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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on and off here for about 8 year or so and it used to be a brilliant place where people could be themselves and used to meet sound like minded people.

Now days it's fake profiles, girls looking for "Pay Pigs" profiles that are adverts for lassies "private snapchats" guys harassing woman, patterless freaks who expect woman to drop everything and meet.

It's just not fun anymore. But how did it end up like this?

Anyone any ideas?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly dont know if it's always been like that or I'm just getting older and less tolerable of bullshit

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I honestly dont know if it's always been like that or I'm just getting older and less tolerable of bullshit "

Possibly but there definitely used to be a buzz about the place. Now it just feels like your constantly on edge because someone is trying to swindle you in some way. Sad times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of folk are too serious....noticed a change in the last year or so. Or maybe I'm just turning into a crabbit auld boot.

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By *oldMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

The site has just went downhill

Lots don’t even reply to messages now

Gone are the good days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a no reply as a no thanks.

Just now iv received a random message from a 62 yr old cpl of which the launguge used was disgraceful...yes it's a sex site but by hell manners have been lost!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a lot of folk are too serious....noticed a change in the last year or so. Or maybe I'm just turning into a crabbit auld boot."

Turning! Always been a crabbit Aul boot.

Just the way I like em

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By *oldMan
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Take a no reply as a no thanks.

Just now iv received a random message from a 62 yr old cpl of which the launguge used was disgraceful...yes it's a sex site but by hell manners have been lost!"

Well that’s bad to reply with bad laungage

A quick reply thanks but no thanks would be better than no reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's some truth in all of the above but I think the internet has a lot to do with it. In the early days this was not a problem in fact it enhanced it but now there are too many keyboard warriors and people who don't use the site the way it was intended (i.e to swing) as opposed to a hook up/sex site or create a stramash... only my opinion though, like doggy I might just be a COB

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's some truth in all of the above but I think the internet has a lot to do with it. In the early days this was not a problem in fact it enhanced it but now there are too many keyboard warriors and people who don't use the site the way it was intended (i.e to swing) as opposed to a hook up/sex site or create a stramash... only my opinion though, like doggy I might just be a COB "

No this sounds about right. I guess it's just a change in the culture. Things like Tinder and POF have changed a lot of people's perceptions. But none the less if you are charging people for pictures your both financially and morally bankrupt IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's some truth in all of the above but I think the internet has a lot to do with it. In the early days this was not a problem in fact it enhanced it but now there are too many keyboard warriors and people who don't use the site the way it was intended (i.e to swing) as opposed to a hook up/sex site or create a stramash... only my opinion though, like doggy I might just be a COB

No this sounds about right. I guess it's just a change in the culture. Things like Tinder and POF have changed a lot of people's perceptions. But none the less if you are charging people for pictures your both financially and morally bankrupt IMO "

I agree on the moral aspect of selling pictures and I think Fab would ban you if you were caught but the reality of this is that selling sex (even if it's only pics) is the "oldest profession" in the world and it won't stop. All that can be done in regard to Fab is report.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take a no reply as a no thanks.

Just now iv received a random message from a 62 yr old cpl of which the launguge used was disgraceful...yes it's a sex site but by hell manners have been lost!

Well that’s bad to reply with bad laungage

A quick reply thanks but no thanks would be better than no reply "
lol no...it wasnt a reply it was their 1st message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take a no reply as a no thanks.

Just now iv received a random message from a 62 yr old cpl of which the launguge used was disgraceful...yes it's a sex site but by hell manners have been lost!

Well that’s bad to reply with bad laungage

A quick reply thanks but no thanks would be better than no reply lol no...it wasnt a reply it was their 1st message."

Think I know the culprit....I was usually being told how I should be bent over my kitchen work top and pumped until he sprayed all over my coq au vin. Obviously knows kitchen hygiene ain't my strong point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Take a no reply as a no thanks.

Just now iv received a random message from a 62 yr old cpl of which the launguge used was disgraceful...yes it's a sex site but by hell manners have been lost!

Well that’s bad to reply with bad laungage

A quick reply thanks but no thanks would be better than no reply lol no...it wasnt a reply it was their 1st message.

Think I know the culprit....I was usually being told how I should be bent over my kitchen work top and pumped until he sprayed all over my coq au vin. Obviously knows kitchen hygiene ain't my strong point. "

Some decent kitchen shagging puns tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But if that's what sorta shit your up against?

Iv had messages offering to buy me underwear to take me out for lunch or dinner to pay for a weekend away!

Seriously if guys are that desperate ?

Disclaimer...I refused all of the above!

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By *oldMan
over a year ago

edinburgh


"But if that's what sorta shit your up against?

Iv had messages offering to buy me underwear to take me out for lunch or dinner to pay for a weekend away!

Seriously if guys are that desperate ?

Disclaimer...I refused all of the above!"

Seems all tarred with same brush nowadays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But if that's what sorta shit your up against?

Iv had messages offering to buy me underwear to take me out for lunch or dinner to pay for a weekend away!

Seriously if guys are that desperate ?

Disclaimer...I refused all of the above!

Seems all tarred with same brush nowadays "

I don't think all are tarred with the same brush but there are more like Oldie says than there once was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's a sex site and yes most are here to actually mert but at least try have a bit of a conversation rather than alright doll iv got half hr lunch break you horny?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think the site has gone down hill, it’s the users that have become disappointing, along with their unrealistic expectations. I do believe that we should treat people as we wish to be treated. Often I have asked men (purely because I only interact with males) if they would be happy for men to speak to their wife, daughter, sister in the same manner as they have just spoken (typed) to me?!

I’m a wizard with the block button these days and have a smart eye for the fantasies so I’m currently enjoying the site.

Don’t despair; there are some excellent wee surprises hidden away within the muddle we call Fab

PS, I certainly don’t respond to every email I get and its not rudeness, it’s personal time management. No reply is a no thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes it's a sex site and yes most are here to actually mert but at least try have a bit of a conversation rather than alright doll iv got half hr lunch break you horny? "

So your saying always go with the full hour? Because half hour is short notice?....ok I hear you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are you surprised OP? This site has gone downhill especially over the 2 - 3 years. Same shit different day. It's how you deal with it that matters. You've got to just not care about it and do your own thing x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why are you surprised OP? This site has gone downhill especially over the 2 - 3 years. Same shit different day. It's how you deal with it that matters. You've got to just not care about it and do your own thing x"

Yeah that's the thing tho I want to care. Fab was a brilliant wee community. Fuck it tho like the post above said there's some diamonds in the rough

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you surprised OP? This site has gone downhill especially over the 2 - 3 years. Same shit different day. It's how you deal with it that matters. You've got to just not care about it and do your own thing x

Yeah that's the thing tho I want to care. Fab was a brilliant wee community. Fuck it tho like the post above said there's some diamonds in the rough "

Only care about it if you meet those diamonds x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why are you surprised OP? This site has gone downhill especially over the 2 - 3 years. Same shit different day. It's how you deal with it that matters. You've got to just not care about it and do your own thing x

Yeah that's the thing tho I want to care. Fab was a brilliant wee community. Fuck it tho like the post above said there's some diamonds in the rough

Only care about it if you meet those diamonds x"

Indeed Cate...Indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately the fakes put u on guard so when a genuine person comes along u tread carefully and dont trust anyone. I've spoken to people for weeks on here before and social met only to find when it comes to actually having a meet they're only here for the thrill of the chase

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By *oldMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

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By *oldMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Your probably right curvy cate xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unfortunately the fakes put u on guard so when a genuine person comes along u tread carefully and dont trust anyone. I've spoken to people for weeks on here before and social met only to find when it comes to actually having a meet they're only here for the thrill of the chase "

Had a few like that myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Frankly my s*xworker friends get spoken to, and treated better, by clients than I have by a fair amount of the men I've interacted with. I've been online for 20years and people are just awful now. It's a throwaway instant-access culture. On a plus, the good ones are easier to spot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's certainly changed in the 3 1/2yrs we've been here.

I think a lot of it is to do with the way society is these days. Most people are just out for themselves and think the world owes them something.

But for all the idiots there are, there are lots of lovely genuine folk on here. Just a shame you have to sift through all the shit first to find them.

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all honesty I can't say I've noticed much in the way of change during my time on here. There's always been some eejits and some pretty okay folks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think the site has gone down hill, it’s the users that have become disappointing, along with their unrealistic expectations. I do believe that we should treat people as we wish to be treated. Often I have asked men (purely because I only interact with males) if they would be happy for men to speak to their wife, daughter, sister in the same manner as they have just spoken (typed) to me?!

I’m a wizard with the block button these days and have a smart eye for the fantasies so I’m currently enjoying the site.

Don’t despair; there are some excellent wee surprises hidden away within the muddle we call Fab

PS, I certainly don’t respond to every email I get and its not rudeness, it’s personal time management. No reply is a no thanks "

Concur with this too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant imagine why people need to be rude (mostly men). The rude guys are clearly making it difficult for nice guys (insert my name here) to get noticed or trusted. I am always polite and respectful it's the only way to be , on here and in 'real' life to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's some truth in all of the above but I think the internet has a lot to do with it. In the early days this was not a problem in fact it enhanced it but now there are too many keyboard warriors and people who don't use the site the way it was intended (i.e to swing) as opposed to a hook up/sex site or create a stramash... only my opinion though, like doggy I might just be a COB "

That's a very good point, I have never thought that it might be people like myself (looking for fwb) who could be making the site less than it should be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant imagine why people need to be rude (mostly men). The rude guys are clearly making it difficult for nice guys (insert my name here) to get noticed or trusted. I am always polite and respectful it's the only way to be , on here and in 'real' life to."

The rude guys only make it difficult for themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you look deep enough there's good people on here as for not getting replys to messages sometimes it takes a while for them to get to you message as I'm sure women have more mail to troll through than we could imagine I'm giving it a go and taking it easy....wasn't built in a day and all that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggest change I've noticed in last couple of years is the money factor. Daily you see updates hinting at paid cams, looking to be wined & dined or even the 'I only meet at such and such club' honey traps.

If guys are daft enough to pay then not much can be done about it.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"Biggest change I've noticed in last couple of years is the money factor. Daily you see updates hinting at paid cams, looking to be wined & dined or even the 'I only meet at such and such club' honey traps.

If guys are daft enough to pay then not much can be done about it. "

I sometimes say to people to meet me at a club. So that when they don't turn up (which is about a 95 percent chance) I'll not be sitting by myself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No wonder lol pay £50 or whatever to enter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every person who knocks me back is now blocked - my block list is a bloody mile long !!!! I’m a bit more savvy with spotting fake profiles now as well

But I still love the buzz of a reply from someone who is interested in you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you look deep enough there's good people on here as for not getting replys to messages sometimes it takes a while for them to get to you message as I'm sure women have more mail to troll through than we could imagine I'm giving it a go and taking it easy....wasn't built in a day and all that.."

Well hello to the newbie on here who said he doesn't do the forum lol x

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"I think if you look deep enough there's good people on here as for not getting replys to messages sometimes it takes a while for them to get to you message as I'm sure women have more mail to troll through than we could imagine I'm giving it a go and taking it easy....wasn't built in a day and all that..

Well hello to the newbie on here who said he doesn't do the forum lol x"

Welcome to the forum!!! And you're right, plenty good people on here. Just takes a while to find them.

Nice penis btw

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"No wonder lol pay £50 or whatever to enter?"

So if you go out to the pub with a few of your mates, how much would a round cost you? Don't have the 20-30 quid a round in a club. And 1 or 2 rounds aren't going to be sufficient on a good night out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It used to be a great site, lots of fun, sense of community

Now it’s not as much fun, general decline in general respect and attitude

Or I’m older and grumpier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No wonder lol pay £50 or whatever to enter?

So if you go out to the pub with a few of your mates, how much would a round cost you? Don't have the 20-30 quid a round in a club. And 1 or 2 rounds aren't going to be sufficient on a good night out "
but if a guys going in himself he paying that just to meet someone? Nothing guaranteed..£50 entry fee and take your own booze? Bloody hell even I'd be expecting a shag for that

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By *uietbloke67Man
over a year ago

outside your bedroom window ;-)

Achh there have always been nutters, only difference now is that the secret is out so its attracted proportionally more people so proportionally more nutters.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

It's the social skills that have disappeared sadly.

The amount of versions of 'how r u ' I receive from supposed adult men is unbelievable.

And it's not just on here, I have blatantly said on another site that these type of messages will be ignored, guess what? All I get is 'Hi, how r u'

Sadly shakes head...... and I wont even start about the abusive one's I've never spoke to before, never mind ignored or rejected, it's a funny ole world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the social skills that have disappeared sadly.

The amount of versions of 'how r u ' I receive from supposed adult men is unbelievable.

And it's not just on here, I have blatantly said on another site that these type of messages will be ignored, guess what? All I get is 'Hi, how r u'

Sadly shakes head...... and I wont even start about the abusive one's I've never spoke to before, never mind ignored or rejected, it's a funny ole world

"

Right now I’m getting confused :

I say hi - I introduce myself then say what I’m after and then just wait for all the no thanks that I usually get

But if I try a more adult approach you normally get oh sorry that’s too strong and you get rejected

I say hi how are u because I was brought up to have manners but being nice doesn’t seem to work on here now

So ladies any advice on the perfect approach??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the social skills that have disappeared sadly.

The amount of versions of 'how r u ' I receive from supposed adult men is unbelievable.

And it's not just on here, I have blatantly said on another site that these type of messages will be ignored, guess what? All I get is 'Hi, how r u'

Sadly shakes head...... and I wont even start about the abusive one's I've never spoke to before, never mind ignored or rejected, it's a funny ole world

Right now I’m getting confused :

I say hi - I introduce myself then say what I’m after and then just wait for all the no thanks that I usually get

But if I try a more adult approach you normally get oh sorry that’s too strong and you get rejected

I say hi how are u because I was brought up to have manners but being nice doesn’t seem to work on here now

So ladies any advice on the perfect approach??????"

There isn't one. Being mannerly/nice/respectful doesn't mean you'll get a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the social skills that have disappeared sadly.

The amount of versions of 'how r u ' I receive from supposed adult men is unbelievable.

And it's not just on here, I have blatantly said on another site that these type of messages will be ignored, guess what? All I get is 'Hi, how r u'

Sadly shakes head...... and I wont even start about the abusive one's I've never spoke to before, never mind ignored or rejected, it's a funny ole world

Right now I’m getting confused :

I say hi - I introduce myself then say what I’m after and then just wait for all the no thanks that I usually get

But if I try a more adult approach you normally get oh sorry that’s too strong and you get rejected

I say hi how are u because I was brought up to have manners but being nice doesn’t seem to work on here now

So ladies any advice on the perfect approach??????"

Your wasting your time, the thing is too many messages and everybody wants something different. Then you have people who just like the power trip of getting messages to just ignore or delete them.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"It's the social skills that have disappeared sadly.

The amount of versions of 'how r u ' I receive from supposed adult men is unbelievable.

And it's not just on here, I have blatantly said on another site that these type of messages will be ignored, guess what? All I get is 'Hi, how r u'

Sadly shakes head...... and I wont even start about the abusive one's I've never spoke to before, never mind ignored or rejected, it's a funny ole world

Right now I’m getting confused :

I say hi - I introduce myself then say what I’m after and then just wait for all the no thanks that I usually get

But if I try a more adult approach you normally get oh sorry that’s too strong and you get rejected

I say hi how are u because I was brought up to have manners but being nice doesn’t seem to work on here now

So ladies any advice on the perfect approach??????"

There is no perfect approach, apart from make sure you do actually match what they are looking for (age, body shape etc)

Mention why you have contacted them, and not just their pictures! Because most men have crap pictures and even more crap profiles, give them something to respond to!

If you received 20 'How r u' messages in a day, would you answer them all? When none of the above has been taken into account?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If u take your time there are some lovely genuine people out there though I've made some amazing friends. So not all bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's the social skills that have disappeared sadly.

The amount of versions of 'how r u ' I receive from supposed adult men is unbelievable.

And it's not just on here, I have blatantly said on another site that these type of messages will be ignored, guess what? All I get is 'Hi, how r u'

Sadly shakes head...... and I wont even start about the abusive one's I've never spoke to before, never mind ignored or rejected, it's a funny ole world

Right now I’m getting confused :

I say hi - I introduce myself then say what I’m after and then just wait for all the no thanks that I usually get

But if I try a more adult approach you normally get oh sorry that’s too strong and you get rejected

I say hi how are u because I was brought up to have manners but being nice doesn’t seem to work on here now

So ladies any advice on the perfect approach??????"
I said if I was a guy on here I'd just send winks...most chicks look at the profile and decide then whether to answer you or not.so wink if you get 1 back then follow it up with a message.

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"I honestly dont know if it's always been like that or I'm just getting older and less tolerable of bullshit

Possibly but there definitely used to be a buzz about the place. Now it just feels like your constantly on edge because someone is trying to swindle you in some way. Sad times."

It's not just that, there are times when the forum is a nasty place to be and every thread descends into an argument. Those are the times when I keep away for a while as it's really tiresome

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Becaise thats the userbase now it used to be someone acted like a dick they were treated like a dick its now dont judge till you have skipped along in their shoes for 20m

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on and off here for about 8 year or so and it used to be a brilliant place where people could be themselves and used to meet sound like minded people.

Now days it's fake profiles, girls looking for "Pay Pigs" profiles that are adverts for lassies "private snapchats" guys harassing woman, patterless freaks who expect woman to drop everything and meet.

It's just not fun anymore. But how did it end up like this?

Anyone any ideas?"

It could be because years ago there was only a small amount of single folk using this cause they had many other successful and free sites to use for casual sex. Once craigslist and a few others got cleaned up I think people jumped ship to here because "heuheu it's a sex site I'll definitely get my hole". Also think that's why the days of conversation have gone and its just one sentence mails like "u hav kik/snapchat/etc meet now"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you look deep enough there's good people on here as for not getting replys to messages sometimes it takes a while for them to get to you message as I'm sure women have more mail to troll through than we could imagine I'm giving it a go and taking it easy....wasn't built in a day and all that..

Well hello to the newbie on here who said he doesn't do the forum lol x"
was just being nosey lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if you look deep enough there's good people on here as for not getting replys to messages sometimes it takes a while for them to get to you message as I'm sure women have more mail to troll through than we could imagine I'm giving it a go and taking it easy....wasn't built in a day and all that..

Well hello to the newbie on here who said he doesn't do the forum lol x

Welcome to the forum!!! And you're right, plenty good people on here. Just takes a while to find them.

Nice penis btw "
I agree with you on both accounts

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By *orders CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Kelso

HEr used to use a different site. It's gone the same way too!

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn

Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more. "

Paying a fiver a month would be no guarantee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's some truth in all of the above but I think the internet has a lot to do with it. In the early days this was not a problem in fact it enhanced it but now there are too many keyboard warriors and people who don't use the site the way it was intended (i.e to swing) as opposed to a hook up/sex site or create a stramash... only my opinion though, like doggy I might just be a COB

That's a very good point, I have never thought that it might be people like myself (looking for fwb) who could be making the site less than it should be. "

In your defence, I think there’s a place for “swingles” to be honest, some seek to have various kinds of threesomes. A FWB is different from a hook up “dial-a-shag” style arrangement and of course people are free to use the site how they wish

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By *stonDBS2Man
over a year ago

Kirkcaldy

Can honestly say over the past 2 years at least,i simply have not put in the time or effort like i used to, could be my age,could be the nick of the site currently,maybe a bit of both.

When i think back to how i used to juggle real life,work and free-fabtime,seems impossible now generally, so you kind of prioritise,therefore a fab fixture would really have to fall into place beautifully for me to get all enthusiastic again.

You click on nowadays and browse and quickly conclude,,"nuthin doing".

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By *ikkevCouple
over a year ago

larkhall

Craigslist shut down and they all came here

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By *uzzy-LogicMan
over a year ago

Fochabers

There has been a slight decline in the interactions on the site, there are still alot of amazing people here though.

But there has been a decline in use of chat for example; there used to be a real community feel there.

It seems to happen on swingers sites it goes in cycles. Aff was the place to be, now it's Fab it's probably a matter of time before there is a transition to a new site.

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By *onkeymagic50Man
over a year ago

Near the harbour


"No wonder lol pay £50 or whatever to enter?

So if you go out to the pub with a few of your mates, how much would a round cost you? Don't have the 20-30 quid a round in a club. And 1 or 2 rounds aren't going to be sufficient on a good night out but if a guys going in himself he paying that just to meet someone? Nothing guaranteed..£50 entry fee and take your own booze? Bloody hell even I'd be expecting a shag for that "

So in that logic when I go out and spend 100 quid on a tour of Aberdeen with my Aberdeen friends I should at end of night expect to be pumping a wife from the orchid and spiritualist at end of night will try that in october

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By *ch WellMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more. "

WTF?

I've never paid a membership but I am none of those things. If a membership was forced you're more likely to see the site deserted with all the folk who are getting nothing from it leaving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's some truth in all of the above but I think the internet has a lot to do with it. In the early days this was not a problem in fact it enhanced it but now there are too many keyboard warriors and people who don't use the site the way it was intended (i.e to swing) as opposed to a hook up/sex site or create a stramash... only my opinion though, like doggy I might just be a COB

That's a very good point, I have never thought that it might be people like myself (looking for fwb) who could be making the site less than it should be.

In your defence, I think there’s a place for “swingles” to be honest, some seek to have various kinds of threesomes. A FWB is different from a hook up “dial-a-shag” style arrangement and of course people are free to use the site how they wish "

What's the number for dial-a-shag? Asking for a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything changes. Swing heaven, Scotswingers various others through the years. Before that contact magazines. Things move on and sites become tired.

That said, I think Fabswingers has been, up till now, the best free swingers site.

Definitely a lot of people on it now with no intention of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's some truth in all of the above but I think the internet has a lot to do with it. In the early days this was not a problem in fact it enhanced it but now there are too many keyboard warriors and people who don't use the site the way it was intended (i.e to swing) as opposed to a hook up/sex site or create a stramash... only my opinion though, like doggy I might just be a COB

That's a very good point, I have never thought that it might be people like myself (looking for fwb) who could be making the site less than it should be.

In your defence, I think there’s a place for “swingles” to be honest, some seek to have various kinds of threesomes. A FWB is different from a hook up “dial-a-shag” style arrangement and of course people are free to use the site how they wish

What's the number for dial-a-shag? Asking for a friend. "

I thought everyone knew it was 069 69696969

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn


"Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more.

WTF?

I've never paid a membership but I am none of those things. If a membership was forced you're more likely to see the site deserted with all the folk who are getting nothing from it leaving."

If they get nothing from it, or they offer nothing to the site then why are they on here? A lot of them are sad pathetic wankers trying to top up the wankers tank with fake profiles just out to cause bother. They also cause most of the shite, which makes it harder for the genuine to get through the barricades the genuine have built.

Pay up or ship out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more.

WTF?

I've never paid a membership but I am none of those things. If a membership was forced you're more likely to see the site deserted with all the folk who are getting nothing from it leaving.

If they get nothing from it, or they offer nothing to the site then why are they on here? A lot of them are sad pathetic wankers trying to top up the wankers tank with fake profiles just out to cause bother. They also cause most of the shite, which makes it harder for the genuine to get through the barricades the genuine have built.

Pay up or ship out. "

A bit harsh, there are folk here that enjoy voyeuristic sex such as pictures, cam sex, chat room sex and so on. None of that is my bag but many do enjoy it so why criticise their choice or force people to pay. Fab tries to appeal to as wide a sexual community as possible.

I think Fab does an amazing job by providing a site that you can access most of it for free. In regards to timewasters or wankers (literal ones too), it also gives you all the tools to filter out such people so no complaints from me. Only my opinion though, you're entitled to yours of course but I hope Fab keep it as it is.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more.

WTF?

I've never paid a membership but I am none of those things. If a membership was forced you're more likely to see the site deserted with all the folk who are getting nothing from it leaving.

If they get nothing from it, or they offer nothing to the site then why are they on here? A lot of them are sad pathetic wankers trying to top up the wankers tank with fake profiles just out to cause bother. They also cause most of the shite, which makes it harder for the genuine to get through the barricades the genuine have built.

Pay up or ship out. "
lol yup that fiver will really dissuade them go the whole hog ask fab to make it members only at £40 a month

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more.

WTF?

I've never paid a membership but I am none of those things. If a membership was forced you're more likely to see the site deserted with all the folk who are getting nothing from it leaving.

If they get nothing from it, or they offer nothing to the site then why are they on here? A lot of them are sad pathetic wankers trying to top up the wankers tank with fake profiles just out to cause bother. They also cause most of the shite, which makes it harder for the genuine to get through the barricades the genuine have built.

Pay up or ship out. lol yup that fiver will really dissuade them go the whole hog ask fab to make it members only at £40 a month "

I think folk would leave in their droves then.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more.

WTF?

I've never paid a membership but I am none of those things. If a membership was forced you're more likely to see the site deserted with all the folk who are getting nothing from it leaving.

If they get nothing from it, or they offer nothing to the site then why are they on here? A lot of them are sad pathetic wankers trying to top up the wankers tank with fake profiles just out to cause bother. They also cause most of the shite, which makes it harder for the genuine to get through the barricades the genuine have built.

Pay up or ship out. lol yup that fiver will really dissuade them go the whole hog ask fab to make it members only at £40 a month

I think folk would leave in their droves then. "
without doubt.......but according to somes belief it would leave only "genuine" users

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By *hemainintainMan
over a year ago

govan

I joined fab in 2009 and was like a kid in a sweet shop. I could meet a girl or couple probably once a fortnight with a little bit of effort and had great fun.

Back then through this forum was the same, full of people moaning about how hard it was and how rude people were.

The world has moved on as well though. A lot of profiles now are looking for these premium snap chat subscriptions or a escorts.

I think you'd solve a lot of it by removing the free element and maybe only allow verified site supporters to message.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

It’s always been exploitative for some, if you allowed yourself to be exploited.

People looking to be escorted to socials, clubs on the basis that the other pay the entry, travel and hotel costs on the expectation or hope for sex in payment. Both woman and males guilty of this.

People looking for gifts, hotel costs, lingerie etc. If there was no market for it, it wouldn’t thrive.

Sex sells.

That being said, there are loads of people still enjoying the site for what it is, a possible introduction to likeminded people in the hope of enjoying each other sexually.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

And the half empty people thrive on declaring how bad it is, whilst the half full lot are ball deep in pussy or filled to the brim with cock......

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By *ch WellMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"I joined fab in 2009 and was like a kid in a sweet shop. I could meet a girl or couple probably once a fortnight with a little bit of effort and had great fun.

Back then through this forum was the same, full of people moaning about how hard it was and how rude people were.

The world has moved on as well though. A lot of profiles now are looking for these premium snap chat subscriptions or a escorts.

I think you'd solve a lot of it by removing the free element and maybe only allow verified site supporters to message.

"

And just how does someone get verified if they can't message folk?

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By *ch WellMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more.

WTF?

I've never paid a membership but I am none of those things. If a membership was forced you're more likely to see the site deserted with all the folk who are getting nothing from it leaving.

If they get nothing from it, or they offer nothing to the site then why are they on here? A lot of them are sad pathetic wankers trying to top up the wankers tank with fake profiles just out to cause bother. They also cause most of the shite, which makes it harder for the genuine to get through the barricades the genuine have built.

Pay up or ship out. "

I'm hoping the smiley face at the end indicates you are being somewhat tongue in cheek otherwise what a horrendously judgemental opinion to have.

I rarely meet these days for 1 reason or other but I still come on have a browse, see if there's anyone new takes my fancy, read the forum's, respond to any horrendously judgemental posts. That sort of thing yknow. Would I pay a monthly fee to do that though? Absolutely not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I joined fab in 2009 and was like a kid in a sweet shop. I could meet a girl or couple probably once a fortnight with a little bit of effort and had great fun.

Back then through this forum was the same, full of people moaning about how hard it was and how rude people were.

The world has moved on as well though. A lot of profiles now are looking for these premium snap chat subscriptions or a escorts.

I think you'd solve a lot of it by removing the free element and maybe only allow verified site supporters to message.

"

At least you have your memories

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By *TBSMan
over a year ago

close enough

This won't be a popular answer but its my honest _iew on it.

Whilst all mentioned issues happen around the 'fabswingers' British isles Scotland for whatever reason has become more negative, the forums more aggressive (no,not opinionated) and the profiles more demanding (or you could say more choosey).

Both sexes and both singles and couples are just as guilty.

This is obviously only my opinion,and yes I could be wrong but after 10 years on here both as single and long term couple you notice things.

M

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn


"I joined fab in 2009 and was like a kid in a sweet shop. I could meet a girl or couple probably once a fortnight with a little bit of effort and had great fun.

Back then through this forum was the same, full of people moaning about how hard it was and how rude people were.

The world has moved on as well though. A lot of profiles now are looking for these premium snap chat subscriptions or a escorts.

I think you'd solve a lot of it by removing the free element and maybe only allow verified site supporters to message.

And just how does someone get verified if they can't message folk?"

By paying a membership.........

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By *lyreelMan
over a year ago

King's lynn


"Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more.

WTF?

I've never paid a membership but I am none of those things. If a membership was forced you're more likely to see the site deserted with all the folk who are getting nothing from it leaving.

If they get nothing from it, or they offer nothing to the site then why are they on here? A lot of them are sad pathetic wankers trying to top up the wankers tank with fake profiles just out to cause bother. They also cause most of the shite, which makes it harder for the genuine to get through the barricades the genuine have built.

Pay up or ship out.

I'm hoping the smiley face at the end indicates you are being somewhat tongue in cheek otherwise what a horrendously judgemental opinion to have.

I rarely meet these days for 1 reason or other but I still come on have a browse, see if there's anyone new takes my fancy, read the forum's, respond to any horrendously judgemental posts. That sort of thing yknow. Would I pay a monthly fee to do that though? Absolutely not."

So as a non payer you are not offering anything to the site, just taking. Yes you are seemingly acting nicely, but others do not, so many are fakes, youngsters or decrepit tossers and have fake profiles, they send messages promising a 10 inch cock that can last for days, oral sex till the woman are gushing, body’s like an Adonis and off course never show. Then what happens, complaints about single guys not showing up or being abusive.

Pay up, or ship out. It would stop a lot of the trouble I believe.

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By *ch WellMan
over a year ago

Scotland


"Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more.

WTF?

I've never paid a membership but I am none of those things. If a membership was forced you're more likely to see the site deserted with all the folk who are getting nothing from it leaving.

If they get nothing from it, or they offer nothing to the site then why are they on here? A lot of them are sad pathetic wankers trying to top up the wankers tank with fake profiles just out to cause bother. They also cause most of the shite, which makes it harder for the genuine to get through the barricades the genuine have built.

Pay up or ship out.

I'm hoping the smiley face at the end indicates you are being somewhat tongue in cheek otherwise what a horrendously judgemental opinion to have.

I rarely meet these days for 1 reason or other but I still come on have a browse, see if there's anyone new takes my fancy, read the forum's, respond to any horrendously judgemental posts. That sort of thing yknow. Would I pay a monthly fee to do that though? Absolutely not.

So as a non payer you are not offering anything to the site, just taking. Yes you are seemingly acting nicely, but others do not, so many are fakes, youngsters or decrepit tossers and have fake profiles, they send messages promising a 10 inch cock that can last for days, oral sex till the woman are gushing, body’s like an Adonis and off course never show. Then what happens, complaints about single guys not showing up or being abusive.

Pay up, or ship out. It would stop a lot of the trouble I believe.

"

Yet I've came across some thoroughly unpleasant subscribers so I really don't think the practice would be foolproof, not even close to it.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"No wonder lol pay £50 or whatever to enter?

So if you go out to the pub with a few of your mates, how much would a round cost you? Don't have the 20-30 quid a round in a club. And 1 or 2 rounds aren't going to be sufficient on a good night out but if a guys going in himself he paying that just to meet someone? Nothing guaranteed..£50 entry fee and take your own booze? Bloody hell even I'd be expecting a shag for that "

Pretty sure it's not £50 x

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge


"Yesterday a couple sent a wink, I thanked them, they asked if I met at the local sex club as they didn’t meet people from Fab, I said I hadn’t been to the club, they then became abusive. I asked them why contact me at all to then be sent another abusive message.

WTF?

This site is going downhill fast. Throw out the unpaying members. Straight away I reckon we would lose a huge percentage of wasters, fakes, trolls and and real nasty fuckers that seem to be on this site more and more.

WTF?

I've never paid a membership but I am none of those things. If a membership was forced you're more likely to see the site deserted with all the folk who are getting nothing from it leaving.

If they get nothing from it, or they offer nothing to the site then why are they on here? A lot of them are sad pathetic wankers trying to top up the wankers tank with fake profiles just out to cause bother. They also cause most of the shite, which makes it harder for the genuine to get through the barricades the genuine have built.

Pay up or ship out.

I'm hoping the smiley face at the end indicates you are being somewhat tongue in cheek otherwise what a horrendously judgemental opinion to have.

I rarely meet these days for 1 reason or other but I still come on have a browse, see if there's anyone new takes my fancy, read the forum's, respond to any horrendously judgemental posts. That sort of thing yknow. Would I pay a monthly fee to do that though? Absolutely not.

So as a non payer you are not offering anything to the site, just taking. Yes you are seemingly acting nicely, but others do not, so many are fakes, youngsters or decrepit tossers and have fake profiles, they send messages promising a 10 inch cock that can last for days, oral sex till the woman are gushing, body’s like an Adonis and off course never show. Then what happens, complaints about single guys not showing up or being abusive.

Pay up, or ship out. It would stop a lot of the trouble I believe.

"
let me guess your a wronged genuine single male that will put up not shut up.

i mean the proofs in your fiver........so how is there the same problem on paying sites.

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By *oti100Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think this site for us single man's are just a west of time to send a message out because maybe in this site are 90 percent man and 10 percent woman's and couples! here in Newcastle I asked a couple and single ladie and they said they receive like a 100 message a day I don't know if this is the case in Scotland but here in North East it seems all man's are single no girlfriend or wife!

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