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I would say though that my preferences can change depending on how I’m feeling, sometimes shaved, sometimes not, sometimes slim, sometimes curvy, sometimes sometimes one, sometimes two | |||
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"I'd question anyone that dosnt have preferences. Il chat to anyone dosnt mean I wanna shag them tho. As I said before. Preferences are personal to you so you should not need to justify them to anyone." 100% agree with this. I will chat to will chat to anyone. Will also make it clear from the off if I'm not interested in them sexually but I will be up for chatting. | |||
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"Me myself will admit to being a heightest tho "Nothing wrong with that, I'm a sucker for a short arse | |||
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and everyone we have met at socials and cjs have been so lovely.
But we definitely wont only chat and have a laugh with people who fit our preferences. | |||
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"Well. Folk see my posts and lack of profile and think they would prefer to avoid me Like the plague make assumptions about the kind of person I am then meet me and think I'm the bees knees lol toottoot (that's me blowing my own trumpet BTW) " I got simial to that on hogmanay by a couple who approached me at end of night just to tell me that they didn't come over for a chat earlier in the night because I looked too snobby and stuck up,  I dressed for the occasion and I'm not snobby or stuck up far from it but was lovely of them to assume that's how I was without even coming to speak to me. Some people hey  next social I'm dressing down lol | |||
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"Well. Folk see my posts and lack of profile and think they would prefer to avoid me Like the plague make assumptions about the kind of person I am then meet me and think I'm the bees knees lol toottoot (that's me blowing my own trumpet BTW) I got simial to that on hogmanay by a couple who approached me at end of night just to tell me that they didn't come over for a chat earlier in the night because I looked too snobby and stuck up, I dressed for the occasion and I'm not snobby or stuck up far from it but was lovely of them to assume that's how I was without even coming to speak to me. Some people hey next social I'm dressing down lol"Similar | |||
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"And I may add.. Preference are just that.. Does not mean your racists or homophobics which some tend to think you are if your preferences are to to with race or sexual orientation. Me myself will admit to being a heightest tho "We have been accused of being racist because of our preferences although I’m not sure who it is I’m being racist against | |||
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"Following on from another thread Preferences? Good or a bad thing? I've got preferences myself, some are soft, others are hard but does that put you off chatting to someone who doesn't match your preferences or does it put you off others who've got certain preferences? We once had fun with someone in a club down south who to begin with questioned our preferences on who we play with, said wasn't for her and then 2 hours later she joined us for fun We chat socially to many people who isn't our type/preference and every now and again someone surprises us So preferences? Good or bad? John "Everyone has preferences and I believe preferences can be diviated from in certain circumstances ie I like tall dark haired men or silver foxes but if say a blonde came along and I liked them then I would deviate from my preferences . Its all about veriety being the spice of life  | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences"." sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not." Exactly, what about white women who only have sex with black men? Are they being accused of being a race traitor? No they are being left to have sex with just black men as most people respect what they want, it's nothing to do with them hating white guys but more they just prefer black guys for whatever reason 
No one should be shamed into feeling they can't have preferences, it's the ones who don't have preferences I'm more concerned about
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. Exactly, what about white women who only have sex with black men? Are they being accused of being a race traitor? No they are being left to have sex with just black men as most people respect what they want, it's nothing to do with them hating white guys but more they just prefer black guys for whatever reason
No one should be shamed into feeling they can't have preferences, it's the ones who don't have preferences I'm more concerned about
John "We have had messages calling us racist against white men because of our preferences, Mr is white so I don’t really know who it is I’m being racist towards  | |||
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" We have had messages calling us racist against white men because of our preferences, Mr is white so I don’t really know who it is I’m being racist towards "Exactly, it's laughable some of the time
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences"." I strongly disagree with that! Let's stop being so sensitive when colour or race is being mentioned. Mentioning a race or a colour does not have to be synonymous of racism! Let's get back to using the word as it should and not because or every time one feels upset because he/she doesn't fall into someone's preferences. And yes that preference can be because of previous experiences etc... maybe they don't like the way Blacks/Asian guys feel... it is their prerogatives... they are allowed to say who they will and will not have sex with, their body, their call. Moi, I don't have sex with eejits doesn't matter what colour they are | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences"." Absolutely not .... that’s also the problem when people pick out parts of profile text ie “no black/Asian men” then omit the next part of the sentence! Perhaps the people have met men that fall into that category the meets weren’t good, you have no way of knowing that! Every single person on this site has the right to a preference and should be able to express that (in a respectful way) and to not be slated for it. | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences"." That's your opinion and we're entitled to ours whilst you think what you're saying makes you sound like you're an inclusive person I personally find it extremely aggressive and negative like you have some sort of superiority complex, others might find it refreshing. | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not." If you don't want to meet bi guys presumably its about their sexual practices .. People who say 'no black' or 'black only' are both making the distinction on race .. because their sexual practices will be the same as anyone else | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not." I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia. | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia." phobia is I dont interact with any bi folk..Not true I just dont want to have sex with bi guys the thought of 2 guys does nothing for me.shocker! I'm taking you are bi with the us comment which should be of no suprise as it's always the woe is me bull.its my party and no one is playing. Concentrate on who wants to meet rather than the folk that dont. | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia.phobia is I dont interact with any bi folk..Not true I just dont want to have sex with bi guys the thought of 2 guys does nothing for me.shocker! I'm taking you are bi with the us comment which should be of no suprise as it's always the woe is me bull.its my party and no one is playing. Concentrate on who wants to meet rather than the folk that dont." Biphobia is having irrational unfounded beliefs about bi people as a group. If I'm not fucking a dude in front of you, then getting icked out about the thought of sex with a man who sometimes has sex with other men is biphobic. Deal with it. | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences"." We are Caucasian only this is my preference, my prefered choice, one which I will not change, hubby's preference there is different . I'm not racist at all as I was brought up in South Africa and have many many black friends even one from fab but I have my reasons some "white people" may not agree and that's up to them but it's funny how African men and woman are understanding of how I am and have never been classed as racist because of my prefered choice. | |||
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"Really? What about attraction? Maybe some dont find black guys attractive or some find white guys more attractive. It's all about preferences. "Agree this is how I feel, I love the friendship but I am only attracted to Caucasian I can't help how I feel its just how it is. A sexual attraction can't be forced, I can think an actor like Will Smith is a good looking black man and his wife is stunning but do I find them sexually attractive NO, do I like him/them as an actor ofcorse. He would probably say the same for white woman since he is married to someone his own race and not a Caucasian woman. So that would have been his choice. Bad example but I get what I mean lol | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia.phobia is I dont interact with any bi folk..Not true I just dont want to have sex with bi guys the thought of 2 guys does nothing for me.shocker! I'm taking you are bi with the us comment which should be of no suprise as it's always the woe is me bull.its my party and no one is playing. Concentrate on who wants to meet rather than the folk that dont. Biphobia is having irrational unfounded beliefs about bi people as a group. If I'm not fucking a dude in front of you, then getting icked out about the thought of sex with a man who sometimes has sex with other men is biphobic. Deal with it." okydoky then | |||
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Keep fucking or not who you wish. Talk to or not who you don’t. If someone labels you because their own ideology tell them to fuck off. | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia.phobia is I dont interact with any bi folk..Not true I just dont want to have sex with bi guys the thought of 2 guys does nothing for me.shocker! I'm taking you are bi with the us comment which should be of no suprise as it's always the woe is me bull.its my party and no one is playing. Concentrate on who wants to meet rather than the folk that dont. Biphobia is having irrational unfounded beliefs about bi people as a group. If I'm not fucking a dude in front of you, then getting icked out about the thought of sex with a man who sometimes has sex with other men is biphobic. Deal with it." Hubby is straight and would not go with another man but he's not biophobic as his wife "me" is bisexual and you will find a lot of men to be the same so labelling a straight person as biophobic when they have say a wife partner who is bisexual, doesn't make sense. Those who are straight that's up to them if a straight person has no interest in being bi or it doesn't do anything for them it's not fair to ladel them. Sexual attraction can not be forced. It's either there or its not its that simple. | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia.phobia is I dont interact with any bi folk..Not true I just dont want to have sex with bi guys the thought of 2 guys does nothing for me.shocker! I'm taking you are bi with the us comment which should be of no suprise as it's always the woe is me bull.its my party and no one is playing. Concentrate on who wants to meet rather than the folk that dont. Biphobia is having irrational unfounded beliefs about bi people as a group. If I'm not fucking a dude in front of you, then getting icked out about the thought of sex with a man who sometimes has sex with other men is biphobic. Deal with it. Hubby is straight and would not go with another man but he's not biophobic as his wife "me" is bisexual and you will find a lot of men to be the same so labelling a straight person as biophobic when they have say a wife partner who is bisexual, doesn't make sense. Those who are straight that's up to them if a straight person has no interest in being bi or it doesn't do anything for them it's not fair to ladel them. Sexual attraction can not be forced. It's either there or its not its that simple. " No one's asking him to go with another man though? Just for him to recognise that a bi man is capable of respecting other men's boundaries (and might well not even fancy him in the first place!) I'm reminded of the saying, "homophobia is the fear that queer men will treat straight men the way straight men treat women". | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia.phobia is I dont interact with any bi folk..Not true I just dont want to have sex with bi guys the thought of 2 guys does nothing for me.shocker! I'm taking you are bi with the us comment which should be of no suprise as it's always the woe is me bull.its my party and no one is playing. Concentrate on who wants to meet rather than the folk that dont. Biphobia is having irrational unfounded beliefs about bi people as a group. If I'm not fucking a dude in front of you, then getting icked out about the thought of sex with a man who sometimes has sex with other men is biphobic. Deal with it. Hubby is straight and would not go with another man but he's not biophobic as his wife "me" is bisexual and you will find a lot of men to be the same so labelling a straight person as biophobic when they have say a wife partner who is bisexual, doesn't make sense. Those who are straight that's up to them if a straight person has no interest in being bi or it doesn't do anything for them it's not fair to ladel them. Sexual attraction can not be forced. It's either there or its not its that simple. No one's asking him to go with another man though? Just for him to recognise that a bi man is capable of respecting other men's boundaries (and might well not even fancy him in the first place!) I'm reminded of the saying, "homophobia is the fear that queer men will treat straight men the way straight men treat women"." I'll correct you there I have mentioned it as its one of my fantasies however men just don't get him hard I'm afraid, it's just how some men are, some like to explore and some don't. You have also got to remember everyone has been brought up with different ways of thinking and if your parents are open about things like that, leads a person to think it's acceptable in the eyes of all however on the other side some families are brought up in the old fashioned ways and being bi or gay is just not acceptable in their eyes so that strict upbringing with that person growing up will cause a more closed off way of thinking. Nothing is just plain and simple there are reasons behind everyone's choices in life and their sexual preferences, choices and to question that, is like forcing opinions on to others because people don't agree with how you see things. So agreeing to disagree is sometimes best option for all and let everyone have right to decide for themselves. | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia.phobia is I dont interact with any bi folk..Not true I just dont want to have sex with bi guys the thought of 2 guys does nothing for me.shocker! I'm taking you are bi with the us comment which should be of no suprise as it's always the woe is me bull.its my party and no one is playing. Concentrate on who wants to meet rather than the folk that dont. Biphobia is having irrational unfounded beliefs about bi people as a group. If I'm not fucking a dude in front of you, then getting icked out about the thought of sex with a man who sometimes has sex with other men is biphobic. Deal with it. Hubby is straight and would not go with another man but he's not biophobic as his wife "me" is bisexual and you will find a lot of men to be the same so labelling a straight person as biophobic when they have say a wife partner who is bisexual, doesn't make sense. Those who are straight that's up to them if a straight person has no interest in being bi or it doesn't do anything for them it's not fair to ladel them. Sexual attraction can not be forced. It's either there or its not its that simple. No one's asking him to go with another man though? Just for him to recognise that a bi man is capable of respecting other men's boundaries (and might well not even fancy him in the first place!) I'm reminded of the saying, "homophobia is the fear that queer men will treat straight men the way straight men treat women". I'll correct you there I have mentioned it as its one of my fantasies however men just don't get him hard I'm afraid, it's just how some men are, some like to explore and some don't. You have also got to remember everyone has been brought up with different ways of thinking and if your parents are open about things like that, leads a person to think it's acceptable in the eyes of all however on the other side some families are brought up in the old fashioned ways and being bi or gay is just not acceptable in their eyes so that strict upbringing with that person growing up will cause a more closed off way of thinking. Nothing is just plain and simple there are reasons behind everyone's choices in life and their sexual preferences, choices and to question that, is like forcing opinions on to others because people don't agree with how you see things. So agreeing to disagree is sometimes best option for all and let everyone have right to decide for themselves. " "Being bi or gay is just not acceptable in their eyes" ...Yes, that's what we call biphobia and homophobia. How are you not getting this? | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia.phobia is I dont interact with any bi folk..Not true I just dont want to have sex with bi guys the thought of 2 guys does nothing for me.shocker! I'm taking you are bi with the us comment which should be of no suprise as it's always the woe is me bull.its my party and no one is playing. Concentrate on who wants to meet rather than the folk that dont. Biphobia is having irrational unfounded beliefs about bi people as a group. If I'm not fucking a dude in front of you, then getting icked out about the thought of sex with a man who sometimes has sex with other men is biphobic. Deal with it. Hubby is straight and would not go with another man but he's not biophobic as his wife "me" is bisexual and you will find a lot of men to be the same so labelling a straight person as biophobic when they have say a wife partner who is bisexual, doesn't make sense. Those who are straight that's up to them if a straight person has no interest in being bi or it doesn't do anything for them it's not fair to ladel them. Sexual attraction can not be forced. It's either there or its not its that simple. No one's asking him to go with another man though? Just for him to recognise that a bi man is capable of respecting other men's boundaries (and might well not even fancy him in the first place!) I'm reminded of the saying, "homophobia is the fear that queer men will treat straight men the way straight men treat women". I'll correct you there I have mentioned it as its one of my fantasies however men just don't get him hard I'm afraid, it's just how some men are, some like to explore and some don't. You have also got to remember everyone has been brought up with different ways of thinking and if your parents are open about things like that, leads a person to think it's acceptable in the eyes of all however on the other side some families are brought up in the old fashioned ways and being bi or gay is just not acceptable in their eyes so that strict upbringing with that person growing up will cause a more closed off way of thinking. Nothing is just plain and simple there are reasons behind everyone's choices in life and their sexual preferences, choices and to question that, is like forcing opinions on to others because people don't agree with how you see things. So agreeing to disagree is sometimes best option for all and let everyone have right to decide for themselves. "Being bi or gay is just not acceptable in their eyes" ...Yes, that's what we call biphobia and homophobia. How are you not getting this?" Phobia meaning fear or lack of understanding since when did it become something malicious with ill intent My friend was sexually assaulted at 13 off 8 Asian lads So the fact she clearly states on her profile no black or Asian men does that make her racist? She lived in South Africa till she was 9 and her cousins married to a black South African and they have 4 kids and she's the favourite Aunty! Would she be harassed and vilified as much off people if they knew why she refuses to meet men of colour She won't go out anywhere on her own where she lives these days because its an area highly populated by various ethnic groups For someone shouting avout being understanding and inclusive you're very bitter towards people you know nothing about | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia.phobia is I dont interact with any bi folk..Not true I just dont want to have sex with bi guys the thought of 2 guys does nothing for me.shocker! I'm taking you are bi with the us comment which should be of no suprise as it's always the woe is me bull.its my party and no one is playing. Concentrate on who wants to meet rather than the folk that dont. Biphobia is having irrational unfounded beliefs about bi people as a group. If I'm not fucking a dude in front of you, then getting icked out about the thought of sex with a man who sometimes has sex with other men is biphobic. Deal with it. Hubby is straight and would not go with another man but he's not biophobic as his wife "me" is bisexual and you will find a lot of men to be the same so labelling a straight person as biophobic when they have say a wife partner who is bisexual, doesn't make sense. Those who are straight that's up to them if a straight person has no interest in being bi or it doesn't do anything for them it's not fair to ladel them. Sexual attraction can not be forced. It's either there or its not its that simple. No one's asking him to go with another man though? Just for him to recognise that a bi man is capable of respecting other men's boundaries (and might well not even fancy him in the first place!) I'm reminded of the saying, "homophobia is the fear that queer men will treat straight men the way straight men treat women". I'll correct you there I have mentioned it as its one of my fantasies however men just don't get him hard I'm afraid, it's just how some men are, some like to explore and some don't. You have also got to remember everyone has been brought up with different ways of thinking and if your parents are open about things like that, leads a person to think it's acceptable in the eyes of all however on the other side some families are brought up in the old fashioned ways and being bi or gay is just not acceptable in their eyes so that strict upbringing with that person growing up will cause a more closed off way of thinking. Nothing is just plain and simple there are reasons behind everyone's choices in life and their sexual preferences, choices and to question that, is like forcing opinions on to others because people don't agree with how you see things. So agreeing to disagree is sometimes best option for all and let everyone have right to decide for themselves. "Being bi or gay is just not acceptable in their eyes" ...Yes, that's what we call biphobia and homophobia. How are you not getting this? Phobia meaning fear or lack of understanding since when did it become something malicious with ill intent My friend was sexually assaulted at 13 off 8 Asian lads So the fact she clearly states on her profile no black or Asian men does that make her racist? She lived in South Africa till she was 9 and her cousins married to a black South African and they have 4 kids and she's the favourite Aunty! Would she be harassed and vilified as much off people if they knew why she refuses to meet men of colour She won't go out anywhere on her own where she lives these days because its an area highly populated by various ethnic groups For someone shouting avout being understanding and inclusive you're very bitter towards people you know nothing about " Your cousin's story probably isn't all that typical of the folk who state their 'preference ' in shouty capitals on their profile | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia.phobia is I dont interact with any bi folk..Not true I just dont want to have sex with bi guys the thought of 2 guys does nothing for me.shocker! I'm taking you are bi with the us comment which should be of no suprise as it's always the woe is me bull.its my party and no one is playing. Concentrate on who wants to meet rather than the folk that dont. Biphobia is having irrational unfounded beliefs about bi people as a group. If I'm not fucking a dude in front of you, then getting icked out about the thought of sex with a man who sometimes has sex with other men is biphobic. Deal with it. Hubby is straight and would not go with another man but he's not biophobic as his wife "me" is bisexual and you will find a lot of men to be the same so labelling a straight person as biophobic when they have say a wife partner who is bisexual, doesn't make sense. Those who are straight that's up to them if a straight person has no interest in being bi or it doesn't do anything for them it's not fair to ladel them. Sexual attraction can not be forced. It's either there or its not its that simple. No one's asking him to go with another man though? Just for him to recognise that a bi man is capable of respecting other men's boundaries (and might well not even fancy him in the first place!) I'm reminded of the saying, "homophobia is the fear that queer men will treat straight men the way straight men treat women". I'll correct you there I have mentioned it as its one of my fantasies however men just don't get him hard I'm afraid, it's just how some men are, some like to explore and some don't. You have also got to remember everyone has been brought up with different ways of thinking and if your parents are open about things like that, leads a person to think it's acceptable in the eyes of all however on the other side some families are brought up in the old fashioned ways and being bi or gay is just not acceptable in their eyes so that strict upbringing with that person growing up will cause a more closed off way of thinking. Nothing is just plain and simple there are reasons behind everyone's choices in life and their sexual preferences, choices and to question that, is like forcing opinions on to others because people don't agree with how you see things. So agreeing to disagree is sometimes best option for all and let everyone have right to decide for themselves. "Being bi or gay is just not acceptable in their eyes" ...Yes, that's what we call biphobia and homophobia. How are you not getting this?" It's also what you call labelling someone due to their choice, Some things in life are learnt things and some have personal reasons behind them , so to not respect that is questioning things people have known and learnt and their own personal experience or choice, so in all its quite a contradictions, you (as in general) are wanting that respect for your choices and opinions yet you are not respecting others choice and opinions. Isn't really fair to class someone who straight as homophobic because I haven't heard any straight person saying gay or bi people are heterphobic or questioning your reasons for being bi. | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not. I hate to break it to you, but if you wouldn't even consider bi guys as a category for an m/f meet then yeah, you have some bigoted assumptions about us. There's a whole bingo card: we're effeminate, we're diseased, we'll make moves on any other man in the room, take your pick. So yeah, lady. What you're describing is biphobia.phobia is I dont interact with any bi folk..Not true I just dont want to have sex with bi guys the thought of 2 guys does nothing for me.shocker! I'm taking you are bi with the us comment which should be of no suprise as it's always the woe is me bull.its my party and no one is playing. Concentrate on who wants to meet rather than the folk that dont. Biphobia is having irrational unfounded beliefs about bi people as a group. If I'm not fucking a dude in front of you, then getting icked out about the thought of sex with a man who sometimes has sex with other men is biphobic. Deal with it. Hubby is straight and would not go with another man but he's not biophobic as his wife "me" is bisexual and you will find a lot of men to be the same so labelling a straight person as biophobic when they have say a wife partner who is bisexual, doesn't make sense. Those who are straight that's up to them if a straight person has no interest in being bi or it doesn't do anything for them it's not fair to ladel them. Sexual attraction can not be forced. It's either there or its not its that simple. No one's asking him to go with another man though? Just for him to recognise that a bi man is capable of respecting other men's boundaries (and might well not even fancy him in the first place!) I'm reminded of the saying, "homophobia is the fear that queer men will treat straight men the way straight men treat women". I'll correct you there I have mentioned it as its one of my fantasies however men just don't get him hard I'm afraid, it's just how some men are, some like to explore and some don't. You have also got to remember everyone has been brought up with different ways of thinking and if your parents are open about things like that, leads a person to think it's acceptable in the eyes of all however on the other side some families are brought up in the old fashioned ways and being bi or gay is just not acceptable in their eyes so that strict upbringing with that person growing up will cause a more closed off way of thinking. Nothing is just plain and simple there are reasons behind everyone's choices in life and their sexual preferences, choices and to question that, is like forcing opinions on to others because people don't agree with how you see things. So agreeing to disagree is sometimes best option for all and let everyone have right to decide for themselves. "Being bi or gay is just not acceptable in their eyes" ...Yes, that's what we call biphobia and homophobia. How are you not getting this? It's also what you call labelling someone due to their choice, Some things in life are learnt things and some have personal reasons behind them , so to not respect that is questioning things people have known and learnt and their own personal experience or choice, so in all its quite a contradictions, you (as in general) are wanting that respect for your choices and opinions yet you are not respecting others choice and opinions. Isn't really fair to class someone who straight as homophobic because I haven't heard any straight person saying gay or bi people are heterphobic or questioning your reasons for being bi. " Hopeless. | |||
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"I don’t consider it transphobic if a straight man doesn’t want to sleep with me. Plenty do. And the majority of the time, I’m not interested in them anyway... that said I wouldn’t class them as being transphobic. I have my preferences too. I don’t necessarily post them on a public website because I would hate to make a certain person feel bad about themselves but I do feel sexually attracted to certain body types and I’m not going to feel forced into having sex with someone I’m not attracted to because I would be considered somethingphobic" | |||
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.We have way to many .
I wont play with large ladies ,is this sad ?is it f*** it's my choice.They do nothing for me so why play with just a pretty face to be in the in gang.
We both have different preferences and I certainly wont overlook mines if it takes his fancy just to please him,loads do which is also their preference but makes me stear clear of them also.
Set yours stick by them and f*** everyone else,if they dont like It tough titties
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"Preferences is defo a good thing .We have way to many .
I wont play with large ladies ,is this sad ?is it f*** it's my choice.They do nothing for me so why play with just a pretty face to be in the in gang.
We both have different preferences and I certainly wont overlook mines if it takes his fancy just to please him,loads do which is also their preference but makes me stear clear of them also.
Set yours stick by them and f*** everyone else,if they dont like It tough titties
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"You know me John...I’ll chat to anyone and everyone. Preferences or not. When it comes to nakedness...well then my preferences are pretty much set in stone but never say never
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"Preferences is defo a good thing .We have way to many .
I wont play with large ladies ,is this sad ?is it f*** it's my choice.They do nothing for me so why play with just a pretty face to be in the in gang.
We both have different preferences and I certainly wont overlook mines if it takes his fancy just to please him,loads do which is also their preference but makes me stear clear of them also.
Set yours stick by them and f*** everyone else,if they dont like It tough titties
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"Can I just clear something up. I'm not the South African that lovely noShrinkingViolet was refering to, thanks for the concern though some nice guys out there. I'm best of both South African /Scottish . "Oh didn’t even know you were SA whoops | |||
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"Can I just clear something up. I'm not the South African that lovely noShrinkingViolet was refering to, thanks for the concern though some nice guys out there. I'm best of both South African /Scottish .
Oh didn’t even know you were SA whoops"It's no problem, you weren't to know but least it proved there's some caring guys out there lol | |||
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"Also just to add: this is quite a problematic topic, I think everyone is entitled to have whatever sexual preferences they want to have, as long as it stays a sexual preference and doesn’t bleed into daily life where people are being discriminated against from public services etc. " Again - well said the voice of reason
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"Following on from another thread Preferences? Good or a bad thing? I've got preferences myself, some are soft, others are hard but does that put you off chatting to someone who doesn't match your preferences or does it put you off others who've got certain preferences? We once had fun with someone in a club down south who to begin with questioned our preferences on who we play with, said wasn't for her and then 2 hours later she joined us for fun We chat socially to many people who isn't our type/preference and every now and again someone surprises us So preferences? Good or bad? John "To answer your question OP they can be good and bad dependent on the motivation behind those preferences. | |||
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"Let's be clear. "I don't usually like the way beards feel" is a preference. "No black/Asian guys" is saying that there's either something you find universally distasteful about black and brown men's bodies or behaviour. There's a word for that attitude. At least have the courage of your convictions not to hide behind weasel- words like "preferences".sooo...I dont meet bi guys.does that mean I'm homophobic? I think not. It's all about sexual preferences.if you dont chat to or interact with a certain group then maybe you can throw the racist or homophobic card about but until then. No.you cant go around accusing folk of something they are not." I agree with you, people need to remember that the aim is for an intimate meet and for that to happen arousal needs to be there and the preferences are in relation to that are they not? Just because someone doesn’t meet someone with specific colour doesn’t mean racist means doesn’t float their boat sexually doesn’t mean they wouldn’t be friends with the person. Completely different thing same for any other preference sexual related or otherwise. Difference between friendship and more. And like someone has previously said it’s frustrating when people spit their dummy out when you won’t meet. Everyone is entitled to likes and dislikes. | |||
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