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By *ddiction OP   Man
over a year ago

epping

Any ideas or good stories from couples how it all started?

Iv been trying get the idea of sharing to my wife she’s not biting, keeps telling me why would you want to share me with another guy I would of thought she would jump to the idea of 2 cocks as she ain’t shy.

How did you guys start or has any one got any good stories but real only!! Good or bad ones.

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By *ragsterMan
over a year ago

Blackburn

I feel your pain. ..I've dropped hints too. .but she's not for turning.

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

You can read all about ours in 'How it all started' on here. All completely true. Mrs H

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By *ardleedsMan
over a year ago

Leeds

With you on this one.

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By *terobs6869Man
over a year ago

Llandudno


"You can read all about ours in 'How it all started' on here. All completely true. Mrs H "

With pictures

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Any ideas or good stories from couples how it all started?

Iv been trying get the idea of sharing to my wife she’s not biting, keeps telling me why would you want to share me with another guy I would of thought she would jump to the idea of 2 cocks as she ain’t shy.

How did you guys start or has any one got any good stories but real only!! Good or bad ones."

You talk to her and reassure her that you love her. If she says no you respect it.

To be honest if my partner said he wanted to share me I'd flat out refuse. I'm not a commodity to be dished out.

I know some women don't mind that but this lady obviously finds it difficult to get her head round why she isn't enough for her husband. If op you think that's harsh imagine what your wife is thinking.

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By *ddiction OP   Man
over a year ago

epping

No it’s not that it’s not enough but we been together nearly 10 years we tried most things, but things gone little flat I thought why not bring in friends or even go to parties

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"No it’s not that it’s not enough but we been together nearly 10 years we tried most things, but things gone little flat I thought why not bring in friends or even go to parties "

Why not indeed. What does she say?

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By *ddiction OP   Man
over a year ago

epping

Don’t seem to be on the idea much, we keep doing it on dog walks and stuff just so maybe get caught by doggers or something but don’t seem to get her head round why I want to share her with another guy

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By *he Hussy and The VoyeurCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere Only We Know

If you try to force or coerce someone into this kind of lifestyle it can backfire.

It has to be a consensual thing that you both want. You need to work on yourselves and get your relationship stronger with each other rather than try to get things happening in the bedroom.

Be honest with each other and always tell the truth about what you want and how you feel. Make a night out and just talk about it.

If you want to guage what reaction you'd get from your partner, do a bit of people watching. Point people put and see if she finds them attractive, that way you'll know what type of person she would go for if she was interested.

Have a porn night instead of a date night and tell her to chose videos to watch together.

Most of all, make sure its what you both want. There's nothing more damaging than making someone feel pressured into doing something they don't want.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Don’t seem to be on the idea much, we keep doing it on dog walks and stuff just so maybe get caught by doggers or something but don’t seem to get her head round why I want to share her with another guy "

Is it the motion of you sharing her she doesn't like? You treating her or talking about her as of she's a bit of property you own?

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By *ddiction OP   Man
over a year ago

epping

No deff not she takes no shit she ain’t a soft women lol but she she don’t get how I can watch her with another guy as she couldn’t watch me with another women

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No deff not she takes no shit she ain’t a soft women lol but she she don’t get how I can watch her with another guy as she couldn’t watch me with another women "

Do you both understand that love and sex aren't the same thing, is she secure in the knowledge that you love her? Are you unknowingly giving the impression that you're bored with her?

Sometimes the emotional communication that occurs when a couple open up about swinging is as important to a woman as the sex. Try concentrating on her feelings rather than the sex aspect.

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By *ddiction OP   Man
over a year ago

epping

Truth be told I think she feels like it’s not exciting enough as when we was younger we would do all sort now we married it’s died and I’m just trying make it bit more exciting for both of us, It’s not even that it’s just me want to fuck about with couples or other singles it’s for both to enjoy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Truth be told I think she feels like it’s not exciting enough as when we was younger we would do all sort now we married it’s died and I’m just trying make it bit more exciting for both of us, It’s not even that it’s just me want to fuck about with couples or other singles it’s for both to enjoy "

This isn't a criticism of you. One thing I notice about a lot of posts similar to yours is that they're peppered with "I think she feels" rather than "we've spoken about this and I know how she feels". If you can open up communication between you it might not lead to swinging but it might lead to things you hadn't even thought of. You seem to be confused and unable to understand why your wife doesn't want the same things that you do, have you found out what she actually wants?

You might find it useful for your own mind set too if you don't think of it as "sharing the wife" and think of your sex life as something you explore together. That does mean that both of you will want things the other might not be prepared to do but it also means that you will discover some pretty amazing stuff too.

Good luck. Set a day aside one weekend, get a nice take away and a bottle of wine and talk, properly.

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By *ddiction OP   Man
over a year ago

epping

Thanks for your advice

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for your advice "

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By *ravellingHornsterMan
over a year ago

Harrow

Took me 13 years to convince my wife and now she has taken to it like duck to water

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By *awty2Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

The way it started for us was me talking to my wife during sex about fantasy scenarios i.e being watched as we fuck, her flashing stockings/panties to strangers etc, I used to describe situations to her as we fucked like how two guys were looking up her skirt and they were getting turned on and to look at the big bulges in their trousers. I tried out different things seeing which ideas got the best response,(made here more horny) then expanding on these ideas.

Eventually I started adding in the idea of swingers clubs and having the chance to be watched and to watch others, she liked this idea, but it took at least a year of fantasy and discussion outside of the bedroom, before she agreed to try a club.

I reassured her all the way that we would only proceed at a pace she was comfortable with, and if she hated the experience we would leave with no bad feelings.

The club night went very well (thats another story ) and so our journey began.

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By *lcamino ssMan
over a year ago

Lytham

Me and my wife have been married for 28 years in the last 20 years I keep asking her if she fancies a 3some me and another guy she knows I get realy turned on by the thought of this but still no joy

We have even gone out for car sex to a dogging area and yes she knows it was a d9ghing area just when I thought this may work a cop car turned up so 5hat put her off

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By *ornyhotcouple696969Couple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire


"Truth be told I think she feels like it’s not exciting enough as when we was younger we would do all sort now we married it’s died and I’m just trying make it bit more exciting for both of us, It’s not even that it’s just me want to fuck about with couples or other singles it’s for both to enjoy "

Yet you have a profile on here, without your wife, or her knowledge, wanting to fuck about with singles or couples!!!???

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By *ddiction OP   Man
over a year ago

epping

Yeah so do most people what’s your point? That’s the whole point of the question how do I get her here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our journey in to swinging all started nearly 20 years ago with a good friend of ours it was all harmless joking and flirting that at first was all it was then wor lass called our bluff said I'll be in bed naked if you two have the bottle well me and my mate are always up for a challenge went up stairs . Sure enough she was in bed naked so we got naked .and at this point still thought shes gonna say no we got into bed either side of her . It was then there was no going back our cocks took over was a fantastic time all never done it before we loved it done a couple of more times with the same guy . Then life got in the way the events of that first mmf never left us . So 15 years later we joined this site and still love it . And each other .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it was sex talk when we were in bed about other guys fucking her. We then went on holiday to Gran Canaria ( I knew about the swingers clubs but the Mrs didn’t)

I asked her to go to a swingers club for a laugh. The first night we didn’t do anything but by the time we were back in the apartment she was talking about going the next night. We ended up going for the next 5 nights.

1st Night Nothing happened

2nd Night Fucking in front of people

3rd night she sucked a guy while we fucked

4th night played with a couple

5th night she had a gangbang with me and 4 other guys

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By *otwife1989Couple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Ours started same old....cheap talk during sex. Me being the drinker and her not I got brave while mates were round...fucking around in front of them etc. Over the years she got braver as she loves cock and getting fucked. Introduced her to swinging clubs and she loved that although that wasn’t her turning point. Got her to enjoy sites like this then she jus ran off with it. Think it’s a slowly slowly catch a monkey process however if it’s not for that person and they don’t ‘bite at the bait’ then it’s better off left alone....

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By *ordy73Man
over a year ago

lancashire

I’d love to see my wife play with other guys

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By *icochet1Man
over a year ago

Stevenage

Try asking her about her fantasys.It may be that there is smoething she wants and you could bargain with.Also reassure her that you love her and would respect her decision.

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By *4funXXXMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"The way it started for us was me talking to my wife during sex about fantasy scenarios i.e being watched as we fuck, her flashing stockings/panties to strangers etc, I used to describe situations to her as we fucked like how two guys were looking up her skirt and they were getting turned on and to look at the big bulges in their trousers. I tried out different things seeing which ideas got the best response,(made here more horny) then expanding on these ideas.

Eventually I started adding in the idea of swingers clubs and having the chance to be watched and to watch others, she liked this idea, but it took at least a year of fantasy and discussion outside of the bedroom, before she agreed to try a club.

I reassured her all the way that we would only proceed at a pace she was comfortable with, and if she hated the experience we would leave with no bad feelings.

The club night went very well (thats another story ) and so our journey began. "

That was how I went about it then one day she said don’t go to work let’s go and have a look round a club. The rest of the story is on here last night The first time I wager play.

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By *uriouscouple_84Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

We just started talking dirty, then watched share porn, that got my mind on it, then I felt comfortable telling yes, I want to do x

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By *uncan LynnCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

All really good and alone the same vane

Be open and honest and most of all making sure you share fantasy

Make her fully aware it's not about you wanting it her woman its about you wanting her to have more guys as you want that

Most of all baby steps do it slow and her pace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So true

Sex and love are totally different.

My wife was the same as most. wasn't she good enough for me and why did I want to see her with other men.

I reassured her that I really loved her and that it was sex and not love to incluude another guy.

Now we have a friend who plays and shares the same sexual tastes as us

She feels so comfotable with him that last night she did something that she told me she would never do.

She is away visiting her family, and very close to where our friend lives. I knew he wanted to meet her, so I told her to go and meet him. After lots of sexy phone calls to her she agreed. Last night they both went to a hotel, but included me and sent pics videos and we had a whatsapp video chat. Jay loved it judging by her moans as she was being fucked, and I had a hard on for hours.

She is planning to go back for a couple eof weeks in April and I'm sure they will want to meet again.

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