as you just said. Plenty of people dont share the same interests but they are polite about it. You just came across rude, arrogant and ignorant. You asked a question they took time to answer you. You prob not there type either and more so now to them and more people reading

Maybe rethink how you talk to people might be a good start on here let alone in person

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think your reading something different, she replied to my questions with no answers, all she did was state that it’s not what she wants? Which is why I said my profile isn’t aimed at her? And don’t give me advise on how to to address myself on here, let alone in person. I haven’t, and wouldn’t do that to anyone else on here, regardless of how stupid I find their response to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises

It’s a good job that my bio isn’t aimed at you then isn’t it!"

OP is receiving a lot of forum angst for what is a completely fair response.

We didn't read it as him being rude

and if it did come across as rude then it was only as rude as the tone of the original comment.

Anyway, going back on topic - nice profile, good luck to you

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Looks much better now

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises"

Absolutely agree, in fact I have it in my profile that that’s a no-no.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises

It’s a good job that my bio isn’t aimed at you then isn’t it!

Ooh proper charmer aren't you?

Firstly, assume that people will look at the forums to see how you conduct yourself, and will judge you on it regardless of whether it’s aimed at them.

Secondly, you say you wouldn’t message someone who doesn’t share your interests, but I think we both know you do.

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By *LCoolJayMan
over a year ago

Local

When this pandemic is over head to a few parties and treat it like a bar, be nice, talk, flirt and go with the flow and the least you will get is a positive verifications and maybe more if you connect with someone.

Good on you for standing up for yourself as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises

It’s a good job that my bio isn’t aimed at you then isn’t it!

OP is receiving a lot of forum angst for what is a completely fair response.

We didn't read it as him being rude

and if it did come across as rude then it was only as rude as the tone of the original comment.

Anyway, going back on topic - nice profile, good luck to you

Thank you very much, nice to see I’m not going crackers. A few people have replied via message who share our same opinion. I just think people tend to get very brave over a keyboard, especially on here! But hey ho

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When this pandemic is over head to a few parties and treat it like a bar, be nice, talk, flirt and go with the flow and the least you will get is a positive verifications and maybe more if you connect with someone.

Good on you for standing up for yourself as well."

Thanks buddy, appreciate you taking the time to give me some advise. And nice one for recognising. As I replied to someone else, people tend to get brave over keyboards and get their back up when someone stands up to them. Gotta laugh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Looks much better now

Thank you

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I'm out of your age range so feel free to ignore.

Your profile bio comes across as a little bit too arrogant for me, as do some of your replies on here, that will appeal to some people I'm sure but there's a very fine line between selling yourself & sounding full of yourself.

As has previously been said, as an older woman I would struggle to accept being dominated by a 26yr old, and the hard rough sex reference would make me question your understanding of the D/s dynamic.

Your pics are fine but probably worth adding a few more.

Attending clubs or organised socials is definitely a good way to meet people and let them get to know the person behind the profile, most will be happy to verify if you ask politely.

Also try to avoid the generic "Hi, how are you doing?" type messages. Always read profiles before you message & be sure you match what they are looking for & try to make the message reflect the fact you have read their bio and understood it.

Good luck. It's hard for single males on here but if you put in the effort it pays off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm out of your age range so feel free to ignore.

As has previously been said, as an older woman I would struggle to accept being dominated by a 26yr old, and the hard rough sex reference would make me question your understanding of the D/s dynamic.

Your pics are fine but probably worth adding a few more.

Attending clubs or organised socials is definitely a good way to meet people and let them get to know the person behind the profile, most will be happy to verify if you ask politely.

Good luck. It's hard for single males on here but if you put in the effort it pays off.

Hi, firstly, thanks for taking the time to write. I will take part of your message and use it and Thanks for the advise, seems like clubs are a goer and Ive made a few tweaks to my bio. Whether you deem my bio as arrogant or whatever is down to your interpretation and opinion, which of course your entitled too. As I said, there’s profiles out there that I wouldn’t go near messaging, everyone’s got their own preferences. Be a funny world if we all had the same taste!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

OP; your profile is looking quite good to me, and I’m guessing this is the result of some of the great advice above? All our profiles are a ‘work in progress’, I’ve altered and tweaked mine so many times over the years!

I would remove the “I’m experienced in the sheets” line; it sounds like you’re bragging

I would never recommend the club scene for a single guy.

Use this lockdown time wisely; everyone is sat at home (or should be) right now, so think sensibly about who you are looking to meet, and use the block button to filter out all those profiles you either don’t match, or are not yourself interested in. Forget the pretty pics of people you’re never going to meet, there’s plenty of wank fodder freely available on the inter web! You’re in here to meet, so don’t need your local searches clogging up with pointless profiles.

When you’ve sorted the wheat from the chaff, read their profiles carefully before messaging. Be polite, and pertinent, concise, but precise. Don’t waffle on, and (huge tip here) make sure your opening line is a good one, as this is the only part most people look at in their inbox, before opening a message!

Take your time, there’s literally no rush right now.

All the best

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Are you truly thinking that promoting yourself as a young lad is going to be really productive here? People generally like maturity and emphasising what may be perceived as the opposite, is a turnoff for many.

I reiterate what others say, about it having requirements but limited selling of your positives.

Keep anything negative out or at an absolute minimum. Your forum ban

If you must be clear about being straight, keep it at a minimum etc

A broader range of pics will balance this and better help others know if they might find you attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Had a forum ban for sticking up for myself, which many others thought were fair replies. This is my first forum I’ve ever posted and it’s taught me there’s definitely some odd people on here, with far too much time on their hands!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would however like to thank all of those who offered their advise! Made amends to my profile and see huge results already. Take care all of you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP; your profile is looking quite good to me, and I’m guessing this is the result of some of the great advice above? All our profiles are a ‘work in progress’, I’ve altered and tweaked mine so many times over the years!

I would remove the “I’m experienced in the sheets” line; it sounds like you’re bragging

I would never recommend the club scene for a single guy.

Take your time, there’s literally no rush right now.

All the best

Thanks buddy! Take care

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Had a forum ban for sticking up for myself, which many others thought were fair replies. This is my first forum I’ve ever posted and it’s taught me there’s definitely some odd people on here, with far too much time on their hands!"
. Right now we all probably have too much time on our hands.When I was your age I don’t think I would have made some of the replies you did we are all different personalities and besides when I was your age in 1994 we never had the social media to be a keyboard warrior.Some will feel some of your comments may have come across as chucking your toys out of the pram others will feel you were giving as good as you got.Bottom line you have served your forum ban and improved your profile.Best of luck with your time on Fabs and stay safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises

It’s a good job that my bio isn’t aimed at you then isn’t it!

And that comment right there reveals far more about you than you realise.

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Agree with this, if that is how you respond.

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

To be fair someone fired at him with a snarky comment and he replied without being abusive or breaking the forum rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male to fem/couple ratio. Every single male is in a similar situation until they manage to get Verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would reconsider the words 'fat coochie'. As someone with a 'fat coochie' I don't find it that flattering.

Other than that you have a good profile. Refreshing to see different pics.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be fair someone fired at him with a snarky comment and he replied without being abusive or breaking the forum rules.

Not that it matters but You can’t win with some people, some comedians on here

cheers though mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly wouldn't be dominated by a 26 yo.

Complete turn off, - hard, rough sex, I don't want to come out with bruises

It’s a good job that my bio isn’t aimed at you then isn’t it!

And that comment right there reveals far more about you than you realise.

Agree with this, if that is how you respond. "

Thanks for for that mate, really appreciate the useful advise. I think everyone will be thankfull for your comment there

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

Just a FYI, you've emphasised you are straight not Bi/gay but then mentioned MMF, the order of the letters generally signifies who would interact with who, so you might be best to change it to MFM to avoid confusion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I read another forum on this debate, some say mmf/mfm is the same thing? God knows

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"I read another forum on this debate, some say mmf/mfm is the same thing? God knows"

Bodmas I believe

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

Gd this can go deep if you look intensely.

I personally don’t look into order of preference when I can see their preference of the gender that like to have fun and don’t think he is gay or bi when say he is straight.

However, I once been told, it’s the priority of order you are looking for. If as a single male put mmf , he doesn’t mind interaction of penis touching like DP, Double blow-job etc. and if he puts mfm, he wants total separation from other male in the room. Does it makes sense?

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