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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Only been on a little while and obviously like a kid in a sweet shop I'm nosing about and messaging some tasty profiles. Not sure if the site delivers your mail quickly or it's just buried when each woman gets bombarded with mail. I'm polite so if a reply is "not for me happy fabbing" or something like that then heyho that's cool were not for everyone but when you check your sent mail and 80% of messages haven't been read (not having a go ladies you get bombarded with 100's) it's difficult to know whether that person likes you or not interested and then the quandary is do you wink lol or mail again? I personally don't mail again but even though it's alot of work for you ladies but if all my sent mails were read and deleted I'd know for certain lol I reckon alot of guys will keep trying but I wonder if they saw it was deleted that they wouldn't pester??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to take a no reply as a no thank you.

I tend to bulk delete.

I don't reply because sometimes it leads to further messages or abuse.

As for sending another message, it's your call.. Personally they can get a bit annoying if someone keeps doing it but I think a 2nd one is maybe OK but more is definitely not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think if the sent mail was read or just deleted I'd know it had been received and its a "not for me" but when you scroll down and your messages haven't been read or deleted then it's difficult to know I guess. Personally if my message is read and no reply I take that as a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they like the look or sound of you, they'll reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above.

I'd say no reply take it as a no thanks.

Read or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if the sent mail was read or just deleted I'd know it had been received and its a "not for me" but when you scroll down and your messages haven't been read or deleted then it's difficult to know I guess. Personally if my message is read and no reply I take that as a no thanks "

I don't always read my messages when I'm on line.. Currently I have over 250 unread and they will likely be deleted eventually. It means the message or profile (I click on the profile before I read a message) hasn't grabbed my attention as I scroll so don't open the message.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Deffo my view was though that you ladies really get bombarded with mail so it's hard to sort through and messages get missed and not read

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think if the sent mail was read or just deleted I'd know it had been received and its a "not for me" but when you scroll down and your messages haven't been read or deleted then it's difficult to know I guess. Personally if my message is read and no reply I take that as a no thanks

I don't always read my messages when I'm on line.. Currently I have over 250 unread and they will likely be deleted eventually. It means the message or profile (I click on the profile before I read a message) hasn't grabbed my attention as I scroll so don't open the message.

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ah righto I get your drift

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By *anny77Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I write “hey” to everyone. They love that

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Only been on a little while and obviously like a kid in a sweet shop I'm nosing about and messaging some tasty profiles. Not sure if the site delivers your mail quickly or it's just buried when each woman gets bombarded with mail. I'm polite so if a reply is "not for me happy fabbing" or something like that then heyho that's cool were not for everyone but when you check your sent mail and 80% of messages haven't been read (not having a go ladies you get bombarded with 100's) it's difficult to know whether that person likes you or not interested and then the quandary is do you wink lol or mail again? I personally don't mail again but even though it's alot of work for you ladies but if all my sent mails were read and deleted I'd know for certain lol I reckon alot of guys will keep trying but I wonder if they saw it was deleted that they wouldn't pester?? "
id take it as a not interested like a deleted email.

If they were interested they have read and replied .

Many women bulk delete their emails

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By *atex and KinkCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Only been on a little while and obviously like a kid in a sweet shop I'm nosing about and messaging some tasty profiles. Not sure if the site delivers your mail quickly or it's just buried when each woman gets bombarded with mail. I'm polite so if a reply is "not for me happy fabbing" or something like that then heyho that's cool were not for everyone but when you check your sent mail and 80% of messages haven't been read (not having a go ladies you get bombarded with 100's) it's difficult to know whether that person likes you or not interested and then the quandary is do you wink lol or mail again? I personally don't mail again but even though it's alot of work for you ladies but if all my sent mails were read and deleted I'd know for certain lol I reckon alot of guys will keep trying but I wonder if they saw it was deleted that they wouldn't pester?? "

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I usually reply to most messages but due to being busy and ill I wasn’t on Fab for a couple of days although I don’t think I was logged out and think someone blocked me because I didn’t respond for a couple of days.

Everyone has their own timescales I guess but some consideration should apply too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to new folk who've messaged me if I can but being perfectly honest it's not no1 on my list of priorities. I come on here for a bit of fun and diversion from real life....If I have a to do list and 97 unread messages to reply to it kinda detracts from that. Am perfectly aware that this can be perceived as me being rude but c'est la vie.

I'm more likely to reply to someone I've seen on the forum or chat room as I've possibly had an insight into their character.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to reply to others as I see it they took the time to write at least even if they are unsure what to write or not my type of person it’s only polite and takes seconds .As for deleting with not replying like ladies do I find it arrogant l turn a negative into a positive and maybe I dodge a bullet and not worth my while and move on .

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

I've seen this a few times, try not to worry about sent items too much

You could message again if you want, I wouldn't personally

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By *teve_it_aloneMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"I reply to new folk who've messaged me if I can but being perfectly honest it's not no1 on my list of priorities. I come on here for a bit of fun and diversion from real life....If I have a to do list and 97 unread messages to reply to it kinda detracts from that. Am perfectly aware that this can be perceived as me being rude but c'est la vie.

I'm more likely to reply to someone I've seen on the forum or chat room as I've possibly had an insight into their character."

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. People come here for fun/release/sex/perving/arguments.

Only the truly kinky and masochistic come here for admin. Keeping up with one’s unsolicited correspondence is unlikely to be a priority for many.

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