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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m dipping my toes into a non fab relationship just now. First one in 10 years so very new territory for me. My question is, does he need to know about my time on Fab? Is that too much honesty? Would you want to know?

Bizarrely he could be asking the same question Who knows lol

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By *andy_FraserTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'd say to think over how much you think this place will be a part of your life going forward.

If you think this site and the lifestyle will always be part of you, then I say you should be honest about it. Maybe bring things up subtly, talk about alternative lifestyles, and such. If they seem open to it, you could bring in other discussions such as 3somes and swingers clubs.

if you think that you'll probably shy away from this place for a while, then hide your account and forget about things for a while.

People who have been through it will be able to give you advice based on their own experience.

For me the closest I can tell you is that I was always open and honest with women about being a TV, always told them on the first date or before it. Yes I dated a good few women before I met the one that's lasted, a few were semi-accepting of it, but something else ended the relationships. Funnily enough I'm still friendly with the ones that lasted more than one date, so they were amicable splits.

Hope everything goes great for you.

Mandy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on if hes vanilla.lol also how well do you know him. Plus it's most guys fantasy to go out with a woman that's open to swapping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're only dipping your toes for now I'd keep this to myself.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"If you're only dipping your toes for now I'd keep this to myself. "

I second this. If things go tits up after yer toes are in, and he knows you're on here, then it could cause issues anonymity wise.

Personally I'd leave it until your knee deep, minimum; probably till you've gotten wet up to the waist a few times, before sharing your Fabby secrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hubby told me he was a fab user when we met. He'd deleted his account to be in a committed relationship with me.

Now here we both are hahaha

Getting married in April, long live our fab marriage x

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By *arlosF2019Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"If you're only dipping your toes for now I'd keep this to myself. "

This for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you expecting him to be completely upfront about his sexual history from the off?

If you're looking to be monogamous with him, I don't see why you would tell him about here

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I think i would mention it early on as relationships should be based on honesty. If he makes judgement then maybe he is not for you.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great advise guys, thank you. I’ll go for the knee deep / waist wet option

Time will tell me if and when it’s right to share x

Thanks again!

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"Great advise guys, thank you. I’ll go for the knee deep / waist wet option

Time will tell me if and when it’s right to share x

Thanks again! "

Yay! I win! I've never won anything in my life! What's the prize?..

Just kidding.. I hope it works out for you, and if you do get to waist deep, or even fully submerged, I feel pretty certain, as another poster touched on, that if you did decide to tell him, he'd be more intrigued and excited by your revelation than put off by it. Most guys would be in my opinion, though you'd be best placed to judge if he was the same as most guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a new relationship no...if it gets deeper and you both are looking for each history maybe.but ultimately it's your business and yours alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great advise guys, thank you. I’ll go for the knee deep / waist wet option

Time will tell me if and when it’s right to share x

Thanks again!

Yay! I win! I've never won anything in my life! What's the prize?..

Just kidding.. I hope it works out for you, and if you do get to waist deep, or even fully submerged, I feel pretty certain, as another poster touched on, that if you did decide to tell him, he'd be more intrigued and excited by your revelation than put off by it. Most guys would be in my opinion, though you'd be best placed to judge if he was the same as most guys. "

I think most men in the general population who had never ventured onto a site like this would judge women who have in a pretty negative way, rather than be intrigued or excited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great advise guys, thank you. I’ll go for the knee deep / waist wet option

Time will tell me if and when it’s right to share x

Thanks again!

Yay! I win! I've never won anything in my life! What's the prize?..

Just kidding.. I hope it works out for you, and if you do get to waist deep, or even fully submerged, I feel pretty certain, as another poster touched on, that if you did decide to tell him, he'd be more intrigued and excited by your revelation than put off by it. Most guys would be in my opinion, though you'd be best placed to judge if he was the same as most guys.

I think most men in the general population who had never ventured onto a site like this would judge women who have in a pretty negative way, rather than be intrigued or excited "
agreed

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By *ucky24Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Great advise guys, thank you. I’ll go for the knee deep / waist wet option

Time will tell me if and when it’s right to share x

Thanks again!

Yay! I win! I've never won anything in my life! What's the prize?..

Just kidding.. I hope it works out for you, and if you do get to waist deep, or even fully submerged, I feel pretty certain, as another poster touched on, that if you did decide to tell him, he'd be more intrigued and excited by your revelation than put off by it. Most guys would be in my opinion, though you'd be best placed to judge if he was the same as most guys.

I think most men in the general population who had never ventured onto a site like this would judge women who have in a pretty negative way, rather than be intrigued or excited agreed"

Having chatted with women here and over the water the attitude of some men on here to the women on Fab is quite scary so would be trepidatious in bringing this up too early.

Just enjoy each other now.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I wouldn’t leave too long into the relationship though. As it will come up some time, everything does eventually and don’t want it to look like a dirty secret.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

My humble opinion is to be completely open from early on. Unless Fab and what it represents has never been a large part of your life that is.

If it is, even if you intend to cease, its still a part of your chemistry and personality. If he judges you that’s on him. If he judges you negatively then you’re better knowing sooner rather than later.

Not an easy one. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If it is, even if you intend to cease, its still a part of your chemistry and personality. "

Are people you've met on here part of your chemistry and personality?

I can't even work out what that actually means

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

If it is, even if you intend to cease, its still a part of your chemistry and personality.

Are people you've met on here part of your chemistry and personality?

I can't even work out what that actually means "

If you are of a personality and like what this little world has to offer then that is a reflection of who and what you are in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If it is, even if you intend to cease, its still a part of your chemistry and personality.

Are people you've met on here part of your chemistry and personality?

I can't even work out what that actually means

If you are of a personality and like what this little world has to offer then that is a reflection of who and what you are in life. "

Even if you give it up?

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

If it is, even if you intend to cease, its still a part of your chemistry and personality.

Are people you've met on here part of your chemistry and personality?

I can't even work out what that actually means

If you are of a personality and like what this little world has to offer then that is a reflection of who and what you are in life.

Even if you give it up?"

That’s going to depend on why and the person is it not? Maybe they realised this wasn’t what they wanted after all. For others they will continue to have that open minded or kinky streak. Who knows.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

If it is, even if you intend to cease, its still a part of your chemistry and personality.

Are people you've met on here part of your chemistry and personality?

I can't even work out what that actually means

If you are of a personality and like what this little world has to offer then that is a reflection of who and what you are in life.

Even if you give it up?"

That’s going to depend on why and the person is it not? Maybe they realised this wasn’t what they wanted after all. For others they will continue to have that open minded or kinky streak. Who knows.

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"I’m dipping my toes into a non fab relationship just now. First one in 10 years so very new territory for me. My question is, does he need to know about my time on Fab? Is that too much honesty? Would you want to know?

Bizarrely he could be asking the same question Who knows lol "

It’s totally your call, none of us really know what this new guy you’re seeing is actually like. I saw comments above about how most men would judge your negatively, but I think that’s an unfair judgement of ‘most men’.

What I will say is, the longer you are seeing him, and the longer you keep this to yourself, the harder it will become to tell him about it.

Trust your gut, you’ll know when the time is right to either tell him, or end things.

If I’d never been on Fab, didn’t know about Fab, and a girlfriend of mine (who I genuinely liked and saw a future with) told me early on it had been a part of her life, I’d be intrigued and interested (because it’s part of who she is)

But I’m not most men..

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Good luck. I agree with the above. Only you can’t tell when the time is right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never tell a non fab partner about my fab life. Did it once and the whole relationship was marred by it, not on my part but his as he couldn’t get past the site

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"I would never tell a non fab partner about my fab life. Did it once and the whole relationship was marred by it, not on my part but his as he couldn’t get past the site"

That says more about him than it does about you raspberry

(Thanks again for the turkey btw )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m dipping my toes into a non fab relationship just now. First one in 10 years so very new territory for me. My question is, does he need to know about my time on Fab? Is that too much honesty? Would you want to know?

Bizarrely he could be asking the same question Who knows lol

It’s totally your call, none of us really know what this new guy you’re seeing is actually like. I saw comments above about how most men would judge your negatively, but I think that’s an unfair judgement of ‘most men’.

What I will say is, the longer you are seeing him, and the longer you keep this to yourself, the harder it will become to tell him about it.

Trust your gut, you’ll know when the time is right to either tell him, or end things.

If I’d never been on Fab, didn’t know about Fab, and a girlfriend of mine (who I genuinely liked and saw a future with) told me early on it had been a part of her life, I’d be intrigued and interested (because it’s part of who she is)

But I’m not most men.."

There's a lot of men on fab who judge women for being here, so I don't think it's inaccurate to presume that men not on here may have more traditional attitudes about female sexual behaviour. Are you unable to look beyond your personal experiences to inform your opinions?

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"I’m dipping my toes into a non fab relationship just now. First one in 10 years so very new territory for me. My question is, does he need to know about my time on Fab? Is that too much honesty? Would you want to know?

Bizarrely he could be asking the same question Who knows lol

It’s totally your call, none of us really know what this new guy you’re seeing is actually like. I saw comments above about how most men would judge your negatively, but I think that’s an unfair judgement of ‘most men’.

What I will say is, the longer you are seeing him, and the longer you keep this to yourself, the harder it will become to tell him about it.

Trust your gut, you’ll know when the time is right to either tell him, or end things.

If I’d never been on Fab, didn’t know about Fab, and a girlfriend of mine (who I genuinely liked and saw a future with) told me early on it had been a part of her life, I’d be intrigued and interested (because it’s part of who she is)

But I’m not most men..

There's a lot of men on fab who judge women for being here, so I don't think it's inaccurate to presume that men not on here may have more traditional attitudes about female sexual behaviour. Are you unable to look beyond your personal experiences to inform your opinions?"

Since when did give a toss about my opinion

Aren’t you able to look beyond your personal experiences to form your opinions?

You’re projecting again dearie me...

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Drop the handbags ladies and gents.

Personal experience is exactly where opinions originate. Yes they can be expanded upon by the words and experiences of others but in essence if you have the experience, live by what you learnt from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m dipping my toes into a non fab relationship just now. First one in 10 years so very new territory for me. My question is, does he need to know about my time on Fab? Is that too much honesty? Would you want to know?

Bizarrely he could be asking the same question Who knows lol

It’s totally your call, none of us really know what this new guy you’re seeing is actually like. I saw comments above about how most men would judge your negatively, but I think that’s an unfair judgement of ‘most men’.

What I will say is, the longer you are seeing him, and the longer you keep this to yourself, the harder it will become to tell him about it.

Trust your gut, you’ll know when the time is right to either tell him, or end things.

If I’d never been on Fab, didn’t know about Fab, and a girlfriend of mine (who I genuinely liked and saw a future with) told me early on it had been a part of her life, I’d be intrigued and interested (because it’s part of who she is)

But I’m not most men..

There's a lot of men on fab who judge women for being here, so I don't think it's inaccurate to presume that men not on here may have more traditional attitudes about female sexual behaviour. Are you unable to look beyond your personal experiences to inform your opinions?

Since when did give a toss about my opinion

Aren’t you able to look beyond your personal experiences to form your opinions?

You’re projecting again dearie me..."

What is it you suppose I'm projecting naughty one?

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"I’m dipping my toes into a non fab relationship just now. First one in 10 years so very new territory for me. My question is, does he need to know about my time on Fab? Is that too much honesty? Would you want to know?

Bizarrely he could be asking the same question Who knows lol

It’s totally your call, none of us really know what this new guy you’re seeing is actually like. I saw comments above about how most men would judge your negatively, but I think that’s an unfair judgement of ‘most men’.

What I will say is, the longer you are seeing him, and the longer you keep this to yourself, the harder it will become to tell him about it.

Trust your gut, you’ll know when the time is right to either tell him, or end things.

If I’d never been on Fab, didn’t know about Fab, and a girlfriend of mine (who I genuinely liked and saw a future with) told me early on it had been a part of her life, I’d be intrigued and interested (because it’s part of who she is)

But I’m not most men..

There's a lot of men on fab who judge women for being here, so I don't think it's inaccurate to presume that men not on here may have more traditional attitudes about female sexual behaviour. Are you unable to look beyond your personal experiences to inform your opinions?

Since when did give a toss about my opinion

Aren’t you able to look beyond your personal experiences to form your opinions?

You’re projecting again dearie me...

What is it you suppose I'm projecting naughty one?"

If you could read you’d already know

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So many different opinions, thankfully.

I appreciate no one know either of us and really we are just getting to know each other. He’s ticking many boxes so I’ll just take it day at a time.

Thanks again for all your replies

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"So many different opinions, thankfully.

I appreciate no one know either of us and really we are just getting to know each other. He’s ticking many boxes so I’ll just take it day at a time.

Thanks again for all your replies "

You’re welcome, hope it all works out

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By *lancheifMan
over a year ago

Ayr

Everybody has a past and no-one needs to know everything, so unless something comes up in conversation like fantasies or past experiences or whatever then they don't need to know

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

It depends on your 'relationship' with Fab.

Perso, I like being on here and going to clubs so I would mention it very early on. If they have an issue with it, it would be goodbye from me.

It wouldn't feel right to me not to mention it early so they can take their decision. But like I say it depends on the why you are in Fab.

Good luck OP

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