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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The amount of guys on here that have themselves down as straight, yet quickly assert themselves as bi once there's a MF couple looking for a single male, is astounding.

Do they feel more secure exploring their bi fantasy in the company of a female, or is it just the taboo part of turning on the female far more than what would be normal?

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By *eyFife2020Man
over a year ago

St. Andrews

Hi, i am more comfortable with a female around and dont mind being touched or slightly more (little oral) by the male partner -but still consider myself as straight and would have no intention to meet a guy solo - just sensual to know the female partner is watching (so more for her sake than for mine)..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's the part I struggle with. To what extent are you straight if you can allow another guy to engage in what can only be described as a homosexual act?

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Noticed there’s a few profiles that won’t play with a couple with a bi male.

We don’t have any problem with bi males as part of couples, we just set clear boundaries before a meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Noticed there’s a few profiles that won’t play with a couple with a bi male.

We don’t have any problem with bi males as part of couples, we just set clear boundaries before a meet. "

As you should. We try as best we can to cover all scenarios and eventualities and we fully vet people to the last detail prior to any arrangement being made, which can be done in a fun way.

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By *eyFife2020Man
over a year ago

St. Andrews


"That's the part I struggle with. To what extent are you straight if you can allow another guy to engage in what can only be described as a homosexual act?

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As a UK national i would say close my eyes and think of Queen and Country - it only happened once and it was the female partners desire to see two guys, it felt not enjoyable but seeing the curiosity on her and the way she was getting excited made up for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah...if your happy for a guy to touch you sexually in any way..your not straight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nah...if your happy for a guy to touch you sexually in any way..your not straight."

I lean more towards that view myself.

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By *eyFife2020Man
over a year ago

St. Andrews


"Nah...if your happy for a guy to touch you sexually in any way..your not straight.

I lean more towards that view myself. "

on that topic - have you (or anyone) not done things where you afterwards wonder if it was worth it for you or your partner to go through but not actually enjoyed the sensation? I will remain firm and say i am straight....(maybe...no definitely!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say if you do it once dont like it fine but more than once your bi

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

Thank the heavens I've only fucked one jelly in my life. I'd hate to be labelled jellysexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount of guys on here that have themselves down as straight, yet quickly assert themselves as bi once there's a MF couple looking for a single male, is astounding.

Do they feel more secure exploring their bi fantasy in the company of a female, or is it just the taboo part of turning on the female far more than what would be normal? "

I would say you're wife/partner is the golden sovereign here.

Maybe they would tolerate sucking you're cock to get the ultimate prize.

Who knows ?

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By *ay2571Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Im bi, no ifs or buts about it.

Just from my experience l, I think the presence of a woman alows guys to give themselves a degree of leniency and act out if things they normally would not consider. I have cert had a mmf where the other guy has hardly looked at the f, and this was a guy who described himself a stright. On the other hand I once had what should have been a bi mmf. But the other guy would hardly look at me.

I suppose we all get hung up on labels a bit.

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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago

Anstruther

Just leave everyone to identity as what ever they want and do what ever they want if u r meeting set clear lines that cant be crossed and if all respectable u will have a banging night yes pun was intended lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just leave everyone to identity as what ever they want and do what ever they want if u r meeting set clear lines that cant be crossed and if all respectable u will have a banging night yes pun was intended lol"

Correct!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I dont agree with this

As someone who dosnt meet bi guys I'd like to know who I'm meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Noticed there’s a few profiles that won’t play with a couple with a bi male.

We don’t have any problem with bi males as part of couples, we just set clear boundaries before a meet. "

We are that couple with a bi Male but it's not the only thing we look for. We like to meet straight couples too, he likes that just as much as doesn't feel the need to touch every guy we play with. We do what everyone is happy with in the situation. I am in the minority I think being a straight female when it seems a huge percentage of couples have a straight male and bi female. I've never really been interested in playing with women but sometimes feel its kind of expected. Just my opinion, don't want to offend anyone.

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By *illie99TV/TS
over a year ago

Central Scotland


"Sorry I dont agree with this

As someone who dosnt meet bi guys I'd like to know who I'm meeting."

However the conundrum is that unless you already know the person 100% you can never tell from a profile. Even then they could be hiding things.

90% of the guys messaging me profess to be straight in their profiles.

Back to the OP's point I think yes there are one or two who will say they are bi just to have a chance with you. But I suspect they do harbour some secret bi thoughts. As the true died in the wool straight guys would run a mile at the thought of even accidently touching another guys tackle

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire


"Noticed there’s a few profiles that won’t play with a couple with a bi male.

We don’t have any problem with bi males as part of couples, we just set clear boundaries before a meet.

We are that couple with a bi Male but it's not the only thing we look for. We like to meet straight couples too, he likes that just as much as doesn't feel the need to touch every guy we play with. We do what everyone is happy with in the situation. I am in the minority I think being a straight female when it seems a huge percentage of couples have a straight male and bi female. I've never really been interested in playing with women but sometimes feel its kind of expected. Just my opinion, don't want to offend anyone. "

It's definitely noticeable that you're the minority. Is that merely down to women being the more sexually fluid gender - by some way as far as Fab couples go. Is it that some are easily influenced by expectation on here, or are women just a helluva lot more honest than guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry I dont agree with this

As someone who dosnt meet bi guys I'd like to know who I'm meeting.

However the conundrum is that unless you already know the person 100% you can never tell from a profile. Even then they could be hiding things.

90% of the guys messaging me profess to be straight in their profiles.

Back to the OP's point I think yes there are one or two who will say they are bi just to have a chance with you. But I suspect they do harbour some secret bi thoughts. As the true died in the wool straight guys would run a mile at the thought of even accidently touching another guys tackle "
totally agree that's what a veri paper trail is for as most guys forget the tv veri or the bi curious status they have up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've certainly been propositioned by a high number of guys who claim to be bi curious, even though they state clearly on their profile that they're straight.

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By *ainyDaySunshineMan
over a year ago

Ayrshire


"Nah...if your happy for a guy to touch you sexually in any way..your not straight."

Have to agree. I'm 100 percent straight.

Like they say in Ghostbusters: Don't cross the streams

If you do, who you gonna call? Not me!

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By *yanShireMan
over a year ago

Motherwell


"Just leave everyone to identity as what ever they want and do what ever they want if u r meeting set clear lines that cant be crossed and if all respectable u will have a banging night yes pun was intended lol"

I’m with you. Just let everyone say they are “sexual” and then if planning a meet, talk through what you’re interested in. All about respect, boundaries and having fun. I’ve had lots of meets with straight couples and bi couples and it has never been an issue. I know how to be respectful and don’t take any pleasure in making others feel uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Noticed there’s a few

We are that couple with a bi Male but it's not the only thing we look for. We like to meet straight couples too, he likes that just as much as doesn't feel the need to touch every guy we play with. We do what everyone is happy with in the situation. I am in the minority I think being a straight female when it seems a huge percentage of couples have a straight male and bi female. I've never really been interested in playing with women but sometimes feel its kind of expected. Just my opinion, don't want to offend anyone.

It's definitely noticeable that you're the minority. Is that merely down to women being the more sexually fluid gender - by some way as far as Fab couples go. Is it that some are easily influenced by expectation on here, or are women just a helluva lot more honest than guys? "

We've pondered about this a lot too. Who knows! Maybe one day I will be blown away by another girl but the urge hasn't come so far. Never say never i suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just leave everyone to identity as what ever they want and do what ever they want if u r meeting set clear lines that cant be crossed and if all respectable u will have a banging night yes pun was intended lol

I’m with you. Just let everyone say they are “sexual” and then if planning a meet, talk through what you’re interested in. All about respect, boundaries and having fun. I’ve had lots of meets with straight couples and bi couples and it has never been an issue. I know how to be respectful and don’t take any pleasure in making others feel uncomfortable. "

This!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get plenty of messages from straight male profiles who quickly say they are bisexual. Some back this up with pictures.

We’ve been told they don’t have themselves up as bi in order to reduce gay or other bi guys hassling them, to not put off straight women, and to avoid their straight male mates seeing that they are bi.

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Sorry I dont agree with this

As someone who dosnt meet bi guys I'd like to know who I'm meeting."

You would be amazed at the amount of straight guys on here who are also on Fab Guys as Bi or even Gay with verifications of their conquests..... So the likelihood is that you could well be meeting Bi guys

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By *ootall2920Man
over a year ago

Linlithgow

Sexuality is a spectrum, most of us aren't at the extremes. A single definition for every individual doesn't necessarily fit.

I'm very confident that I'm bi. Quite happy to be with a guy sexually, but prefer women most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got myself down as bi curious on my profile but would love to to have my first full on guy on guy with a couple. Not sure if it just a bit of comfort that there’s a female there or if I’d like to share the first time before going full on mm

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

It doesn’t matter what you put yourself down as, or who you say you’re looking for … some people will just ignore it and message you anyway.

I get loads of messages form guys asking to suck my cock, despite my profile saying that I’m straight and not looking for guys.

I suppose god loves a trier, or something …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's the part I struggle with. To what extent are you straight if you can allow another guy to engage in what can only be described as a homosexual act?

"

The same can be said for bi-curious/bi-sexual at what point do you stop being curious and If you do it more than once does that mean you’re no longer curious?.

If a person was to perform a sexual act on someone of the same sex I’d say that their either fully bi or just curious but if the act was performed on them in the throws of passion then no I’d just say their comfortable with the situation.

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By *enni WhiteTV/TS
over a year ago

Glasgow

labels are the worst thing on this site. If someone says they are straight, what proof do you have of their past sexual encounters? Being straight doesnt mean u fancy every person of the opposite sex, so the same with bi or gay.

Would be far less complicated to remove all of the labels and if u like someone then find out if they like you.

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By *irlintheRedRed dressWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow

Everyone knows there is straight and there is Fab "straight" A guy I know met a couple who clearly state on their profile that they will both be eh...orally pleasuring the other guy. Yet when I queried the fact his profile said straight he blocked me. Just be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting meets is difficult enough for most guys on fab that they will tolerate what they would otherwise not be interested in. Hence allowing a male partner suck them to get to the female partner. I do wonder if such can be classed as being bi or just desperate... Is a woman who uses a toy attracted to plastic...

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By *appyman3943Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen


"Just leave everyone to identity as what ever they want and do what ever they want if u r meeting set clear lines that cant be crossed and if all respectable u will have a banging night yes pun was intended lol

I’m with you. Just let everyone say they are “sexual” and then if planning a meet, talk through what you’re interested in. All about respect, boundaries and having fun. I’ve had lots of meets with straight couples and bi couples and it has never been an issue. I know how to be respectful and don’t take any pleasure in making others feel uncomfortable. "

Spot on! Discuss, agree and respect the boundaries then have fun! That’s what we are all here for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The amount of guys on here that have themselves down as straight, yet quickly assert themselves as bi once there's a MF couple looking for a single male, is astounding.

Do they feel more secure exploring their bi fantasy in the company of a female, or is it just the taboo part of turning on the female far more than what would be normal? "

Any couples I have met the man did not get involved other than watch his wife been pleasured while he wanked or fucked after I came

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today I am identifying as a green wheely bin......

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish there weren't labels on here. I like a bit of everything- male and female--and I know that I wish I didn't have to identify as anything other than that i like what I like etc. Some guys will turn me on and some women will to. I have put bi curious on here before but found that the messages I began to receive were from men and only men and began to get a plethora of messages asking for the same thing (hey I'll pay you for that dick) and the block button was getting overused.

Since turning the profile back to being straight, it's been a bit more balanced and less noisy if that makes sense. I really enjoy and continue to enjoy the experience I have had with a Bi MMF situation, which is mainly where I like to explore things with men (though I have had private fun before) and I simply explain my reasons why it says straight and they can believe me or not. I just make it clear what I am looking for when I message and my limits etc.

I know why it can seem skeptical for couples on here but there are those that are genuine and will take the time to explore a bi side with a couple. Just wish the website could accommodate that a bit better.

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