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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I love to humiliate my partner and as we are in to the Fetish scene we go to a lot of BDMS clubs

The last one we when to I made her walk through Birmingham town and check into the hotel wearing a runner French maid’s uniform and locked high heels and colour and lead I can still see the face of the guy at the desk

Just thought I would share this

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Doesn't this sort of thing embarrass people not in the scene? Like the guy at the desk? Isn't it exposing others to your fetish who didn't ask to be involved?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is far worse walking around Brum

That could go for people who walk dogs not on a lead. I hate dogs and when not on a lead they have no control of the dog.

At least she had a lead on Lol

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Bit different dressing in a fetish outfit at a hotel reception desk to having a dog of its lead in the street, not sure what point you are making.

It's your choice to humiliate your partner and hers to be humiliated but the receptionist has not consented to be part of your play and yet his reaction is an important element of your game. Just wondered if this was considered ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see why the receptionist would be unduly worried, if anything it's an interesting story to tell friends etc

Sounds fun to me, next time take her to McDonalds

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

And if the receptionist had been a young girl?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And if the receptionist had been a young girl?"

Good question!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't specify as why should it make a difference? I am assuming the maids outfit wasn't indecent- as the original poster said you see worse around town on a Friday/Saturday night so the only thing unusual as such is the lead and collar- I don't see how that could offend the receptionist be it boy or girl?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awesome! Sounds fun to me, by the way I think life's a much richer tapestry for these incidents, as rare as they are

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"I didn't specify as why should it make a difference? I am assuming the maids outfit wasn't indecent- as the original poster said you see worse around town on a Friday/Saturday night so the only thing unusual as such is the lead and collar- I don't see how that could offend the receptionist be it boy or girl?"

The aim was to humiliate the woman, therefore we can assume she appeared out of the ordinary (even if the ordinary is scantly clad girls on the high street). We must assume she stood out in a way to others that would cause her to be humiliated. If that is the case this relies on others either seeing or passing opinion (even with just a look). So it's an interesting dilemma, how far do you go to titilate yourself by using non consenting others, do you flash them?

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By *nionjil lunionjackCouple
over a year ago

our town


"Bit different dressing in a fetish outfit at a hotel reception desk to having a dog of its lead in the street, not sure what point you are making.

It's your choice to humiliate your partner and hers to be humiliated but the receptionist has not consented to be part of your play and yet his reaction is an important element of your game. Just wondered if this was considered ok. "

cracking point!!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I didn't specify as why should it make a difference? I am assuming the maids outfit wasn't indecent- as the original poster said you see worse around town on a Friday/Saturday night so the only thing unusual as such is the lead and collar- I don't see how that could offend the receptionist be it boy or girl?

The aim was to humiliate the woman, therefore we can assume she appeared out of the ordinary (even if the ordinary is scantly clad girls on the high street). We must assume she stood out in a way to others that would cause her to be humiliated. If that is the case this relies on others either seeing or passing opinion (even with just a look). So it's an interesting dilemma, how far do you go to titilate yourself by using non consenting others, do you flash them?"

As this is in stories and fantasies I don't know if its true or not but I think your point is very well made. We take naked and semi naked photos outside but we're very careful to ensure that no one sees us because we can't be at all sure that they would want to. Involving a third unknowing and possibly unwilling person in your sex life is not on but if this is just a fantasy well we're all entitled to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a good point and is what the forum should be about.

My personal opinion is that if they could do all this in front of a policeman without being arrested then it should be ok, which it sounds like it would be in this instance, but not in an example such as flashing.

Of course maybe now I've just given some people new ideas..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It is a good point and is what the forum should be about.

My personal opinion is that if they could do all this in front of a policeman without being arrested then it should be ok, which it sounds like it would be in this instance, but not in an example such as flashing.

Of course maybe now I've just given some people new ideas.. "

It might be ok in law but that doesn't always make it right. If it was me witnessing such a thing I'd laugh about it, go home and tell my husband and tell all my friends on our next night out but my mother for instance would be offended and upset and wouldn't understand at all. As you say a very interesting point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also worth considering though (and for the record I'm playing devil's advocate here as I love the outdoor photos like most on here!) but what you're doing might be illegal whereas what the original post was saying certainly wasn't. Yet which to you consider to be worse? Someone's mum could be out for a walk in the country..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Also worth considering though (and for the record I'm playing devil's advocate here as I love the outdoor photos like most on here!) but what you're doing might be illegal whereas what the original post was saying certainly wasn't. Yet which to you consider to be worse? Someone's mum could be out for a walk in the country.."

Yes I take your point entirely and agree with what you're saying. Where does that leave us lol

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

The difference is someone taking pics outdoors might do their best to be discreet, if they are discovered then its likely by accident and they might do their best to cover up.

They aren't walking into a hotel on a leash in fetish wear to deliberately exhibit themselves.

It's complicated huh!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Also worth considering though (and for the record I'm playing devil's advocate here as I love the outdoor photos like most on here!) but what you're doing might be illegal whereas what the original post was saying certainly wasn't. Yet which to you consider to be worse? Someone's mum could be out for a walk in the country.."

I suppose if I'm being totally honest I consider the humiliation thing to be worse BUT is that only because it isn't my thing? I know plenty of people who would think we were disgusting for taking the photos that we do and maybe the OP thinks that too because it isn't his thing....who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha, think that as with most things it's a personal call- if you try your best not to upset other unwitting parties then that should be fair enough.

If, for example, someone came over complaining having wandered randomly into your al fresco exploits then as long as you do the decent thing and cover up and apoligise then all should hopefully be well. If the original posters realised they were causing great discomfort to the receptionist then hopefully they'd do the same thing, apoligise and move on showing respect.

Safe, sane and consentual.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I am glad I have got people talking

For the record it was about 2 in the morning when we walked through the town and into the hotel

It's never our intention to offend anyone and she was fully clothed at all times all be it in rubber

There are many things in every day life that offends me but we can't please everyone all the time and we do live in a free country

So do keep the debate going and I wish I worked in a job where I saw rubber clad girls LOL

We all love Free speach xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Again I have to agree and what a pleasure it's been to have a discussion that doesn't turn into point scoring

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Ha, think that as with most things it's a personal call- if you try your best not to upset other unwitting parties then that should be fair enough.

If, for example, someone came over complaining having wandered randomly into your al fresco exploits then as long as you do the decent thing and cover up and apoligise then all should hopefully be well. If the original posters realised they were causing great discomfort to the receptionist then hopefully they'd do the same thing, apoligise and move on showing respect.

Safe, sane and consentual."

Yep! Although a little bit of insane never went amiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I like both the humiliation post and the outdoor pics and would have enjoyed being a part of both, I'd be keen to know what the OP 's thoughts were (and to hear of more exploits!)

I agree with nicecouple that there is a difference in the intent but I think the humiliation was the girl wearing the leash, not indecently exposing herself or doing anything that would offend any but the most prudish of people surely?

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By *uckoldandWifeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

It has been an interesting discussion, thanks everyone

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It has been an interesting discussion, thanks everyone "

It has and just as I was losing faith in ever being part of a polite, sensible non aggressive forum thread lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn, takes me so long to write on this phone that my post is nearly redundant by the time it's up!

For the record it was sexywife made the point about intent, think we're all right in our own ways!

Right, now lets debate and sort out the Middle East!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yes, certainly agree it's been nice to debate with no childish slagging match breaking out, maybe we should create a closed forum lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Damn, takes me so long to write on this phone that my post is nearly redundant by the time it's up!

For the record it was sexywife made the point about intent, think we're all right in our own ways!

Right, now lets debate and sort out the Middle East! "

I think we all broadly agree actually and that is unlikely to happen with the Middle East question so I think that's best left alone.

How about the big question of the day....Marmite, love it or hate it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's easy, Marmite's...ok!

Should add I didn't feel right disagreeing with sexywife, I should be just saying yes to whatever she wanted!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

well it's been nice debating with you all I'm off to bed now hope to come across you all in the forums in future

xx

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I don't think a rubber maids outfit and even a dog collar and lead are too bad in public, even at 9pm let alone 2am, I've probably worn worse to vanilla fancy dress parties, and I've certainly worn worse to vanilla goth nights out... (Or to go and see rocky horror)

Play or sex in public (at least somewhere where there is a very high risk of being caught) or deliberate exhibitionism (such as no knickers up skirt flashing on a train) is something that I don't consider any longer, not since my involvement in BDSM, if all parties have not given consent then to me it is wrong...

Means I miss out on some of the fun things I did when I was younger, but it does mean I do even more fun consensual things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish people would stop moaning in the forum about if its right or not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Wish people would stop moaning in the forum about if its right or not. "

why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't this sort of thing embarrass people not in the scene? Like the guy at the desk? Isn't it exposing others to your fetish who didn't ask to be involved? "

I no what u mean .... Your a 17 yr old kid working part time in a hotel and u see that...is that fair?

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