FabSwingers.com forum: One extreme to the other

By *apforyou OP Man
2 weeks ago

Rugby

I was married for 20 years to a very sexy woman who had great legs and small but perfectly formed breasts 34B (her nipples and areola were to die for). Any way, the further into the marriage we got, the more I realised I enjoyed sex more than she did. Or that's how it seemed anyway, as she never initiated it, and didn't appear to enjoy it that much when i did. To be honest I'm not even sure if she ever had an orgasm during those 20 years (which may well have been my fault i know). There was a distinct lack of affection too from her side. No hand holding, no hugging, no kissing, (except maybe during sex). And no I love yous.

Anyway, it got to the point where we stopped having sex altogether. And to all intents and purposes we were living separate lives. Different hobbies, socialising separately etc. Now I'd always been a bit of a jealous type but had managed to keep it under control for some years. However now we were in the position we were, the green eyed monster popped his head over the parapet so to speak. This manifested itself by me getting annoyed, when she went out with friends for an evening, or if one of our male friends so much as touched her. And asking her to wear stuff she really didn't want to I don't think(stockings and suspenders, short skirts , stilletos etc) Although she looked fucking amazing in them. I believe that this behaviour (quite rightly) was the eventual downfall of our marriage. She started having an affair and once she'd confessed,that was the end of it. So that was my first extreme (being controlling and jealous).

Fast forward a few years, and although I've had a couple of short term relationships since then, i am currently single. Therefore (not surprisingly) I am masturbating on a fairly regular basis. Now I must confess I do have a number of kinks (which seem to grow in number each year) that I use for entertainment purposes. One of which (here comes the other extreme) is imagining watching my exwife having sex with another man. Particularly if it's a threesome and I get to suck a bit of cock too. Just the thought of seeing another cock sliding into my wife's pussy completely turns me on now. Especially if he's an older gentleman. You know the type, grey hair or bald, hairy chest, beard and bit of a belly.

So why have I gone from one extreme to the other? From being completely repulsed by the thought of her with anyone else, to being completely turned on by it?

Thoughts on a postcard please.

By *andy IanMan
2 weeks ago

cheshire/Preston

My ex wife was just the same. We started with a very satisfying sex life she would dress to please and very adventurous. Then as time passed she changed the sex got less and finally just stopped. We were more friends than husband and wife. In the early years we had discussed mmf and been on nudist beaches with other couples but nothing happened. I needed sex a wank wasn’t enough and met a FWB who was in the same position. Sex with her was terrific she couldn’t get enough so I suggested mmf which she agreed to admitting she was also bi. We started going to a swingers club in the daytime where seeing her admired by other men really turned me on. Our normal routine after some flirting was to go to a private room where I’d get her warmed up then return to the bar where she would select a guy or guys to take back to the room. I loved watching them kiss and touch her as she did the same to them giving them oral before getting a good safe fucking. There were times I’d imagine my ex wife in her position. We always finished with me fucking her filling her with cum then taking her home to her husband who knew nothing about it. This went on for years meeting men and couples privately so I could watch her play bi. Unfortunately she didn’t like me with other women didn’t mind me kissing, touching or giving them oral but no sex. She insisted she was the one that claimed my cum.