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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London

Hey Fab people!

So after many years of hinting towards sharing I’ve finally convinced my mrs to engage in some light fun.

I’m not sure how to start here and I’ve read so many stories on here but she’s south asian and very vanilla but I reckon having a nice man we can meet somewhere for a social and then have you both exchange numbers and take it from there could be a good start..

Maybe after a bit of chatting she’ll be more inclined to some light play. Initially start with some flirting through texts and then seeing where it goes.. kissing, touching, handjob, foot job to slowly ease her way into this fab world.

Depending on the response I get here I’m thinking of opening a couples profile. Although given my south Asian background it would be ideal to keep her anonymity so any advice on that part would be greatly appreciated.

Please give me your suggestions

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By *roop69Man
over a year ago

St Columb Major


"Hey Fab people!

So after many years of hinting towards sharing I’ve finally convinced my mrs to engage in some light fun.

I’m not sure how to start here and I’ve read so many stories on here but she’s south asian and very vanilla but I reckon having a nice man we can meet somewhere for a social and then have you both exchange numbers and take it from there could be a good start..

Maybe after a bit of chatting she’ll be more inclined to some light play. Initially start with some flirting through texts and then seeing where it goes.. kissing, touching, handjob, foot job to slowly ease her way into this fab world.

Depending on the response I get here I’m thinking of opening a couples profile. Although given my south Asian background it would be ideal to keep her anonymity so any advice on that part would be greatly appreciated.

Please give me your suggestions "
if she just feels comfortable messaging I’m happy to help out

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By *ornyBerksMan
over a year ago

Didcot

Yes same

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By *igerman23Man
over a year ago

hayes

If she needs help in being bit more forward i be happy to help

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London

In an ideal world I would love to find someone in the north London area should it progress further then just flirting on the phone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Start a couples profile. Put all the mail filters in place so that nobody can contact you and show your wife a few profiles that might interest her.

You need to know exactly what she's happy with, don't reckon or assume.

As you can see many men are happy to 'help' without knowing if the woman has actually agreed to be contacted. At least with a couples profile she can make her own decisions.

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London


"Start a couples profile. Put all the mail filters in place so that nobody can contact you and show your wife a few profiles that might interest her.

You need to know exactly what she's happy with, don't reckon or assume.

As you can see many men are happy to 'help' without knowing if the woman has actually agreed to be contacted. At least with a couples profile she can make her own decisions."

Love that advice! She’s has agreed to have contact with a “friend” but I think the idea of having a couples profile and letting her see this world for herself seems ever more likely as being the best option.

Any tips of how to keep her private?

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By *ig daddy 1969Man
over a year ago

manchester

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By *4funXXXMan
over a year ago

cheshire


"Start a couples profile. Put all the mail filters in place so that nobody can contact you and show your wife a few profiles that might interest her.

You need to know exactly what she's happy with, don't reckon or assume.

As you can see many men are happy to 'help' without knowing if the woman has actually agreed to be contacted. At least with a couples profile she can make her own decisions."

I couldn’t agree more with what you have said. When me and my late wife started we opened a joint account and I left her to browse and make all the decisions till we whee both happy and knew what we both wanted

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Start a couples profile. Put all the mail filters in place so that nobody can contact you and show your wife a few profiles that might interest her.

You need to know exactly what she's happy with, don't reckon or assume.

As you can see many men are happy to 'help' without knowing if the woman has actually agreed to be contacted. At least with a couples profile she can make her own decisions.

Love that advice! She’s has agreed to have contact with a “friend” but I think the idea of having a couples profile and letting her see this world for herself seems ever more likely as being the best option.

Any tips of how to keep her private? "

You might need to photo verify a couples profile. She wouldn't have to show her face but if she didn't want to do that she would have to agree to a naked body shot. Otherwise just keep one photo of her fully clothed that doesn't show her face in your friends only gallery.

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London


"Start a couples profile. Put all the mail filters in place so that nobody can contact you and show your wife a few profiles that might interest her.

You need to know exactly what she's happy with, don't reckon or assume.

As you can see many men are happy to 'help' without knowing if the woman has actually agreed to be contacted. At least with a couples profile she can make her own decisions.

Love that advice! She’s has agreed to have contact with a “friend” but I think the idea of having a couples profile and letting her see this world for herself seems ever more likely as being the best option.

Any tips of how to keep her private?

You might need to photo verify a couples profile. She wouldn't have to show her face but if she didn't want to do that she would have to agree to a naked body shot. Otherwise just keep one photo of her fully clothed that doesn't show her face in your friends only gallery.

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We can both do that, show we are genuine with our faces and not disclose to the world. Don’t mind the verifier seeing her!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Start a couples profile. Put all the mail filters in place so that nobody can contact you and show your wife a few profiles that might interest her.

You need to know exactly what she's happy with, don't reckon or assume.

As you can see many men are happy to 'help' without knowing if the woman has actually agreed to be contacted. At least with a couples profile she can make her own decisions.

Love that advice! She’s has agreed to have contact with a “friend” but I think the idea of having a couples profile and letting her see this world for herself seems ever more likely as being the best option.

Any tips of how to keep her private?

You might need to photo verify a couples profile. She wouldn't have to show her face but if she didn't want to do that she would have to agree to a naked body shot. Otherwise just keep one photo of her fully clothed that doesn't show her face in your friends only gallery.

We can both do that, show we are genuine with our faces and not disclose to the world. Don’t mind the verifier seeing her!"

She's happy with that?

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London

Yeah she’s happy with that as long as the public can’t see it which I understand.

The problem is because of how vanilla she is (me being her only sexual partner) the idea is daunting and exciting at the same time but I think it’s more exciting for me and more daunting for her lol.

Is there a book she can read to get herself into the swing of this?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yeah she’s happy with that as long as the public can’t see it which I understand.

The problem is because of how vanilla she is (me being her only sexual partner) the idea is daunting and exciting at the same time but I think it’s more exciting for me and more daunting for her lol.

Is there a book she can read to get herself into the swing of this? "

There are quite a lot of books available on the subject, have a look on the net.

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By *ary joeMan
over a year ago

anerley

Why don't you try to find a willing lady to message with her to give her some advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watch some hotwife porn with her. I did this with my south asian wife. Very conservative and religious. Seems to have opened her mind a bit. We now have moved to a dildo as our third and hoping for actual contact soon. How to train a hotwife is the porn i used

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London


"Watch some hotwife porn with her. I did this with my south asian wife. Very conservative and religious. Seems to have opened her mind a bit. We now have moved to a dildo as our third and hoping for actual contact soon. How to train a hotwife is the porn i used"

We’ve used dildos before but never as a 3rd person role although that could be something we can explore now. Gonna explore the wife sharing porn too although I’ve been a bit shy with that as I find that as my personal vise for when I’m wanking if that makes sense

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London

So we tried porn last night with a dildo and a pair of blindfolds…

I think we’re getting closer here but still small strides

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do not rush her and take your time.

My Mrs is the same as in she likes the idea but is terrified and shy!

We have tried dildos and porn with mixed results and she says she is not ready just yet.

I live in hope

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By *he Dark Knight09Man
over a year ago

London


"So we tried porn last night with a dildo and a pair of blindfolds…

I think we’re getting closer here but still small strides "

A great start to hopefully see her open up

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By *oumlacaMan
over a year ago

waterford

Introduce a good friend, have him call occasionally to your house, take your time. That's how it worked for us, took a year but it was worth the wait, when she was ready, he took her in front of me, fantastic night.

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London


"Introduce a good friend, have him call occasionally to your house, take your time. That's how it worked for us, took a year but it was worth the wait, when she was ready, he took her in front of me, fantastic night. "

I don’t know if I could feel comfortable with a close friend like that.. how would I even approach them

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

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By *chpunkeeMan
over a year ago

knutsford

She should describe what she would like. There is no point to pushing her into an encounter if it is not what she want or with the type of guy she is interested in.

I would say even though you have got this far, you both have a lot of talking to do. And she may only want vanilla or totally the opposite but she may not want to tell you that!.....so over communicate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We managed to find a mutual friend who she liked, they eventually got round to the subject as he was always flirting with her. He actually sent me a text saying was it was ok to progress further, and he was happy to oblige. Thought nothing more about it. Until I came in one day and heard noises upstairs, well walked in to find her on her knees giving him oral. Let's say it's progressed since then lol

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By *ertscouple-2021Couple
over a year ago

Berkhampstead

Our first time doing anything was with a good friend also it just started with a little flirting from him for a few months then one night it just happened and felt right.

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London


"Our first time doing anything was with a good friend also it just started with a little flirting from him for a few months then one night it just happened and felt right. "

Did you bring up the convo with him or did it just happen naturally? I can’t see any of my friends doing that without me starting the convo and giving the clear but how do you approach that conversation lol

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London

Met a random guy at Finsbury park over the weekend, got chatting to us for a little while I tried getting my mrs to be a bit free with him and I can see that she was trying but I think she got too shy by the end of it…

Long road ahead but I’m loving these baby steps.. she said if it continues like this she might consider a couples profile by the end of the month! Wish me luck

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London

Things have gone sideways and not in good way..

Need some help for some genuine people who have experienced some reservations from their other half.. I’m putting it down to fear but I now fear this is gonna go nowhere. Maybe I’m pushing too much here

HELP

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By *uzanne and RickyCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

Try to find a guy who she finds attractive and you both like the sound of. Explain the situation over messages and Invite for a coffee or a drink with absolutely no obligations to play. It’s just some friends having a drink. Ask her to dress how she would if she wanted to play, maybe some nice underwear, knee high boots, tight top but it’s just a drink to see if you all actually get on. Almost a role play. And that’s it. Go your separate ways. You may be surprised. Ask her how she feels being in the company of two men who want her etc. I find this part almost as sexy as watching her with another man. Best case she’ll be turned on by him and wants to proceed to something more. Maybe another coffee but she is more into him, maybe sits beside him etc. small steps my friend, hope it works out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Things have gone sideways and not in good way..

Need some help for some genuine people who have experienced some reservations from their other half.. I’m putting it down to fear but I now fear this is gonna go nowhere. Maybe I’m pushing too much here

HELP

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What happened? Why not in a good way?

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London


"Things have gone sideways and not in good way..

Need some help for some genuine people who have experienced some reservations from their other half.. I’m putting it down to fear but I now fear this is gonna go nowhere. Maybe I’m pushing too much here

HELP

What happened? Why not in a good way? "

I feel like maybe I’ve been pushing the subject too much, I’ve told her I’m gonna take a step back and wait for her to approach it with a que to move forward with this.

Let her take her own baby steps. Interesting our sex has become more intense now so maybe something is working (hands in the air emoji)

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By *olarMan
over a year ago

woking

In the same position and after the fantastic week we have had I can only agree with letting her set the pace

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London

Yeah hopefully this week brings us a step closer

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

A fwb had the same worries about meeting others as she hadn’t done anything but with one guy so obviously she was a bit more experienced!

But it was amazing how chatting with a likeminded person ( which it seems you’ve had a few on here ) opens the route to go further but without rushing things

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London

So we was chatting about holidays last night and I mentioned that we could go somewhere a country in particular that she’s really been wanting to visit but she would need to participate in some frolics in order to convince me to part with such amount of money.

Although she continued to maintain she was very happy with me and didn’t feel she needed anyone else to please her, as we was kissing and touching her warm pussy I could feel it felt extra juicy and wet.. now I don’t know if it’s because she’s coming close to her period or if she was actually secretly enjoying the idea. In any case after a short while of rubbing my fingers around her swollen clit I couldn’t hold out any longer and needed to penetrate her. I could see her closing her eyes while fucking me, kissing me deeply with every stroke while I was hoping she was thinking of another man fucking her brains out… as you can imagine it didn’t take me long to cum deep in her pussy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So we was chatting about holidays last night and I mentioned that we could go somewhere a country in particular that she’s really been wanting to visit but she would need to participate in some frolics in order to convince me to part with such amount of money.

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Please tell me you didn't say this to your wife

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London


"So we was chatting about holidays last night and I mentioned that we could go somewhere a country in particular that she’s really been wanting to visit but she would need to participate in some frolics in order to convince me to part with such amount of money.

Please tell me you didn't say this to your wife "

Well I hope it wasn’t with a random person last night that I spoke to.. it wasn’t a serious conversation I said it with light humour knowing what her reaction would be, I just wanted to show her that there’s plenty of options for light fun.

A naked massage whilst looking over the ocean , seems somewhat plausible and light enough for her not to feel uncomfortable

I guess I think there’s a better chance of her meeting someone on holiday then a local person she may bump into at our local tescos

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So we was chatting about holidays last night and I mentioned that we could go somewhere a country in particular that she’s really been wanting to visit but she would need to participate in some frolics in order to convince me to part with such amount of money.

Please tell me you didn't say this to your wife

Well I hope it wasn’t with a random person last night that I spoke to.. it wasn’t a serious conversation I said it with light humour knowing what her reaction would be, I just wanted to show her that there’s plenty of options for light fun.

A naked massage whilst looking over the ocean , seems somewhat plausible and light enough for her not to feel uncomfortable

I guess I think there’s a better chance of her meeting someone on holiday then a local person she may bump into at our local tescos "

I see. I wouldn't be happy if my husband told me that in order to go on holiday to I needed to participate in some frolics with other people but you must know how the humour works in your relationship.

Best of luck to both

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London


"So we was chatting about holidays last night and I mentioned that we could go somewhere a country in particular that she’s really been wanting to visit but she would need to participate in some frolics in order to convince me to part with such amount of money.

Please tell me you didn't say this to your wife

Well I hope it wasn’t with a random person last night that I spoke to.. it wasn’t a serious conversation I said it with light humour knowing what her reaction would be, I just wanted to show her that there’s plenty of options for light fun.

A naked massage whilst looking over the ocean , seems somewhat plausible and light enough for her not to feel uncomfortable

I guess I think there’s a better chance of her meeting someone on holiday then a local person she may bump into at our local tescos

I see. I wouldn't be happy if my husband told me that in order to go on holiday to I needed to participate in some frolics with other people but you must know how the humour works in your relationship.

Best of luck to both "

Okay so before I get judged further I just want to clarify I said she could go to this particular place if she was to participate in some frolics. However there are plenty of countries we can visit now with no extracurricular activities needed… but as you can imagine there’s a big difference between Barcelona and Barbados

Once again just wanna make the point clear that this was with light humour and in no way was I forcing the option on her to do anything she’s not comfortable with

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"So we was chatting about holidays last night and I mentioned that we could go somewhere a country in particular that she’s really been wanting to visit but she would need to participate in some frolics in order to convince me to part with such amount of money.

Please tell me you didn't say this to your wife

Well I hope it wasn’t with a random person last night that I spoke to.. it wasn’t a serious conversation I said it with light humour knowing what her reaction would be, I just wanted to show her that there’s plenty of options for light fun.

A naked massage whilst looking over the ocean , seems somewhat plausible and light enough for her not to feel uncomfortable

I guess I think there’s a better chance of her meeting someone on holiday then a local person she may bump into at our local tescos

I see. I wouldn't be happy if my husband told me that in order to go on holiday to I needed to participate in some frolics with other people but you must know how the humour works in your relationship.

Best of luck to both

Okay so before I get judged further I just want to clarify I said she could go to this particular place if she was to participate in some frolics. However there are plenty of countries we can visit now with no extracurricular activities needed… but as you can imagine there’s a big difference between Barcelona and Barbados

Once again just wanna make the point clear that this was with light humour and in no way was I forcing the option on her to do anything she’s not comfortable with"

I'm not judging you. I'm just responding to your words as I have throughout the thread in what I believe to be a positive and helpful way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we was chatting about holidays last night and I mentioned that we could go somewhere a country in particular that she’s really been wanting to visit but she would need to participate in some frolics in order to convince me to part with such amount of money.

Please tell me you didn't say this to your wife

Well I hope it wasn’t with a random person last night that I spoke to.. it wasn’t a serious conversation I said it with light humour knowing what her reaction would be, I just wanted to show her that there’s plenty of options for light fun.

A naked massage whilst looking over the ocean , seems somewhat plausible and light enough for her not to feel uncomfortable

I guess I think there’s a better chance of her meeting someone on holiday then a local person she may bump into at our local tescos "

What the absolute **** is wrong with you?

"Holiday.... but only if you fuck other people."

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By *dam1787Man
over a year ago

Preston

Haha that's backfired....

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London


"Haha that's backfired...."

Tell me about it!

Hopefully the mrs doesn’t feel the same lol

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London

Update:

So we’ve included plenty of dildo play in our sessions now and it’s something she’s now comfortable with (8 inch dildo)…

She enjoys being blindfolded whilst we play and a nice oil massage before hand definitely helps ease her in

Any tips of how we can move forward from here?

Should I bring someone in for a massage?

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By *uga40Man
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

Would love to message her for a chat

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By *uga40Man
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

Go with what she is happy with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife’s first time was on holiday, heat and cocktails got her horny and relaxed, guy began flirting with her when she was at the poolside, he made a move on her and they ended up fukin a few times in our holiday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Update:

So we’ve included plenty of dildo play in our sessions now and it’s something she’s now comfortable with (8 inch dildo)…

She enjoys being blindfolded whilst we play and a nice oil massage before hand definitely helps ease her in

Any tips of how we can move forward from here?

Should I bring someone in for a massage? "

Has she consented to someone giving her a massage?

This scenario makes me sick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Massage is defo the next step. Make sure its consenting or even starting off with vanilla massage from the opposite gender. Then slowly move to intimate couples massage or just her and you watch etc.

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By *li57123Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

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By *r Jelabi OP   Man
over a year ago

North London

Of course she would have to fully be on bored, I tease the idea and at first she was quite reluctant about it but now she’s more open about it all specially that she can see how much we both can enjoy this she’s been more open minded.. even joked that I’d maybe get that as my birthday surprise!

Hopefully one day we can make it happen

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By *andy IanMan
over a year ago

cheshire/Preston


"Of course she would have to fully be on bored, I tease the idea and at first she was quite reluctant about it but now she’s more open about it all specially that she can see how much we both can enjoy this she’s been more open minded.. even joked that I’d maybe get that as my birthday surprise!

Hopefully one day we can make it happen "

Try to find a guy who is prepared to meet socially first and if nothing happens he won’t be put out or offended.

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