FabSwingers.com forum: Wife has gone off sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Been married for nearly 15 years now and the last 2 years + no sex....I've waited this long still trying it on with her. Been told to find someone else for sex,can someone help? Don't judge me but it's all about sex!

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Been married for nearly 15 years now and the last 2 years + no sex....I've waited this long still trying it on with her. Been told to find someone else for sex,can someone help? Don't judge me but it's all about sex!"

What help are you asking for exactly?

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By *laymateteeMan
over a year ago

bristol

Has she said why she's off sex?

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By *oudLoutishLoverWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

With respect, perhaps you could suggest Fab to her, so she can find someone she actually wants to have sex with?

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby

Has she said why she's off sex?"

Absolutely this

You need to find the answer to this before you can decide your next course of action.

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Lots of reasons to go off sex .mental .physical etc.Talk .talk is the only way ...

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Think you 2 need to speak to each other ... not us !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your fab name is hilarious sexstarved c,mon mate lol

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I think your fab name is hilarious sexstarved c,mon mate lol"

Hilarious indeed.

You'll find 99% in here are sex starved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unlucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don’t people just post helpful advice the bloke didn’t come on here for a roasting.... or did he ??

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"Why don’t people just post helpful advice the bloke didn’t come on here for a roasting.... or did he ??

We’ve said go talk to her thought that was the most sensible thing to do !!!

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

You cant go straight to feast from famine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As already suggested, talk to her to find out why.

Have her interests or sexual tastes changed? That can happen; we’re not always the same person we were a decade and a half ago.

Is there something you should be/shouldn’t be doing in her eyes? Is it nothing at all to do with you?

You need to ask the question and you need to take onboard any answer you get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why don’t people just post helpful advice the bloke didn’t come on here for a roasting.... or did he ??

I think you're right, a roasting is exactly what hes looking for.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"Why don’t people just post helpful advice the bloke didn’t come on here for a roasting.... or did he ??

I think you're right, a roasting is exactly what hes looking for.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Think you need some work on the profile too ... that might helpm

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By *um4usbothCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I think your fab name is hilarious sexstarved c,mon mate lol

Hilarious indeed.

You'll find 99% in here are sex starved

I think at this time we’re all sex starved

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Well go find a willing FWB or a another woman or bi-man or TV/TS, she given you permission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately op your the wrong gender for this post! A woman posted a similar thread last week and people were gushing with nice comments and advice

Hope you find someone to have some fun with, try a club after all this is over

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By *tterlysluterlyCouple
over a year ago

northampton

HRT. It is the answer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From someone in a similar state (and permission to play) try talking to her even if it's on WhatsApp or email as she may not feel comfortable telling you what's wrong face to face.

Maybe also saying to her you'd rather understand what's happened before you play in case she regrets allowing you and kills your relationship.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The marriage is all but over really...sleep in separate rooms hardly talk to each other. Just can't sell the house and can't afford to move out separately at the mo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just about no sex then is it.. Maybe you both need to admit it's over amicably.. Then move on when it's possible

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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington

"The marriage is all but over really...sleep in separate rooms hardly talk to each other. Just can't sell the house and can't afford to move out separately at the mo "
that's a messy relationship. Get off fab . Sort your life out.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

"The marriage is all but over really...sleep in separate rooms hardly talk to each other. Just can't sell the house and can't afford to move out separately at the mo "

Does she agree it's all but over? Sounds like you need to reach an understanding.

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By *mcouple2Couple
over a year ago

Warrington

If you get a meet tomorrow you still have to go home.

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By *essie.Woman
over a year ago

Serendipity

"The marriage is all but over really...sleep in separate rooms hardly talk to each other. Just can't sell the house and can't afford to move out separately at the mo "

Sounds like it’s all but over. You need to speak to each other though as communication is key even at the end of a relationship.

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By *on12xxMan
over a year ago

nottingham

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I think she's gone off more than sex !

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By *utton SimonMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Being on here, is not your answer, It’s just a further reason to be apart. Divorced myself 12 years now, so know what it is like , you are still young enough , to split the home 50/50 a get a new place , procrastinating, won’t bring results, neither will be being on here.

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By *evoncurcoupleCouple
over a year ago

devon

I bet what you did 15 years ago .. would help now.

How often do you go for meals, buy her flowers, leave her notes, apprichate her. Relationships arent all about sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she is the same age as you. She is probably menopausal, my wife went off sex for several years.

If she is menopausal then her hormones will be all over the place. Talk to her rationally. Getting sex elsewhere wont do your marriage any good.

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By *uncpl187Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

My wife didn't so much go off sex,but since taking on 3 baby grandchildren and already having our other kids to deal with,she started to lose the urge.

So I helped out with all the family to take some of the pressure from her. Gave her a well deserved bath and massage.That helped put her in the mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"With respect, perhaps you could suggest Fab to her, so she can find someone she actually wants to have sex with?

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This and your fab partner is very lucky, very hot photos LoudLoutishLover.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

"The marriage is all but over really...sleep in separate rooms hardly talk to each other. Just can't sell the house and can't afford to move out separately at the mo "

Looks like the decision is made. Many people try to hang on, and loads will advise you to try again, try harder, counselling, etc. If it's over, it's over. I'd be wary of having another relationship, or sex, before you sort out the legalities, as she may change her mind and accuse you of infidelity, and the court system will generally support her over you. Read, Sex at Dawn, a great read about us humans and sex. You have my sympathies.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The marriage is all but over really...sleep in separate rooms hardly talk to each other. Just can't sell the house and can't afford to move out separately at the mo "

Reading your posts it doesn't look like you're asking for relationship advice, but that's what you're receiving!

If you're asking about developing uncommitted sexual relationships with people then maybe set your stall out on your profile, be honest and think about what the people you want to meet might want to see.

Sorry your marriage is all but over, you'll learn & make mistakes but be as good as you can be

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Be honest on your profile op ,but be prepared that many women would want confirmation that you have permission from your wife to play.

Your profile needs more work ,sell yourself,why would someone choose you?

More pics would help too ,some of your body ,doesn't have to be naked .

Its tough on here due to the number of men on here so you do need to put effort in to get the results.

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By *ove3funCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"My wife didn't so much go off sex,but since taking on 3 baby grandchildren and already having our other kids to deal with,she started to lose the urge.

So I helped out with all the family to take some of the pressure from her. Gave her a well deserved bath and massage.That helped put her in the mood.

This...it may be that your marriage is over but it may be that it can be saved. Think about what you are doing all the time not just around sex. Help out more, find out what her desires are sexual and not.

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By *ohnjayneCouple
over a year ago

Chester

We've had 2 lots of friends in the last 3 years go through this only to find thier wives hadn't gone off sex at all because they were both having affairs with work colleagues

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