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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? " Nah... That isn't fair. If one isn't feeling the vibes then just let them know and move on. | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? " Suspected this to be the case a few times.. But now I can suss them out pretty quickly. | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? Nah... That isn't fair. If one isn't feeling the vibes then just let them know and move on. " Dont think its that they're not feeling the vibe just that they will use them if nobody else is available | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? Suspected this to be the case a few times.. But now I can suss them out pretty quickly. " Thats good that you are wise to it | |||
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"Yep there's loads of folk try this all the time, take advantage of people who do. Try to give benefit of the doubt but it slike lots of relationships though people want to hang onto safe and dependable while they're out looking for fun and mystery " Thats a good way of putting it | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? " It sadly happens all too often . If there is no communication then the friendship you once had then breaks down so best to just move on rather than keeping someone hanging on ![]() | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? " No because I’m not a cunt and have respect for other people. | |||
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"Its just about filtering out the good and the not so good on here. There are plenty of each. You see profiles on here and think, maybe not for me and then contact is made and you are proven wrong. Its always worth taking a chance. Nothing ventured and all that...." Problem with sorting out the good and the not so good is you need to meet them to find out, only then do you learn they are good & nice people or total horrors lol ![]() | |||
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"Sadly I've been the standby person a few times. I think for one person I probably still am. " Don't enable that nonsense | |||
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"Its just about filtering out the good and the not so good on here. There are plenty of each. You see profiles on here and think, maybe not for me and then contact is made and you are proven wrong. Its always worth taking a chance. Nothing ventured and all that...." I wonder how often it goes the other way, discounting someone who might actually have been the most delicious fit and never knowing you missed the opportunity... | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? " Waste of both parties time. I don’t see the point in that at all | |||
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"Yeah I've had this and it fucking sucks" Cum on Eileen.. Who would do that to you. ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? " We think this has been done to us in the past a couple of times now. If we can’t arrange a meet with someone within two months we look elsewhere now until everything lines up with each other again. | |||
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"Bit cruel.. I agree" same. Not nice at all | |||
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"Yeah I've had this and it fucking sucks Cum on Eileen.. Who would do that to you. ![]() ![]() ![]() You be surprised ![]() | |||
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"Why not tell them ain't happening but always up for a friendly chat ?" Totally agree with you there | |||
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"Been on the receiving end of this. Worst is I've known it and still responded like a little puppy when they've spoken to me again. So I'm more annoyed with myself than the other person." I get like that too | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? " Would never dream of doing that! That's a terrible way to treat anyone | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? Would never dream of doing that! That's a terrible way to treat anyone" I totally agree | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? Suspected this to be the case a few times.. But now I can suss them out pretty quickly. " Think i may have one just now. Gonna play slong and see what happens lol | |||
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"Recently been on the receiving end of this it's annoy af" Well now that you've realised this, don't enable it | |||
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"I don't mind this. There's little investment or expectation, and if you eventually meet at a social, you might actually hit it off, sexually or as friends." I suspect there's a lot more guys blissfully content with being on the back burner than there are women. By that I mean with six guys for every woman, that's a lot of guys turned down to a low heat ![]() | |||
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"Yeah I think I've had this and also think I've did it albeit unintentionally. Years ago fell for someone big time then through various factors we never spoke for a while. Odd texts here and there . This went on for a while then a year or two of silence then they'd pop up again . Both guilty of it I guess . we'd very occasionally meet up and there was always a chemistry there but then would be back to the odd texts. Horrible feeling really . Never knowing where you stand . Now though we just dont talk at all numbers deleted and blocked on here . Sometimes you just need to cut your loses and admit if it was going to happen it would have by now " This happens a lot but its the radio silence when uve met and gotten on really well that I dont understand. If someone decides they no longer want to meet with someone then at least tell them instead of them wondering what they have done wrong . | |||
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"Yeah I think I've had this and also think I've did it albeit unintentionally. Years ago fell for someone big time then through various factors we never spoke for a while. Odd texts here and there . This went on for a while then a year or two of silence then they'd pop up again . Both guilty of it I guess . we'd very occasionally meet up and there was always a chemistry there but then would be back to the odd texts. Horrible feeling really . Never knowing where you stand . Now though we just dont talk at all numbers deleted and blocked on here . Sometimes you just need to cut your loses and admit if it was going to happen it would have by now This happens a lot but its the radio silence when uve met and gotten on really well that I dont understand. If someone decides they no longer want to meet with someone then at least tell them instead of them wondering what they have done wrong ." Yeah your bang on ! Can be very frustrating if you allow it to annoy you . At first was totally devastated but love can do that . It is the wondering why that gets you . P.s - can remember you from previous profiles. Glad your still around ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Yeah I think I've had this and also think I've did it albeit unintentionally. Years ago fell for someone big time then through various factors we never spoke for a while. Odd texts here and there . This went on for a while then a year or two of silence then they'd pop up again . Both guilty of it I guess . we'd very occasionally meet up and there was always a chemistry there but then would be back to the odd texts. Horrible feeling really . Never knowing where you stand . Now though we just dont talk at all numbers deleted and blocked on here . Sometimes you just need to cut your loses and admit if it was going to happen it would have by now This happens a lot but its the radio silence when uve met and gotten on really well that I dont understand. If someone decides they no longer want to meet with someone then at least tell them instead of them wondering what they have done wrong . Yeah your bang on ! Can be very frustrating if you allow it to annoy you . At first was totally devastated but love can do that . It is the wondering why that gets you . P.s - can remember you from previous profiles. Glad your still around ![]() ![]() Hi & thank you Xx | |||
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"Yeah I think I've had this and also think I've did it albeit unintentionally. Years ago fell for someone big time then through various factors we never spoke for a while. Odd texts here and there . This went on for a while then a year or two of silence then they'd pop up again . Both guilty of it I guess . we'd very occasionally meet up and there was always a chemistry there but then would be back to the odd texts. Horrible feeling really . Never knowing where you stand . Now though we just dont talk at all numbers deleted and blocked on here . Sometimes you just need to cut your loses and admit if it was going to happen it would have by now This happens a lot but its the radio silence when uve met and gotten on really well that I dont understand. If someone decides they no longer want to meet with someone then at least tell them instead of them wondering what they have done wrong ." Yeah the ghosting is a nightmare. Just be nice to know if you have said or done something they didnt like or just if they have decided you are not for them. Does give your self confidence a wee hit but its their loss. | |||
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"Get this all the time, think most guys do tbf " Us women get it too | |||
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"Get this all the time, think most guys do tbf Us women get it too " Not very fair on anyone having them hanging ive met some really nice folk on here, and believed it may go further going by spomen word but alas left hanging high n dry lol | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? No because I’m not a cunt and have respect for other people." Awesome reply. ![]() | |||
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"I have loads of people I chat to...and both of us know I'm never going to meet/fuck them Honesty is best policy .. Although... found out that the term for keeping back up plan options.... is called.. Mermaiding Love it!!!! " I've always wanted to be a mermaid | |||
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"Anyone done this or experienced this? Keeping someone going in the back ground that you probably have no intention of getting together with but you know they are keen on you - keep the lines of communication going every now n then with a wee text or message and dont want to see them meeting anyone else? " If OP is doing this then she should should refer to her other Forum post called Thanks But No Thanks... This may be a 'sellers market' sex site, but we're dealing with human emotions here. | |||
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"IMHO I think alot and I mean alot of women on here who get the chance to meet a guy on here would not have the opportunity out with this site. So having someone on the back burner is quite a Dick Thing to do. The ratio of women to men on this site the percentage of women is higher. Having someone on the back burner is basically stringing someone along. Not very nice imho. " More fool the guy who is prepared to sit on the back burner....smacks of desperation. | |||
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"IMHO I think alot and I mean alot of women on here who get the chance to meet a guy on here would not have the opportunity out with this site. So having someone on the back burner is quite a Dick Thing to do. The ratio of women to men on this site the percentage of women is higher. Having someone on the back burner is basically stringing someone along. Not very nice imho. More fool the guy who is prepared to sit on the back burner....smacks of desperation." If I sent a message to the women and she got back to me then never spoke to me for weeks and all of a sudden sent me a message of politely tell her to do one ![]() | |||
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"I have loads of people I chat to...and both of us know I'm never going to meet/fuck them Honesty is best policy .. Although... found out that the term for keeping back up plan options.... is called.. Mermaiding Love it!!!! " Every day really is a school day especially on here ![]() | |||
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"IMHO I think alot and I mean alot of women on here who get the chance to meet a guy on here would not have the opportunity out with this site. So having someone on the back burner is quite a Dick Thing to do. The ratio of women to men on this site the percentage of women is higher. Having someone on the back burner is basically stringing someone along. Not very nice imho. More fool the guy who is prepared to sit on the back burner....smacks of desperation." Or woman | |||
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"IMHO I think alot and I mean alot of women on here who get the chance to meet a guy on here would not have the opportunity out with this site. So having someone on the back burner is quite a Dick Thing to do. The ratio of women to men on this site the percentage of women is higher. Having someone on the back burner is basically stringing someone along. Not very nice imho. More fool the guy who is prepared to sit on the back burner....smacks of desperation. Or woman " I presumed you were talking about guys seeing as you were the OP and you're straight. | |||
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"IMHO I think alot and I mean alot of women on here who get the chance to meet a guy on here would not have the opportunity out with this site. So having someone on the back burner is quite a Dick Thing to do. The ratio of women to men on this site the percentage of women is higher. Having someone on the back burner is basically stringing someone along. Not very nice imho. More fool the guy who is prepared to sit on the back burner....smacks of desperation. Or woman I presumed you were talking about guys seeing as you were the OP and you're straight." Oh i think both sexes may be guilty of it but may be more a guy thing to do | |||
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