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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I have a friend.. he likes the look of a lady from Fab by her pictures on show and a very articulate profile bio, however, reading her profile, as he always does with all profiles, she requests a face picture with any initial message. Due to the nature of his job he cannot send a face picture and for this reason would not ask for one in return either. He would happily meet her dependant on how any conversations may progress should he ever get the chance and see from there if there is a mutual attraction. If no mutual attraction then it's still only been an hour of your time for a coffee that's been lost.

So does he, message her and explain but obviously breaking the first rule of Fab, reading a profile.

Not message as he encloses no face picture

Send a wink , where she will probably ignore as her profile does not mention sending a wink.

My friend is looking for suggestions from ladies from Fab who prefer to have face pics in the first message and whether compromises are ever made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does your friend not ask for advice in the forum

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By *ittle_missknowitallWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

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By *rEyeMan
over a year ago

Hamilton

Why hide? Meant to be honest folk on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who meets without seeing what the person looks like?

Not a chance!.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suggest to your friend that he invents a better excuse cos saying it's due to the nature of his job is rather lame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn’t blind date!

We all have jobs (well most of us)

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By *rEyeMan
over a year ago

Hamilton

Must be a secret job as well.

Nothing wrong with being careful to many idiots on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who meets without seeing what the person looks like?

Not a chance!."

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Personally I'd never send a face picture with a first message - I feel the need to build up a good rapport and some trust first - but I have had long conversations with people who did request one straight off. I've learnt people don't always stick rigidly to their terms and conditions. I'd never expect anyone to meet me without having seen my face, though.

If your friend trusts someone enough to meet them face-to-face, then surely he should trust them enough with a picture. Maybe he should test the water explaining that he doesn't do face pictures straight off - don't use the rather lame, job excuse, though - and attempt to woo her with his words. What's the worst that could happen? If she doesn't reply, he'll know why, and will realise she's not for him despite her CV looking impressive.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Is your friend Santa Claus

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By *xybumWoman
over a year ago

East Kilbride

No compromise, face pic in first few messages or I’m not interested... not really any excuses good enough for me I’m afraid, not wasting any of my time on someone I’m not attracted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you really like the look of this particular lady you could always make an exception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't send a face pic in the first message. Just the same as I wouldn't expect a woman to send me her face pic in the first message. I think any woman demanding a face pic in the first message is.... probably shouldn't say any more. Cant be annoyed with the hate mail. lol.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Attach your mug shot, or don't message. 1 of these 2 would be "your friend's' options, so up to him to decide which one it's going to be x

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

No one and I repeat no one has a job that they can't be on a adult site, people have hid behind that shit excuse for too long on here

They might not want it to be common knowledge but at some point in time a facepic should be sent, I wouldn't even goto a party without seeing pics of most attending but maybe that's just me

John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one and I repeat no one has a job that they can't be on a adult site, people have hid behind that shit excuse for too long on here

They might not want it to be common knowledge but at some point in time a facepic should be sent, I wouldn't even goto a party without seeing pics of most attending but maybe that's just me

John "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one and I repeat no one has a job that they can't be on a adult site, people have hid behind that shit excuse for too long on here

They might not want it to be common knowledge but at some point in time a facepic should be sent, I wouldn't even goto a party without seeing pics of most attending but maybe that's just me

John "

Never a good night when you walk in and it's like you've stepped into the bar in Star Wars

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By *lair101TV/TS
over a year ago

Aberdeen, westhill


"No compromise, face pic in first few messages or I’m not interested... not really any excuses good enough for me I’m afraid, not wasting any of my time on someone I’m not attracted to "

Agreed

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"No one and I repeat no one has a job that they can't be on a adult site, people have hid behind that shit excuse for too long on here

They might not want it to be common knowledge but at some point in time a facepic should be sent, I wouldn't even goto a party without seeing pics of most attending but maybe that's just me

John

Never a good night when you walk in and it's like you've stepped into the bar in Star Wars "

I’d love this

Dibs on the Twi’lek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one and I repeat no one has a job that they can't be on a adult site, people have hid behind that shit excuse for too long on here

They might not want it to be common knowledge but at some point in time a facepic should be sent, I wouldn't even goto a party without seeing pics of most attending but maybe that's just me

John "

Two friends chatting...

1 Alright mate how you doing.

2 No bad man, what you up to?

1 fuck all mate, fancy going to a party on saturday?

2 aye mate. Sounds good. Just send me a picture of everybody's faces first..

1 what?? Dont be ridiculous. Ya weirdo.

lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one and I repeat no one has a job that they can't be on a adult site, people have hid behind that shit excuse for too long on here

They might not want it to be common knowledge but at some point in time a facepic should be sent, I wouldn't even goto a party without seeing pics of most attending but maybe that's just me

John

Never a good night when you walk in and it's like you've stepped into the bar in Star Wars

I’d love this

Dibs on the Twi’lek"

Aye but you'd pump Yoda

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"No one and I repeat no one has a job that they can't be on a adult site, people have hid behind that shit excuse for too long on here

They might not want it to be common knowledge but at some point in time a facepic should be sent, I wouldn't even goto a party without seeing pics of most attending but maybe that's just me

John

Two friends chatting...

1 Alright mate how you doing.

2 No bad man, what you up to?

1 fuck all mate, fancy going to a party on saturday?

2 aye mate. Sounds good. Just send me a picture of everybody's faces first..

1 what?? Dont be ridiculous. Ya weirdo.

lol.

"

I'd rather be careful than go with weirdos so watch your tongue, parties with your friends are different (if you mean fab parties) as you can trust their judgements most of the time

John

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

If he meets her I'm assuming she will see his face or is that still too soon with this dead important job he has.

Is your friend Eamon Holmes from breakfast tv

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"So I have a friend.. he likes the look of a lady from Fab by her pictures on show and a very articulate profile bio, however, reading her profile, as he always does with all profiles, she requests a face picture with any initial message. Due to the nature of his job he cannot send a face picture and for this reason would not ask for one in return either. He would happily meet her dependant on how any conversations may progress should he ever get the chance and see from there if there is a mutual attraction. If no mutual attraction then it's still only been an hour of your time for a coffee that's been lost.

So does he, message her and explain but obviously breaking the first rule of Fab, reading a profile.

Not message as he encloses no face picture

Send a wink , where she will probably ignore as her profile does not mention sending a wink.

My friend is looking for suggestions from ladies from Fab who prefer to have face pics in the first message and whether compromises are ever made.

"

Surely meeting blind is even more risky !... You could be meeting a colleague or Family member for all you know so surely face pics would eliminate that from happening.

The cant share face pics due to job is not an excuse

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow


"No one and I repeat no one has a job that they can't be on a adult site, people have hid behind that shit excuse for too long on here

They might not want it to be common knowledge but at some point in time a facepic should be sent, I wouldn't even goto a party without seeing pics of most attending but maybe that's just me

John

Never a good night when you walk in and it's like you've stepped into the bar in Star Wars

I’d love this

Dibs on the Twi’lek

Aye but you'd pump Yoda "

The force is strong with this one ( no lube )

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)


"So I have a friend.. he likes the look of a lady from Fab by her pictures on show and a very articulate profile bio, however, reading her profile, as he always does with all profiles, she requests a face picture with any initial message. Due to the nature of his job he cannot send a face picture and for this reason would not ask for one in return either. He would happily meet her dependant on how any conversations may progress should he ever get the chance and see from there if there is a mutual attraction. If no mutual attraction then it's still only been an hour of your time for a coffee that's been lost.

So does he, message her and explain but obviously breaking the first rule of Fab, reading a profile.

Not message as he encloses no face picture

Send a wink , where she will probably ignore as her profile does not mention sending a wink.

My friend is looking for suggestions from ladies from Fab who prefer to have face pics in the first message and whether compromises are ever made.

Surely meeting blind is even more risky !... You could be meeting a colleague or Family member for all you know so surely face pics would eliminate that from happening.

The cant share face pics due to job is not an excuse "

Mum

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"So I have a friend.. he likes the look of a lady from Fab by her pictures on show and a very articulate profile bio, however, reading her profile, as he always does with all profiles, she requests a face picture with any initial message. Due to the nature of his job he cannot send a face picture and for this reason would not ask for one in return either. He would happily meet her dependant on how any conversations may progress should he ever get the chance and see from there if there is a mutual attraction. If no mutual attraction then it's still only been an hour of your time for a coffee that's been lost.

So does he, message her and explain but obviously breaking the first rule of Fab, reading a profile.

Not message as he encloses no face picture

Send a wink , where she will probably ignore as her profile does not mention sending a wink.

My friend is looking for suggestions from ladies from Fab who prefer to have face pics in the first message and whether compromises are ever made.

Surely meeting blind is even more risky !... You could be meeting a colleague or Family member for all you know so surely face pics would eliminate that from happening.

The cant share face pics due to job is not an excuse

Mum"

see what I mean son

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

Nah I get that some people genuinely can't share facepics due to a job. Working with kids as a teacher or youth worker you can't have stuff like that up there publicaly, even someone who has a certain role in an organisation where they speak or get recorded, you're not allowed this type of stuff. But unfortunately it's a risk you got to take if you want to get the girl. I request facepics because I don't want to waste my time, if someone doesn't want to do it on fab I suggest adding me on Snapchat to just confirm who you are.

Most of the time the guys who don't want to send facepics on here arent my type..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See iv always been told if your attending a private party it's not the done thing to ask who else is going lol..needless to say why myself n hubby dont do parties

Imagine walking in 1st 5 mins there all munters how do you make the excuse to leave!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No compromise, face pic in first few messages or I’m not interested... not really any excuses good enough for me I’m afraid, not wasting any of my time on someone I’m not attracted to "

What this lady a said.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"See iv always been told if your attending a private party it's not the done thing to ask who else is going lol..needless to say why myself n hubby dont do parties

Imagine walking in 1st 5 mins there all munters how do you make the excuse to leave!! "

Pretend you've just had a call from home saying there's a problem ..sorry but you need to head back sharp

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"See iv always been told if your attending a private party it's not the done thing to ask who else is going lol..needless to say why myself n hubby dont do parties

Imagine walking in 1st 5 mins there all munters how do you make the excuse to leave!!

Pretend you've just had a call from home saying there's a problem ..sorry but you need to head back sharp "

For the record over the years ..Never used this excuse lol honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's our stuck in an odd cpls living room get out of jail card

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"That's our stuck in an odd cpls living room get out of jail card "

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"See iv always been told if your attending a private party it's not the done thing to ask who else is going lol..needless to say why myself n hubby dont do parties

Imagine walking in 1st 5 mins there all munters how do you make the excuse to leave!!

Pretend you've just had a call from home saying there's a problem ..sorry but you need to head back sharp

For the record over the years ..Never used this excuse lol honest "

Half an hour later you bump into most of them again in CJs

John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No compromise, face pic in first few messages or I’m not interested... not really any excuses good enough for me I’m afraid, not wasting any of my time on someone I’m not attracted to "

I know two people, one of whom is still on here, who have been threatened with blackm*il or downright nastiness for no reason, with threats of pics shared in the local community. The law is of course on your side, but it's something that's always in the back of my mind. If someone is not interested in compromising, or protecting their own discretion, they can fuck off. Their loss

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Anyway back to the OP

Having been on fab since day 1 practically I've found most ladies will not meet blind why would they when there are soo many guys to choose from who don't have a problem sending a face pic ..as for the "can't send because of job" I see that as a bullsh*t cop out (Just my opinion)..we all have jobs ..by all means don't send with first message ..I never have (apart from face pic friday) but you need to be prepared to take a chance at some point of chatting if you want to have a chance of being remotely successful

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyway back to the OP

Having been on fab since day 1 practically I've found most ladies will not meet blind why would they when there are soo many guys to choose from who don't have a problem sending a face pic ..as for the "can't send because of job" I see that as a bullsh*t cop out (Just my opinion)..we all have jobs ..by all means don't send with first message ..I never have (apart from face pic friday) but you need to be prepared to take a chance at some point of chatting if you want to have a chance of being remotely successful "

Thx Bunkers for keeping the thread on point.

Thx for all the advice from everyone, sounds like my 'friend' is screwed without a face pic haha.

He said he likes his women playing hard to get anyway.

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over a year ago

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"See iv always been told if your attending a private party it's not the done thing to ask who else is going lol..needless to say why myself n hubby dont do parties

Imagine walking in 1st 5 mins there all munters how do you make the excuse to leave!! "

I always ask

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

This is not blind date! Nobody in their right mind would meet someone without sending a face pic. We all have jobs, we all have family/friends, we are all on here .... maybe this is not the place for your friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See iv always been told if your attending a private party it's not the done thing to ask who else is going lol..needless to say why myself n hubby dont do parties

Imagine walking in 1st 5 mins there all munters how do you make the excuse to leave!! "

"Awrite Quasi! Long time no see mate...!"

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Anyway back to the OP

Having been on fab since day 1 practically I've found most ladies will not meet blind why would they when there are soo many guys to choose from who don't have a problem sending a face pic ..as for the "can't send because of job" I see that as a bullsh*t cop out (Just my opinion)..we all have jobs ..by all means don't send with first message ..I never have (apart from face pic friday) but you need to be prepared to take a chance at some point of chatting if you want to have a chance of being remotely successful

Thx Bunkers for keeping the thread on point.

Thx for all the advice from everyone, sounds like my 'friend' is screwed without a face pic haha.

He said he likes his women playing hard to get anyway. "

He could always send a sketch or I look like “Henry Cavill” on a bad day type of thing?

Maybe not. But I sprinkle jest on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the message is articulate enough and the "friend" has read her bio and makes reference to it she may well be curious, failing that is she goes to socials then that's another way to. Potentially get that initial conversation going by attending the same ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who meets without seeing what the person looks like?

Not a chance!."

Me

Because I refuse flat out to send pics so I'd be a hypocrite to ask for any

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the message is articulate enough and the "friend" has read her bio and makes reference to it she may well be curious, failing that is she goes to socials then that's another way to. Potentially get that initial conversation going by attending the same ones "

A decent message goes along way. Then after chat you might work on the no pic thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ooo ooh, the tide is turning, maybe there's hope for my friend yet.

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By *illy7239Man
over a year ago

Stenhousemuir


"No one and I repeat no one has a job that they can't be on a adult site, people have hid behind that shit excuse for too long on here

They might not want it to be common knowledge but at some point in time a facepic should be sent, I wouldn't even goto a party without seeing pics of most attending but maybe that's just me

John "

this

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By *aughtyYorkGentMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Nah I get that some people genuinely can't share facepics due to a job. Working with kids as a teacher or youth worker you can't have stuff like that up there publicaly, even someone who has a certain role in an organisation where they speak or get recorded, you're not allowed this type of stuff. But unfortunately it's a risk you got to take if you want to get the girl. I request facepics because I don't want to waste my time, if someone doesn't want to do it on fab I suggest adding me on Snapchat to just confirm who you are.

Most of the time the guys who don't want to send facepics on here arent my type.."

Teachers can't send someone a face picture? How do they ever get passports or driving licenses?

I'd never include nudity in the same picture as my face, so why does it matter?

The only thing I don't like is the site watermark on my face picture, which links an entirely innocuous image to adult content.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ooo ooh, the tide is turning, maybe there's hope for my friend yet.

"

Are you a celebrity?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be that cagey about pics I'd say your more attached than work ethics. Met all sorts on here. Doctors nurses teachers lawyers barristers cleaners your average Joe and all sent pics, no one in my eyes can use work as an excuse. If it's that bad why be here

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By *uzzy-LogicMan
over a year ago

Fochabers

Not sending face picture before a meet would almost always be a non started for me; the work excuse is rubbish, I've had enhanced disclosure and my activities on swingers sites didn't come up at any point.

Only time I'd do it would be if a good friend set it up as a blind date.

I'd say your friend would be better trying clubs

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By *uzzy-LogicMan
over a year ago

Fochabers

Just realised that didn't answer the original post, he could message her explaining that he isn't comfortable sending a face picture due to work and see if she thinks thats a good enough reason or he could just walk away and not contact her.

No harm in saying hello but don't be an ass if it just gets deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, I wouldn't meet anyone without them seeing my face, never mind me seeing theirs. I'd hate to turn up and someone show that look of disappointment because I'm not what they expected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant share a face pic as I am actualy Brad Pitt in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant share my face pic because I'm actually tiger woods. I already have a wife and 18 girlfriends.. dont want anyone going public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nah I get that some people genuinely can't share facepics due to a job. Working with kids as a teacher or youth worker you can't have stuff like that up there publicaly, even someone who has a certain role in an organisation where they speak or get recorded, you're not allowed this type of stuff. But unfortunately it's a risk you got to take if you want to get the girl. I request facepics because I don't want to waste my time, if someone doesn't want to do it on fab I suggest adding me on Snapchat to just confirm who you are.

Most of the time the guys who don't want to send facepics on here arent my type..

Teachers can't send someone a face picture? How do they ever get passports or driving licenses?

I'd never include nudity in the same picture as my face, so why does it matter?

The only thing I don't like is the site watermark on my face picture, which links an entirely innocuous image to adult content."

Yup I've said this before as well about the watermark, folk can screenshot as many WhatsApp or kik convoys as they like and pics on there mean nothing unless you've got your face and bits out together but on here that Mark is there, even so the best way is just to say no. I totally respect folks choices for refusing to send pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was nice and single many years ago I met a guy and we were together 2half years and I had a very high profile job in a seriously male dominated environment, roll on us splitting up and threats to send my work compromising pics videos etc, guaranteed any promotions or anything I got wouldn't be accounted for my hard work, ambition and Intellengence! Nope I'd be another one who screwed her way up! After all I mustn't have any morals to be on a site like this!! Yes that's how people think Anyhow the police dealt with him, but as they say once bitten twice shy. I think it's incredibly brave of folk to not care but it's also incredibly naive to think this sort of thing wouldn't affect anyone's personal and professional lives

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