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Want to ask my partner if she would like to start swinging not sure how to bring it up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've been together 15 years and want to do with her but not sure how she will react

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose you need to work out if she has every brought up about spicing things up or adding a further person to the situation otherwise it could be very difficult!

If you do I would suggest having set boundaries and what you are both willing to try and get out of it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I suppose you need to work out if she has every brought up about spicing things up or adding a further person to the situation otherwise it could be very difficult!

If you do I would suggest having set boundaries and what you are both willing to try and get out of it"

Not sure how she will react tho she might blow up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lookin for ideas how to gauge her reaction bed our I mention it

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By *ilanCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

How does she like sex, if she is really into it then just get her a few wines a nice swinging DVD on & use that as a way of asking the question

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How does she like sex, if she is really into it then just get her a few wines a nice swinging DVD on & use that as a way of asking the question "

Good idea thanks she loves sex but not all women like sayin if there into spicey things

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How does she like sex, if she is really into it then just get her a few wines a nice swinging DVD on & use that as a way of asking the question

Good idea thanks she loves sex but not all women like sayin if there into spicey things "

How did u guys bring it up which one of u brought it up

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull


"We've been together 15 years and want to do with her but not sure how she will react "

think you need to speak to her, fifteen years with a cheat is an awful waste of time in our opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask her straight out, that's what I did. She moved back to her mothers though! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just ask her straight out, that's what I did. She moved back to her mothers though! lol"

..lol..... some guys have all the luck

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By *harliesteveCouple
over a year ago

selly oak

Fantasy chats are a good start. Then over time step it up slowly till u can say would u like to make it come true. Take it at her speed don't push and make sure it's about her

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Just show her this thread.

What could possibly go wrong?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Just show her this thread.

What could possibly go wrong?"

Or.... maybe show her your profile... I'd go with "Well, I just been trying it out to see if it would be ok for you hun".

Erm, I'd write your will first tho!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say it with a card?

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By *ilanCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

We just fantasized during foreplay & while having sex especially after a few drinks & dared each other to say what it was they were thinking whilst having sex (treat is as a game) after a few months & also watching porn on dvd's it just got round to daring each other to have a soft swing meet to see how it went, when we did it went from soft to full in about 10mins & it was so good, we had sex again in the car on the way home & haven't looked back,best if u have a strong marriage or partner, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been together 15 years and want to do with her but not sure how she will react "

We started by me telling her her sexy stuff about her and 2 guys , I would take her out and tease her if she got chatted up in a sexy way.say stuff like that guy fancies I like his girl she has nice tits legs etc .

Try a social first it's a easy way to meet new friends and most of the people at our last social gathering were first timers

She backed out of the swingers club when we turned up , we did a group social and she kissed a guy and me , we tried same room swapping didn't work for us , separate is fine .

We usually start of with us guys daring women to kiss, Paula always says to me kiss the guy and we will, it' just goes from there

It is better if the women kiss first , and don't act jealous it's always a good idea to make it quite clear it's ok to do it by nodding your head and saying go on

I am sure some people just think of it as a way to cheat on their partners with no recourse we think of it as a way to have fun without cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

**judgemental post alert**

I'm assuming she doesn't know you have profile and you played with other women?

(maybe I'm wrong and you have quite open relationship, but as you dont know how to broach the subject of swinging i guess not!)

- if sex with gf is so good why you cheating on her?

Ultimately, if you have a good strong relationship, and can communicate well,and have good sex, bringing up the subject of weinging should be easy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"**judgemental post alert**

I'm assuming she doesn't know you have profile and you played with other women?

(maybe I'm wrong and you have quite open relationship, but as you dont know how to broach the subject of swinging i guess not!)

- if sex with gf is so good why you cheating on her?

Ultimately, if you have a good strong relationship, and can communicate well,and have good sex, bringing up the subject of weinging should be easy?

"

Harsh but fair.

OP, the questions you should really be asking is why (assuming that you are) are you cheating on her and what do you think swingiong will bring to your relationship?

Swinging should always be adding to a relationship. Don't be fooled in to thinking swinging will save a struggling relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Swinging should always be adding to a relationship. Don't be fooled in to thinking swinging will save a struggling relationship. "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Swinging should always be adding to a relationship. Don't be fooled in to thinking swinging will save a struggling relationship.

Well said "

Ditto x

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By *odoldmightyMan
over a year ago

Caernarfon

Presuming you have been together a good while then you should be able to tell if she might be interested. Also by being honest and sharing your thoughts with her should only strengthen your relationship. If she says no then atleast she knows about your fantasy, she will constantly be thinking about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Say it with a card? "

Moonpig.com?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what me and the ex did. We played monopoly and who ever lost had to do a forfeit. If she won I had to agree to buy her a new latex all in one suit, if I won she had to come dogging with me. She was a bit unsure, well a lot but agreed to the forfeit. She lost so we went dogging on that night about 11. Got there an quiet for half hour or so. Car pulls up. Nothing happens for a whole and she just said straight out right, let's get out the car and have sex, we did as she said and he came over, I thought he was just gunna wank and watch but he started stroking her breasts which got me horny and from the wetness of her pussy she was. To my surprise she started blowing him off and one thing led to another but mo full pen was the rule and he ended up shooting his load all over her tits and soon after I came in her........find out later that night, she lost the game on purpose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" She lost so we went dogging on that night about 11. Got there an quiet for half hour or so. Car pulls up. "

We went dogging once , by the time she had parked the car everyone had gone home lol

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