FabSwingers.com forum: Proactive or Reactive?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, are you very proactive on here( eg always sending messages, winking etc), or are you reactive( do you wait for messages and winks etc before responding)? We are pretty reactive, almost like wait till we are asked lol. Just be interested in other peoples thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

reactive

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By *trapon1981TV/TS
over a year ago

Balloch / Dumbarton

Depends on the moment.

Mostly I'm reactive and wait until I'm asked

Sometimes, however, I like to grab the bull by the horns as it were. Usually depends...if I know I'm looking for a meet at a particular moment then I will be a bit more forward.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends on the moment.

Mostly I'm reactive and wait until I'm asked

Sometimes, however, I like to grab the bull by the horns as it were. Usually depends...if I know I'm looking for a meet at a particular moment then I will be a bit more forward."

Good and interesting answer

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By *trapon1981TV/TS
over a year ago

Balloch / Dumbarton

"Depends on the moment.

Mostly I'm reactive and wait until I'm asked

Sometimes, however, I like to grab the bull by the horns as it were. Usually depends...if I know I'm looking for a meet at a particular moment then I will be a bit more forward.

Good and interesting answer

Thank you, but please don't let it catch on that I'm "interesting" in any way - since I got my latest makeover I've been trying to achieve the vacant dumb blonde look

P.S. No offence to blondes (or anyone) intended I only try to imitate because I'm jealous

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By *ohnny4playMan
over a year ago

Kinross

Mostly re-active.

Would never want to appear pushy!

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By *ikerbob1957Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

If I waited for someone to message me then I would be waiting a very lng time!! Therefore I am proactive and send out messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty reactive but like my guys to be a bit proactive

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

Im a bit of both depending on my mood but i know what i want and im not affraid to ask for it xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being a single guy proactive if you never ask you never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are more inactive.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are more inactive.lol"

snap lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're a bit of both, though at the moment we're with the group on inactive as well. lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lol, maybe we should have an "inactives" meet

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"Lol, maybe we should have an "inactives" meet

Now ur changing ur minds now ur being very proactive lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im inactive.like to be asked..hey im shy

lol. Jas on the other hand..always sending winks..usually by mistake ..dam phone! Lol.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lol, maybe we should have an "inactives" meet

Now ur changing ur minds now ur being very proactive lol "

Feck!! Never thought of that lol. Will wait to be asked to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol, maybe we should have an "inactives" meet

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By *lay_Mate_RequiredMan
over a year ago

eadt kilbride

proactive, as a single guy on here there is far to many guys on here to be reactive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proactive.....as i`d generally fade away if i waited to be reactive lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

proactive.

There's a pattern emerging here

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i am proactive... but not in the sense of sending out countless messages...

Its a case of getting myself known... such as at the countless scottish socials and in the chatroom as one of the nicer fellows... and that tends to open up more doors then the message thing does...

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

me .............. am inactive !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I alternate at various times, all depends on my mood and how often am on the site

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By *uirkygirlCouple
over a year ago

Quirkyville

I have tried being pro active but no one wants us.... Boo!!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

inactive, borderline, cant be arsed these days, but never bored,,ut ut never,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy, definitely proactive.

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Proactive 99% of the time. The 1% who I was reactive to knows who she is. :D Can't believe my luck!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me thinks as a standard single ladies and couples can afford to be reactive, after all they have a wee wriggler on the hook. Sadly us single males need to be proactive on the whole. You don't see many salmon in waders!!!

I've tried the cool, stand off and wait reactivity, it's like waiting for a bus that's already back in the depot

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By *rStarbuckMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Bit of both here, depends on what we're up to mostly. You get what you give on here I reckon

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To find decent people, you need to wade through all the dicks first

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

Reactive, always stood me in good stead on fab. I'm the hunted not the hunter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha reactive 80% of the time

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By *issNaughtyxxxWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I would say both, as some have said depends on what's going on at the time but im feeling naughty im proactive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both depending on the mood I'm in

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well, a right good mix of responses

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"i am proactive... but not in the sense of sending out countless messages...

Its a case of getting myself known... such as at the countless scottish socials and in the chatroom as one of the nicer fellows... and that tends to open up more doors then the message thing does..."

im reactive....but agree xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as someone who has had a couples profile and a singles profile I always thought it was the single males job to get himself out there. When I set up the couples profile I realised that although you get more traffic and more messages - you still need to be proactive if you see something you are looking for.

Single guys who have never been in a couple on here - it is just as hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been on here a week now it def feels like single guys have to be proactive as there are more of them to choose from. It depends on the intensity of the person and if they are willing to wait for an invite. If you have certain times/dates in mind then production is a must. Being married too also does not help as many fabbers frown upon the cheating aspect of this but this is not under debate on this link.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Active

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

Reactive the majority of the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i am proactive... but not in the sense of sending out countless messages...

Its a case of getting myself known... such as at the countless scottish socials and in the chatroom as one of the nicer fellows... and that tends to open up more doors then the message thing does..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The inactivity is due to my proactivity kinda backfiring on me, hence the previous "cant be arsed" comment.

And as i've said before, its like panning for gold as a solo male hoping for a fun meet.

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By *rStarbuckMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

There's been times when I've had to work my ass off trying to get a meet lol seriously, its a joke.

Especially with guys, when it comes down to it they usually have some sort of excuse why they can't meet. I suppose it could be genuine reasons but when I want fun, that's all I'm focused on

Don't wanna hear the 'I promise next time...' blah de dah

bit of a bitchy mood today, can ya tell?

L xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a numbers game star. the more people you have on your friends list the better chance you'll have...ahem...

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By *rStarbuckMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

lol you'd think so!

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I bet you get some at the weekend missy

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By *rStarbuckMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

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By *rStarbuckMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

bet!? that should be 'guarantee' there dafty bum!

xxxx

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By *erotic_adventureMan
over a year ago

London, Scotland & The North,

...you only get out what you put in, allegedly lol

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Just being a sly one

xxx

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By *rStarbuckMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

leaving it to the last minute never helps i suppose haha!

why sly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More often than not reactive . Mainly because i in no rush to meet .

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By *rStarbuckMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"More often than not reactive . Mainly because i in no rush to meet .

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"leaving it to the last minute never helps i suppose haha!

why sly?

Didn't want to sound boastful

x x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

politely proactive.... as a single male I still think the ladies like the men to take the lead..... sometimes lol

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By *rStarbuckMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Didn't want to sound boastful

x x x"

for once....

xxx

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Didn't want to sound boastful

x x x

for once....

xxx"

Cheeky mare!! :p

x x x

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By *rStarbuckMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

don't act so surprised!!

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am kinda shy when it cones to asking on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am kinda shy when it cones to asking on here"

Very shy here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

kinda sucks in a way, cause i could chat away to people no problem at all, moving from the chat to the 'you wanna?' is kinda the stumbling block for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are more inactive.lol

snap lol

lol

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By *artyfife1TV/TS
over a year ago

near Leven

When you first join you are more reactive as people check out your profile and after a few weeks you get more proactive as you get more confident with the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reactive as i don't like to come across as pushy and i'm also a bit shy

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