FabSwingers.com forum: Perception

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Something different for the forum, but before I say what I'm about too. What's prompted it was a post by a user not wanting a gym recommendation that body builders use.

My point you ask? I am not a a bodybuilder but do like to keep in good shape for me! But also relate to the persona about some gym guys......

Strutting, looking in mirrors ect. I've a mate who has pretty much won everything at the top level but is a shy guy who doesnt flaunt what he has away from the day of the show.

My profile picture shows I workout but have often thought I'm sending a wrong message.

But I'm not and its who I am for real!! Unlike some profiles. And what I'm looking for is a person who doesnt judge a book by its cover so to speak. Why...... because to every rule theres exceptions.

So ladies and gents your views please and thankyou x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well for your age I'd say you have a great body from the back and from what i can see. Some 20 Yr old don't have a body like yours. There is nothing wrong with showing your body off if you are proud to be in good shape and have a good personality, sense of humour to go with it.

My brother in law is a ponse, flexes his muscles in your face, does one hand press ups at parties to get everyone complimenting him. This does my head in as he has the personality of a stone. He argues with everyone about everything.

I always think a good personality has to go with a good body or its a waste.

However I wouldn't stress, if your happy with what you got flaunt it and be proud

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Folk on here likely perceive me as a wise-cracking patter merchant. At times puerile and possibly attention-seeking. I'm actually saft as shite, diffident, and wear my heart on my sleeve.

I reckon, were I to roll my sleeves up, I could kick yer arse at arm-wrestling, though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well for your age I'd say you have a great body from the back and from what i can see. Some 20 Yr old don't have a body like yours. There is nothing wrong with showing your body off if you are proud to be in good shape and have a good personality, sense of humour to go with it.

I always think a good personality has to go with a good body or its a waste.

However I wouldn't stress, if your happy with what you got flaunt it and be proud

Well thankyou very much!!!

It's clear you both have an open respectful mind!!

And can I do one arm press ups

No, but if I could then I'd not flaunt it. Not me x

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Something different for the forum, but before I say what I'm about too. What's prompted it was a post by a user not wanting a gym recommendation that body builders use.

My point you ask? I am not a a bodybuilder but do like to keep in good shape for me! But also relate to the persona about some gym guys......

Strutting, looking in mirrors ect. I've a mate who has pretty much won everything at the top level but is a shy guy who doesnt flaunt what he has away from the day of the show.

My profile picture shows I workout but have often thought I'm sending a wrong message.

But I'm not and its who I am for real!! Unlike some profiles. And what I'm looking for is a person who doesnt judge a book by its cover so to speak. Why...... because to every rule theres exceptions.

So ladies and gents your views please and thankyou x"

We all judge a book by its cover to some extent. That we realise it or not.

The title, the image on the front and the blah blah at the back. At a push, I'll read the first 3 pages... if it's dull for me, sorry but the book goes back on the shelf, simple!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Folk on here likely perceive me as a wise-cracking patter merchant. At times puerile and possibly attention-seeking. I'm actually saft as shite, diffident, and wear my heart on my sleeve.

I reckon, were I to roll my sleeves up, I could kick yer arse at arm-wrestling, though.

Brilliant, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been told in the past some people see me as a bit stuck up.

I'm actually lovely though.

In general I try not to worry about people's perception as those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft as shite here too under a Rottweiler exterior.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On this site of course folk are gonna judge you by your pictures it's a sex site.

Looks are a huge factor as nobody's gonna shag someone they are not attracted to.

If you are a knob on your profile and the forums I'm taking it your a knob in real life.

Why be different in 1 and not the other.

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"On this site of course folk are gonna judge you by your pictures it's a sex site.

Looks are a huge factor as nobody's gonna shag someone they are not attracted to.

If you are a knob on your profile and the forums I'm taking it your a knob in real life.

Why be different in 1 and not the other."

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter what you say or do everyone’s perception will be different. Some right, some wrong and some just because we all like and want different things. If you’re happy with you that’s the most important thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm one of the nicest, most kind hearted, loyal person, non judgemental person there is who lives to dance and laugh but when people see me they think I'm a stuck up snob/cow . I am not I just love to dress good and look my best but doesn't stop people judging me. It is just how it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying those things about yourself I would prob judge you too I'm afraid.those things are for others to say about you.

Ps..I'm not saying your not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really for others to say about me as their judgement is usually wrong thus reason why people first impressions are based on looks outer beauty not inner , I'm the only person who truly deeply knows exactly how I think, feel so the only right person to say how I am and I'm proud to have the nature I have.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

I think Oldie was typing to me, Sexmadwifey. She's trying to insinuate I'd stand nae chance in that arm-wrestling contest. I've a right forearm and wrist like popeye overdosed on spinach, I'll have you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But what you think about yourself others may not.

Not saying it's right or wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think Oldie was typing to me, Sexmadwifey. She's trying to insinuate I'd stand nae chance in that arm-wrestling contest. I've a right forearm and wrist like popeye overdosed on spinach, I'll have you know!"
lol your right forearm is like that due to wanking to much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Need lats

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My bad (runaway and hide) need to tag people lol can be confusing who's replying to who especially when answers can be replying to above comment of 6 comments above that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the names though sexmadwifey hahaha might use it

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

" Need lats "

Meatloaf!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not wrong, some do judge before they know someone.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

lol your right forearm is like that due to wanking to much

How very judgemental! I'm asexual!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m marmite love me or hate me I don’t actually care, most folk tend to love me and even some who don’t think they’ll like me at first soften like chocolate in my hands, but I certainly dont take any shit from anyone, ive always been one of the boys and a wind up merchant but I’m also very aware or other people’s feelings and stand up for the little guy so often fight battles that aren’t my own and folk don’t like that, how I dress and carry myself I like nice clothes but I’m just as happy rocking about in my pjs and often do I think I look petty approachable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m marmite love me or hate me I don’t actually care, most folk tend to love me and even some who don’t think they’ll like me at first soften like chocolate in my hands, but I certainly dont take any shit from anyone, ive always been one of the boys and a wind up merchant but I’m also very aware or other people’s feelings and stand up for the little guy so often fight battles that aren’t my own and folk don’t like that, how I dress and carry myself I like nice clothes but I’m just as happy rocking about in my pjs and often do I think I look petty approachable "

Dont talk shite. Your always calling me bad names and hurting my wee feelings. haha.

lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are what we are... what others see might be different.. they may be right or wrong... be true to you and love who you love, hopefully they love you back...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol your right forearm is like that due to wanking to much

How very judgemental! I'm asexual!"

AND a genius

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By *attooed gentMan
over a year ago

anywhere everywhere

Dont talk shite. Your always calling me bad names and hurting my wee feelings. haha.

lol."

Listen to the one talking every morning noon and night your hitting out with insults Wilma

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"But what you think about yourself others may not.

Not saying it's right or wrong."

I agree.

I was once told it is none of your business what other peoples opinions of you are. They are probably all correct. In the sense that we are a different person to every person we meet. Therefore if you are perceived as kind or stuck up its normally your behaviour/aura that folks base that opinion on. Want to give off a good vibe .... work on yourself not what you hope to portray. That will take care of itself.

I'm quite a self deprecating person as I've always been told self praise is no honour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite a self deprecating person as I've always been told self praise is no honour."

I agree.. I make up my own mind with people and believe they should do the same with me. Some like me, some hate me and others are indifferent.. We all appreciate different qualities in people.. If someone doesn't aooreciate you.. Someone will.. Fab has a lot of people on it

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I'm just me. How people perceive me I have little control over. Some think I'm great, others don't, & that's just fine by me. I don't find my self worth in others, I find it in being the best me I can be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just me. How people perceive me I have little control over. Some think I'm great, others don't, & that's just fine by me. I don't find my self worth in others, I find it in being the best me I can be. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give off a stuck up aura in person, I might walk in a place all dolled up (Coz I don't get out much so when I do I go all out ) and can be straight faced ( just me trying to take in everyone around me and if i forget to put contacts in I can't see 2 feet in front of myself) so maybe screwed up nose and eyes gives off that aura, with contacts I'm all smiley lol as I can see clearly

I love getting dolled and looking good up what woman/person doesn't. Normal life is hectic busy so when we are out we make every effort to feel great but have been told many times first impressions before even speaking to me, have been I look stuck up, posh, full of myself then I get chatting and they apologise for assuming different.

So in this world u don't have to even open you mouth for people to have opinions of you. Sad but true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me personally have got a resting bitch face lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll need to make sure to wear contacts so as to not to have a face like a pug

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"I'll need to make sure to wear contacts so as to not to have a face like a pug

I dont have contacts so just the pug face here haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll say hi if I ever bump into you lol. One pug to the next hahahhah

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Is this the right place for a humblebrag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure is

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