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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone need someone to talk to we can all act it and be happy especially when sex I'd involved but is there women and men out there experiencing down times so look to the other to fill that gap same for couples eto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit hypocritical isn’t it?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

There are many suffering in silence behind their smiles. Life is tough for so may these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a mental breakdown in 2013 and was subsequently diagnosed with PTSD.

I have really deep days where I have thought “Fuck it” and have tried to end it all.

Majority if this comes from an abusive childhood that only came to the surface quite recently.

7 years on from that breakdown I am now a qualified counsellor/psychotherapist.

I decided to go it on my own as my local primary health care team came up with the idea that to beat depression you need to join a gym and get out and socialise.

Great if you can get out but what if like me the depression is so crippling you cannot get out of bed

Thankfully I’m through the other side now. I still get days where I can’t be arsed with life but I now have the coping methods in place to get through

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I had a mental breakdown in 2013 and was subsequently diagnosed with PTSD.

I have really deep days where I have thought “Fuck it” and have tried to end it all.

Majority if this comes from an abusive childhood that only came to the surface quite recently.

7 years on from that breakdown I am now a qualified counsellor/psychotherapist.

I decided to go it on my own as my local primary health care team came up with the idea that to beat depression you need to join a gym and get out and socialise.

Great if you can get out but what if like me the depression is so crippling you cannot get out of bed

Thankfully I’m through the other side now. I still get days where I can’t be arsed with life but I now have the coping methods in place to get through "

That's good to hear and great to know you can talk about it and help others.x

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By *ilf n filfCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

Yes I’ve had to bouts of depression in my life I fought through both of them and come out the other side.. First one was the toughest time of my life I drop down to 8 stone from 13!

I love helping people to help themselves much for my benefit as theirs.

Only people who have been through this and I truly understand what it’s like..

Filf

Ps I work for a well-known charity in Edinburgh dealing with this all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to the doctor's today about my depression and anxiety after 20 years of suffering with no counseling or anti depressants I need to change that it's getting worse it seems hopefully I'll get some help today cause I hate feeling this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone need someone to talk to we can all act it and be happy especially when sex I'd involved but is there women and men out there experiencing down times so look to the other to fill that gap same for couples eto "

Sex is very much a happy pill, it gives you lot sof positive endorphins and having someone pay you compliments and boosting your ego is all good for the mental health, but it's a short quick fix, it can be for some like alcohol or drugs, it can become addictive and take over folks lives to the point where they can and do sometimes end up stuck in a vicious and abusive cycle.

Constantly checking in looking for messages and fabs on pics etc but it's the same on any other social media platform, however some folk with major low self esteem or particularly poor mental health can then start to partake in dangerous behaviour and put themselves in risky situations. Promiscuity is listed as key symptom of mental health disorders particularly where individuals have little or no emotional support.

I suffer from mental health problems have done for years and quite open about it, when I'm particularly low I consciously take a step back from things like fab etc because I know how potentially harming getting caught up with the hype can be.

The good thing about fab though from the social side, the forums and the chatrooms is that there are lots of strangers and sometime its actually far easier to open up to dabbers and chat about problems to because they don't have any vested interest in your life outside fab, it's the same if you go to counselling or peer support groups, you don't have to worry about upsetting then or them falling out with you, or taking sides with people you care about etc

BUT beware about those who can use this vulnerability to take advantage of you x

I am. Always happy to talk to anyone about their issues and have been involved in various agencies over the years offering support not just for mental health but practice things such as legal matters, benefits accessing support etc

Much love xx

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I'm going to the doctor's today about my depression and anxiety after 20 years of suffering with no counseling or anti depressants I need to change that it's getting worse it seems hopefully I'll get some help today cause I hate feeling this way"

Hope you get on ok and glad you are making that trip to your GP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone need someone to talk to we can all act it and be happy especially when sex I'd involved but is there women and men out there experiencing down times so look to the other to fill that gap same for couples eto

Sex is very much a happy pill, it gives you lot sof positive endorphins and having someone pay you compliments and boosting your ego is all good for the mental health, but it's a short quick fix, it can be for some like alcohol or drugs, it can become addictive and take over folks lives to the point where they can and do sometimes end up stuck in a vicious and abusive cycle.

Constantly checking in looking for messages and fabs on pics etc but it's the same on any other social media platform, however some folk with major low self esteem or particularly poor mental health can then start to partake in dangerous behaviour and put themselves in risky situations. Promiscuity is listed as key symptom of mental health disorders particularly where individuals have little or no emotional support.

I suffer from mental health problems have done for years and quite open about it, when I'm particularly low I consciously take a step back from things like fab etc because I know how potentially harming getting caught up with the hype can be.

The good thing about fab though from the social side, the forums and the chatrooms is that there are lots of strangers and sometime its actually far easier to open up to dabbers and chat about problems to because they don't have any vested interest in your life outside fab, it's the same if you go to counselling or peer support groups, you don't have to worry about upsetting then or them falling out with you, or taking sides with people you care about etc

BUT beware about those who can use this vulnerability to take advantage of you x

I am. Always happy to talk to anyone about their issues and have been involved in various agencies over the years offering support not just for mental health but practice things such as legal matters, benefits accessing support etc

Much love xx "

Some really great advice here.

I too have and still do volunteer for agencies where I not only counsel people but I also give practical advice in just about any subject out there

Fab is a great place for social interaction but as stated it is also a bit like any other social media outlet where you can become addicted.

I closed down all social media subscriptions when I was at my lowest point including Fab. To date I still haven’t opened any of them except Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going to the doctor's today about my depression and anxiety after 20 years of suffering with no counseling or anti depressants I need to change that it's getting worse it seems hopefully I'll get some help today cause I hate feeling this way"

Step one on the road is to visit your GP. You will probably be prescribed an anti depressant however, these don’t always work for some people.

Talking therapies are usually the best way forward as you can sit with someone who will help you to recovery

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I'm going to the doctor's today about my depression and anxiety after 20 years of suffering with no counseling or anti depressants I need to change that it's getting worse it seems hopefully I'll get some help today cause I hate feeling this way

Step one on the road is to visit your GP. You will probably be prescribed an anti depressant however, these don’t always work for some people.

Talking therapies are usually the best way forward as you can sit with someone who will help you to recovery "

The above is true but sadly the waiting list for counselling support is very long on the NHS. When I needed it I found an excellent alternative place to get support that didn’t bankrupt me at the time. Google Crisis Erskine.

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By *ine of BootyCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow/ Manchester


"The above is true but sadly the waiting list for counselling support is very long on the NHS. When I needed it I found an excellent alternative place to get support that didn’t bankrupt me at the time. Google Crisis Erskine. "

This is good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going to the doctor's today about my depression and anxiety after 20 years of suffering with no counseling or anti depressants I need to change that it's getting worse it seems hopefully I'll get some help today cause I hate feeling this way

Step one on the road is to visit your GP. You will probably be prescribed an anti depressant however, these don’t always work for some people.

Talking therapies are usually the best way forward as you can sit with someone who will help you to recovery "

I know all this I just need a kick start hopefully medication will work and I'll ask for a counselor referral, I haven't wanted to medicate for such a long time but I just can't cope anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

theres agreat place i paisley im sure its called the wynd thats reasonable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are many suffering in silence behind their smiles. Life is tough for so may these days."

Like me.

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By *ilf n filfCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

What about a mental health social.

We have a venue you can use for free

Pm me

Let’s help people to help themselves..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I run my own charity group in glasgow we help thousands if anyone needs to talk please drop me a text x

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By *he pupCoolMan
over a year ago

dumffries

I have a history of enxcity have been through a lot in a short period of tim watching my dad suffering from cancer my mum died cancer soon after both 59 my young sister got killed in a road accident unrecognisable which I saw then daughter in law died soon after that and

on top of all that I was sexually abused when I was young never told anybody till lately had counciling manage to control it a bit good days bad days meet-up with. A girl thought I had won the lottery she helped me got confidence back everything was good best I had felt in a very long time got married then it all went to bits she was lieing all the time hidding a lot of debt ect things got really bad could not take any more I ended I taking a break down which I am trying to get over just now I have ended up with o c d which I can’t control anger to wards her is terrible had tiger cortisone jags in my arm for pain i thought it was with word ended up it was caused by stress I am now on my own trying to get sleeping back to normal and eating probably don’t want to socialise lost weight thought I would be fine on my own it’s not it gets me down at night then can’t sleep I don’t have anybody round about me to talk to put a smile on trying to be ok it’s what’s under the smile no body sees don’t know what to do trying my hardest not easy would it wish it on anybody so trying to get a wee

Bit of happy

Ness and who nose maybe some fun lol x

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