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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How hard is it for a single guy to get a couple to meet him, all you seen on here regularly are couples wanting cucks or an extra person in bed with em

But even tho U could be david Beckham they don't wanna know!

Seems to be a very slam clique that actually meet on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely disagree with your post...

Most of our veris are from guys, but we won't meet a guy just because he has sent us a message.

We are busy people and I work long insociable hours so obviously hubby and kids come first before meeting people of this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the good fortune to have met a few couples but have chatted to many more which has not culminated in a meeting.

You have to accept that it is difficult but not impossible to meet couples. As you say, you could be God's gift to women but nobody's interested, probably because they looking for some chemistry between you on a mental as well as a physical level. To achieve this you have to get as far as the chatting stage which to achieve this you will need to have a profile that will make a couple want to find out more about you.

Finally, you have to accept that women and couples probably receive 100% more messages than us guys do - they cannot and will not respond to everyone so unless you manage to capture their imagination in the first point of contact, it is unlikely to proceed any further.

Don't take it to heart and keep persevering - you'll get there eventually!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single guy to get a couple to meet him, all you seen on here regularly are couples wanting cucks or an extra person in bed with em

But even tho U could be david Beckham they don't wanna know!

Seems to be a very slam clique that actually meet on here"

I'd prob meet you when I'm wanting a threesum, but your to far away x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had the good fortune to have met a few couples but have chatted to many more which has not culminated in a meeting.

You have to accept that it is difficult but not impossible to meet couples. As you say, you could be God's gift to women but nobody's interested, probably because they looking for some chemistry between you on a mental as well as a physical level. To achieve this you have to get as far as the chatting stage which to achieve this you will need to have a profile that will make a couple want to find out more about you.

Finally, you have to accept that women and couples probably receive 100% more messages than us guys do - they cannot and will not respond to everyone so unless you manage to capture their imagination in the first point of contact, it is unlikely to proceed any further.

Don't take it to heart and keep persevering - you'll get there eventually!

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You've hit the nail on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single guy to get a couple to meet him, all you seen on here regularly are couples wanting cucks or an extra person in bed with em

But even tho U could be david Beckham they don't wanna know!

Seems to be a very slam clique that actually meet on here"

Completely incorrect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had any success on here , had more success just going out and about , nothing wrong with profile , im easy going guy and available willing to put myself out, often wonder if people make out that they meet , I have been on here a long time not come close to a meet, people don't even reply to your message , maybe because I live on a small island and my age but I can give just as

much as a young man because I am pretty fit from working

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By *ncorMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

Age is definitely the issue. Once above a certain number the prospect of a single guy meeting is virtually impossible. Ladies and Couples. Other meets still possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very hard. Requires actual interest and effort. Its almost like you are trying to join an established couple in the bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How hard is it for a single guy to get a couple to meet him, all you seen on here regularly are couples wanting cucks or an extra person in bed with em

But even tho U could be david Beckham they don't wanna know!

Seems to be a very slam clique that actually meet on here"

Unfortunately you appear to have the same expectations a lot of single guys on this site have where just because you've joined a swinging site you think it's full of sex mad people who will meet you no matter what.

It takes more than a fancy a fuck or I'm free now can you meet type message to gain our attention. And if your profile has numerous cock pics from different angles forget it we just delete.

We tend to reply to those that send a brief polite message with a bit of humour and even then we don't meet all that do. But one thing we won't do is meet guys who can't be bothered to read our profile and send polite messages but not expect anything in return. That's not cliquey that's manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met couples on this site and previously on other sites. As in general life it is how you put yourself across. And actually read profiles! If they are looking for something in particular that you can help with? If you are not what they are looking for, then you are unlikely to progress. Common sense, really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the problem being is that there are a million single guys on here, so couples can be choosy, plus as a single guy you have to appeal to both, not just one, so its very hard. I was lucky last Friday to message a couple from the other side of London from me and met same day, all 3 of us got on really well and will meet again, but I,ve been here over a year and guess I just got lucky, its very very difficult for us single guys, but there are couples out there so keep at it !!

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By *ulie and PaulCouple
over a year ago

stockportish

A nice mail goes along way with most couples and most will reply to them even if to say no thanks and nearly all the males we have replyed tohave said thanks for replying even if we say no thanks

Those One line mails starting normally with can I fuck you I've a massive cock etc are instantly filed under bin!

So we think a nice message goes along way for single males looking to hook up with a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a couple off here. I suppose its how you get on and what your wanting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree with the sentiment that your profile is a bit rubbish. Alot of people hate text speak as it shows alot of ignorance. (just my opinion) I should put a bit more thought into what you've put. If you want to meet other youngsters then it'll be fine with them but for us 50 somethings I'd just think. uhoh immature alert, even though you have a nice picture which is quite tasteful.

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By *ouplelookingforadultfunCouple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire


"Not had any success on here , had more success just going out and about , nothing wrong with profile , im easy going guy and available willing to put myself out, often wonder if people make out that they meet , I have been on here a long time not come close to a meet, people don't even reply to your message , maybe because I live on a small island and my age but I can give just as

much as a young man because I am pretty fit from working"

Try getting someone to help rewrite your profile.

Without wanting to sound disrespectful, the grammar is very very poor, and as shallow as it might sound, someone who can't string a legible sentence together properly can often have the same problem when speaking!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age is definitely the issue. Once above a certain number the prospect of a single guy meeting is virtually impossible. Ladies and Couples. Other meets still possible. "

Looks play no part then eh ? just age

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By *regboy49Man
over a year ago

Sandhurst

I've had some good meets from here don't take it personally we don't all get on with everyone we meet. Just be polite and have manners and respect other people's boundaries and things will happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we've found people don't read our profile..thats just lazy and a quick route to our huge block list. Then there are those that think that one message will lead to an instant social meet. But like many couples we have a real life so we will get round to it when it fits. We aren't in a sex crazed rush. And then there is the forgetful guys who forget they need to engage both of us. Its all well and good telling the wife what you want to do, but there is a husband there too and you need to find out a bit about what makes him tick. Arouse them both and your chances improve dramatically.

But remember after all that we are still able to say "nah" and so are the guys. Luck plays its part

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree my profile hasn't been up to much, but most couples don't even read it! They just straight don't reply?

It's not even like the single blokes get chance to impress!

6ft 3 16 stone good looking well endowed rugby player and not even had a sniff haa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say you definitely need to rewrite your profile and try and take more than 60 seconds this time. You need to try and make a connection and sell yourself a bit more than you are currently. Think of it as a job application, you'd not get anywhere with your profile as it stands which is exactly what is happy in reality.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree my profile hasn't been up to much, but most couples don't even read it! They just straight don't reply?

It's not even like the single blokes get chance to impress!

6ft 3 16 stone good looking well endowed rugby player and not even had a sniff haa"

How do you know couples don't read your profile?

Lots of people read a profile before reading the mail they've received...then just delete the unread mail if the profile isn't very engaging. Missus

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I agree my profile hasn't been up to much, but most couples don't even read it! They just straight don't reply?

It's not even like the single blokes get chance to impress!

6ft 3 16 stone good looking well endowed rugby player and not even had a sniff haa"

but you do have the chance to impress ...

for example.. how many of the clubs in and around yorkshire and the north west have you been to...

how many of the wakefield or sheffield or york or manchester socials have you been to....

you can stand out... if you want to... effort....

you presume that people dont read profiles....

lets take 2 shop windows... one is dull and drab, the other is bright and sparkly and enticing....

which do you think is more likely to attract people......

the problem is too many people like to make too many excuses with leave them blameless.... those nasty pasties!!!

sometimes you have to look in the mirror and say "what can I do to improve my chances!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree my profile hasn't been up to much, but most couples don't even read it! They just straight don't reply?

It's not even like the single blokes get chance to impress!

6ft 3 16 stone good looking well endowed rugby player and not even had a sniff haa"

I think the last line of your profile demonstrates that you don't understand the swinging dynamic of many couples at all and probably contributes to your lack of success...

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town


"I agree my profile hasn't been up to much, but most couples don't even read it! They just straight don't reply?

It's not even like the single blokes get chance to impress!

6ft 3 16 stone good looking well endowed rugby player and not even had a sniff haa

I think the last line of your profile demonstrates that you don't understand the swinging dynamic of many couples at all and probably contributes to your lack of success... "

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