FabSwingers.com forum: Approaching and talking to ladies

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What is everyone's thoughts on us guys approaching ladies in the street and chatting (looking for female perspective here in particular)...

Reason I ask is i have never been the most confident in chatting women up and striking up conversation, I'm confident in the bedroom but initiating conversation is a weak area.

Today walking through town on lunch I noticed a very attractive young woman coming towards me and making strong eye-contact, of course this may have been because she thought i was F-ugly

Would it have been weird for me to just approach and talk to her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel your pain, I’m the same. Although it appears to be just as difficult to get a response from women on here too, would be interesting to get a perspective.....

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Don't chat them up.......just chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't chat them up.......just chat "

Elaborate please

I find small talk excruciating at times haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't chat them up.......just chat

Elaborate please

I find small talk excruciating at times haha"

Don't start a conversation with compliments and flattery, it doesn't really leave much in the way of direction for it to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell that's creepy!!

Walking up randomly no.

Sitting next to someone striking up a conversation as in..isn't the weather rubish just now or along those lines yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't even think about it. I barely even look at them incase they take offence. Minefield.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Wouldn't even think about it. I barely even look at them incase they take offence. Minefield."

Dont be silly. We are not that bad. I love talking to people and people talking to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't even think about it. I barely even look at them incase they take offence. Minefield.

Dont be silly. We are not that bad. I love talking to people and people talking to me."

Yes you not all. That's why I say minefield haha.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Wouldn't even think about it. I barely even look at them incase they take offence. Minefield.

Dont be silly. We are not that bad. I love talking to people and people talking to me.

Yes you not all. That's why I say minefield haha.

I can go for days without seeing a soul so when someone talks to me its a good feeling as long as its nothing rude that they say.

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By *hatsmynameagainCouple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Start with a friendly "hello" if she wants to engage with you she'll stop and also say hello.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't chat them up.......just chat

Elaborate please

I find small talk excruciating at times haha"

Have to agree with Kola... what would you say to anyone, male or female? Or is it both sexes you struggle to make small talk with, shyness in general?

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By *aledonianDoranMan
over a year ago

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Just say hello, if she doesn't start pointing at you screaming stranger danger and hitting you with her umbrella, you're in with a chance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't chat them up.......just chat

Elaborate please

I find small talk excruciating at times haha

Have to agree with Kola... what would you say to anyone, male or female? Or is it both sexes you struggle to make small talk with, shyness in general? "

I am shy by nature however if a new member of staff starts at work I can initiate conversation no problem! Its finding the confidence to approach when out in public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wouldn't even think about it. I barely even look at them incase they take offence. Minefield.

Dont be silly. We are not that bad. I love talking to people and people talking to me.

Yes you not all. That's why I say minefield haha.

I can go for days without seeing a soul so when someone talks to me its a good feeling as long as its nothing rude that they say."

You must live in the back of beyond. Lucky you.

But I can undersrand why a chit chat would be good. Lets face it dog conversation are pretty one sided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't chat them up.......just chat

Elaborate please

I find small talk excruciating at times haha

Have to agree with Kola... what would you say to anyone, male or female? Or is it both sexes you struggle to make small talk with, shyness in general?

I am shy by nature however if a new member of staff starts at work I can initiate conversation no problem! Its finding the confidence to approach when out in public"

I’d tend to think that would be a “transferable skill” surely there’s much there that’s general opening chat???

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Don't chat them up.......just chat

Elaborate please

I find small talk excruciating at times haha

Have to agree with Kola... what would you say to anyone, male or female? Or is it both sexes you struggle to make small talk with, shyness in general?

I am shy by nature however if a new member of staff starts at work I can initiate conversation no problem! Its finding the confidence to approach when out in public"
don't take this wrong but chat up is an attempt to gain favour by painting a picture that's inaccurate.

Just talk to them as people and let it take it's own course if anything going to happen it will if not you met a person and shared an enjoyable chat and put the world to rights.

Can you guess I'm not a fan of blowing smoke up someone's ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't chat them up.......just chat

Elaborate please

I find small talk excruciating at times haha

Have to agree with Kola... what would you say to anyone, male or female? Or is it both sexes you struggle to make small talk with, shyness in general?

I am shy by nature however if a new member of staff starts at work I can initiate conversation no problem! Its finding the confidence to approach when out in publicdon't take this wrong but chat up is an attempt to gain favour by painting a picture that's inaccurate.

Just talk to them as people and let it take it's own course if anything going to happen it will if not you met a person and shared an enjoyable chat and put the world to rights.

Can you guess I'm not a fan of blowing smoke up someone's ass

Whit ya like... you can be NICE without blowing smoke up asses yanno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that in a bar of coffee shop it’s ok to try and strike up a conversation but just keep it casual and see how she responds. If she looks uncomfortable then move on.

I really would advise against approaching and complimenting random women in the street. It’s happened to me and it’s incredibly creepy!

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

"What is everyone's thoughts on us guys approaching ladies in the street and chatting (looking for female perspective here in particular)...

Reason I ask is i have never been the most confident in chatting women up and striking up conversation, I'm confident in the bedroom but initiating conversation is a weak area.

Today walking through town on lunch I noticed a very attractive young woman coming towards me and making strong eye-contact, of course this may have been because she thought i was F-ugly

Would it have been weird for me to just approach and talk to her?

Discuss...."

Smiling works a treat in any walk of life, probably wouldnt dive in for the big Hiya mind you.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Don't chat them up.......just chat

Elaborate please

I find small talk excruciating at times haha

Have to agree with Kola... what would you say to anyone, male or female? Or is it both sexes you struggle to make small talk with, shyness in general?

Just talk to them as people and let it take it's own course if anything going to happen it will if not you met a person and shared an enjoyable chat and put the world to rights.

Can you guess I'm not a fan of blowing smoke up someone's ass

Whit ya like... you can be NICE without blowing smoke up asses yanno

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you can but most struggle so go overboard on the gushy cack

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

Approaching random women in the street is bizarre!

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By *ingle-minglerMan
over a year ago

balloch

anything more than a smile and nod would take me right out my comfort zone. And to be honest, stopping someone in the street to chat to them based on how they look is likely to get you into all sorts of shit.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Approaching random women in the street is bizarre! "

How bizarre, how bizarre, how bizarre.

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By *nferno sausageMan
over a year ago

Aberdeenshire

"Approaching random women in the street is bizarre!

How bizarre, how bizarre, how bizarre. "

Sorry. Wrong thread

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

I’m good at the chat. The trick is to be a nice person and listen more than you talk.

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By *iss_b_heavenCouple
over a year ago

Near St Andrews

It can come over as a little creepy unless the man is relaxed and not attempting to hassle you. Unfortunately, some men can't read signals and then become aggressive when you don't show any interest...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is everyone's thoughts on us guys approaching ladies in the street and chatting (looking for female perspective here in particular)...

Reason I ask is i have never been the most confident in chatting women up and striking up conversation, I'm confident in the bedroom but initiating conversation is a weak area.

Today walking through town on lunch I noticed a very attractive young woman coming towards me and making strong eye-contact, of course this may have been because she thought i was F-ugly

Would it have been weird for me to just approach and talk to her?

Discuss....

Smiling works a treat in any walk of life, probably wouldnt dive in for the big Hiya mind you."

Smiling changes your face and therefore people’s reaction - folk should do it more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't chat them up.......just chat

Elaborate please

I find small talk excruciating at times haha

Have to agree with Kola... what would you say to anyone, male or female? Or is it both sexes you struggle to make small talk with, shyness in general?

Just talk to them as people and let it take it's own course if anything going to happen it will if not you met a person and shared an enjoyable chat and put the world to rights.

Can you guess I'm not a fan of blowing smoke up someone's ass

Whit ya like... you can be NICE without blowing smoke up asses yanno

you can but most struggle so go overboard on the gushy cack

There is such a thing as a happy medium ya know...

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Everyone's medium is different though some love the cheese some detest it

my point was when you chat up a woman/man it shows your interest is only in sex with them if you just chat it opens up way more avenues

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