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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi we are new and havnt played yet.

We've had some great chats with women and couples and some ignores and deletes.

Really unsure what to say when messaging don't want to offend anyone or be too forward.

Any tips for our profile and fabbing in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat about clubs or party's

Best place to meet once freedom allows.

Then general holidays likes dislikes.

Chat on forums.. Get yourselves known.

Also can be a good laugh x

Welcome

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By *riple SCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Hi we are new and havnt played yet.

We've had some great chats with women and couples and some ignores and deletes.

Really unsure what to say when messaging don't want to offend anyone or be too forward.

Any tips for our profile and fabbing in general

"

From the brief look I've just had, there's nothing glaringly obvious about your profile which would cause me concern... though it is somewhat generic. It seems most on here want to explore their bi side and aren't looking for single males. You could copy your text in to the profiles of many couples on here, and it would describe them also.

You are smokers though, so make sure you only message those willing to meet smokers. I mention this because despite detailed twice within our profile that we won't meet smokers, we still receive messages from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi we are new and havnt played yet.

We've had some great chats with women and couples and some ignores and deletes.

Really unsure what to say when messaging don't want to offend anyone or be too forward.

Any tips for our profile and fabbing in general

"

How to chat to people can be a nightmare. The best approach is to chat normally. Don't talk sex unless the other side asks for it or initiates it.

Although on saying that a woman once ended a chat with me because she was expecting cybersex and I chatted normally. She gave me no clue she wanted sex chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the reply. Your bio is awesome

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

Be friendly and nice , save the sleeze and dirty stuff until you have built a rapport xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When people say be imaginative in your message. Is it safe to assume they would like a fruity message or something else.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

You have a couples profile yet in your text you say "my" not our and it is not clear if it is the Male or Female saying this.

I think saying "amazing sex all night is a must" is a bit ambitious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well spotted. I'm the female. Male doesnt chat on here. Ill change that so its more clear.

All night... is that not a normal thing? We love going for hours with play and sex. Kinda thought that bringing another person or couple into the mix would extend that. Perhaps I'll change it. Don't want to put anyone off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry just checked the bio.

Seek Female to fulfil my desires and for hubby to tantalize....

Do you really think that doesn't clearly show it's me not the hubby speaking?

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Well spotted. I'm the female. Male doesnt chat on here. Ill change that so its more clear.

All night... is that not a normal thing? We love going for hours with play and sex. Kinda thought that bringing another person or couple into the mix would extend that. Perhaps I'll change it. Don't want to put anyone off "

Well for me, as someone who can only meet during the day, it would tell me that what you want and what I want don’t match.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Sorry just checked the bio.

Seek Female to fulfil my desires and for hubby to tantalize....

Do you really think that doesn't clearly show it's me not the hubby speaking?"

I wondered if you were referring to the hubby in the other couple.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

Message people who actually share your wants.

I.e. people who are happy to meet smokers and dont just want size 10s

Also make it clear .. is it just FF play you require is your husband just watching or will want to join in

Photos of both of you would be nice

All night great sex... on whos scale or standard ?! Does this mean you expect someone to meet and dive right in?

All these questions are bring thought by your readers... answer them upfront on your profile eithin easy chat

Not a do or dont list

Messages base on the profile you're reading... if theirs is upfront then be cheeky

If it's a more vanilla sounding one message in the same vein

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By *aynLexiCouple
over a year ago

Bridgwater, Somerset


"Message people who actually share your wants.

I.e. people who are happy to meet smokers and dont just want size 10s

Messages base on the profile you're reading... if theirs is upfront then be cheeky

If it's a more vanilla sounding one message in the same vein "

Good advice, I'm definitely going to give this a go now.

Lexi

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Hi your profile looks alright , just be yourself because you’ll want to meet people who like you for what your really like, if it offends them or is too forward then they’re not for you!

Good that you put about all night sex, make sure the people you meet are also genuinely up for it , a lot are not. Also keep in mind a lot of people on forums don’t meet, a lot of people who do meet never go on forums and a lot of people who are big on messaging and photo sharing don’t meet, some don’t even exist !!

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Awesome advice thank you. I'll look into wording it differently Thankyou.

So I guess it's best to be more informative in the bio.

I'll make some changes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi your profile looks alright , just be yourself because you’ll want to meet people who like you for what your really like, if it offends them or is too forward then they’re not for you!

Good that you put about all night sex, make sure the people you meet are also genuinely up for it , a lot are not. Also keep in mind a lot of people on forums don’t meet, a lot of people who do meet never go on forums and a lot of people who are big on messaging and photo sharing don’t meet, some don’t even exist !!

Good luck "

Have already experienced suspect couples profiles! So off putting!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've made some changes.

Would really appreciate your feedback again

Going to add some more photos of hubby and us together later

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Santa lucia de Tirajana


"I've made some changes.

Would really appreciate your feedback again

Going to add some more photos of hubby and us together later "

Reads pretty clear to us, Primarily fem/fem with option for your hubby to join, Couples a maybe if it feels like a connection is made.

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Santa lucia de Tirajana


"I've made some changes.

Would really appreciate your feedback again

Going to add some more photos of hubby and us together later

Reads pretty clear to us, Primarily fem/fem with option for your hubby to join, Couples a maybe if it feels like a connection is made. "

May want to look at your upper age limit.. notice this on many profiles.. who is really looking for a 99yr old for sexy fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nice spot will change that now.

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Santa lucia de Tirajana


"Nice spot will change that now. "

Your welcome guys.. enjoy and stay safe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Profiles that show joined over a year ago...

But no veri, no photo veri, some photos but mostly none.

I'm right in thinking avoid right.

Granted I have no veris but hopefully change that soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice spot will change that now.

Your welcome guys.. enjoy and stay safe"

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Santa lucia de Tirajana


"Profiles that show joined over a year ago...

But no veri, no photo veri, some photos but mostly none.

I'm right in thinking avoid right.

Granted I have no veris but hopefully change that soon"

Spot on.. look at the effort you guys are making with a new profile.

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