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Dominants first taste of subspace!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve always been a dominant type, be that work or play, and am a control freak - and in the bedroom I’ve always enjoyed power exchange and games of control.

But I recently split from my latest submissive and I wondered what it would be like...to be sub, to GIVE control and to have to put total trust in the other person! I wondered whether to be sub for once would make me a better Dom!

Annnnnnnnd I’ve finally found out! I recently met a cuckold couple and we spoke about boundaries and desires. She wanted me dominate her husband as she dictated what to do, but I’d never had a bi experience!...never really seen another cock, let alone touch one!

Anyway...let’s just say that I learned so much, and broke so many “firsts”! The feeling of being restrained and blindfolded and not knowing if her touch would be nasty or nice; pleasure or pain was difficult to take! My mind was in overdrive. I didn’t find sub space but I think I am desperate to try more...you could say I have a thirst for firsts!

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

great start always wanted to be dominated bye a Domme lady

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When I arrived ‘mistress’ had her sub hogtied and unable to move. I found two things way too uncomfortable as I walked in - calling mistress ‘mistress’ just seemed too immediately subservient, and secondly her rope skills were on point! She told (ordered) me to strip and to offer myself for inspection. Kneeling naked as she verbally told me (shouted at me?!) all my flaws was humiliating yet eye opening. That feeling of being bare was scary, as she told me my every flaw. With graphic detail!

In my head I wanted to jump up and dominate her, hurt her....but a little something told me to keep going! My cock by this time was erect through either nerves or horny excitement. It was bigger than her husbands (8” but average girth) and I thought it looked magnificent! But almost immediately the horny feeling in my gut was replaced by shocked searing pain as she, without warning, smacked it hard. “Who said you could get hard” she screamed.

That was my first feeling of a subs mind! That dualism of pleasure quickly replaced by pain. She ordered me to her husband and had him suck my cock. I’d never been touched before and the feeling of him suck me felt all kinds of horny! The Dom in me made me fuck his mouth whilst holding his nose, and hold it deep inside his throat until he was gagging. HE. A man. With his throat and mouth around my cock. It was so horny if I’m honest! And I’d forgotten myself! And this euphoric sense of horny bi-ness made me forget that a strict mistress was watching my every move!

And she was damn good. She made me forget me...& made it come crashing down! Just as I was close to coming she told me to stop, to get my cock out of his mouth and...just....wait. I was so damn frustrated and went to touch my cock, and immediately felt her whip across my arse. She barked at me again and told me what a selfless pathetic Dom I was. I smiled at her (big mistake) and moved towards her as if to seduce/overpower. With one move she had pulled my hair and threw me to the bed. I was in shock...horny shock. She was size 16 and pinned me to the bed and whispered in my ear, “you’re forgetting who’s in control here. Relax and put your trust in me. Give yourself to me and I’ll push your every boundary”.

I paused and stopped. “I trust you mistress” I said. And I did!

That feeling of power exchange and what happened next WAS a mad, crazy, hornily exciting buuuuut mind challenging experience.

To anyone who has been sub - truly properly sub (and not just kinky hard roughy sex, as great as that is!!!) - I salute you! As a Dom I have a sense of what that really actually means. More importantly I fully understand how important that trust exchange is! To be bound and unable to move, knowing they could hurt me beyond any boundary I ever though existed is one thing! BUT allowing them to push that is another.

I’m not saying I wanna he sub or even switch! I’m a fucking good Dom! Central to me is honesty and communication - and being sub allowed me to see how great that is. To all subs I salute you! Xx

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By *ina VonteeseTV/TS
over a year ago

Leicester

Totally understand where you are coming from as a dominatrix i have been trusted and honoured to have tested and put subs into subspace in various degrees and different plays which created mutual euphoria of emotions. But respecting aftercare and the responsibilities as a dominant

After all the sub actually controls the play in many respects.

But i occasionally switch and get a taste of my own medicine so to speak.. I find it valuable experience as well as rather gorgeous with the right mentally connected domme or dom.

Never too old to learn darlings !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I totally agree with everything you’ve said! Central to any scene is the sub but I’d perhaps never realised how in tune to everything they have to be! Since then, as Dom I’ve been more aware of my subs responses - be they physical or non verbal.

I love the idea of pushing myself further to be an even better Dom. I love that sense of connection! annnnnd I love that sense of self humility that you sometimes need to make you think. Terribly exciting!!! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And damn right...never ever too late to learn!!!

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By *klfkrMan
over a year ago

Dumfries

The really good dominants tend to have been subs in the past, or at the very least have experienced what their subs are going through.

If you have been put in the position of your sub then you know what buttons to press and how to press them to get the best from your sub

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over a year ago

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I love being a sub it is very natural to me but I know I have all the power! I have to trust someone before I can totally sub with them as if I enter sub space I need to know they will look after me - after care is very important

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Even before trying being sub I’ve always said that the sub has ALL the power. When I first started off and attended various meets or munches a mentor said to me that a subs submission is a gift that a true Dom must cherish and never abuse. Central to all of that are obviously boundaries and great communication. But more importantly never forgetting the sub IS in charge - as they trust you to be in charge. My try at subworld just heightened that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Annnnnnnd yes, aftercare is totally important. Dom daddy heightens that as it’s about boundaries and punishment and pain; buuuuuut about learning and development and nurturing and care. BDSM without aftercare can be just sadism or abuse...or just amateurs getting off on 50 shades!

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