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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can I ask for advice on this please.

If someone is on and of your profile a lot, do you wait for them to make the move first.

I always get apprehensive incase I am misreading the signs. Do you let them wink, send a message or would you contact them directly.

Am all for equality defo woman making a move but I still have that inner voice it says no don’t incase you look an arse and they are not interested.

It’s that thing if they are not abs you have approached them. I get your not going to be everyone’s cup of tea but anyway I may not be making any sense and rambling on xx

Alana xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're probably just being nosey and waiting to see if you unhide it

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Your about to get alot more looking with and without contact

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

If the person's profile appeals to you, there's absolutely no harm in sending a message x

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By *hrekfionaCouple
over a year ago

Leven

We have a couple look at our profile atleast twice a day, have met them at a social before, but when asked to meet for fun they have turned us down claiming we aren't what they are looking for, but yet continue to look and like our pictures. Makes me wonder lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People look at profiles for all sorts of reasons

It's probably a wee bit conceited to think it's only because they'd like to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look if I fancy them, if their posts make me laugh or interest me and if I'm just being a nosey cow and want to see who they've been pumping.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I look at certain male profiles alot as they have hot pics. This does not mean i want to meet them as mostly they are too short or too far away. I just like a wee nosey but as i hide they dont see that i am looking.

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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago

Anstruther

I never look at whos looked at me if they want to msg they will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m always checking out profiles.

Sometimes I message first sometimes I don’t but we always reply to any that message us first.

What are you on here for if it’s not to chat and possibly meet people?

What’s the worst that can happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a cheeky wink if you like the look of their profile

Xx

Claire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I looked at my who’s looking, saw someone who peaked my interest so sent him a wink. He then sent me a message and that was that.. seen him 3 times in 5 days

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By *uzzy-LogicMan
over a year ago

Fochabers


"I never look at whos looked at me if they want to msg they will "

Good to know babe, I can perv away unnoticed

I view profiles for lots of reasons and definitely get viewed by people not always looking to meet I used to find it odd especially when people who have "not looking for single male" on their profile or straight guys.

But now I just figure if someone wants to meet or chat they will wink or message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have a nosy at my looked at me lol

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By *bcums3Couple
over a year ago

lanarkshire


"Can I ask for advice on this please.

If someone is on and of your profile a lot, do you wait for them to make the move first.

I always get apprehensive incase I am misreading the signs. Do you let them wink, send a message or would you contact them directly.

Am all for equality defo woman making a move but I still have that inner voice it says no don’t incase you look an arse and they are not interested.

It’s that thing if they are not abs you have approached them. I get your not going to be everyone’s cup of tea but anyway I may not be making any sense and rambling on xx

Alana xxxxxx"

Def making sense I (fem) do the chatting but find it hard to make the first move now as there is many times where there is nothing back or deleted immediately so I don’t feel I have the confidence now to be the first one to msg...tho never think maybe the other person is feeling the same I never think you can get your personality across with just a mag anyway

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By *rjaffa33Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I always look to see who has looked at me..... but thats maybe juat trying to get a confidence booster as a male who doesnt get looked at very often.

Having said that, if I notice someone has looked at me several times and I likenthe look of them... I will always drop them a message thanking them for looking and hoping they like what they saw.

In the past that has led to a conversation getting started which is what we all want isnt it? Once you get chatting you can find out if you click much more easily....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always look at my who's looked at me list. There's always some who look more times than others do but that doesn't mean I'm going to message them. I do look at profiles too but they can't see me on their list as I never have that on x

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By *aledonianDoranMan
over a year ago

fife


"I look if I fancy them, if their posts make me laugh or interest me and if I'm just being a nosey cow and want to see who they've been pumping.

"

And there was me thinking you fancied me

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By *aledonianDoranMan
over a year ago

fife


"Can I ask for advice on this please.

If someone is on and of your profile a lot, do you wait for them to make the move first.

I always get apprehensive incase I am misreading the signs. Do you let them wink, send a message or would you contact them directly.

Am all for equality defo woman making a move but I still have that inner voice it says no don’t incase you look an arse and they are not interested.

It’s that thing if they are not abs you have approached them. I get your not going to be everyone’s cup of tea but anyway I may not be making any sense and rambling on xx

Alana xxxxxx"

I get hundreds of people viewing my profile every day, I'll only msg the people that either wink or fab my pics as they've shown an interest, but even then, it takes me hours to get through the 50 odd winks and fabs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask for advice on this please.

If someone is on and of your profile a lot, do you wait for them to make the move first.

I always get apprehensive incase I am misreading the signs. Do you let them wink, send a message or would you contact them directly.

Am all for equality defo woman making a move but I still have that inner voice it says no don’t incase you look an arse and they are not interested.

It’s that thing if they are not abs you have approached them. I get your not going to be everyone’s cup of tea but anyway I may not be making any sense and rambling on xx

Alana xxxxxx"

You're profiles hidden alana so maybe they are waiting to see if you unhide it, either way if you can see theirs send them a friendly wink and take it from there, good luck x

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"If the person's profile appeals to you, there's absolutely no harm in sending a message x"

This (if you think you meet their requirements that are set out in their profile)

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By *liver KloosoffMan
over a year ago

I dont live in a town

Send a message! Nothing to loose and lots to gain!! In my experience on here those that continually look are interested!

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By *licker77Man
over a year ago

Stirling

I’ve had this a lot recently, so I messaged saying thanks for looking etc and they don’t respond ??

At least they are looking

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hmmm. Maybe I should switch ninja mode off. A profile view may be a ‘casual wink’.

But then doggie will catch me perving her profile all day long and peg me for a perv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm. Maybe I should switch ninja mode off. A profile view may be a ‘casual wink’.

But then doggie will catch me perving her profile all day long and peg me for a perv "

Peg ye? Could be arranged Jimbo....you bring the Vaseline and leave the rest to me sweetie

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Hmmm. Maybe I should switch ninja mode off. A profile view may be a ‘casual wink’.

But then doggie will catch me perving her profile all day long and peg me for a perv

Peg ye? Could be arranged Jimbo....you bring the Vaseline and leave the rest to me sweetie "

Offt. Off to the shop.

Ninja mode reinstated.

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By *ilveryFoxMan
over a year ago

Midlothian


"Can I ask for advice on this please.

If someone is on and of your profile a lot, do you wait for them to make the move first.

I always get apprehensive incase I am misreading the signs. Do you let them wink, send a message or would you contact them directly.

Am all for equality defo woman making a move but I still have that inner voice it says no don’t incase you look an arse and they are not interested.

It’s that thing if they are not abs you have approached them. I get your not going to be everyone’s cup of tea but anyway I may not be making any sense and rambling on xx

Alana xxxxxx"

Just message me then

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I’ve had this a lot recently, so I messaged saying thanks for looking etc and they don’t respond ??

At least they are looking "

I hated it when folk thanked me for looking and is the reason i now hide.

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By *rjaffa33Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I’ve had this a lot recently, so I messaged saying thanks for looking etc and they don’t respond ??

At least they are looking

I hated it when folk thanked me for looking and is the reason i now hide."

Whats wrong with being thanked for looking??

I get it that getting a non individualised, thought through message is insulting and/or an abusive message is insulting.

But why....if you have looked at someones profile several times .... would you be insulted if they thanked you and went on to compliment your profile and tried to impress you with their wit and charm?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I was not insulted when they thanked me i just always got the feeling they thought i was interested in meeting with them which was not always the case. As said before people look for lots of reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had this a lot recently, so I messaged saying thanks for looking etc and they don’t respond ??

At least they are looking

I hated it when folk thanked me for looking and is the reason i now hide.

Whats wrong with being thanked for looking??

I get it that getting a non individualised, thought through message is insulting and/or an abusive message is insulting.

But why....if you have looked at someones profile several times .... would you be insulted if they thanked you and went on to compliment your profile and tried to impress you with their wit and charm?"

.....it's the wit and charm bit, or lack thereof, that's the problem

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I’ve had this a lot recently, so I messaged saying thanks for looking etc and they don’t respond ??

At least they are looking

I hated it when folk thanked me for looking and is the reason i now hide.

Whats wrong with being thanked for looking??

I get it that getting a non individualised, thought through message is insulting and/or an abusive message is insulting.

But why....if you have looked at someones profile several times .... would you be insulted if they thanked you and went on to compliment your profile and tried to impress you with their wit and charm?

.....it's the wit and charm bit, or lack thereof, that's the problem "

At the end of the day if i had been interested i would have messaged them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no harm in saying "Hello".

I generally look at profiles for varied reasons.

One of them is too admire their photoshop and filter skills.

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By *utdooryoneMan
over a year ago

Over there


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At the end of the day if i had been interested i would have messaged them. "

This. No-one has to reply or message.

No offence or expectation given.

Message = reply as long as it is a 'nice' message. Pic views = vanity and no more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’ve got pics on your profile chances are they’re occasionally knocking one off over your pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask for advice on this please.

If someone is on and of your profile a lot, do you wait for them to make the move first.

I always get apprehensive incase I am misreading the signs. Do you let them wink, send a message or would you contact them directly.

Am all for equality defo woman making a move but I still have that inner voice it says no don’t incase you look an arse and they are not interested.

It’s that thing if they are not abs you have approached them. I get your not going to be everyone’s cup of tea but anyway I may not be making any sense and rambling on xx

Alana xxxxxx"

I don't have much of a profile to view so never expect many folk to view it. Although they do seem to shoot away up when the people I'm verified by come online weirdly enough....

Anyway, I'd say drop the person a message. Assuming it's a male, they'll almost certainly appreciate it.

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By *rjaffa33Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I was not insulted when they thanked me i just always got the feeling they thought i was interested in meeting with them which was not always the case. As said before people look for lots of reasons."

I think most sane people have learnt not to expect anything on here. Certainly wouldnt expect someone to be interested in me just because they have looked. However, I still dont think it is wrong to drop someone a wee message if they have been looking and you like the look of them. Probably will come to nothing.... but you never know. I find it a real shame that if I do drop a message it might be putting the woman off!!!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"I was not insulted when they thanked me i just always got the feeling they thought i was interested in meeting with them which was not always the case. As said before people look for lots of reasons.

I think most sane people have learnt not to expect anything on here. Certainly wouldnt expect someone to be interested in me just because they have looked. However, I still dont think it is wrong to drop someone a wee message if they have been looking and you like the look of them. Probably will come to nothing.... but you never know. I find it a real shame that if I do drop a message it might be putting the woman off!!!"

Not so much putting me off but as someone who answers most of my messages i found it interupted my free time which i had hoped to spend just browsing. Females do recieve quite alot of messages so this really added to them. Easier now that i hide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was not insulted when they thanked me i just always got the feeling they thought i was interested in meeting with them which was not always the case. As said before people look for lots of reasons.

I think most sane people have learnt not to expect anything on here. Certainly wouldnt expect someone to be interested in me just because they have looked. However, I still dont think it is wrong to drop someone a wee message if they have been looking and you like the look of them. Probably will come to nothing.... but you never know. I find it a real shame that if I do drop a message it might be putting the woman off!!!"

Good point..Jaffa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had this a lot recently, so I messaged saying thanks for looking etc and they don’t respond ??

At least they are looking

I hated it when folk thanked me for looking and is the reason i now hide.

Whats wrong with being thanked for looking??

I get it that getting a non individualised, thought through message is insulting and/or an abusive message is insulting.

But why....if you have looked at someones profile several times .... would you be insulted if they thanked you and went on to compliment your profile and tried to impress you with their wit and charm?"

If someone thanked me for looking at their profile I'd pity them

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By *40ffCouple
over a year ago

Anstruther


"I never look at whos looked at me if they want to msg they will

Good to know babe, I can perv away unnoticed

I view profiles for lots of reasons and definitely get viewed by people not always looking to meet I used to find it odd especially when people who have "not looking for single male" on their profile or straight guys.

But now I just figure if someone wants to meet or chat they will wink or message me."

Like u didn't anyway haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had this a lot recently, so I messaged saying thanks for looking etc and they don’t respond ??

At least they are looking

I hated it when folk thanked me for looking and is the reason i now hide.

Whats wrong with being thanked for looking??

I get it that getting a non individualised, thought through message is insulting and/or an abusive message is insulting.

But why....if you have looked at someones profile several times .... would you be insulted if they thanked you and went on to compliment your profile and tried to impress you with their wit and charm?

If someone thanked me for looking at their profile I'd pity them "

Thanks for not looking at mine

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By *orgeouslyyoursWoman
over a year ago

essex just looking around


"We have a couple look at our profile atleast twice a day, have met them at a social before, but when asked to meet for fun they have turned us down claiming we aren't what they are looking for, but yet continue to look and like our pictures. Makes me wonder lol "

My phone often auto opens onto a friends ( real non play friends as well ) I've known for years profile.

I don't ever remember ever perving them so no idea why.. I often think omg they must think I stalk them.. but it only happens if i leave an account signed in even though I wouldnt have looked at them. I wonder if its to do with cookies... ??

I also have regular silent pervers.. quite flattering I guess ?

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By *ail_forceTV/TS
over a year ago

Dundee


"Can I ask for advice on this please.

If someone is on and of your profile a lot, do you wait for them to make the move first.

I always get apprehensive incase I am misreading the signs. Do you let them wink, send a message or would you contact them directly.

Am all for equality defo woman making a move but I still have that inner voice it says no don’t incase you look an arse and they are not interested.

It’s that thing if they are not abs you have approached them. I get your not going to be everyone’s cup of tea but anyway I may not be making any sense and rambling on xx

Alana xxxxxx"

sometimes they just type fab into the browser and your page is the link, so every time they visit they see your profile first lol x

that's my excuse anyway

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

If I see someone look more than once, female or couple that is, I generally mail them and thank them for peaking. After than they never come back, job done.

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By *stonDBS2Man
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy

Lots of contributing factors inspire a look-see.

New pics on profile.

New veri,(who have they met,who,who)lol.

Via local updates,relates to the above.

Forum post/forum comment.

Via chatroom,(being chatty works)

Folks browsing who is in their area.

90% are usually just content looking.

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