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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi there, I’m one of many young men on this website seeking advice on how to meet people, I feel as if there is a lot of prejudice to young men on this website because a certain few have ruined it. I have been trying on fabswingers for sometime with very little luck just to get someone to meet for 1 verification. What is the best way to go about contacting someone on this and is there anything I can improve on my profile? Thank you to anyone that has the time to reply back to me as it is very much appreciated. Happy swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to keep an eye on the forums for social events, great way to meet others and break the ice. Also you might try a club event, just mind you aren’t guaranteed a shag there as that is the most common misconception as you have paid to get in you are entitled. Just my perception from talking with other single males.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Make that status disappear. That'll probably make every female run a mile. Maybe also remove "I have no preference", because that'll make it look like you'll shag whatever comes across your way.

Other than that, agree with Raspberry. Get yourself out there, there are some big social events on occasion and the swingers clubs are a good way to meet loads of people - no sex guaranteed.

Good luck OP x

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By *ighlandballsMan
over a year ago

perth

Best going clubs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Make that status disappear. That'll probably make every female run a mile. Maybe also remove "I have no preference", because that'll make it look like you'll shag whatever comes across your way.

Other than that, agree with Raspberry. Get yourself out there, there are some big social events on occasion and the swingers clubs are a good way to meet loads of people - no sex guaranteed.

Good luck OP x"

Thanks very much for you’re help don’t worry it’s gone now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try to keep an eye on the forums for social events, great way to meet others and break the ice. Also you might try a club event, just mind you aren’t guaranteed a shag there as that is the most common misconception as you have paid to get in you are entitled. Just my perception from talking with other single males."

Ok thank you for your help it’s so difficult when no one will bother with me due to me not being verified by meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some chicks like young guys..most dont I'm afraid but hey...hang in there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some chicks like young guys..most dont I'm afraid but hey...hang in there "

It’s a sad reality thanks very much will do

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By *attooed gentMan
over a year ago

anywhere everywhere


"Try to keep an eye on the forums for social events, great way to meet others and break the ice. Also you might try a club event, just mind you aren’t guaranteed a shag there as that is the most common misconception as you have paid to get in you are entitled. Just my perception from talking with other single males.

Ok thank you for your help it’s so difficult when no one will bother with me due to me not being verified by meet "

Clubs and socials no one knows if you’re verified or not it’s all about being respectful and chatting you never know what will happen that night or after it.

Within the clubs it’s just like a social some people drink some don’t but as I have seen it’s not a good idea to drink first time and if you do drink know your limits as you will be asked to leave if you don’t take no for an answer or get outta hand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what everyone else does and lie about your age

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try to keep an eye on the forums for social events, great way to meet others and break the ice. Also you might try a club event, just mind you aren’t guaranteed a shag there as that is the most common misconception as you have paid to get in you are entitled. Just my perception from talking with other single males.

Ok thank you for your help it’s so difficult when no one will bother with me due to me not being verified by meet

Clubs and socials no one knows if you’re verified or not it’s all about being respectful and chatting you never know what will happen that night or after it.

Within the clubs it’s just like a social some people drink some don’t but as I have seen it’s not a good idea to drink first time and if you do drink know your limits as you will be asked to leave if you don’t take no for an answer or get outta hand"

Noted much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do what everyone else does and lie about your age "

I dunno about doing that

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Your biggest issue is you can't accommodate. Harsh but true as many will look at you as someone just looking to get their dick wet. More chance meeting folk on a night out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your biggest issue is you can't accommodate. Harsh but true as many will look at you as someone just looking to get their dick wet. More chance meeting folk on a night out. "

I understand thanks

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Your age would put me off as 20yrs old is very young.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, hang in there as your 1 meet will come in time , i know what it was like when i first started frustrated like a bull in field full off horny cow' s , show respect to whom you chat to and expect the same in return and try find things that will keep someone wanting to chat to you as there will be many in your boat trying to get there first meet too. Best aw luck too you get along to the many of the varied socials out there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your age would put me off as 20yrs old is very young."

Yeah it is understandable but just means I’m fitter with more stamina

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, hang in there as your 1 meet will come in time , i know what it was like when i first started frustrated like a bull in field full off horny cow' s , show respect to whom you chat to and expect the same in return and try find things that will keep someone wanting to chat to you as there will be many in your boat trying to get there first meet too. Best aw luck too you get along to the many of the varied socials out there "

Love your positivity thanks very much

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Some chicks like young guys..most dont I'm afraid but hey...hang in there

It’s a sad reality thanks very much will do "

Hang in there OP.

If that can help you see another angle to your 'age dilemma', perso, I would not meet with someone the same age as my oldest or around.

And having spoken before about that with others on here I am not the only one that feels this way.

Maybe going to a social or club will put your personality more than your age in the light.

Hope this makes sense

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"Your age would put me off as 20yrs old is very young.

Yeah it is understandable but just means I’m fitter with more stamina "

Quite a sweeping statement there! Some younger guys may suffer from premature ejaculation due to inexperience or their bodies may not have fully matured fitness-wise. 15 all! Young pup to serve.

It may prove fruitful, though, if some older guy takes the hump, and decides to challenge you to a shag-off. Smart thinking in that case!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dispute it being prejudiced, you are younger than my son and for that reason I wouldn’t play with anyone younger as it wouldn’t feel right

There are many other ladies who prefer younger guys but get yourself to social etc as other posts suggest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dispute it being prejudiced, you are younger than my son and for that reason I wouldn’t play with anyone younger as it wouldn’t feel right

There are many other ladies who prefer younger guys but get yourself to social etc as other posts suggest"

Have to agree with you, my age limits are older than my son, I don’t and won’t break them, it doesn’t feel right to me personally. Definitely go to a social so the ladies can put a face to the name

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some chicks like young guys..most dont I'm afraid but hey...hang in there

It’s a sad reality thanks very much will do

Hang in there OP.

If that can help you see another angle to your 'age dilemma', perso, I would not meet with someone the same age as my oldest or around.

And having spoken before about that with others on here I am not the only one that feels this way.

Maybe going to a social or club will put your personality more than your age in the light.

Hope this makes sense "

Sure does thanks very much

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dispute it being prejudiced, you are younger than my son and for that reason I wouldn’t play with anyone younger as it wouldn’t feel right

There are many other ladies who prefer younger guys but get yourself to social etc as other posts suggest"

Will do thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your age would put me off as 20yrs old is very young.

Yeah it is understandable but just means I’m fitter with more stamina

Quite a sweeping statement there! Some younger guys may suffer from premature ejaculation due to inexperience or their bodies may not have fully matured fitness-wise. 15 all! Young pup to serve.

It may prove fruitful, though, if some older guy takes the hump, and decides to challenge you to a shag-off. Smart thinking in that case!"

I’m not saying young men are better just saying I’m eager to please

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

Some good advice given here.

Personally, being double your age would make me uncomfortable. Plus younger men tend to lack in experience although I'm sure they make up for it in enthusiasm. I'm attracted to guys my own age and a bit older, although my bf would love to see me with a younger guy!

Hang in there, be confident but not arrogant, respectful and laid back. Follow the advice given and get your face out there, show your personality and keep chatting in here, it all helps. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some good advice given here.

Personally, being double your age would make me uncomfortable. Plus younger men tend to lack in experience although I'm sure they make up for it in enthusiasm. I'm attracted to guys my own age and a bit older, although my bf would love to see me with a younger guy!

Hang in there, be confident but not arrogant, respectful and laid back. Follow the advice given and get your face out there, show your personality and keep chatting in here, it all helps. Good luck "

All the advice given has been very helpful thanks again

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

Just hang around till you’re old enough, still waiting.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Come along to the quiz on a Tuesday night when you’re back from England.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Come along to the quiz on a Tuesday night when you’re back from England. "

Thanks very much for the invite but I’m down here till Friday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Come along to the quiz on a Tuesday night when you’re back from England.

Thanks very much for the invite but I’m down here till Friday "

Go the following week then numb nuts (whose team is he gonnae be on?)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Come along to the quiz on a Tuesday night when you’re back from England.

Thanks very much for the invite but I’m down here till Friday

Go the following week then numb nuts (whose team is he gonnae be on?) "

Sounds like a plan

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By *ureskilzMan
over a year ago

hemel hempstead

I’m in the same boat as you mate been on here a while now and I have only met one person I don’t know what I have to do tbh seeing people say go to a club etc but I’m looking round my area and most clubs don’t even let in younger people ahaha puts me in a lost position ahah ??

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth


"I’m in the same boat as you mate been on here a while now and I have only met one person I don’t know what I have to do tbh seeing people say go to a club etc but I’m looking round my area and most clubs don’t even let in younger people ahaha puts me in a lost position ahah ?? "

South East? Are you in England, most clubs operate and over 21 system, some do over 18s.

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

Im younger than op, we've had lots of meets.. a bad worker blames his tools

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im younger than op, we've had lots of meets.. a bad worker blames his tools "

You're a couple though. It's easier for a couple to get meets. It's much harder for a single guy....doesnt matter what age they are either.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Your age would put me off as 20yrs old is very young."

You appear to have aged 4yrs in 12weeks which i find very strange.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"Your age would put me off as 20yrs old is very young.

You appear to have aged 4yrs in 12weeks which i find very strange. "

Yep appears so.

What age are you OP?

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Im younger than op, we've had lots of meets.. a bad worker blames his tools

You're a couple though. It's easier for a couple to get meets. It's much harder for a single guy....doesnt matter what age they are either."

Single guys;

Abandon hope all ye who enter here.

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By *eestar38Couple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Personally I like younger males as they have plenty of energy and very eager to please. Also needs to be an attraction there as well

my hubby is 8 years younger was only 22 when I got my claws into him lol.

Go to events meets things like that get you noticed and started in the right direction.

As many people have already said don't go in all guns blazing thinking that you will get it straight away.

Assess the situation chat with people don't get to d*unk and relax.

As long as you dont ask like a dick and so respect am sure you will not be short on offers.

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By *ureskilzMan
over a year ago

hemel hempstead


"I’m in the same boat as you mate been on here a while now and I have only met one person I don’t know what I have to do tbh seeing people say go to a club etc but I’m looking round my area and most clubs don’t even let in younger people ahaha puts me in a lost position ahah ??

South East? Are you in England, most clubs operate and over 21 system, some do over 18s. "

Yeh I’m in the south East I’m 23 but most places round here rather couples etc than single guys and even if it was single guys they think us young fellas all we want is just looking for sex etc not Conversation Apparently no chat so it’s really hard ahah

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