FabSwingers.com forum: Replies to emails...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It would be nice to at least answer any email received with a polite no thanks or a + reply. But "zilch or no reply" is deffo rude. I mean to say we are all here for the same purpose.

Rant over.......Ray

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

Not replying to mail isn't rude at all. It is just some peoples way of saying thanks but no thanks.

You don't phone every company who puts a leaflet through your door to tell them you aren't interested in what they are advertising .... use that same principle here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

what a load of bollocks. civility costs nothing, or am i unique in my outlook?

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

From Admin's FAQ ... link below

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you can safely assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what a load of bollocks. civility costs nothing, or am i unique in my outlook?"

No, you're not unique in your outlook, but the above reply is typical of what you'll get.

The arguement is that women can get literally hundreds of messages so it would take them forever to reply to each of them.

The bottom line though is that you won't win on this one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we got pestered with messages from single blokes looking to meet couples so we put on our profile NO more single males. we still got loads and took time to ask a few as to why they had not read our profile? there reply was oh we thought we would chance our arm anyway. so like a lot of people we just delete now. thats not being rude it just our choice .

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

"It would be nice to at least answer any email received with a polite no thanks or a + reply. But "zilch or no reply" is deffo rude. I mean to say we are all here for the same purpose.

Rant over.......Ray "

we may all be here for the same purpose but if people actually stopped to read a profile to find out if they were what the other party are looking for then there would be no need for mails to go unanswered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would be nice to at least answer any email received with a polite no thanks or a + reply. But "zilch or no reply" is deffo rude. I mean to say we are all here for the same purpose.

Rant over.......Ray

exactly. I have it clearly written that im not meeting on the first few lines of my profile and guess what? 'wanna meet me babe?' is what i get. Sick to the back teeth of it isnt even close to how i feel at times.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

As a single male, you have no idea!

I have tried the polite, thanks but no thanks messages, some have been received well and others have led to abusive messages!Yes, I only had one today, who told me I'd be shite any way! Guess what reply wins out in the end? You guessed it....the no reply as I can't be arsed with the abuse, so single guys! Look at your own behaviour before coming and moaning on the forums!

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

To Beemerman

sometimes and it does happen but but the ladies especially since im one of them do get lots of emails and in my case i actually end up in a converssation going back and forth with a few people that at the end of it sometimes you do forget to reply to a few other guys, but when i get the time i actually go through my mail and then do reply back to everyone of them.

what i do see in you is someone that must be on here for a quick fuck n go kind of thing, or a must meet now kind of thing it does help if you got some patience and then the saying of "good things come to those who wait" spring to mind

Catch my drift end of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not exactly rude,but a deleted mail isnt exactly a no, can always try again later(maybe not hrly,daily lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well I've learned my lesson if you don't get a reply and your mail is deleted and you reply about 6months later you'll probably get blocked which ain't so good !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry resend a message about 6months later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well I've learned my lesson if you don't get a reply and your mail is deleted and you reply about 6months later you'll probably get blocked which ain't so good !!!"

dont resend the same possibly shite mail lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We generally do reply, politeness we think. However if it is clear they havent read our profile why should we?

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

"sorry resend a message about 6months later "

Lol tbh i think if you havent heard from me the first time its cause ive been distracted by other mail i found one time i had 90 unread emails in the beginning and having had replied to many since then i wondered where the heck they had gone to - it took me 3 weeks to figure it out and then i replied to the ever patient people lol, i think they all dropped down dead afterwards that they got a reply *hehe*

But seriously if you had sent a message to me *just saying* i actually do have a memory like at times and if your message actually stands out and makes me smile then your ound to get a reply even if 6 months has gone down the line

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

**ooops meant to have said *sieve* somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all very groundhog day this aint it??

One per week maybe? Usually a guy, usually worded diffrent but the rants of the same thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would be nice to at least answer any email received with a polite no thanks or a + reply. But "zilch or no reply" is deffo rude. I mean to say we are all here for the same purpose.

Rant over.......Ray "

Get over it.......why must you guys ALWAYS whinge about this!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its all very groundhog day this aint it??

One per week maybe? Usually a guy, usually worded diffrent but the rants of the same thing?"

nahhh, the forums are very cyclic, if it isnt bareback,timewasters,cheating,shaved..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would be nice to at least answer any email received with a polite no thanks or a + reply. But "zilch or no reply" is deffo rude. I mean to say we are all here for the same purpose.

Rant over.......Ray "

Think of it like panning for gold and not so much like finding a CD you like in HMV, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we reply to messages yip but when i did have a single profile i also replied to most messages ,,except the fancy a shag messages,,they just get deleted but would only block folk that are abusive.

to the op,,if they have deleted your message without getn back,,take it they dont wanna meet and move on,not everyone has the time reply.

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By *neguyMan
over a year ago

Banff ish

Having read all the posts, would it not be possible for Admin to add a "Thanks but no thanks" button i mean if you can wink at someone by a single press, would it not be prudent to be able to say no thanks with a single button? Just an idea to appease all sides.

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

"Having read all the posts, would it not be possible for Admin to add a "Thanks but no thanks" button i mean if you can wink at someone by a single press, would it not be prudent to be able to say no thanks with a single button? Just an idea to appease all sides."

you would still get messages asking why, or being abusive. And then there would be the forum posts complaining that you didn't send them a personalised knock back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but,,,even a thanks but no thanks still gets you abuse sometimes?

,,its ok i only mailled you cause i was desperate

,, your a fat cow anyway

,,why,,whats wrong with me?

,,but youv shagged someone iv shagged?

get my drift? lol

auds xx

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By *neguyMan
over a year ago

Banff ish

I see the problem and the only real solution is the thanks but no thanks button that carries wording something along the lines of " Thanks but no thanks ,good luck and this member will recieve no further mail from you" culminating in an auto block.Harsh but polite and puts and end to the situation. or am i over thinking this?

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

I don't tend to block people, by not answering then they have no ammunition for abuse. It's not something I would use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see the problem and the only real solution is the thanks but no thanks button that carries wording something along the lines of " Thanks but no thanks ,good luck and this member will recieve no further mail from you" culminating in an auto block.Harsh but polite and puts and end to the situation. or am i over thinking this?

dont see the point in empty gestures...

I think most do over think a knockback, but its the IDIOTS who think that they must send back something either cheeky or illogical('u fat filthy cow,didnt want u anyway' type of message).

but lets not aim tis all at men, plenty of couples single fems do it, but when u have a larger percent of males on the site...ur bound to get the hissyfitters sending stupid mails around.

Remember many are only on the scene to get a shag, they dont care about being a productive member to the site or the scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont see the point in empty gestures...

I think most do over think a knockback, but its the IDIOTS who think that they must send back something either cheeky or illogical('u fat filthy cow,didnt want u anyway' type of message).

but lets not aim tis all at men, plenty of couples single fems do it, but when u have a larger percent of males on the site...ur bound to get the hissyfitters sending stupid mails around.

Remember many are only on the scene to get a shag, they dont care about being a productive member to the site or the scene"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The answer is to allow you to filter messages from those more than 'x' miles away from you. That way only local people would be able to get in touch.

I'm presuming the majority of the 'hundreds' of emails ladies and couples get come from guys a long way away who realistically are simply looking for some wank chat etc.....

You can already filter messages by gender and age group so shouldnt be that hard to filter more.

You will ofcourse still receive mail from people who dont interest you but it should be cut dramatically as very few guys will seriously change their location time and time again in order to send a prospective message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to get nasty replies if I say no thanks....these maessages are usually "I don't wannna fuck you anyway" or "Your a wee fat cow".....As much as that amuses me it does get boring. No one likes rejection but it usually turns sour with the fuds on fabs.

I do reply to those who have read my profile and fit what i'm looking for..that's a pretty specific type of guy lol. I don't now reply to anyone else....Does that make me a bitch!! Couldn't give a toss really

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is ridiculous. If someone doesnt reply, take it as a no and move on. I cant understand this viewpoint of its rude not to reply. Maybe if someone never gets messages they dont get why a reply is not forthcoming, but its basic common sense - they're busy, or not interested. And if they're not interested, accept it instead of being childish.

Ffs, get a grip guys, and stop making it harder for the decent ones on here...

Ok lol, rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to get nasty replies if I say no thanks....these maessages are usually "I don't wannna fuck you anyway" or "Your a wee fat cow".....As much as that amuses me it does get boring. No one likes rejection but it usually turns sour with the fuds on fabs.

xxx"

a bitch and wont toss me off.... shattered wetdreams now wet lol x

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By *illow PimpMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

" "I don't wannna fuck you anyway" or "Your a wee fat cow"....."

Just fuds chik, shite ride and fat cow couldnt be further from the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what a load of bollocks. civility costs nothing"

lmao, how ironic.

An insult followed by a statement about civility.

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I got 50 messages a day asking me for a meet, and they obviously did not read the profile.....I'd bin the crap ones too.....but then I get back to reality and realise I'm a male.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I note the OP has stayed away from his own thread when answered by the females about the reason why the 'No Reply'

Some men can not handle rejection and then move on to the abusive messages, If the OP could see what we sometimes receive he would never have started the thread in the first instance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I note the OP has stayed away from his own thread when answered by the females about the reason why the 'No Reply'

Some men can not handle rejection and then move on to the abusive messages, If the OP could see what we sometimes receive he would never have started the thread in the first instance!

thats why i have my superhot fem profile...but i only use it for timewasting

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I note the OP has stayed away from his own thread when answered by the females about the reason why the 'No Reply'

Some men can not handle rejection and then move on to the abusive messages, If the OP could see what we sometimes receive he would never have started the thread in the first instance!

thats why i have my superhot fem profile...but i only use it for timewasting"

Lol Trust you! And that will be the next thread started!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

the "op" is actively viewing the comments.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

perhaps the site should incorporate a"no thank you button" that would make things easier.

I SHOULD ALSO LIKE TO COMMENT THAT "REJECTION" IS NOT THE ISSUE, ITS POLITENESS. If i meet others on the site im polite and expect it from others. I do realise that there are some males on this site and other sites who through their actions have caused aggro and annoyance to some other members by being rude and pushy. please dont "tar" us all with the same brush!

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

"perhaps the site should incorporate a"no thank you button" that would make things easier.

just out of interest, if you walked into a pub and shouted HI!!!! would you expect everyone to answer you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"perhaps the site should incorporate a"no thank you button" that would make things easier.

just out of interest, if you walked into a pub and shouted HI!!!! would you expect everyone to answer you?"

I would

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

"perhaps the site should incorporate a"no thank you button" that would make things easier.

just out of interest, if you walked into a pub and shouted HI!!!! would you expect everyone to answer you?

I would

yeah but we know what you are like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you dont send an email peeps moan

If you do sent a lot give you abuse for saying no

If its automated people would complain you havnt made an effort and just pressed a button

If someone has made the effort and read our profile then yes we reply....if they aint read it and aint what we are looking for then nop i dont always reply......

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I've sent a few emails, have read the profile, and put in a little effort, beyond the 'fancy a fuck' and a cock pic. I've had a fair few no thank you's, which I don't mind at all.

What gets me is the 'instant delete' where I've sent an email to someone online and have gone to check if it's been read, only to find it already deleted within a minute, and it couldn't have been read that quickly.

What I took to doing about it was to block the profile, purely to remind myself not to waste my time on another email in the future, or if some posted pics caught my eye. No uploaded pics will show on my homepage of any blocked profiles. Sound harsh? I just think it stops me from putting my self out there again, only to get ignored.

Too many friendly horny people here to lose sleep about it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just hate-wank...its much simpler...call them everything u want...then feel guilty uve been a prick even not to their face

possibly cry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've sent a few emails, have read the profile, and put in a little effort, beyond the 'fancy a fuck' and a cock pic. I've had a fair few no thank you's, which I don't mind at all.

Too many friendly horny people here to lose sleep about it lol

some people have photographic memories...one look and its done...and so are u lol

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By *ndrew MannMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"It would be nice to at least answer any email received with a polite no thanks or a + reply. But "zilch or no reply" is deffo rude. I mean to say we are all here for the same purpose.

Rant over.......Ray "

Just ignore and move on, no point beating yourself up about it. Some folks on here can get 100's of messages a day and no way to answer them all is there, whats for you will no go by you matey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've sent a few emails, have read the profile, and put in a little effort, beyond the 'fancy a fuck' and a cock pic. I've had a fair few no thank you's, which I don't mind at all.

Too many friendly horny people here to lose sleep about it lol

some people also have code words or phrases on their profile as fed up of all the rubbish they get and even then the messages dont have it.

In my case if u didnt say my word id delete without reading so it pays to read profile properly xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never read your profile soreeee must have missed that part, makes a good read now although I still don't see the key word you refer to - anyways I'm offski over and out Oscar Oscar x x

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By *hickencurryCouple
over a year ago

brisbane

"It would be nice to at least answer any email received with a polite no thanks or a + reply. But "zilch or no reply" is deffo rude. I mean to say we are all here for the same purpose.

Rant over.......Ray "

maybe you ought to think why they've not replied. I mean you say your pretty good with a camera but your pics don't really reflect that. Can't accomodate nine times out of ten really means "married". if beemerman man is anything to do with a car,, well tbh you see the way people in those cars drive. Blitzkrieging they're way through the traffic.

I think we've left it weeks before getting round to answering emails before. People are busy you know

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