FabSwingers.com forum: How to get the wife interested in MFM

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would love to get the mrs interested in MFM fun. She is a good looking very intelligent woman but not adventurous when it comes to sex. Anyone in a similar situation have a TRUE story how they got their mrs interested and for things to actually happen ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking to her is a good start.

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By *ea and SugarCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Talk about your fantasies and explore them in detail during sex together, see what she likes to think about and, in time, try and see if she would like to take small steps to turn them in to reality, just don't push too hard, it needs to be what she wants as well.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for that.... we have never discussed fantasies ... at anytime. .. dont know how she will react . But its a logical starting point.... I interested if anyone has been in the same situation and how did they approach the subject, and what happened, and if they achieved the end goal.

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By *urzelforfunMan
over a year ago

near you

explain to her you are on a swingers site with 7 verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha really, you can have my ex in trade for your wife lol. All she ever wanted was to try mmf but I couldn't get it through to her that I wasn't interested!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so she's ok with kite flying but you want to get her to do a parachute jump. well just maybe there are a few new exciting things you can do together first to get to know and challenege her ... boundaries? my wife really dislikes a str8 up mmf. but she loves being chatted up flirting and letting her inhibitions go and going with the flow. took me a while to work that out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Unfortunately, we don't get an opertunity to social much outside or immediate circle of friends. We would have to make an effort to do that. If I can manage to get her into thinking "bold", this would be easier and maybe get her into a "flirty" situation.

Again. It would be good if anyone has been in this situation to share their true story and give me an idea and maybe direction.

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By *ea and SugarCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

With reference to my earlier post, that is how we ended up on here, although neither of us needed convincing it just ended up as the natural progression lol.

With regard to getting her in a flirty situation, Tea will be over in Clonmel next February, so feel free to meet him in a pub where he will flirt with her freely lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy her a cd. Oh just reread thought you said M&M.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

UpDate:

I started talking to her about things:

Asked her, Did she have any sexy fantacies, and not to be afraid to shock me.

To my amazement she replied: She has NONE. I said "None" , sure everyone has some sort of fantacy. She said NOPE but she will try to think during the day.

My reply to that was , you are in your 40's and you are only thinking about that today..... That's sad....

I find it hard to believe that someone has NO sexual fantacies.... Could I be wrong.????????

On an up side, I might be working with a blank page and I could maybe give a direction to explore .... (??)

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

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My reply to that was , you are in your 40's and you are only thinking about that today..... That's sad....

I find it hard to believe that someone has NO sexual fantacies.... Could I be wrong.????????

On an up side, I might be working with a blank page and I could maybe give a direction to explore .... (??)"

Do not put her down by saying she is sad for not thinking about it. Introduce to her the idea that other guys find her attractive and probably lust after her, get her to imagine what they may wish to do with her.

Role play such scenarios.

I did and took it further when she was not confident enough to be the one making the moves.

I wrote about it before if you want to go read about it.

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

"explain to her you are on a swingers site with 7 verifications"

Lol I'm sure she'd find this very stimulating!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

_ohnny4play: Thanks for your input: can you quote a link to your previous writings?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

well this worked for me:

I joined a swingers site and got a few meets then let my wife 'find' my profile by leaving it open on the computer. She got so excited reading about my antics on there that she wanted me to ring a few other single guys I knew and get them round straight away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Steveanddebs : God, you tood a bit of a risk ?

, great it paid off

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By *ecor atorMan
over a year ago

York

You have 7 veris!

How do you think she would deal with your infidelity?

I can't see it happening without a sad ending!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree: but _ohnny4play reply might be interesting : hope he posts a link on here (I cant PM Him)

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

"I agree: but _ohnny4play reply might be interesting : hope he posts a link on here (I cant PM Him)"

Oops, filters now cleared.

I am always a bit reticent about posting links in the forum...

But as it is a request.

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/108130

FYI you can get a list of a users other posts by clicking on the little green arrow next to there name in the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you !!!!

Something to really think about

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

"Thank you !!!!

Something to really think about

You are welcome, I look forward to seeing your comments on my experience and also how you two get on. It is a shame I am not close enough to come help out in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its ok getting her interested its getting her interested when they have lost interest !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we started with a friend off mine ( jimmy) and we have never looked back ..she loves it now ...tell her u dont mind if she wants 3sum with other guy ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck on getting your wife to swing just remember once you do she will find out about your indiscretions. How will she cope with that ? Be open be honest go from that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop cheating on your wife would be a good start

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