FabSwingers.com forum: MFM with wife

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello,

Wanting to get advice from people who have done this successfully. About 6 months ago shared with my wife a fantasy of MFM 3some, she wasn't offended. We have since started acting out the fantasy in terms of play, tying her up, blindfold, etc. I recently laid hints that I'd like to do this for real, she was not totally offended, asked how I would go about making that happen but her number one comment is that she would be too embarrassed and/or nervous to follow through or have a good time. She didn't exactly say NO WAY.

Let me hear from men or women who had this experience and how they turned fantasy into reality.

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

"Hello,

Let me hear from men or women who had this experience and how they turned fantasy into reality.

Stick with what your doing - talking, but don't be too pushy. It may never happen, and you should be just as happy with that outcome.

Being nervous is understandable, but she will need to trust you that IF it ever got that far, if she suddenly called time, you'd support her.

It's a trust thing - she may well have lots of other concerns too, a big one is how you'll see her afterwards.

Just keep it fun and fantasise, and keep talking. And be honest with her - if she doesn't know about your profile here either lose it or tell her - preferable tell her.

Also don't arrange anything behind her back, that's a betrayal that will ensure nothing ever happens. Keep it all out in the open and respect her wishes.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She does know I am in 'research mode' and knows I would never arrange anything without talking with her first.

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By *ike_TrishaCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

I also would like to hear others experiences of this.. We have only wanted females only, and for the last couple months I've been thinking if giving her pleasure in every fantasy, and I told her as we having foreplay that I wish I could be in 2 places at once to give her ultimate pleasure. Her reply was how you going to be able to sort this.(this was her reply the first time I suggested another fem) and last night I bit the bullet and told her, I want her to act on every single fantasy she has told me and not told me in next cpl months, then the bullet came" I told her I'd be thinking for the last couple of months but to scared to say it out loud, I want you to have 2men at same time too,the response to say the least was good as I had gr8 sex from her... This in itself tells me its da deja vu from first time mentioning 3sum with fem. am just wary I will not like it afterwards.. I suppose it be how she is afterwards that determines just how ill feel and respond. She will have to show me that she still loves me and am No1 to her. She does this am sure they'll be less chance me acting in wrong way.. Any advice before will be most welcome..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

really dont want her following through

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

"Hello,

Let me hear from men or women who had this experience and how they turned fantasy into reality.

Test the water first with role play, where it is uncertain if just role play.

I am planning a similar suprise for a regular FB. It goes like this...

Once she is blindfolded and tied, I'll have my phone buzz with an incoming text, then I'll leave her for a few moments and go to the front door, quickly slip on trousers, shoes, some rings and a fake moustache.

Open and close the door as if I let someone in, then head up to the bedroom, where she will hear someone approach in shoes, knock them off, drop trousers and belt, then have fun with her.

When I nibble her nipples she will feel the moustache and she will also sense the metal of rings on my fingers.

See how much resistance she puts up - will she let it happen or use the safe word?

I'll put the condom on, but with a suitably sized metal ball in the end so it might feel like her visitor has a prince albert.

It will be a no kissing fuck and go.

No words spoken.

Get dressed and return to the front door and quietly remove the disguise as the opens and closes to let our imaginary friend leave, before I return to the bedroom as me to release her.

A safer way to test the waters, no need to let on it was not someone else that time....

I did similar with my ex, when I shared her the first time, except we did not use a blindfold.

I wrote it up here a while ago if you like these tales, it is here

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/stories/108130

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For anyone else reading, this is sort of close to what I wanted to do. I wanted to rent a hotel room, blindfold and tie up my wife, after some playing around inform her that I have made arrangements for a guy to join us for a 3some. That all I have to do is text him our room number and to come on up, all she needs to do it give the go-ahead. She already knows what I'd have another guy do with us, so all she would have to do is say YES.

Now, I would have not made such arrangement, it would be a 'test' to see if she is willing or not. If she says yes, well...haven't totally thought this out yet, still more thinking to do...I do not expect her at all to say yes the first time I come up with this, but if she did say yes the first time...I'd have to think about that possibility!

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By *ornyunhotCouple
over a year ago

crazytown

When hubby and i first started talking about a mmf 3sum i felt exactly the same as your Mrs.....when we found the guy who we considered to be perfect due to his experience and patience i met him alone a few times first to build my confidence with him before our very first magical sticky and ow so wet 3sum!!!.x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When hubby and i first started talking about a mmf 3sum i felt exactly the same as your Mrs.....when we found the guy who we considered to be perfect due to his experience and patience i met him alone a few times first to build my confidence with him before our very first magical sticky and ow so wet 3sum!!!.x."

Take your time talk about it and explore the different choice you have but first thing is make sure she is comfortable and okay with the other person to be involved. Another is to make sure she feels secure in that you will both will be okay after the mfm meet and there is not any resentment of having gone through with the act. Besides all that just make it a fun experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

***update****

We have talked about it more and had a few more fantasy sessions where we plan it out.

She has "dared" me to find a couple candidates she can consider.

I am now going through profiles of men and couples to show her and see if she really wants to follow through....

We'll see where this goes....

Any other advice???

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By *attooCouple
over a year ago

liskeard area

hi,the thought of you watching your wife with two men,well you must be 100% behind her after. if you do arrange it and you didnt like the outcome thats your rain you got to sort out,if youve been swinging for a while why would you feel uneasy,me i find it a massive turn on and when the guys have gone we just fuck endlessly for days its great hope this helps cheers s+c xx

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

my other half, deff wants both a fmf and mfm 3sum. But only when she has come across the right people.

Mean time we have played on our own profiles for ages and love it.

Sharing details and pics etc.

My advice would be to relax, take your time get her to choose when and with who you play with.

Keep talking and meanwhile just have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have met couples over the years, and done mmf and so on, one good way is to watch mmf porno, possible bi and tell her how much it turns you on and that you would love to see her sucking a cock while you fuck her, and then if possible arrange a guy to come around with no expectataions, and see how she goes, even if he watchs you fuck her and lick her , I bet she lets him join in

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She is not really into porn...she knows exactly what my fantasy is and she likes to discuss how it would happen...she is now daring me to find eligible men...I'm trying to see exactly how far she is going to take the dare....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my wife asked me to help here have a threesome so i asked a friend to call round and said if it dont go on then the is nowt lost so the wife had a drink and we were up for it and the wife enjoyed it so much she wants it more and wishes we had a lodger to stay and for fill her fantasy every night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started this some time ago... it's kind of easy... we find some guys or couples on Fab invite them for a drink..If she likes them / him then a date is arranged for fun...okay everytime is different and there are certain rules she wants to be in place.

Let your wife decide and her to lead the situation as then it's relaxed and no stress. Most important a "no" is a "no" .. no pushing or just trying doesn't work and messes the whole thing up...

Oh forgot the reason why a drink first some guys don't understand the "No" rules and with a drink you can those out

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