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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Really puts me off if someone has messaged,you open the email read it then pop offline to go do something then come back online to a message along the lines of Oh I take it you aint interested or I saw you oline but uve not replied to my message.... hello you are not the only person messaging lol

Are you someone who expects an instant reply or are you pretty chilled out about it ?

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


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Really puts me off if someone has messaged,you open the email read it then pop offline to go do something then come back online to a message along the lines of Oh I take it you aint interested or I saw you oline but uve not replied to my message.... hello you are not the only person messaging lol

Are you someone who expects an instant reply or are you pretty chilled out about it ?"

Totally chilled.

People are busy or may want to take time to think about a response. Taking a huff over a delay (or being totally ignored for that matter) is the senders problem. Not yours.

(If you don’t respond to this post within 10 mins though will result in a huff of mega proportions and I’ll be filling the swear tin accordingly).

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I sometimes come on to chat in the forums so don’t reply to messages as it takes time.

On another site I started chatting someone, only a couple of message exchanged but I was busy at home so when I went back online 30 minutes later he had sent a message 4 minutes after his last message saying not chatting now?? All cause I took longer than 4 minutes to reply!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally answer a message when I see it.then go offline.

Unless it's a message I'm not going to answer at all.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"

Really puts me off if someone has messaged,you open the email read it then pop offline to go do something then come back online to a message along the lines of Oh I take it you aint interested or I saw you oline but uve not replied to my message.... hello you are not the only person messaging lol

Are you someone who expects an instant reply or are you pretty chilled out about it ?

Totally chilled.

People are busy or may want to take time to think about a response. Taking a huff over a delay (or being totally ignored for that matter) is the senders problem. Not yours.

(If you don’t respond to this post within 10 mins though will result in a huff of mega proportions and I’ll be filling the swear tin accordingly). "
No fear

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Happens occasionally. It's an instant turn off and most likely another addition to block list x

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By *ikerbob1957Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Happens all the time. I'm on POF and some people seem to think that I spend my life with my face in my phone waiting to reply to their message.

Not the first time someone has gone in the huff and blocked me because they didn't get an instant reply.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

(If you don’t respond to this post within 10 mins though will result in a huff of mega proportions and I’ll be filling the swear tin accordingly). No fear "

3 minutes? I’m impressed.

Now, where am I going to vent this pent up aggression?

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I sometimes come on to chat in the forums so don’t reply to messages as it takes time.

On another site I started chatting someone, only a couple of message exchanged but I was busy at home so when I went back online 30 minutes later he had sent a message 4 minutes after his last message saying not chatting now?? All cause I took longer than 4 minutes to reply!! "

A misconception that direct messages are for chat. They’re like email. Similarly forum posts are not really chat either but more suited.

Wonder why they added “chat” rooms?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"

(If you don’t respond to this post within 10 mins though will result in a huff of mega proportions and I’ll be filling the swear tin accordingly). No fear

3 minutes? I’m impressed.

Now, where am I going to vent this pent up aggression?"
Hmmm let me think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I answer messages as soon as possible. I figure we make tome for the things we want to do, if someone isn't making time to answer my message then no point in countless messages begging for time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty chill about it tbh, chances are they are busy or not interested so no point bombarding them with messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get the typical line of these????? When I dont reply back in a few mins. I'm very much chilled, I realise that people have lives off here and if they will reply when they can. X

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

I'm very chill about it because I do it all the time, I will leave a message without a reply forever because I don't get notifications to I totally forget to do it. If it worked like an app then it would be all good, but the old layout makes it hard to remember to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone messages me in quick succession before I’ve replied, I shall ignore the needy pain in the arse for ever more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt really know as no-one sends me mail

Maybe now I may get one or 2 out of pity lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Happens all the time. I'm on POF and some people seem to think that I spend my life with my face in my phone waiting to reply to their message.

Not the first time someone has gone in the huff and blocked me because they didn't get an instant reply."
I hear of this all the time

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I get the typical line of these????? When I dont reply back in a few mins. I'm very much chilled, I realise that people have lives off here and if they will reply when they can. X"

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

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By *hav02Man
over a year ago

Glasgow/London

It shocked me recently when I was on the receiving end of this from a woman and she wrote me a barrage of message about how rude I was for not replying to her message quickly...

I am quite chilled in responses..but occasionally when there's been a conversation and then she stops replying, is that a sign she's not interested, or am i just buried among her busy mailbox.

I just think that if a woman is interested in chatting to me, she should make an effort too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can sometimes be good at answering back if I'm on and message pops in, I'll reply. If I'm busy doing normal family things I won't be able to reply as quick as I will be unaware there's messages. Family life first always. So if people don't want to wait that's up to them but I've not really had anyone who's that impatient, suppose alot in same boat and I don't take offence if I don't get a reply straight back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to us regularly,and is a major bugbear.

We like to consult each other and give a considered response to messages if it's someone that we are interested in. Some just don't have the patience to wait more than 10 mins for a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you've read a message but don't respond until hours or days later it's a bit game playing.

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By *ltKittyWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm pretty relaxed about replies, people will get back when they want to or when they can.

Though I definitely get messages demanding a response if I don't reply or get back to people instantly, those people get deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chilled. However it gets awkward when it's someone who you have decided /mutually decided that things will go no further, but they still continue to message. Now I understand why some profiles have "no pen pals".

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By *eviantgent79Couple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Actions of the needy and the desperate, and a handy way to filter out the chaff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you've read a message but don't respond until hours or days later it's a bit game playing.

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What if it doesn't really warrant or need a reply though? Some times conversations just fizzle out, happens in real life too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you've read a message but don't respond until hours or days later it's a bit game playing.

What if it doesn't really warrant or need a reply though? Some times conversations just fizzle out, happens in real life too."

That's fair enough. I'm more referring to those who don't reply because they've been too busy

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By *evilsAdvocate94Woman
over a year ago

edinburgh

It’s annoying and usually just block.

I’ve opened messages, then the phones gone or I’ve got distracted by something in the real world and I’ve not replied and then come back maybe hours later or next day and I’ve not replied, and I’ve had a huffy response!! As someone else said it’s a good filter.

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By *cotscouple85Couple
over a year ago

Dumfries

As a rule we just block people that do it, Fab is low on our list of priorities if we spent all day replying to messages we'd get nothing else done. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actions of the needy and the desperate"

That should be the Fab motto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Really puts me off if someone has messaged,you open the email read it then pop offline to go do something then come back online to a message along the lines of Oh I take it you aint interested or I saw you oline but uve not replied to my message.... hello you are not the only person messaging lol

Are you someone who expects an instant reply or are you pretty chilled out about it ?"

This recently happened to us and before we could reply back we got blocked !!! Oh well must had been very inpatient!!!!!

I’d say we are very laid back and chilled couple and we always reply to messages but not within 30 mins as we have busy life’s and pop on and off

Could had been a great meet aswell

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Actions of the needy and the desperate, and a handy way to filter out the chaff "
totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's usually enough to block them.

Or if they are particularly bad ill respond quite brutally

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

A reply ? What is this witchcraft you speak of

Seriously tho if I get a reply at all (whenever) great if not no harm done ..as for me I'll always reply first chance I get... might not have time straight away tho as could be busy at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally puts me off, I check my mail at various times of day and usually reply at night. It's easy to out the needy guys though when they send multiple messages throwing the toys out the pram , there are probably some girls that do it too, let's not be biased

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are very chill about waiting on a response. There could be several reasons why it takes a while to respond, so no biggy if there's a wait. Quite often one of us will read a message but wait on the other to discuss and given that we often work opposite shifts, sometimes that can take a while!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1 OP   Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Totally puts me off, I check my mail at various times of day and usually reply at night. It's easy to out the needy guys though when they send multiple messages throwing the toys out the pram , there are probably some girls that do it too, let's not be biased "
I dont think anyone was being biased but commenting on the experiences they were having from single males,fems & couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you've read a message but don't respond until hours or days later it's a bit game playing.

What if it doesn't really warrant or need a reply though? Some times conversations just fizzle out, happens in real life too."

That's true. Now I like to talk sometimes too much but sometimes if the chat is not doing it for us. I'm like fuck what do I say now or if there's no humour or good banter I do get bored if I'm honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are very chill about waiting on a response. There could be several reasons why it takes a while to respond, so no biggy if there's a wait. Quite often one of us will read a message but wait on the other to discuss and given that we often work opposite shifts, sometimes that can take a while!"

We are the same here aswell, hubby works different shifts (days and nights) so when he's at work driving he can't check fab or messages and I tend to wait until he's home to read and catch up unless it's couples I've spoke to previously and we continuing a conversation but if new people, we in this together and we make decisions together.

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By *mudg3rMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Doesn’t bother me in the least. People have busy lives or, if a couple, may want to confer. Similarly, if my message is just binned or not replied to at all. That’s the recipient’s right and I just move on. Just because someone receives a mail doesn’t put them under any obligation to do anything about it.

As for someone mailing me, I respond fairly quickly when a message floods in.

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By *attooed gentMan
over a year ago

anywhere everywhere


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Really puts me off if someone has messaged,you open the email read it then pop offline to go do something then come back online to a message along the lines of Oh I take it you aint interested or I saw you oline but uve not replied to my message.... hello you are not the only person messaging lol

Are you someone who expects an instant reply or are you pretty chilled out about it ?"

If I have sent a message that then gets read and no reply I just don’t bother mailing again even if it was just fpf.

But when I was mailing ladies i didn’t expect a reply as I know ladies get a lot of messages daily so I toke it as there busy or I’m not there type so left them alone

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By *cotsbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Helensburgh

We get a lot fo mail, especially since that post about dogging took off..

Tend to read it en-masse so it clears the notify number, then try and respond to teh interesting ones that aren't just "hey babe want fuck?"...

But even then, you read something then an hour later "Oh, take it you're not interested then? Would have been nice of you to have the manners to reply"..

Like, sure, I'll take the 2+ hours it would take to instantly reply to all messages as I read them and the inevitable 14 follow-ups from thirsty guys who just want a blowjob...

Never mind the kids, or work or family stuff or keeping a house or doing anything for myself, I'm just glued to here 24/7, a virtual single-guy wank-chat bot...

/sarcasm...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are very chill about waiting on a response. There could be several reasons why it takes a while to respond, so no biggy if there's a wait. Quite often one of us will read a message but wait on the other to discuss and given that we often work opposite shifts, sometimes that can take a while!

We are the same here aswell, hubby works different shifts (days and nights) so when he's at work driving he can't check fab or messages and I tend to wait until he's home to read and catch up unless it's couples I've spoke to previously and we continuing a conversation but if new people, we in this together and we make decisions together. "

Absolutely, I might love a profile that he doesn't and vice versa. Or simply struggle to get shifts to match when others wish to meet etc. Not to mention that Fab isn't our top priority, we have lots going on.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Actions of the needy and the desperate, and a handy way to filter out the chaff totally agree "

Yup don’t even message any more, unless I think it’s funny.

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