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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why am I having no sucsess on here not looking for anything drastic. I'm honest and respectful when I message folk. Any tips folks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you were on as part of a couple did the female half shag very guy on the site or was she selective. Your a single guy now so you don't have the assistance of a female half to get you couples meets or even other single lady bi lady meets. It's all on you now dude. Not as easy as what you thought ehh ?.

The reality is you got to sell yourself now , good luck though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd change your profile picture for a start. The women you speak to arent gonna want to see your dick being sucked by another girl. A little hint....they wont want to see your dick at all just now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No she did not but she or I responded to almost every person who took the time to send us a respectful message. Not the fancy a fuck ones. Cheers buddy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd change your profile picture for a start. The women you speak to arent gonna want to see your dick being sucked by another girl. A little hint....they wont want to see your dick at all just now."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fair comment.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I'd change your profile picture for a start. The women you speak to arent gonna want to see your dick being sucked by another girl. A little hint....they wont want to see your dick at all just now."

Totally agree. That would be a big turn off for me.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"No she did not but she or I responded to almost every person who took the time to send us a respectful message. Not the fancy a fuck ones. Cheers buddy. "

Couples do not get as many messages as singles and there are 2 of you to respond instead of one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Profile picture now changed, I get that but it take less than a minute to say not interested. That's all I ask. Especially when we have exchanged messages the then get blanked is rather annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a no reply as a no thanks.

Yes it's a bit ignorant but it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do, be nice to get a reply tho it's just ignorance

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By *astEndGuyGLAMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why am I having no sucsess on here not looking for anything drastic. I'm honest and respectful when I message folk. Any tips folks? "

I am asking myself the same questions...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice legs

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Nice legs "

Agreed and love your user name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice legs

Agreed and love your user name."

Was thinking that myself....£ for a pound....sounds like a bargain!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like your post might of worked

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By *evilsAdvocate94Woman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I used to reply to every message, but half the time it gets a response of “ah why not?” Or abuse or a “if you change your mind” so I stopped sometimes if it’s a very well constructed, read my profile (usually can tell because there is some mention of something on profile) put some thought into kind of introduction, then I’ll maybe reply even if it’s just to say thanks but no thanks. But I have to admit a lot of time I don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to see dick pics.

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By *amaraBeaverbankWoman
over a year ago

Benidorm Spain

Exactly! If you reply, at least 75% seem to take that as an opportunity to try and change your mind. I’m the same as you, where if someone has read my profile, they will at least get thanks but no thanks message.

I don’t “like” not replying as it does seem to me, bad manners, but as I can’t be faffed with the ensuing messages (and some are downright mental when refused) so I just delete now


"I used to reply to every message, but half the time it gets a response of “ah why not?” Or abuse or a “if you change your mind” so I stopped sometimes if it’s a very well constructed, read my profile (usually can tell because there is some mention of something on profile) put some thought into kind of introduction, then I’ll maybe reply even if it’s just to say thanks but no thanks. But I have to admit a lot of time I don’t. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why am I having no sucsess on here not looking for anything drastic. I'm honest and respectful when I message folk. Any tips folks? "

You’ve had some good advice OP and been open to it so well done and good luck. I’d just like to underline what the ladies are saying to you in regard to reading profiles, it really will save you time and frustration if you make sure you fit what the person you mail is looking for. Secondly, very much agree with the ladies on a non response being a no thank you. Not only does the site stipulate you SHOULD take it as that, it could be full time job for females saying no thanks to messages and then the spin off responses generated. Try and understand that from the ladies point of view. I now have single guys blocked in part for that reason. Happing fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice legs "
thanks taken a lot of work to get there X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks folks I do understand you ladies/couples must have a lot of D*icks who try to change your mind. I always say when sending a face pic if not interested no offence will be taken, just let me know and happy swinging. Thanks for the replys all advice taken on board.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Exactly! If you reply, at least 75% seem to take that as an opportunity to try and change your mind. I’m the same as you, where if someone has read my profile, they will at least get thanks but no thanks message.

I don’t “like” not replying as it does seem to me, bad manners, but as I can’t be faffed with the ensuing messages (and some are downright mental when refused) so I just delete now

I used to reply to every message, but half the time it gets a response of “ah why not?” Or abuse or a “if you change your mind” so I stopped sometimes if it’s a very well constructed, read my profile (usually can tell because there is some mention of something on profile) put some thought into kind of introduction, then I’ll maybe reply even if it’s just to say thanks but no thanks. But I have to admit a lot of time I don’t. "
I totally get that I do understand. Just like folk to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks folks I do understand you ladies/couples must have a lot of D*icks who try to change your mind. I always say when sending a face pic if not interested no offence will be taken, just let me know and happy swinging. Thanks for the replys all advice taken on board. "

Hate to be pedantic (well not really lol) just to underline what you’re saying there “just let me know”. People are not obliged to answer you, nor is it bad manners, it’s what the site rules stipulate xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's bad manners and outright rude imo. I never send face pics until I've had a decent conversation with someone.

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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago

Anstruther

Your taking on advice your trying 2 go to socials u could also try clubs u seem to be doing things right I haven't read your profile but that's always somewhere 2 look also shrug off the no replys and just keep going and hopefully you will meet someone who wants to met regularly if that's what you are after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's bad manners and outright rude imo. I never send face pics until I've had a decent conversation with someone. "

Would you prefer if people replied to say that they don't like your face so don't want to chat anymore?

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"I do, be nice to get a reply tho it's just ignorance "

No it isn't, as it clearly states in the FAQs.

A couple of reasons why people don't reply to messages are because they get so many that answering all would require a PA, or because after declining they then get repeatedly messaged asking why they're not interested. No one wants to open up a dialogue if they then need to add someone to the block list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s bad manners not to reply.

Heck I don’t reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through the post....

So why reply to anyone who doesn’t interest me?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your taking on advice your trying 2 go to socials u could also try clubs u seem to be doing things right I haven't read your profile but that's always somewhere 2 look also shrug off the no replys and just keep going and hopefully you will meet someone who wants to met regularly if that's what you are after "
thanks I don't mind no reply from someone I've just messaged it's the ones that have been chatting for a while ask for face pics then don't reply. I've no issue with someone not being interested it's the not saying I find rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's bad manners and outright rude imo. I never send face pics until I've had a decent conversation with someone.

Would you prefer if people replied to say that they don't like your face so don't want to chat anymore?"
100% would prefer I've said it to people myself and have no issue getting that in return. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do, be nice to get a reply tho it's just ignorance

No it isn't, as it clearly states in the FAQs.

A couple of reasons why people don't reply to messages are because they get so many that answering all would require a PA, or because after declining they then get repeatedly messaged asking why they're not interested. No one wants to open up a dialogue if they then need to add someone to the block list. "
I'm. Not talking about one off messages it's when you have had dialog with folk then send a face picture and don't reply. I don't mind if they are not interested just sorry not what I'm looking for would be nice. On another note hope everyone's having fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s bad manners not to reply.

Heck I don’t reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through the post....

So why reply to anyone who doesn’t interest me? "
a lot of people missing the point here if I message and get no reply that's fine. I take that as thanks but no thanks. When you have sent numerous messages they ask for face pictures you send them and get no reply that's when I find it rude not to get a no thanks message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s bad manners not to reply.

Heck I don’t reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through the post....

So why reply to anyone who doesn’t interest me? a lot of people missing the point here if I message and get no reply that's fine. I take that as thanks but no thanks. When you have sent numerous messages they ask for face pictures you send them and get no reply that's when I find it rude not to get a no thanks message. "
it simply means your aren't there type

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"I don’t think it’s bad manners not to reply.

Heck I don’t reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through the post....

So why reply to anyone who doesn’t interest me? a lot of people missing the point here if I message and get no reply that's fine. I take that as thanks but no thanks. When you have sent numerous messages they ask for face pictures you send them and get no reply that's when I find it rude not to get a no thanks message. "

It’s annoying but don’t sweat the small stuff on here x

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over a year ago

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"I do, be nice to get a reply tho it's just ignorance

No it isn't, as it clearly states in the FAQs.

A couple of reasons why people don't reply to messages are because they get so many that answering all would require a PA, or because after declining they then get repeatedly messaged asking why they're not interested. No one wants to open up a dialogue if they then need to add someone to the block list.

I'm. Not talking about one off messages it's when you have had dialog with folk then send a face picture and don't reply. I don't mind if they are not interested just sorry not what I'm looking for would be nice. On another note hope everyone's having fun "

Your first posts were about initial messages, which was what I was replying to. You later commented about being blown off after talking to people.

I agree with that point, if you are having a dialogue with someone and are not interested in taking it further, you should say so. I have done that, a few times I've then been asked why I'm not interested. I've even had one guy try to throw his mrs under the bus by asking which one of them was putting me off (it was both of them), but I don't reply to those as I don't need to explain myself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s bad manners not to reply.

Heck I don’t reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through the post....

So why reply to anyone who doesn’t interest me? a lot of people missing the point here if I message and get no reply that's fine. I take that as thanks but no thanks. When you have sent numerous messages they ask for face pictures you send them and get no reply that's when I find it rude not to get a no thanks message.

It’s annoying but don’t sweat the small stuff on here x"
no I don't just wanted some tips/advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do, be nice to get a reply tho it's just ignorance

No it isn't, as it clearly states in the FAQs.

A couple of reasons why people don't reply to messages are because they get so many that answering all would require a PA, or because after declining they then get repeatedly messaged asking why they're not interested. No one wants to open up a dialogue if they then need to add someone to the block list.

I'm. Not talking about one off messages it's when you have had dialog with folk then send a face picture and don't reply. I don't mind if they are not interested just sorry not what I'm looking for would be nice. On another note hope everyone's having fun

Your first posts were about initial messages, which was what I was replying to. You later commented about being blown off after talking to people.

I agree with that point, if you are having a dialogue with someone and are not interested in taking it further, you should say so. I have done that, a few times I've then been asked why I'm not interested. I've even had one guy try to throw his mrs under the bus by asking which one of them was putting me off (it was both of them), but I don't reply to those as I don't need to explain myself. "
no I get how the point has been confused. Sorry for that. I respect everyone's choices and hope we all find fun happy swinging

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"I don’t think it’s bad manners not to reply.

Heck I don’t reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through the post....

So why reply to anyone who doesn’t interest me? a lot of people missing the point here if I message and get no reply that's fine. I take that as thanks but no thanks. When you have sent numerous messages they ask for face pictures you send them and get no reply that's when I find it rude not to get a no thanks message.

It’s annoying but don’t sweat the small stuff on here x no I don't just wanted some tips/advice

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There is really no advice folk can give as to why people stop conversing after a while. Maybe it wasn’t your pic that put them off, maybe it was something you said, maybe they had no intention of ever meeting, maybe the woman was really a bloke ... you will probably never know. There are lots of folk that do reply, there will no doubt be lots that are interested in meeting up ... these are the people to concentrate on. Good Luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s bad manners not to reply.

Heck I don’t reply to every piece of junk mail that comes through the post....

So why reply to anyone who doesn’t interest me? a lot of people missing the point here if I message and get no reply that's fine. I take that as thanks but no thanks. When you have sent numerous messages they ask for face pictures you send them and get no reply that's when I find it rude not to get a no thanks message.

It’s annoying but don’t sweat the small stuff on here x no I don't just wanted some tips/advice

There is really no advice folk can give as to why people stop conversing after a while. Maybe it wasn’t your pic that put them off, maybe it was something you said, maybe they had no intention of ever meeting, maybe the woman was really a bloke ... you will probably never know. There are lots of folk that do reply, there will no doubt be lots that are interested in meeting up ... these are the people to concentrate on. Good Luck x"
thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the name of the game and just take no reply as a polite no thanks.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Best tip try a shovelling post in the forums

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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago

Anstruther


"Your taking on advice your trying 2 go to socials u could also try clubs u seem to be doing things right I haven't read your profile but that's always somewhere 2 look also shrug off the no replys and just keep going and hopefully you will meet someone who wants to met regularly if that's what you are after thanks I don't mind no reply from someone I've just messaged it's the ones that have been chatting for a while ask for face pics then don't reply. I've no issue with someone not being interested it's the not saying I find rude. "

Sometimes u have 2 accept your face wont suit what they are attracted too unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your taking on advice your trying 2 go to socials u could also try clubs u seem to be doing things right I haven't read your profile but that's always somewhere 2 look also shrug off the no replys and just keep going and hopefully you will meet someone who wants to met regularly if that's what you are after thanks I don't mind no reply from someone I've just messaged it's the ones that have been chatting for a while ask for face pics then don't reply. I've no issue with someone not being interested it's the not saying I find rude.

Sometimes u have 2 accept your face wont suit what they are attracted too unfortunately "
I 100% accept that.

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By *lair101TV/TS
over a year ago

Aberdeen, westhill


"I do, be nice to get a reply tho it's just ignorance

No it isn't, as it clearly states in the FAQs.

A couple of reasons why people don't reply to messages are because they get so many that answering all would require a PA, or because after declining they then get repeatedly messaged asking why they're not interested. No one wants to open up a dialogue if they then need to add someone to the block list. "

Correct x

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Perhaps you’ve not been on the receiving end of abusive messages after sending a ‘sorry not my type’ after being sent a face pic. All of a sudden the nice chat turns in to an abusive rant because you’ve turned someone down.

Can’t comment on your profile as it’s now hidden.

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