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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it really too much to ask for not to waste someone’s time...? Seriously. I’ve chatted to sooooo many guys who claim not to be timewasters and they turn out to be just that. A new prime example...chatted for 2 months with a guy...yes 2 whole bloody months only for him to turn around and say: “ I’ve been thinking about this for a wee while and don’t think I want us to meet up anymore. Just don’t want to fuck you about”. For fuuuudge sake!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well someone is allowed to change their minds.

Different if he was a no show on the night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well someone is allowed to change their minds.

Different if he was a no show on the night."

Course but two months is a long tine to be saying you want to meet then that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you said something that put him off, or he just got bored

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why thank you ya’ll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it really too much to ask for not to waste someone’s time...? Seriously. I’ve chatted to sooooo many guys who claim not to be timewasters and they turn out to be just that. A new prime example...chatted for 2 months with a guy...yes 2 whole bloody months only for him to turn around and say: “ I’ve been thinking about this for a wee while and don’t think I want us to meet up anymore. Just don’t want to fuck you about”. For fuuuudge sake!!!"
that's not time wasting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've changed my mind about people plenty times.

He was honest and told you. I don't see that as time-wasting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe you said something that put him off, or he just got bored "

That's what I thought. May sound fickle but one throw away statement or off the cuff remark can make me go right off someone.

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By *ering SeaMan
over a year ago

Penicuik

Could be he’s got a Mrs and guilt kicked in.

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By *ee-YinWoman
over a year ago

nr bathgate


"Is it really too much to ask for not to waste someone’s time...? Seriously. I’ve chatted to sooooo many guys who claim not to be timewasters and they turn out to be just that. A new prime example...chatted for 2 months with a guy...yes 2 whole bloody months only for him to turn around and say: “ I’ve been thinking about this for a wee while and don’t think I want us to meet up anymore. Just don’t want to fuck you about”. For fuuuudge sake!!!

that's not time wasting. "

That most certainly is time wasting!!!

You just started a tread about being blocked for no reason, I will block people I'm not interested in so as not to waste someone's time.

I completely agree with the op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it really too much to ask for not to waste someone’s time...? Seriously. I’ve chatted to sooooo many guys who claim not to be timewasters and they turn out to be just that. A new prime example...chatted for 2 months with a guy...yes 2 whole bloody months only for him to turn around and say: “ I’ve been thinking about this for a wee while and don’t think I want us to meet up anymore. Just don’t want to fuck you about”. For fuuuudge sake!!!

that's not time wasting.

That most certainly is time wasting!!!

You just started a tread about being blocked for no reason, I will block people I'm not interested in so as not to waste someone's time.

I completely agree with the op. "
wow seriously that's time wasting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner..."
maybe you should of ask him to meet if it was going well. I won't of waited that length of time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...maybe you should of ask him to meet if it was going well. I won't of waited that length of time "

He was offshore !!!

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner..."

In that case, why not set yourself a time frame. Chat for two weeks and meet. If it is not happening... see ya.

Like that you are in control and won't feel cheated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...

In that case, why not set yourself a time frame. Chat for two weeks and meet. If it is not happening... see ya.

Like that you are in control and won't feel cheated.

"

Defo good idea!! but he was offshore...

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...

In that case, why not set yourself a time frame. Chat for two weeks and meet. If it is not happening... see ya.

Like that you are in control and won't feel cheated.

Defo good idea!! but he was offshore... "

Plenty more fish in the sea. Its never good when you feel you have bn messed around as time is precious to us all.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...

In that case, why not set yourself a time frame. Chat for two weeks and meet. If it is not happening... see ya.

Like that you are in control and won't feel cheated.

Defo good idea!! but he was offshore... "

Write 'offshore' off your preference list then

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...

In that case, why not set yourself a time frame. Chat for two weeks and meet. If it is not happening... see ya.

Like that you are in control and won't feel cheated.

Defo good idea!! but he was offshore...

Plenty more fish in the sea. Its never good when you feel you have bn messed around as time is precious to us all."

Thank you hun!! Yeah I’m already over that now after video calling with a stunningly gorgeous guy who I’m meeting on Monday so all is good

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...

In that case, why not set yourself a time frame. Chat for two weeks and meet. If it is not happening... see ya.

Like that you are in control and won't feel cheated.

Defo good idea!! but he was offshore...

Plenty more fish in the sea. Its never good when you feel you have bn messed around as time is precious to us all.

Thank you hun!! Yeah I’m already over that now after video calling with a stunningly gorgeous guy who I’m meeting on Monday so all is good "

I've changed my mind. I won't make Monday, now. Sorry! Xx

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"Is it really too much to ask for not to waste someone’s time...? Seriously. I’ve chatted to sooooo many guys who claim not to be timewasters and they turn out to be just that. A new prime example...chatted for 2 months with a guy...yes 2 whole bloody months only for him to turn around and say: “ I’ve been thinking about this for a wee while and don’t think I want us to meet up anymore. Just don’t want to fuck you about”. For fuuuudge sake!!!"

Sounds like you were just a wank fantasy for him while he pounded his sea pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it really too much to ask for not to waste someone’s time...? Seriously. I’ve chatted to sooooo many guys who claim not to be timewasters and they turn out to be just that. A new prime example...chatted for 2 months with a guy...yes 2 whole bloody months only for him to turn around and say: “ I’ve been thinking about this for a wee while and don’t think I want us to meet up anymore. Just don’t want to fuck you about”. For fuuuudge sake!!!

Sounds like you were just a wank fantasy for him while he pounded his sea pussy "

Haha best reply yet....

when are women gonna learn that most of these off shore guys are only interested in your dirty convo and pics whilst away from their wives.

And who goes off shore for two months anyways ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it really too much to ask for not to waste someone’s time...? Seriously. I’ve chatted to sooooo many guys who claim not to be timewasters and they turn out to be just that. A new prime example...chatted for 2 months with a guy...yes 2 whole bloody months only for him to turn around and say: “ I’ve been thinking about this for a wee while and don’t think I want us to meet up anymore. Just don’t want to fuck you about”. For fuuuudge sake!!!

Sounds like you were just a wank fantasy for him while he pounded his sea pussy

Haha best reply yet....

when are women gonna learn that most of these off shore guys are only interested in your dirty convo and pics whilst away from their wives.

And who goes off shore for two months anyways ??? "
exactly.

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By *lbie6Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I would just be happy to get a meet

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"Is it really too much to ask for not to waste someone’s time...? Seriously. I’ve chatted to sooooo many guys who claim not to be timewasters and they turn out to be just that. A new prime example...chatted for 2 months with a guy...yes 2 whole bloody months only for him to turn around and say: “ I’ve been thinking about this for a wee while and don’t think I want us to meet up anymore. Just don’t want to fuck you about”. For fuuuudge sake!!!

Sounds like you were just a wank fantasy for him while he pounded his sea pussy

Haha best reply yet....

when are women gonna learn that most of these off shore guys are only interested in your dirty convo and pics whilst away from their wives.

And who goes off shore for two months anyways ??? "

Some are offshore for 6 months, or even longer. It's not just the north sea rigs that have offshore work, some have to go a lot further away.

Anyone's allowed to change their mind at any point. At least this guy had the decency to tell you, instead of playing along and not turning up x

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

At least he was "honest" with you.

Maybe he felt you were stringing him along. Maybe the problem was you.

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross


"Is it really too much to ask for not to waste someone’s time...? Seriously. I’ve chatted to sooooo many guys who claim not to be timewasters and they turn out to be just that. A new prime example...chatted for 2 months with a guy...yes 2 whole bloody months only for him to turn around and say: “ I’ve been thinking about this for a wee while and don’t think I want us to meet up anymore. Just don’t want to fuck you about”. For fuuuudge sake!!!

Sounds like you were just a wank fantasy for him while he pounded his sea pussy

Haha best reply yet....

when are women gonna learn that most of these off shore guys are only interested in your dirty convo and pics whilst away from their wives.

And who goes off shore for two months anyways ???

Some are offshore for 6 months, or even longer. It's not just the north sea rigs that have offshore work, some have to go a lot further away.

Anyone's allowed to change their mind at any point. At least this guy had the decency to tell you, instead of playing along and not turning up x"

I agree, been "offshore" on projects for several months at a time quite often. It does happen!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...

In that case, why not set yourself a time frame. Chat for two weeks and meet. If it is not happening... see ya.

Like that you are in control and won't feel cheated.

Defo good idea!! but he was offshore...

Plenty more fish in the sea. Its never good when you feel you have bn messed around as time is precious to us all.

Thank you hun!! Yeah I’m already over that now after video calling with a stunningly gorgeous guy who I’m meeting on Monday so all is good

I've changed my mind. I won't make Monday, now. Sorry! Xx"

Funny

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know I was just feeling annoyed and disappointed after a two month build up. That will teach me to post a forum chat at 5am.

But hey ho onwards we go

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Sounds like either he has chenged his mind as he said or more likely he was just into that chat and actually has no intention of meeting. Does he have verifications from meeting others, as in genuine looking verifications?

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By *he way you moveMan
over a year ago

inverness


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...maybe you should of ask him to meet if it was going well. I won't of waited that length of time

He was offshore !!!"

I started reading this and thought give him the benefit of the doubt and that he changed his mind or what the other guy said he maybe he got fed up waiting. But when you said he was offshore I think he was taking the piss. So sounds like he was wasting your time. Offshore for two months? Isn't very likely. Maybe on a boat but then he'd have said at sea.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like either he has chenged his mind as he said or more likely he was just into that chat and actually has no intention of meeting. Does he have verifications from meeting others, as in genuine looking verifications?"

Nope none

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...maybe you should of ask him to meet if it was going well. I won't of waited that length of time

He was offshore !!!

I started reading this and thought give him the benefit of the doubt and that he changed his mind or what the other guy said he maybe he got fed up waiting. But when you said he was offshore I think he was taking the piss. So sounds like he was wasting your time. Offshore for two months? Isn't very likely. Maybe on a boat but then he'd have said at sea."

Who knows but you win some you lose some

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I know I was just feeling annoyed and disappointed after a two month build up. That will teach me to post a forum chat at 5am.

But hey ho onwards we go "

Alot of men are all talk and no action which is the reason why i never engage in sex talk or send pics to someone i have never met.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Is it really too much to ask for not to waste someone’s time...? Seriously. I’ve chatted to sooooo many guys who claim not to be timewasters and they turn out to be just that. A new prime example...chatted for 2 months with a guy...yes 2 whole bloody months only for him to turn around and say: “ I’ve been thinking about this for a wee while and don’t think I want us to meet up anymore. Just don’t want to fuck you about”. For fuuuudge sake!!!"
some people love the idea of a meet but actually doing it is a different matter .

You should appreciate the fact hes let you down at this stage rather than just standing you up which sadly happens to a lot of people .

Never assume a meet is going to happen unless you've met in person socially 1st because that way you can gage if this person is genuine about meeting you or not

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...maybe you should of ask him to meet if it was going well. I won't of waited that length of time

He was offshore !!!

I started reading this and thought give him the benefit of the doubt and that he changed his mind or what the other guy said he maybe he got fed up waiting. But when you said he was offshore I think he was taking the piss. So sounds like he was wasting your time. Offshore for two months? Isn't very likely. Maybe on a boat but then he'd have said at sea."

B used to do 10 week rotations offshore done it for years so it is perfectly plausible.

Shutdowns and commissioning projects can drag on.

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Sounds like either he has chenged his mind as he said or more likely he was just into that chat and actually has no intention of meeting. Does he have verifications from meeting others, as in genuine looking verifications?

Nope none"

I would stick to someone with verifications that you can follow to ensure they are genuine. There are so many fantasists on here that it's important to do as much as possible before getting involved in lengthy correspondence to make sure the person is actually genuine and does meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys I will defo take on board the constructive advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather someone tell me cause 99% just don't they just don't turn up and mostly never message again.

Was let down again last night don't understand it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like either he has chenged his mind as he said or more likely he was just into that chat and actually has no intention of meeting. Does he have verifications from meeting others, as in genuine looking verifications?

Nope none

I would stick to someone with verifications that you can follow to ensure they are genuine. There are so many fantasists on here that it's important to do as much as possible before getting involved in lengthy correspondence to make sure the person is actually genuine and does meet."

Can agree to this with a point but me and a few friends of mine have been let down by well verified people too so they are not all as genuine as you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather someone tell me cause 99% just don't they just don't turn up and mostly never message again.

Was let down again last night don't understand it "

If it keeps happening maybe you need to change how you do things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love too meet you as you look perfect for me in you’re nylons and sexy undies

But I think I’m too old

Maybe raise you’re age limit lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would rather someone tell me cause 99% just don't they just don't turn up and mostly never message again.

Was let down again last night don't understand it

If it keeps happening maybe you need to change how you do things"
People always suggest that I just don't know what else to do.

I have tried changing things been on here 8 years tried all different ways it happens a lot more now than it used to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...

In that case, why not set yourself a time frame. Chat for two weeks and meet. If it is not happening... see ya.

Like that you are in control and won't feel cheated.

Defo good idea!! but he was offshore...

Plenty more fish in the sea. Its never good when you feel you have bn messed around as time is precious to us all.

Thank you hun!! Yeah I’m already over that now after video calling with a stunningly gorgeous guy who I’m meeting on Monday so all is good

I've changed my mind. I won't make Monday, now. Sorry! Xx"

Haha haha!!!!

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By *eeling hot hot hotCouple
over a year ago

Ardrossan

We've stopped meeting on here because of time wasters, if people want to meet us we tell them to meet us at Cjs. Then if they don't turn up we still have a great night and no time wasted

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I still feel that he could have made his mind up sooner...

In that case, why not set yourself a time frame. Chat for two weeks and meet. If it is not happening... see ya.

Like that you are in control and won't feel cheated.

Defo good idea!! but he was offshore...

Plenty more fish in the sea. Its never good when you feel you have bn messed around as time is precious to us all.

Thank you hun!! Yeah I’m already over that now after video calling with a stunningly gorgeous guy who I’m meeting on Monday so all is good

I've changed my mind. I won't make Monday, now. Sorry! Xx

Haha haha!!!! "

That wasn’t him by the way so your haha is pointless

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We've stopped meeting on here because of time wasters, if people want to meet us we tell them to meet us at Cjs. Then if they don't turn up we still have a great night and no time wasted"

Yeah good call. But there are genuine guys here too just have to learn to spot the timewasters better. It’s pretty hard though to be fair

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow


"Sounds like either he has chenged his mind as he said or more likely he was just into that chat and actually has no intention of meeting. Does he have verifications from meeting others, as in genuine looking verifications?

Nope none

I would stick to someone with verifications that you can follow to ensure they are genuine. There are so many fantasists on here that it's important to do as much as possible before getting involved in lengthy correspondence to make sure the person is actually genuine and does meet.

Can agree to this with a point but me and a few friends of mine have been let down by well verified people too so they are not all as genuine as you think "

Can only say what we've found to work over the years. Haven't been let down once thankfully.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin


"Sounds like either he has chenged his mind as he said or more likely he was just into that chat and actually has no intention of meeting. Does he have verifications from meeting others, as in genuine looking verifications?

Nope none

I would stick to someone with verifications that you can follow to ensure they are genuine. There are so many fantasists on here that it's important to do as much as possible before getting involved in lengthy correspondence to make sure the person is actually genuine and does meet.

Can agree to this with a point but me and a few friends of mine have been let down by well verified people too so they are not all as genuine as you think

Can only say what we've found to work over the years. Haven't been let down once thankfully."

I agree with what you guys said, we have never been let down either x

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By *he way you moveMan
over a year ago

inverness

Hmmm?

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