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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been having fun (all with a condom) with a young female from a couple but she now says no spunk no fuck. I have asked around n it seems she likes it bareback. I enjoy our fun but dont know where this change of attitude has came from. Should i play bareback or stick with my principles and just let her go.

Be good to get others thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did alarm bells ring when you "asked around"?

If so walk away.....if not your old enough to make informed decisions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u should always stick with your principles hun....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seriously you have to ask?it makes my blood run cold the thought of anyone doing bareback never mind swingers! auds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you really have to ask?!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It just makes u think about the guys that do bareback with this fem then swing with others on the site........the permutations of transfering on a std are mind boggling.

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By *olly Gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

Glenrothes

Ditch the ditz and move on. Apart from STD risks, there is making of babies risk.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I have been having fun (all with a condom) with a young female from a couple but she now says no spunk no fuck. I have asked around n it seems she likes it bareback. I enjoy our fun but dont know where this change of attitude has came from. Should i play bareback or stick with my principles and just let her go.

Be good to get others thoughts?"

Hope its not one of the fems from your verifications ? there are lots of other reasons why women ask for bareback so unless u want to have someone call u daddy in nine months time id definatley say no lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add.prob you even thinking of bareback has put a lot of fems/ cpls who might have met you off now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i deffo wouldnt do bareback with anyone thats just for me and my hubby to do, no one else, you have to remember if u do do this then ur not only doing bareback with her but ever person shes done bareback with before u. STI arent nice or becoming a dad unless u want to x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a swing partner for over 2 yrs , Yrs ago and not once did we do it bareback ,

Was not even spoke about , as our healh came first , no point in taking risks,

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I would never consider doing bareback for the pregnancy issue, feel it's something special between you and your partner and as someone above said who else has this person done bareback with. You don't know what STI you could catch, i can assure you it's not nice! My partner cheated on me, did bareback with a silly girl, she did it with another guy and therefore it was brought home to me and i was infected and it was not pleasent. That was afew years ago and it was rather embarassing having to speak to my Dr about it. I just would'nt go there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Telling you not to use a condom is blackmail,,,Just walk away your health is more important to you,,,why take the risk as basically you are having sex with all these womans previous partners and you dont know there health status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

na mate dont be a fool cover you tool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you dont bag it dont shag it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"na mate dont be a fool cover you tool "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

walk away mate and stick to your principles, anyone wanting to go bareback has no regard for their health or anyone else's. move on, plenty other people out there willing to share the same principles as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was me, would be a no...bit odd imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd get the hell outa Dodge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lOADED GUN POINTING RIGHT AT YOUR NOSE... PSYCHOTIC BUGGER WITH THE SHAKES AT THE TRIGGER............................. question is.. do you face the barrel or walk away.........

seriously min.. come on.. firstly have a serious word with her about her morals,thoughts and possible future issues for her and her future partners even her kids if she has any...... and secondly.. block delete ignore and forget her..... she has no place on fab if she wants to be a semen collection recepticle......

play safe all the time.. no exceptions!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot more ppl do bareback than care to admitt....

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By *ane DTV/TS
over a year ago

London - till 25th

NEVER dare to go bare!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I agree guys....i know when you look at ppls pix u certainly see a lot of action without protection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk away, and dont go there again. If you have asked about, and seems she has done it with more than one, can you vouch that they are all clean, or she is clean now? Or if they have done it with others, and then back to her again?

It is not worth the risk.

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Definitely would walk away from that , no condoms is madness.

I think jands is right a lot more do it but dont admit to it. I see fems on cams in chatrooms and the amount of guys that tell her they wanna fill her with semen is unbelieveable , whether its just because of the excited state they are in then or whether they would actually do it bareback if said fem was in front of them is debateable but it certainly makes me think.

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By *uirkygirlCouple
over a year ago

Quirkyville

In the heat of the moment when we are talking diiiiirty i tell DD i wanna see it but when it came to it i would have him cover up with another lady.... I dont want him catching a nasty virus or even worse having some chick call in a few months time to tell him he is gonna be a daddy!!! Bareback is for lovers not fuckers!!! x

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By *1cebren4uWoman
over a year ago

clydebank

Should the op really have to ASK this question to fab members if he cared about himself with being safe then it really should not be a issue for debate in the forums(wear a condom) no matter what.

I know plenty do bareback but thats their health problem not anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Should the op really have to ASK this question to fab members if he cared about himself with being safe then it really should not be a issue for debate in the forums(wear a condom) no matter what.

I know plenty do bareback but thats their health problem not anyone else. "

This in a way reminds me of a post in a bike club forum.. a member was asking the club if they thought him and his mrs should have a child or not...........................

if ya cant make yer own mind up..... walk away

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By *dultfunscotland2000Man
over a year ago

Scotland and beyond

I've got an occasional fuck buddy / friend with benefits and she gets pissed that i won't bareback her. She's on the pill but I insist on going in covered , because I know she might see others and I'm not sure what they get up to.

As a wee treat for her though, I will occasionally spunk into her pussy, from a distance though, not actual penetration. I think she just loved the feeling of spunk inside her.

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By *ex n MusicCouple
over a year ago

Perth

These days its not just a visit tae the clinic and a course aye anti-bionics...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you dont bag it dont shag it "

Aye but yer too busy trying to unzip it to bag it lololol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BareBack is for cowboys!! In the age we live in its not safe to dip yer wick wherever you see fit and not be covering yourself! A lot of the more modern STDs are beginning to evolve and carriers often have no symptoms (wont be thanking Darwin on this occasion). With the amount of people now using this great site unfortunately the risks are higher of cross contamination... you might already want to get the wire brush and dettol out mate! Sounds like you are one of many and who knows who has had what?

The Devils Deduction of the day- Always zip up your wetsuit before you dive in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no glove no love m8! principles are worth stickin to! esp in this day n age of stds!

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By *ex n MusicCouple
over a year ago

Perth


"BareBack is for cowboys!! In the age we live in its not safe to dip yer wick wherever you see fit and not be covering yourself! A lot of the more modern STDs are beginning to evolve and carriers often have no symptoms (wont be thanking Darwin on this occasion). With the amount of people now using this great site unfortunately the risks are higher of cross contamination... you might already want to get the wire brush and dettol out mate! Sounds like you are one of many and who knows who has had what?

The Devils Deduction of the day- Always zip up your wetsuit before you dive in "

Good tae see some aye the younger generation showing a bit aye respect fer there own body as well as others...Well said Darren fella.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never have, never would.

Worrying that people on here do.

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By *nTCouple
over a year ago

funland

we wouldnt meet a guy whom we had met a few times as he told us he went bareback with a female he met from the site after us. we told him why we wouldnt meet him again and he said she was clean. The question we asked was how did he know and even if she was, what about the others she went bareback with..........

not on your nelly!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do it. If you're asking around that says it all. She probably has everything going!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all your advice peeps...................guess wot?.........She has blocked me now. lol

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"BareBack is for cowboys!! In the age we live in its not safe to dip yer wick wherever you see fit and not be covering yourself! A lot of the more modern STDs are beginning to evolve and carriers often have no symptoms (wont be thanking Darwin on this occasion). With the amount of people now using this great site unfortunately the risks are higher of cross contamination... you might already want to get the wire brush and dettol out mate! Sounds like you are one of many and who knows who has had what?

The Devils Deduction of the day- Always zip up your wetsuit before you dive in

Good tae see some aye the younger generation showing a bit aye respect fer there own body as well as others...Well said Darren fella..... "

Could'nt agree more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bareback pics on folks profiles are usually their partners. I think the fact you asked the question you were considering it. Or at least testing the water on the issue.

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By *rs Robinson no 1Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

many a party I have been to and yes bareback is very common

it's their choice.....not mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who shows that little concern for their health should be kept at arms length. It's not purely a swinging issue as it's indicative of how much care they take in all aspects of their lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I heard this once: Protect your tool ya fool. Use the clobber ya dobber. Don't chance fate before its too late.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These threads are always full of folk saying things like 'protect your tool'. I always end up wondering how much thought most swingers put into just how little protection they're getting in group sessions.

Yes, we all cover up when it comes to shagging, many even remember to do so for dildos, but how many use oral dams or glove up for the fingering? Pretty much none, I bet.

Especially in circumstances with more than one woman involved it ends up pretty pointless wearing a condom unless you're prepared to use these other methods and change them every time you change partners. Yes, that means if you stop fingering one woman and switch to the other you have to change gloves, just like you should change condoms. And don't get me started on the practice of having a guy cum on your fanny or arse then rubbing it in and thinking you're being safe.

All I'm saying is that there's a lot more to being safe than condoms but, sadly, the much-needed condom message tends to blank out the other requirements and lulls people into a sense of false security. And remember, HPV and herpes can be spread even with a rubber.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the snip but I would always bag up too, even if it's someone i know really well. Its just not worth it if it goes wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having the snip dusnt stop you from stds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And what are the rules concerning the bukakke sessions people organise? I've seen a couple of women asking for that and that can't be very healthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having the snip dusnt stop you from stds "

Never said it does but it does stop me producing kids lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A have had the snip also but a always wear a sleeping bag for the safety off me and the lover i am with at the time you need to use your head this time and dnt go with the fun in this instance mate but happy swinging x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ma wee tranny cock always wears a wee pink frock!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr had the snip too 3 years ago but we still always play safe, fair enough we have never used condoms together but being in a relationship for over ten years and him being my first sexual partner makes that pretty acceptable! What we don't appreciate is people emailing us and telling us we have aids, HIV and whatever else just because they have either heard a rumour regarding someone on our verifications or probably just been turned down by them.

The mud slinging is pathetic on this website. Yes people go bareback on meets, but we don't and that's what is important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd keep it safe remember if you do get her preggers YOU WILL be paying for it financially and emotionally jus my personal opinion

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By *l_and_geeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"What we don't appreciate is people emailing us and telling us we have aids, HIV and whatever else just because they have either heard a rumour regarding someone on our verifications or probably just been turned down by them"

OMG!!! Do people really do that? I am absolutely gobsmacked. I've heard that some people can be nasty but this takes the crown.

Sorry to change the thread but even in my years and thought I was broadly experienced never in my wildest dreams did I think that people could stoop so low.

Now I understand why so many leave.

We've had a few not so nice "ya couple o poofs" type mail which is not accurate and mildly pathetic in our view but really to be so digraceful as what I have just read beggers belief!

Such a shame.

As an aside always play protected it cuts both ways!

Al

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you dont bag it dont shag it

Aye but yer too busy trying to unzip it to bag it lololol "

trust you shitlips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we play with safety hats on and eveyone that we would meet we would have to see that in the pics they would be wearing proetction if the men have single profiles we have seen so many single profiles with bareback pics of different people and have actually seen it with our own eyes women and men going full swap over several people. is it so hard to put it on? or to loose bit of feeling over hiv or babies...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Golden rule...guard ur tool

Bareback Is for lovers not fuckers

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Even some guys who will use condoms cant exactly be called "safe"

At a party once the male half of a couple who were there, put a condom on, shagged one of the girls..... Then proceeded to try and shag me without changing condom........ And he wondered why I wouldnt go near him after that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is worth pointing out that condoms dont stop women getting pregnant or stop people getting STD's, they reduce the risk but dont eliminate. So even if you always cover up its wise to get yourself checked out every so often regardless!

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By *aughty.naughty deviantsCouple
over a year ago

Stirling


"It is worth pointing out that condoms dont stop women getting pregnant or stop people getting STD's, they reduce the risk but dont eliminate. So even if you always cover up its wise to get yourself checked out every so often regardless!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you need to ask then you arent sure..theres only one answer...dont risk it

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By *eon85Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I think a lot more ppl do bareback than care to admitt...."
agreed!

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By *ndrew MannMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I have been having fun (all with a condom) with a young female from a couple but she now says no spunk no fuck. I have asked around n it seems she likes it bareback. I enjoy our fun but dont know where this change of attitude has came from. Should i play bareback or stick with my principles and just let her go.

Be good to get others thoughts?"

Think you answered your own question in the original post, no need to listen to other peoples opinions, its your choice nobody else's

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By *uboCouple
over a year ago

East kilbride

The minute i see a mention of bareback on a profile it is INSTANT block button and that includes their verifications too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would walk away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont walk away....RUN

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot worse than getting an std is falling pregnant and not knowing if it's my husbands or not , the pills not 100% it would break my heart soooo play safe

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By *andfCouple
over a year ago

Cumbernauld

Hf@sandyford

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

blocked and ran

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The minute i see a mention of bareback on a profile it is INSTANT block button and that includes their verifications too "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These threads are always full of folk saying things like 'protect your tool'. I always end up wondering how much thought most swingers put into just how little protection they're getting in group sessions.

Yes, we all cover up when it comes to shagging, many even remember to do so for dildos, but how many use oral dams or glove up for the fingering? Pretty much none, I bet.

Especially in circumstances with more than one woman involved it ends up pretty pointless wearing a condom unless you're prepared to use these other methods and change them every time you change partners. Yes, that means if you stop fingering one woman and switch to the other you have to change gloves, just like you should change condoms. And don't get me started on the practice of having a guy cum on your fanny or arse then rubbing it in and thinking you're being safe.

All I'm saying is that there's a lot more to being safe than condoms but, sadly, the much-needed condom message tends to blank out the other requirements and lulls people into a sense of false security. And remember, HPV and herpes can be spread even with a rubber. "

x1000

Couldn't have put it better myself. There's a lot of self-kidding going on here. At clubs, parties, 1-on-1s, I've never once heard someone suggest a physical barrier during oral, which immediately negates all the well-meaning, condom-clad, penetration, except for contraceptive purposes.

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By *oftfocusMan
over a year ago

EDINBURGH


"A lot worse than getting an std is falling pregnant and not knowing if it's my husbands or not , the pills not 100% it would break my heart soooo play safe "

It's NEVER safe.The best you can hope is play "safer" but condoms have an even higher failure rate than the pill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couldn't have put it better myself. There's a lot of self-kidding going on here. At clubs, parties, 1-on-1s, I've never once heard someone suggest a physical barrier during oral, which immediately negates all the well-meaning, condom-clad, penetration, except for contraceptive purposes."

The risks of oral sex are often neglected. Correct. However, it's a gross over simplification to say that negligent oral practices negate the value of using condoms. Although there is risk from both oral and penetrative sex all the evidence suggests that the risk of transmission of disease in oral sex is significantly lower than the risk associated with penetrative sex.

For example:-

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1601-0825.2005.01187.x/abstract?systemMessage=Wiley+Online+Library+will+be+disrupted+on+9+June+from+10%3A00-12%3A00+BST+%2805%3A00-07%3A00+EDT%29+for+essential+maintenance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are joking,that would effectivley have defeated the purpose of a condom

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