FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Scotland

The gentleman

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It is in my nature to be caring, thoughtful and polite. I've come to the understanding that not everyone likes a compliment but when I see someone on here that makes my jaw drop I have to compliment.

As for the real world i'm the person that holds the door open for a lady but I feel that it is not accepted in today's climate. Genuine courtesy seems to be seen as viewing someone as weak. It sad to think kindness and manners are no longer a thing.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is in my nature to be caring, thoughtful and polite. I've come to the understanding that not everyone likes a compliment but when I see someone on here that makes my jaw drop I have to compliment.

As for the real world i'm the person that holds the door open for a lady but I feel that it is not accepted in today's climate. Genuine courtesy seems to be seen as viewing someone as weak. It sad to think kindness and manners are no longer a thing.

"
Don't change, very few people like yourself left

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)


"It is in my nature to be caring, thoughtful and polite. I've come to the understanding that not everyone likes a compliment but when I see someone on here that makes my jaw drop I have to compliment.

As for the real world i'm the person that holds the door open for a lady but I feel that it is not accepted in today's climate. Genuine courtesy seems to be seen as viewing someone as weak. It sad to think kindness and manners are no longer a thing.

"

Do you think so, I find 90% of people curtious...maybe that drops to 25% when its pensioners

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ucky24Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"It is in my nature to be caring, thoughtful and polite. I've come to the understanding that not everyone likes a compliment but when I see someone on here that makes my jaw drop I have to compliment.

As for the real world i'm the person that holds the door open for a lady but I feel that it is not accepted in today's climate. Genuine courtesy seems to be seen as viewing someone as weak. It sad to think kindness and manners are no longer a thing.

"

I'm the same i hold the door for a woman or elderly people or someone carrying something because it is the right thing to do.

Courtesy costs nothing.

I'm not changing because it wouldn't feel right.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Holding a door open, regardless of who it's for, is what most decent people do. It doesn't mean you're anything special

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally disagree ^^^ hold the door open for me and I am totally jumping your bones (tongue-in-cheek). It’s the small things that make a difference. Good manners and courtesy go a long way

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Holding the door I do, flash on coming car is road is busy ( driving with clothes on) say good morning and hello to work colleagues every day, walk on the outside of the pavement to protect my partner from traffic, always buy the first round or two, black coffee 2 sugars if anyone wants to know!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Holding a door open, regardless of who it's for, is what most decent people do. It doesn't mean you're anything special "

Straight to the point - love it!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"It is in my nature to be caring, thoughtful and polite. I've come to the understanding that not everyone likes a compliment but when I see someone on here that makes my jaw drop I have to compliment.

As for the real world i'm the person that holds the door open for a lady but I feel that it is not accepted in today's climate. Genuine courtesy seems to be seen as viewing someone as weak. It sad to think kindness and manners are no longer a thing.

"

If it's done with sincerity then I appreciate it but if you are polite in public then a shit elsewhere don't bother - that's my motto

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

It’s nice to spend time with a gentleman who holds the door open.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ucky24Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Totally disagree ^^^ hold the door open for me and I am totally jumping your bones (tongue-in-cheek). It’s the small things that make a difference. Good manners and courtesy go a long way "

That's what I say, those little gestures might make someone's day.

The person you are especially with will certainly appreciate it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *palfruityCouple
over a year ago

Their Own World


"Holding a door open, regardless of who it's for, is what most decent people do. It doesn't mean you're anything special "
This.

Courtesy towards others is where one should be as a baseline. It's not a selling point in of itself; it should come as standard.

Far too many profiles lament the fact that they are 'nice' or 'genuine' but get little response. If that is the ONLY thing about somebody, I'm not interested in the slightest. It's basically stating they meet the minimum criteria for normal human behaviour. Whooo.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian


"Holding a door open, regardless of who it's for, is what most decent people do. It doesn't mean you're anything special This.

Courtesy towards others is where one should be as a baseline. It's not a selling point in of itself; it should come as standard.

Far too many profiles lament the fact that they are 'nice' or 'genuine' but get little response. If that is the ONLY thing about somebody, I'm not interested in the slightest. It's basically stating they meet the minimum criteria for normal human behaviour. Whooo."

God, I wish more folk understood this. You're a nice guy, great, but all you've told me there is you've got the very basic trait of human decency. Just 'nice' isn't a personality trait, it's the base of what people should be.

On the subject of holding doors etc., there's nothing wrong with courtesy and being helpful, just don't follow it with a leer or an unsolicited 'there you are my sweetheart', and you're fine. Women don't actually have a problem with men being nice to them, the problem lies with the expectation and/or entitlement that too often follows.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *stonDBS2Man
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy

Think the modern up to date version is, yup i will hold the door open if yer in a hurry,carrying stuff and not delaying either of us.

But if your one of these phone addict zombies with your head in your phone completely unaware of your surroundings and people around you, i kind of return the gesture and act like im unaware of you too,

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere


"Think the modern up to date version is, yup i will hold the door open if yer in a hurry,carrying stuff and not delaying either of us.

But if your one of these phone addict zombies with your head in your phone completely unaware of your surroundings and people around you, i kind of return the gesture and act like im unaware of you too, "

Them phone addicted zombies are just fellow fabbers trying to get the next meet sorted

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is in my nature to be caring, thoughtful and polite. I've come to the understanding that not everyone likes a compliment but when I see someone on here that makes my jaw drop I have to compliment.

As for the real world i'm the person that holds the door open for a lady but I feel that it is not accepted in today's climate. Genuine courtesy seems to be seen as viewing someone as weak. It sad to think kindness and manners are no longer a thing.

"

Seen a couple of utter zoomers on twitter moaning about guys holding doors open ‘cos, like, I’m more than capable, don’t need a man to hold it for me’ etc, etc.

Ye cannae win.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is in my nature to be caring, thoughtful and polite. I've come to the understanding that not everyone likes a compliment but when I see someone on here that makes my jaw drop I have to compliment.

As for the real world i'm the person that holds the door open for a lady but I feel that it is not accepted in today's climate. Genuine courtesy seems to be seen as viewing someone as weak. It sad to think kindness and manners are no longer a thing.

Seen a couple of utter zoomers on twitter moaning about guys holding doors open ‘cos, like, I’m more than capable, don’t need a man to hold it for me’ etc, etc.

Ye cannae win."

Must be a hard life when all you've got to moan about is that some poor guy was considerate enough to hold a door open for you!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Im so considerate that i open doors for animals i also save my tears to save the thirsty.......not the thirstful fuckers on here spouting any old shite to appear so much better than anyone else those need put out their misery.....can ya tell i detest insincerity ?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *onniemMan
over a year ago

South Lanarkshire

I tend to do likewise as the OP however less nowadays as I’m tired of the crass replies and genuinely being viewed as weird or suspicious !! Sad that the act of complimenting is lost on many and is not a vain attempt to take things further

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to do likewise as the OP however less nowadays as I’m tired of the crass replies and genuinely being viewed as weird or suspicious !! Sad that the act of complimenting is lost on many and is not a vain attempt to take things further "

Where is any kind of chat supposed to go after saying thanks for a fickle compliment?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *onniemMan
over a year ago

South Lanarkshire


"I tend to do likewise as the OP however less nowadays as I’m tired of the crass replies and genuinely being viewed as weird or suspicious !! Sad that the act of complimenting is lost on many and is not a vain attempt to take things further

Where is any kind of chat supposed to go after saying thanks for a fickle compliment?"

I rest my case

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to do likewise as the OP however less nowadays as I’m tired of the crass replies and genuinely being viewed as weird or suspicious !! Sad that the act of complimenting is lost on many and is not a vain attempt to take things further

Where is any kind of chat supposed to go after saying thanks for a fickle compliment?"

How can you always tell if it's fickle though rather than genuine?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

The tongue hanging out benny hill fashions a giveaway

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I tend to do likewise as the OP however less nowadays as I’m tired of the crass replies and genuinely being viewed as weird or suspicious !! Sad that the act of complimenting is lost on many and is not a vain attempt to take things further

Where is any kind of chat supposed to go after saying thanks for a fickle compliment?

How can you always tell if it's fickle though rather than genuine? "

Either way, there's nowhere else really for a chat to go

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top