FabSwingers.com forum: Jealousy and Insecurity

By *ever2old4toys OP Couple
37 weeks ago

Abingdon

"So no jealousy at all?"

"Nope"

John looked at me incredulously but with no judgement. It had been a week since he found out I was a swinger and the questions went from a trickle to a waterfall. I was always happy to answer.

"Why do you think that is?"

I took a good mouthful of sweet black coffee, the bitterness and sweetness fighting in my mouth for attention as I considered my answer.

"The neurodiversity has something to do with it. I'm very black and white about things and I like things to be clear. It's why I'm such a candid person. My partner is either 'mine' in which case all's good or they aren't in which case there's nothing to be done about it. When K is with another man she's enjoying his body, his energy and his attention like a sex toy. It changes nothing about our relationship."

John let this soak in. He was definitely a typical lad and his sex life up until now had involved pulling at the pub, having girlfriends and until a year ago, marriage.

"I'd feel insecure." He admitted. "I don't think Sara and I could have done what you do."

"Oh I get insecure." I admitted. "When a hot guy with a thick cock is rocking K's world I'm wishing I had his looks, his cock or his body but that's kinda the point. We chose him because he has things I don't. He can't make her laugh like I do, he isn't as imaginative as I am in bed, he doesn't have a ton of things that I have. That's why I'm the husband having sex with her every week and he's the borrowed sex toy. I have a question for you."

"Oh" John said suddenly nervous.

"Before you and Sara got together you both had huge body counts right? You were that hot couple that we always knew would get together."

John smiled "well yeah... We both had a history".

"So the only variable is time. She fucks a guy a year before you meet and enjoys it. What difference if she does it when you are together? With your consent of course."

John looked into the distance considering the scenario. "I guess it would just feel like cheating."

"What is the bad part about cheating? The sex... No. It's the betrayal. As long as she's not betraying you and you are all on the same page it's not cheating, it's literally the opposite, following the rules."

John looked away some more and I could only imagine the images he was imagining as I enjoyed another flood of coffee.

"I'd still be jealous. When I know he is fucking her I would want to be the one fucking her."

"Is that envy rather than jealousy. You may as well be envious of her sex toys. If you aren't around and she wants to get off does it matter if it's her fingers? her dildo?"

John laughed at the comparison "I guess not and I can't do what some of her toys do "

"Exactly!" I bellowed. "And I can't spitroast K on my own! If I want her to have an experience I need the tools or sometimes, the talent."

John reacted to the mental image of K being spitroast and I took a long sup of my coffee to let the image settle in. I had caught him staring at her curves before, enough to know he favoured her ass over her large boobs.

"Ultimately I want the best experiences for my wife to have in this one life we have to love. I can tell her she's beautiful every day and she loves it but nothing matches the energy of a horny sex starved hookup telling her that he wants to grip her ass and be balls deep in her cunt or a guy seeing pic of her tits out and offering to help me cover them in cum."

John shifted uneasily in his chair, the imagery stirring something in his cock.

"Has that happened?"

"The offers? Daily, mate. In reality we only accept the few worthwhile ones. We have to trust the guy will take instructions well, be safe and clean. It's a process to become a fuck buddy and we rather stick to known regulars rather than randoms. We have a list of trusted 'sometimes snacks'."

"Fuck." John slumped back in his chair and laughed. After all of his initial fascination he had finally understood. "Well..." he joked as he went to buy another round "... I'm off to fuck your wife."

The couple at the next table looked at him in disgust for his joke which he said a little too loud.

But a couple of months later he did.