FabSwingers.com forum: Hardened swinger?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When I 1st joined with my husband many moons ago we were like 2 deers caught in the headlights lol

Used to talk for ages to cpls or guys before we would meet them and I do mean ages!

You see I'm not a 'hardened swinger' on alot of profiles and think oh no but now I'm beginning to think I am lol as I think the more I chat to someone the more likely il be put off or bored after a while so now for me it's a chat on here social then play date.

Does that make me the dreaded hardened swinger??

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By *ering SeaMan
over a year ago

Penicuik

I’ve been here Just as long and always preferred the less chat more action. All part of the excitement of basically hooking up with a stranger. Defiantly don’t think I’m a hardened swinger as I look at some profiles and think she’d eat me alive. Tend to stick to those as selfish as me from meets. No long message exchanges or any of that nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I think you're probably just more confident with what you want/don't want and have honed your skills like a boabie seeking missile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Boabie seaking missile?

Where can I buy 1 of those?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve been here Just as long and always preferred the less chat more action. All part of the excitement of basically hooking up with a stranger. Defiantly don’t think I’m a hardened swinger as I look at some profiles and think she’d eat me alive. Tend to stick to those as selfish as me from meets. No long message exchanges or any of that nonsense.

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its weird how things change tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Boabie seaking missile?

Where can I buy 1 of those?

You can borrow mine....rarely use it these days!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As long as you wiped it clean ta

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As long as you wiped it clean ta

(Gives it the once over with a Dettol wipe).

There ye go doll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah, I think you're probably just more confident with what you want/don't want and have honed your skills like a boabie seeking missile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been here many years and I'm still not a swinger, if I am then I am a rubbish one

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By *earded blossomCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We go through phases, we take our time before playing due to having the odd bad experience when playing straight off so pick and choose more wisely now to save wasting our time and others

John

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think fab is more a sex site now than an actual swingers site to be fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think fab is more a sex site now than an actual swingers site to be fair."

I've never really understood what the difference is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Swingers...to me anyway is cpls meeting other cpls.

Nowadays I'd say singles outway cpls on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think fab is more a sex site now than an actual swingers site to be fair.

I've never really understood what the difference is. "

That's because there is no difference. It's just putting a different label on essentially the same thing.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

The fact theres a social interaction at all to me says no.

Have witnessed what in my mind could be classed as a hardened swinger it was little more than a booty call quick msg on fab 20 mins later they are banging away in a bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fact theres a social interaction at all to me says no.

Have witnessed what in my mind could be classed as a hardened swinger it was little more than a booty call quick msg on fab 20 mins later they are banging away in a bedroom "

I think there's a misconception that singles are just here to get straight to the sex

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"The fact theres a social interaction at all to me says no.

Have witnessed what in my mind could be classed as a hardened swinger it was little more than a booty call quick msg on fab 20 mins later they are banging away in a bedroom

I think there's a misconception that singles are just here to get straight to the sex"
slot of cpls seem to believe singles are their playtoys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fact theres a social interaction at all to me says no.

Have witnessed what in my mind could be classed as a hardened swinger it was little more than a booty call quick msg on fab 20 mins later they are banging away in a bedroom

I think there's a misconception that singles are just here to get straight to the sexslot of cpls seem to believe singles are their playtoys "

Some couples profiles scare me. They can sound really aggressive

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"The fact theres a social interaction at all to me says no.

Have witnessed what in my mind could be classed as a hardened swinger it was little more than a booty call quick msg on fab 20 mins later they are banging away in a bedroom

I think there's a misconception that singles are just here to get straight to the sexslot of cpls seem to believe singles are their playtoys

Some couples profiles scare me. They can sound really aggressive "
ditto hence if I meet a cpl it takes even longer that I take to meet single folks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree with both of you but in my early yes iv done the 20 min chat then meet and now the older I'm getting I'm beginning to think that's all I need lol

Well mybe more than 20 mins but I seem to talk myself out of meeting alot more now.

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By *irth VaderMan
over a year ago

Busby

"Nah, I think you're probably just more confident with what you want/don't want and have honed your skills like a boabie seeking missile

I agree

I think your filters become more effective in separating the wheat from the chavs so you can proceed onto the fun stages quicker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with both of you but in my early yes iv done the 20 min chat then meet and now the older I'm getting I'm beginning to think that's all I need lol

Well mybe more than 20 mins but I seem to talk myself out of meeting alot more now.

Is that not a good thing?

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"I agree with both of you but in my early yes iv done the 20 min chat then meet and now the older I'm getting I'm beginning to think that's all I need lol

Well mybe more than 20 mins but I seem to talk myself out of meeting alot more now.

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is it perhaps because you have witnessed the crazy things folk will say and do to get their way? I shy away from alot of meets because at times the "pattern" is following the path of a previous numpty

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with both of you but in my early yes iv done the 20 min chat then meet and now the older I'm getting I'm beginning to think that's all I need lol

Well mybe more than 20 mins but I seem to talk myself out of meeting alot more now.

Is that not a good thing?"
not really lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with both of you but in my early yes iv done the 20 min chat then meet and now the older I'm getting I'm beginning to think that's all I need lol

Well mybe more than 20 mins but I seem to talk myself out of meeting alot more now.

Is that not a good thing?not really lol"

I suspect if you go back to arranging to meet very quickly you'd regret that too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah but I'm not on here looking for a date

I'm happily married it's just sex.so surely if I fancy someone they seem ok that should be enough.

Think I'm getting old I'm overthinking it too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah but I'm not on here looking for a date

I'm happily married it's just sex.so surely if I fancy someone they seem ok that should be enough.

Think I'm getting old I'm overthinking it too much."

It's better to overthink than underthink. It's your head that has to live with the afterthoughts

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Yeah but I'm not on here looking for a date

I'm happily married it's just sex.so surely if I fancy someone they seem ok that should be enough.

Think I'm getting old I'm overthinking it too much."
I think folk sometimes have very diffrent perceptions of what a "date" is.

For me a "date" is nothing more than two folk meeting and enjoying each others company for a short time with nobody placing any restrictions on the other partie/s

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A date to me is having lunch or dinner I'm not into that.

I'm more a coffee or drink in a pub.

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By *erberaWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

"I agree with both of you but in my early yes iv done the 20 min chat then meet and now the older I'm getting I'm beginning to think that's all I need lol

Well mybe more than 20 mins but I seem to talk myself out of meeting alot more now.

is it perhaps because you have witnessed the crazy things folk will say and do to get their way? I shy away from alot of meets because at times the "pattern" is following the path of a previous numpty

Agree with this kola. I've become far more cynical the longer I've been on here too and rarely meet anyone new unless at socials or through friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with both of you but in my early yes iv done the 20 min chat then meet and now the older I'm getting I'm beginning to think that's all I need lol

Well mybe more than 20 mins but I seem to talk myself out of meeting alot more now.

I talk myself out of meeting all the time. It's why it is so rarely happens

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

I always talk myself out of meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always talk myself out of meeting

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your even worse than me!!

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By *mudg3rMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I’m a hardened swinger every morning. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We believe its all in the individuals interpretation of what a "hardened swinger" is.

We always took it to be people who would play as often as possible, with almost anyone. No social interaction needed.

In the begining, we were like that, (all about the sex). Age and experience has given us a taste for more social interaction as we think it adds to the fun.

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By *eeling hot hot hotCouple
over a year ago

Ardrossan

We are exactly the same after about 3 messages we start to get bored because you know that it's going nowhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I defo think I talk more when I'm meeting alone but with my husband I totally agree with cpls..we dont need the history of your life lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still chat for ages,

enjoy meets for coffee & chat or walks in the hills

enjoy snogs that last for ever

often the chase is better than the catch, and I often tend to fall head over heels for someone if im interested

then fab gets closed down for a year or more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal circumstance plays a large part in how we come across to people too.

My work restricts how we live. Difficult for a lot of people to understand or believe.

For ecample, i work most weekends of the year. Murder for playing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I still chat for ages,

enjoy meets for coffee & chat or walks in the hills

enjoy snogs that last for ever

often the chase is better than the catch, and I often tend to fall head over heels for someone if im interested

then fab gets closed down for a year or more"
surely your looking for more if that happens so not try a dating site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still chat for ages,

enjoy meets for coffee & chat or walks in the hills

enjoy snogs that last for ever

often the chase is better than the catch, and I often tend to fall head over heels for someone if im interested

then fab gets closed down for a year or moresurely your looking for more if that happens so not try a dating site?"

I like the chat here, I like the forums, and have made some real good friends, and if by chance that one single lady appears to be found then it makes it all worth while

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