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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is not being able to accommodate such a big thing? I cant as I have two teenage kids who stay with me. Is it that much of a game changer. Do many people just go to hotels. Just wondering. Thanks for your opinions if you post a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels are usually fine with me. I think the issue with guys not accomodating is that we often assume that means they have a wife or gf at home! Unfair on a lot of guys I know, but it happens so often that it has become like a red flag.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I feel more at ease in a hotel than in somebodys home so its not an issue with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel more at ease in a hotel than in somebodys home so its not an issue with me."

That's a good point, I feel the same. Hotels are neutral and safer. What I don't like is when a guy can't accommodate but thinks 'fun' in their Nissan Micra will be an ok replacement

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wouldnt bring a lady back to mine without really knowing her. Not fair on the kids, not that they would notice.

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

I would not go to a guys house anyways so not a deal breaker for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel more at ease in a hotel than in somebodys home so its not an issue with me."
same

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A bit too old for the car stuff. Plus its a bit too cold. Like my comfort too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Folk get all suspicious and paranoid if men can't accommodate thibjng theyre cheating but also folk don't wanna be relying on hotels and spending money in case of no shows as well

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By *estless nativeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

Not being able to accomodate obviously reduces the number of profiles you will be compatable with.

And as indicated above due to previous experience many will assume that there is a partner being cheated on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wouldnt bring a lady back to mine without really knowing her. Not fair on the kids, not that they would notice."

Exactly the same reason I don't accomodate. It just looks more suspicious when it's a guy. Unfair I know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fair points everybody. Its difficult enough to meet, thus is just another hurdle to get over. Cheers for your thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not an issue for me. I like hotel sex , good in you for responsible parenting. I would have anyone at mine while my kids are around either x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a problem for me everyone has their reasons I know of some that can accommodate but choose not to it's not always cause they are attached or whatever.

I prefer to play in a hotel or my own home after a social meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't have anyone come to ours. It's our home whether kids are at home, sleeping out or at school. Mixing vanilla life and swinging life is just not going to happen especially when I have a very nosey neighbour My Daughter!

Everyone has their reasons for not accomdating. Such as maybe not proud of their place so rather go to hotel, don't want nosey neighbours asking questions, don't want to invite strangers into their home (safety first) so on and so on, there are many reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We won't have anyone come to ours. It's our home whether kids are at home, sleeping out or at school. Mixing vanilla life and swinging life is just not going to happen especially when I have a very nosey neighbour My Daughter!

Everyone has their reasons for not accomdating. Such as maybe not proud of their place so rather go to hotel, don't want nosey neighbours asking questions, don't want to invite strangers into their home (safety first) so on and so on, there are many reasons. "

I have I cant accommodate on my profile as my 15 year old lives here. She may go tona friends overnight but that's a rare occasion so unfortunately that's my lot in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never invite anyone back to our place, should anything go wrong in the future they then know where you live and more about you because of family photos etc. We would meet in a hotel or rent out an airb&b as they are more comfortable and less people going about wondering why more than 2 people are going into a room.

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By *ablito88Man
over a year ago

Near you

I’m able to accom and able to provide some hotel room

Never had any issues with people, cause I’m a selective person. I love to be a host - I’m having dust allergy so my house is always clean and tidy, I’m not making any mess though.

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By *ero StressMan
over a year ago

Scotland

I can accommodate or travel but that never does me any good lol I don't even get replies to even get near to that stage lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I feel more at ease in a hotel than in somebodys home so its not an issue with me.

That's a good point, I feel the same. Hotels are neutral and safer. What I don't like is when a guy can't accommodate but thinks 'fun' in their Nissan Micra will be an ok replacement "

Lol, I know what you mean, and get the hump when you point out a bed is my classy

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By *an from UncleMan
over a year ago

ml1

Yea i have a son who now stays with me and another who pops in random . There are free times but, to much of a risk so hotel is best as i never bother with clubs much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is not being able to accommodate such a big thing? I cant as I have two teenage kids who stay with me. Is it that much of a game changer. Do many people just go to hotels. Just wondering. Thanks for your opinions if you post a reply."

It's not really a big thing, if looking for something regular with someone tho, being able to accommodate is a big bonus as it makes life easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can accommodate. But find it tough to meet some one

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By *ch WellMan
over a year ago

Scotland

It's 1 of these fab double standards. Bloke can't accommodate then he's automatically cards marked as married. Woman can't accommodate and nobody bats an eyelid

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I choose not to accommodate because this is my home and my children's home.

Personally, I wouldn't be prepared to go to a strangers home initially either. A club or a hotel feels safer.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"It's 1 of these fab double standards. Bloke can't accommodate then he's automatically cards marked as married. Woman can't accommodate and nobody bats an eyelid"

I don't think it's a double standard at all. Lots of people cannot accommodate for all sorts of reasons, I wouldn't automatically assume if a man can't accommodate that he's married.

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By *ch WellMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"It's 1 of these fab double standards. Bloke can't accommodate then he's automatically cards marked as married. Woman can't accommodate and nobody bats an eyelid

I don't think it's a double standard at all. Lots of people cannot accommodate for all sorts of reasons, I wouldn't automatically assume if a man can't accommodate that he's married. "

But many do. Reading many posts , profiles and status updates over the years I've been here have shown to me that many members do hold that opinion. It is however refreshing when I read posts from others saying different just like you have. Sadly I feel non judgemental attitudes that you display are in the minority and the assumption that men are married is more of the majority. It's ironic given the nature of the site and the lifestyle that there are so many judgemental folk on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of reasons not to accommodate, hotel for me

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there


" What I don't like is when a guy can't accommodate but thinks 'fun' in their Nissan Micra will be an ok replacement "

But he said he had a big gear stick....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hotels are definitely my preference..

People don't accommodate for a variety of reasons and I don't think anyone should feel like they need to if they choose not to

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By *igs72Man
over a year ago

motherwell

Single here and could accom however I prefer hotels as it is neutral ground.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Everyone seems to have pretty different opinions, also very different circumstances. It is what it is I suppose. I suppose the ideal fab partner would be a nice woman of a similar age with nice boobs who owns a hotel....lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry about the boobs comment. I am not that fussy

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

We’d always prefer to meet somewhere neutral first usually a club as there’s less pressure.

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By *inder121Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I prefer hotel meets. Drink in the bar, snogging and feeling up in the lift... Fun in the hotel room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’d always prefer to meet somewhere neutral first usually a club as there’s less pressure. "
its what I do first.. Meet locally

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