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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Always wanted to get the gf into it but can never really find the right words to lay the seed of thought. Any tips?

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your not sure she wants it just mention it to her in bed one night but if you think she would be angry say nothing

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess you could ask her if she has any fantasy and then she might ask you if you have any fantasy and you could describe your swinging fantasy and see her reaction? In my case it isnt even worth trying.

By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Well if you have sex with her. Ideally tell her asap.

Definitely tell her before marriage or living together is on the cards.

An easy way to start is with scenarios. Tell her you want to try something new that she will find incredibly sexy. Get her to write a few scenarios down that she would enjoy. Her choice, no pressure from you.

It could be a massage with candles, sex in the bath or shower, outdoor sex.

Depending on what she suggested you can them start to open up into other areas. Like Ann Summers handcuffs, clothes, role-playing and maybe porn.

It's hard to advise with knowing her current experiences or kinks.

We were very open from day 1. I asked all about her previous bf and gf. When she lost her virginity and what she had done with them. She insisted on sharing fantasies and desires. I started slow with the common sexy outfits and moved on to celebrity people you'd like to fuck. As more and more was accepted we opened up more and more.

She may like something you don't. My wife loves gay sex, I don't. But if she tells you something you don't like, don't judge her or over react otherwise she will stop being open with you.

That's the best I can offer.

Be open. Be honest. And keep communicating.

By *haredmilfCouple
over a year ago

London

If you watch porn together when watching a DP, 3some, MFM scene, etc suggest if she had the opportunity would she want to be the female in that scene, or you imagine the female as your gf and how much it turns you on.

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have mentioned to my wife that I'd like a threesome, and would love to see her getting fucked and me joining in!! She says it won't happen but when we play she's always watching the threesome porn!! So hopefully her legs are opening up to the idea!! The thing is not to rush, hopefully she'll say yes and it will look like her idea! Good luck with your endeavours!

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started by being open with each other about fantasies. Gaz was more keen than me to start but now I'm the driving force. Has to be something you both want or disaster is ahead.