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By *harlie_m123 OP   Man
over a year ago

burton

My darling sub is having one her adorably bratty moments. Were we together, this would obviously be the catalyst for some immediate corrective play on order to help her focus, if not sit down.

Circumstances, however, are not normal, and I would be interested to hear from of the more experienced among you as to ideas for distance-friendly sub penalties in our new CV-19 world.

Readers of that wretched book probably need not contribute a lot. Masking tape is for painting lol.

Stay safe everyone.

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By *alibaWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

ooops xxxxx

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By *harlie_m123 OP   Man
over a year ago

burton


"ooops xxxxx"

Ooops indeed, my _aliba. Perhaps today will be a learning day after all......

Amir

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Make her write lines or an essay? I know a few people who use that in similar circumstances.

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By *harlie_m123 OP   Man
over a year ago

burton

Diolch yn fawr, Dirty pretty, your reminder is a good one. My _aliba knows very well that when I reach for her diary, things may be about to happen lol.

She has written me beautiful pieces in the past, and I'm grateful for you for jogging my memory.

Perhaps a short description of her beautifully sensitive toes.... Without using the letter 'e'.....

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Diolch yn fawr, Dirty pretty, your reminder is a good one. My _aliba knows very well that when I reach for her diary, things may be about to happen lol.

She has written me beautiful pieces in the past, and I'm grateful for you for jogging my memory.

Perhaps a short description of her beautifully sensitive toes.... Without using the letter 'e'....."

You’re welcome! I’m not bratty myself so rarely need punishing, but I know plenty of people who are so I’ve learned a few things that way.

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By *alibaWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

Is that an instruction my Amir if so how many words please?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I had a few distance D/s relationships. I'm not a huge fan of impact play, so self-spanking was always a complete head-fuck for me more due to the humiliation of trying to redden my own arse than the pain inflicted.

I'm incredibly difficult to edge because I orgasm very easily - I'm able to edge myself far more easily than someone else can. One of my Doms loved to phone and listen to me beg for orgasm, but more often than not he would deny it (it was a punishment, after all).

Only one of my Doms insisted on pain in a punishment and he loved having me kneel on rice for a time, nipple clamps on tightly.

It's not often I would be bratty, but if I was the most effective punishment for me was always to ignore me. He'd end the call or the video chat and I'd get a text through to tell me he was ignoring me for X amount of time in order to avoid my temper tantrum.

There are plenty of ideas, depending on whether you're looking for physical punishment, emotional punishment or just funishment.

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By *harlie_m123 OP   Man
over a year ago

burton

Thank you for all those, Curious Scouser, and how lovely that you share your vanilla name with my sub _aliba, who is also a Sarah.

She is very familiar with sexual deprivation, although this has been more from former Doms. Her suffering, if that's the word, at my hands has been often more to with sensory overload than deprivation, but edging can be very rewarding, you're right.

She has done some homework for me overnight, which I am about to read. If she has done well, I shall sure to post it here for your interest. A 350-500 word description of her adorable toes, without using the letter'e' at all.

Like you, I prefer to use restraint rather than impact play as a default setting, although percussive persuasion can have its moments. And she does so cherish her marks, bless her, once they're there. For some reason that I never fully understand, she doesn't enjoy actually receiving them in quite the same way lol.

Thank you once again for your helpful ideas. I'm sure she is hoping I haven't noticed your mention of kneeling on rice.....

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By *alibaWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

i am sure no one said kneeing on rice Amir - you would not like the waste of food lol. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve used lines, written with the opposite hand, and must be legible, so then she has to think about what she is doing rather than bratting, or write an essay but to a specific word count.

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By *harlie_m123 OP   Man
over a year ago

burton

I'm sure you're right, my _aliba. You usually are. After all, we both know who's in charge, don't we?

Do let me know if public squirming is worse than in private....x

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By *alibaWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

i am not squirming too badly just yet as you did say you were pleased with my efforts Amir xx

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By *harlie_m123 OP   Man
over a year ago

burton

Curvy guy, I love your opposite hand idea. I'm sure my _aliba will love that when the time comes. Thank you for that very much .

I do have the odd couple of ideas up my sleeve, but I can't decide whether it's more exciting for her to be surprised or to anticipate... SUCH difficult decisions.... (he said, confident that irony doesn't always work online lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So much depends on your dynamic and boundaries as to what is a punishment. If we are in for a longer shutdown then buy her some fetish candles online for waxplay on cam.

Alternatively if humiliation is good send her for a jog loudly singing a song she hates!

Oh and lego is a good alternative to rice

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By *harlie_m123 OP   Man
over a year ago

burton

Kinky_pair, thank you for your thoughts. I'm well aware that my _aliba-sub is reading this thread with care and the occasional twitchy concern, and your ideas are extremely helpful.

I'm enough of a softie that I don't like hurting her for no reason; although of course sometimes just the fact that she needs it is reason enough. I love the idea of her going for a jog singing something though. And I'm sure she'll squirm when she reads this...

This enforced distance has reinforced for me quite how much I love her. And for that, I will do everything I can to make her live with every nerve ending.........

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By *alibaWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

Lego !!!!! that is rather evil - if i may say so lol

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By *harlie_m123 OP   Man
over a year ago

burton

Taliba, that was not polite.

I'm so sorry about my sub's manners. She is normally such a well-mannered morsel.

Perhaps we should TIE TOGETHER a couple of themes in our recent discussions, my darling sub. I would like you to write your apology on the soles of your delicate feet.

The words "I am so very sorry" will be written over two lines, from heel to the base of your middle toe. You will write the message once on each foot.

You will obviously take a photo of each foot once they are suitably inscribed.

And because I love you, _aliba, you need not use a biro to write. This time...

...or my growl may yet change its tone...

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